Why CDs love their SOs and generally don't stray.
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Originally Posted by
docrobbysherry
I've read COUNTLESS posts from MARRIED CDs. In which they state they r only attracted to females.:daydreaming: OK, THAT I get!:thumbsup:
But, then they go on to say, they r ONLY ATTRACTED to their SO!
THAT, I DON'T GET!:straightface:
I was married, now divorced. I loved my ex, but NEVER stopped looking at other women. I didn't and wouldn't have, broken my vows with any of them. BUT, I'll readily admit I was ATTRACTED to some of them!:o
So, u see a stunning young woman and u think, "Wow! I MUST get home to my SO"!? REALLY?:eek:
I became LESS attracted to my SO over the years! Not MORE! Was I so UNIQUE? Or, r some of the married CDs here swimming in a river in Egypt?:brolleyes:
One of the great things about being a CD is that when I see a beautiful woman in a beautiful outfit, with hear done well, make-up done well, and good posture, and a sweet voice, I can see both the woman as a person, that is, a human being with her own preferences, tastes, desires, and interests, which more than likely do NOT include and overwhelming desire to date a cross-dressing male of my age, biological proportions, and so on.
On the other hand, I can look at the beautiful outfit and think "Wow, that outfit looks great on her, I wonder where she bought it? I wonder if they have it in my size? I wonder how much weight I'd have to lose to look as good as she does? Where would I wear it?
I can look at her smooth legs with no blemishes nicks, or scars, and thing "Wax, Nair, or Epilator?" I wander what it would take for me to have legs that smooth.
When I sook at her hair, I can think to myself, I like the way she had it colored, I wonder if that shade would look good on me? Did she have hers permed? Should I get mine permed? I wonder if I could get a wig to look that good?
But for those of us who had tried the "monte-carlo" method of finding an SO, that is, going on dates with women we find attractive, then telling them about our special desire, or perhaps hinting subtly by sharing fashion tips, and asking advice, only to kill any chance of a sexual relationship and turn our new flame into a female friend, we appreciate how special it is when we have an SO, Lover, Wife, or partner who truly enjoys and embraces our feminine side.
In the gay community, they used to have the "hankie code", and cross-dressers could wear purple hankies to indicate their desire, and red hankie to show they liked women. But most heterosexual women didn't know the hankie code.
Of course, the paradox is that most women who really DO like cross-dressers aren't strictly "straight". They like the idea of a male, but they also like the feminine side. Of the lovers who really embraced Debbie, 3 were bi-sexual, and three were lesbian. My own wife hadn't had a lover, male or female, for quite some time, and she liked "being in charge of it".
When I put my profile on Facebook, which included pictures of Debbie, there were over 1,000 women who viewed the profile and moved on. There were SIX who were seriously interested, and every one of them was someone who did NOT consider themselves "Straight". When I go out in public as Debbie, and someone asks if I'm gay, I tell them "Yes, I'm a Lesbian". What's interesting is that when I say this to real Lesbians, they often say "yeah, but what about that THING down there". I say "that lil ol thing, not much to it really, but I can have a really good time with just a vibrator, and I do wear a condom, just to keep from messing up the wardrobe. That usually gets a good chuckle, and an invitation to join the other girls.
So, yes, it is not unusual that a CD who has found a loving and supportive woman who not only accepts, but even embraces and seduces his feminine side, would not want to do ANYTHING that would jeopardize that wonderful and special relationship.
For me, the only time I included other women, was when my primary partner would bring home girl-friends that SHE wanted to play with, and we would have three-ways. The girls loved our parties, because there was no pressure for vaginal sex, and at the same time, I was very eager to please all guests at the party. The parties often got very interesting, because we all liked dressing up in clothes that made us feel beautiful and sexy, there was no big rush to get them off, and we would also include games like light bondage and teasing as well as as many orgasms as each guest could handle (until they gave the clear "NO MORE!!" indicator, such as crying Uncle).
But the thing is that I did not pick these women out, my lover did. And she got to set the ground rules for everybody, including what was OK and what was not.
In each case, I knew how special each of these women was, and did not want to do anything that would put that relationship at risk. More importantly, we could also be best friends, talking about EVERYTHING else that was going on in each other's lives. We had love at a number of levels.
If I look at a beautiful woman, and I actually start to think about a relationship with her, I start to consider the relationships that didn't work out so well. I thing of the women who were self-obsessed, vain, selfish, and were looking for a "Real Man", not a "sissy", and consider the possibility that even if this woman were to show an interest, I'd really need to consider whether I was actually putting myself in a good situation. Simply put, if a woman wants to seduce me, even when I'm NOT in a relationship, she has to pretty much whack me over the head with a crow-bar, because subtle hints are too easily misread, and I want to be absolutely sure that she really is interested in Debbie, before I even consider much more than a nice friendly meeting over coffee, and even that's more likely to turn into a friendship, not a romance, unless she makes it really clear she wants more.
When I'm in a relationship, especially when I'm married, I have both male and female wedding rings, and if a girl gets too flirty, I'll start to admire my pretty ring, and then start asking her about her other interests. In many cases, they just love that they can talk to a male about their lives as women.
