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I find very often that there are some horrid pics posted, yet members gush on them and tell them how wonderfully pretty they are. On one hand, it's true that people come here for support, and ripping into them is certainly not constructive, nor at all the reason they came here in the first place. On the other hand, such positive reinforcement might just get them heading out the door and into some real world trouble and hurt. I see both sides of it.
Years ago, I posted a pic of myself that I felt came out rather good. One member mentioned that my makeup was the wrong shade for me, and was way too light for my complexion. That person was quite correct, and now all I can see when I look at that picture is a face with makeup on that's way too light. I went and got a shade of makeup that was several shades darker, and I'm very pleased that I did. That's a good example of positive criticism.
But once another member gave me some advice on getting better hip and butt definition. However, this member had made her own padding, and unfortunately looked horribly misshapen below her waist. When one gets advice from people who really need advice themselves, it isn't very helpful. So it's true that we need to be careful on how and when we give even the best constructive criticism with the best of intentions.
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As a very new member one of the things that has immediately caught my attention is the inclusiveness and feeling of community that exists on this site and I find that very attractive and welcoming. As one who has just recently started dressing completely for the first time, I'm both very interested in receiving feedback from experienced members of the community here and very interested in feeling accepted by those members. I like to think I'm able to handle constructive feedback and would try to see it as presented in a helpful way.
Jennifer
