Okay - Second Time Out - Not so good

Isha,

Don't let this deter you from going out. I read your story and the 1st thing I thought was "I would start flirting with the guys". Then it would have depended on who I was with. Your wife was awesome. Give her a hug for all of us.

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Isha - I HATE what happened to you and your wife, and the way you handled it was great. Please, please do not let these Neanderthals deter you.

I think all males have, somewhere in them, the wish to physically stand up to bullies, and ther is a time and place for it probably. It is an urge best controlled, as inevitably, (and as I found out to my cost when I was much younger and sillier) you eventually get head to head with some one who is bigger, stronger and more vicious than you!

Work on the makeup, lady.

Here's to your next outing together!

Isha, first off i am really sorry to hear this happened to you... secondly, i am really conflicted about how i feel about how you handled this situation... on one hand i'm glad you stood up for yourself, but on the other hand i worry that this is the way stabbings, severe beatings, etc. come about... i mean you just never know how far another person is willing to take this confrontation, and just how severe their hate may be... also, where you are with your wife who is to say they will be satisfied beating you up? i mean maybe i am way overreacting but what if they decide they want to show her how a "real man" treats a woman, or maybe they just decide she needs to be taught a lesson for flipping them off--i mean these horror stories exist because they happened to someone, and who's to say this situation might not go there... ultimately, hurting one such person and getting attacked is not going to prove anything to them, and even if they feel you're not worth the trouble i'm not convinced this is the best way to go about changing their close-minded attitudes... anyway, i would feel the pull to stand up for myself and threaten them in a similar way, but i wonder if a better approach might be to take advantage of the staff person offering her apology to ask that a couple people accompany you to your car... maybe that is being a "chicken" in some people's minds, but in a way i think it also sends a message that your not an easy target and that there are other people that support your safety... based on the other comments in this threat i think i might get some criticism for putting this course of action out there, but i just feel the world is full of crazy people and you just don't know who you are dealing with... people get shot and attacked for cutting someone off in traffic, you just never know... all that said i hope you are able to get out again, please just be careful, and at least consider all your options before issuing a challenge to people who obviously are not operating in what might be considered a logical or reasonable way =)

I thought you did awesome I give you and your wife a lot of credit. Yes, some thing bad could have happened, but something could of happened any were even in guy mood. There are #ssholes every were. Don't let it stop you from going out. You are lucky that your wife is so supportive.

I've never experienced anything like what you did, but a situation like that calls for either the bouncer's help (demand that the owner provides you with a safe place to be...its your right) or call the police. If you are being heckled in a public place and the person follows you out in to the street they are already committing an assault, they are threatening you with harm...its a legitimate 911 call. You want the police to at least talk to these guys even if not much happens after that. The message from the police will be a strong one and you will have done the right thing not to let them off... maybe making life better for the next CDer. The police don't need to know your real name either as long as you didn't fight back.

You don't want to fight them because then the law considers it a fair fight and they place equal blame. You want to appear to be helpless...immediately demand help...you might have to instruct the staff what to do though...like ask them to eject the guys or ask them to call for the police. Then you should probably stay where you are with all the witnesses until help arrives.

That is a bummer. You are way to good looking to deal wiht that stuff. I hate really narrowminded people. I guess this is something we have all lived with.

THe two things in this story taht are awesome:

You have more courage then me to go out and to share it with your wife.
Your wife is awesome for sticking up for you!

Not only did you handle it well ....but you were right, you got to go home with a beautiful woman who loves you. Not many cd's can say that!