I'm sitting here trying to look at fetishism vs. arousal from a broad perspective. I suddenly realize that the number of different scenarios that would be arousing are just endless (it seems). Are we really so focussed on the thrill we feel en femme that it somehow takes on some superlative position in our lives. Yes, it is exciting to find Tina staring back at me in the mirror. The tactile sensations are huge, especially after a hiatus from being able to be her. But in all honesty, after a few hours she settles into who she is, and although it is immensely satisfying in a variety of ways, I really don't think that in the overall framework that those hours are any more arousing that a number of scenarios that are a part of my male life.
After all, if it weren't exciting or thrilling to become our femme selves, we wouldn't go through all the trouble (and it is an immense amount of work!)! Is that a fetish? Hmmm, does anyone care? really? Does it matter to our feminine selves? This is a great thread and I'm so glad that we're talking this through.
I'm one of those "men" who really enjoy wearing a tuxedo, and my wife makes it clear she enjoys it as well. For me, Tina is just one part of life, no more and no less! :)
However, the number of heels that Tina owns....now THAT's a fetish :)
ROFL
tina
