Why the need to pass?

I know I'll never pass, but I just need to be brave and have fun.

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Originally Posted by docrobbysherry

Considering how many folks have guns in this country!?:eek:

Plus, have u ever tried to escape from a pitchfork and torch bearing mob in these new 6" platform heels? :doh:

Passing is the only COMPLETELY SAFE WAY to go out these days!:devil:

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Hey I don't live in the USA so thankfully the chance of me getting shot are a lot lower... This is why I asked the question. Same rules, same ideals, same threats/problems are not the same in each country.

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Originally Posted by Kaz

I love this thread! But it does show the breadth of feelings about this whole area. I have kind of gotten used to seeing my male head on top of a slim(ish) female looking form, but it always looks wrong to me. When I then transform with makeup and wig the feeling is awesome. Yes I would love to experience what women do and over my life I have often wished I was one. But I suspect if I was I may just want this old life back. I am too old to realistically go the whole hog with GRS etc.. and as I said I would hate to be there and regret it.



So for me the closest I can get is to try to look and feel as close to a female as I can get. And that I guess is passing. Because if I can pass, then I can get out and experience the outside world as well as within the proverbial four walls.

I haven't been out for a while. I haven't 'transformed' for a while. I really miss it and keep planning a few days away to go 'en femme' 24/7... just need to justify the spend!

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In the fall, I wear uggs and women's jeans and a uni sweater presenting as a guy, when I just want to wear my soft comfy uggs. when I wear Uggs out as a guy, I have the pant leg over the boot.

If you can pass as a female, you blend in better and can comfortably use the ladies restroom.

Well, if you feel there is an inner feminine side to yourself, then you want to emulate or at least accentuate that inner feminine side of yourself. I believe there is a good deal of femininity within me seeking time to express herself when the dominant male side needs to take a break from the stresses of life. So, for me, it is not just wanting to wear female clothing as a male, but, it is the inner female trying to act and look her best. That requires some work to temporarily remove some of the masculine traits and appearances of Stephanie's twin brother. Even with Stephanie's best efforts his vestiges will remain.

As I don't go 'out', I don't really need to pass. But part of me still thinks I'm supposed to be a girl, so I'm always going to feel a bit uncomfortable unless enough signs are there to indicate that I am. Fortunately, it doesn't take much, clothes, accessories and a wig pretty much does it, I don't have to go through the mannerisms and trying to change my voice or anything. But it needs to be 'enough' to convince 'that part of me' that I'm really a girl. That's why I need to 'pass', to me....not anyone else.

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Originally Posted by STACY B

Now this is a GIRL after my own HEART !! Me an her are on the same PAGE ,,,, Im not doing all that ,,Im way to lazy to go all out 24/7 ,,But I wear what I want when I want ,,Dont get me wrong ,,, Im not going to put fuel on the fire ,, If you try an push it to much yull get whats comeing to ya . But for the most part no one cares . I wear girl clothes 24/7 an no body says anything . But I woundn't recemend wear heels an mini to walmart with a beard ,,, But maybe some capis an sneekers ,, But you gotta figure out what you want how far your willing to go .An no when to say when ,,,Just like drinking ,,,lol,,,, So most of this craps in your head ,,Nobodys staring at you ,,, BUT MEEEEEE ,,,,,HA,,,,HA,,,,HA,,,, Looking good by the way ,,,LOL,,,

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I think what I originally said came across all wrong. Now ideally I'd love to pass 100% of the time, but I've always been androgynous looking even when not dressed fem, so when I'm dressed fem I know I pass from a distance. I never really got into wearing dresses so when I am CDing its usually something casual or maybe 'goth' looking. I've had longish hair for a long time so I don't need a wig. Not to mention I've had "man boobs" for awhile, although not very big. The point is, I think I can do a pretty good job of blending in without drawing attention to myself. I put on just enough make-up that its not too obvious that I'm wearing it. Worst case scenario is people might assume that I'm gay or a sissy. I'm not scared of jerkoffs who drive around in trucks and yell out the window. They're annoying but most of them are pussies so I don't worry about it. I do stay away from the more dangerous areas though.

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Originally Posted by wrenchette2

so others won't make fun of them in public and so they won't get beat up or killed.

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This post sums up my fears perfectly, & if I ever get brave enough to venture out again these are the main reasons I'd hope to pass.