It's part of my daily routine. Also leaving this forum would involve a big change for me and my very clutterd disorganized life, and if there is one thing I really fear, and don't like it's change!!:2c:
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It's part of my daily routine. Also leaving this forum would involve a big change for me and my very clutterd disorganized life, and if there is one thing I really fear, and don't like it's change!!:2c:
Great insights and another great post, Freddie.
There was something about this site from the beginning that said :SAFE:, and I tent to trust my intuition. I realized that, like all good things, there are a few hoops to jump through to gain acceptance in society and this is a micro society of fascinating, bright, creative, literary, musical, technical, entertainig, informative gurls... where else could you find all that.
I also appreciate that this site restricts adult oriented material. Not that I dislike it but there are other places for that.
This place feels like somewhere I can let my hair down and be "one of the girls" without a lot judgement. The world can be pretty tough on gurls like us.
I have been here several months. I have no idea what will happen but I am very grateful for all of you here who care and give something of yourself to others.
A lovely community.
Monica
Having been a member for just a month, I can imagine how repetitive posts are tedious for veteran posters. In just this short time, I find myself becoming a bit jaded at what were marvelous and novel sensations a few weeks ago. I've begun to appreciate thought-provoking threads like this, so I will probably stick around. But my crystal ball doesn't work any better than anybody else's, so who knows?
I personally like the fun entries by newbies (or newly out) folks like me that express enthusiasm and joy at being able to release pent-up emotions and revel in their newly acquired feminine finery.
What surprised me was the number of members on the TG end of the spectrum. I figured out quickly that this was the largest forum with the best participation, but it initially seemed odd that girls that were solidly in the TG camp or actively transitioning would be represented in such strong numbers--especially in a forum named this way. I suppose in my naive mind there would be a completely separate forum (understand now there is a private section here, but TG participation in the cross dressing section is strong). It is intimidating for rookies to hear comments how being a CD often (in the words of many posters, almost inevitably) leads to more, more, more. For that reason I decided not to share this site with my wife, despite all the terrific role models and information here.
I'm probably on the fetish end of the spectrum, but that's what I thought this site was all about--the sensual, superficial, but immensely enjoyable outward trappings of femininity--hose, heels, etc. I joined to see just how prevalent my little hobby was. Gauging by the number of visitors, I'm clearly not alone. I for one intend to engage the new members who are thrilled at their first purchases, or are on the fence about coming out, or just want to talk about mundane topics like stockings vs. pantyhose. For them (and still me) it's all new and they deserve some respect.
Speaking of respect, while most posters are supportive and cordial, I have noted what others have--that those well along their journey to being the women they were meant to be, or that are fully out to the world--are often preachy, sometimes dismissive, and even presume to know my personal/marital situation better than I do. I guess their crystal balls are fully operational. I admire their courage, but it feels like they are trying to somehow make those of us that are "merely" cross dressers feel that we are less than authentic with ourselves, our SO's, or the world.
On the other hand I have started to glimpse how being a CD enriches us, and posters like Frederique have their fingers on that pulse.
Not sure how my life as a CD will play out. I've reviewed some members' posts going back years and have seen wide-ranging evolutions. I hope to make some friends here and use this forum as a kind of diary for my own evolution, and if I can help some others, so much the better.
Thanks
Shibumi
I have thick skin as well, but these types of reactions kept me from posting for a while, hence 4 years and under 100 posts. So I read and learn and laugh, and skip the guess what I'm wearing posts for the more thoughtful ones...like this one.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady Catherine