Why do i always feel sexual when i crossdress ???

Nylon I have felt that way also. I have fantasies when dressed sometimes that I would never want any one but me to keep in my mind. I love the feeling I get when dressed. Now here is where I differ just a little. If I stay dressed for a long period of time, such as all day the feeling is not as strong sexually as it starts to wear down I guess. I told my wife once that as hot as I get when dressed up she should be hot all the time. She told me that she never thought of dressing as getting a sexual high because she grew up with it. I really think if the thrill ever leaves me from dressing I will probably stop.

@Nylon

The reason it feels erotic is that being able to express a part of yourself that you normally suppress is a huge rush of euphoric happiness - happiness that has transformed into a kind of mania, because it's been held down so long. The release of good feelings that happens gives rise to the "pink fog", and to powerful erotic feelings because it is such a big damned relief.

When you bottle up one set of feelings - you mostly bottle 'em all up. So when you finally pull the cork and dress - LOTS of stuff happens at the same time.

I hope that makes sense.

edit: one more side note - having sexual feelings when you dress, or cross dressing at all, does NOT make you not transsexual. Quite a few of us go through a phase like that.

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Originally Posted by Confucius

About 95% of male population can put on women's clothing and feel nothing but silly embarrassment, however about 5% of the population experiences something amazing. Their neurons and synapses are connected in such a way to generate an entirely different automatic, involuntary sensory experience. Most likely this neurological pathway was developed during synaptogenesis of critical periods in infancy and/or adolescence. More research is needed, but it is real, and it is a neurological (not psychological) response.

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Confucius, you are coming up with some really deep and interesting things - questions I have asked myself for years... First of all: yes, for me there has always been a sexual element - I suppose as a teenager this was an 'easy' and very powerful way of fulfilling a sexual need. Nylons particularly have been a part of that fetish, and I have always had strong fantasies about representing the females I am attracted to (confident, even dominant women) when I CD. I want to feel attractive; I imagine myself as provocative, alluring - yes, sexy! I absolutely do not have any desire to fulfil these fantasies with a man (but respect those who have that desire). As I have grown older the extent of my CDing has grown: early experiences involved a carefully adjusted full-length mirror to cut me off at the neck; got fed up with catching inadvertent glimpses of my own male head so moved on to wigs, and more recently also didn't like just seeing me in a wig so have finally moved on to makeup as well. Each of these steps has rekindled that original excitement but like drugs, each successive high requires something more daring and risky. I want to go out CD - but I won't until I know I don't look like an ageing drag queen - maybe it's too late already :heehee: but I still might try.
If I can get the right nylons (must be sheer, right colour), the right lingerie, dress, hair, and overall look to emulate a woman that would appear overpoweringly attractive to me, that would be my ultimate goal, I think - but I can't explain why, other than this autogy-thingy. It all sounds so selfish, but I'm obviously not alone in these specific feelings. As time has gone by, there are now times when CDing just brings relaxation and comfort without any sexual fulfilment (although there will always be some arousal) - can't explain that either.
Like you, I look forward to someone doing some serious research on this, but whoever would fund it?
I don't think anyone need worry too much - we all seem in good company... :)

Y'all think way too much about all this stuff.The whys and hows and the what does it all mean self analysis.
For some its sexual I'm sure, for some it was never sexual.It is what it is just go with the flow and enjoy it however it makes you feel

Katey888, You said it for me! I like to dress as the tall, leggy, powerful, confidant, almost domineering business women i see in town sometimes. But,a wise old man i hear on latenight radio, sometimes, Roy Masters, says, "Every high is a new low." Which means we keep daring, pushing the envelope. Often leads to getting caught, which often we subconsciously want.

Dressing makes me feel sexy so I guess it is a turn on but I don't go walking around physically aroused. It was more sexual in the past then it is now, but then I was only underdressing and dressing for sex,. Now I dress all the time, I'd say about 80%, so it's more natural now and less of a novelty, but I can turn it on with out much effort, ya know what I mean?

Particularly directed to Lucy and Desirae but applies to the majority of dressers. Fact is that testosterone, though varying when and how much, will eventually diminish to almost zero. Which is reason that it appears that we can take longer to reach arousal --- and finally not at all. Yep it sucks, but will enjoy trying to emulate a particular woman or, more generally, any feminine looking gal to the very end of life. Sorry if I have to laugh at Desirae's statement that he hasn't noticed any diminishing and, by golly, "I've been doing it for 38 years". How about adding another 40 years to that activity and see where you are? Very much dimished is where you will be. The Bible recounts begetting in the 90s and up but as sung in Porgy and Bess: "It aint necessarily so". While the fetish bit lasts a life-time for some, for most it becomes a lesser motivation. Why? While the biological factor is one answer there seems to be many other desires, urges and attractions out there to be considered --- far more than there is room to post here. Might add that there is a correlation between the INCREASED use of porn and similar stimuli as testosterone begins to wane.
Julie

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Originally Posted by Confucius

Your brain is hard-wired (why, I don't know), to interpret cross-dressing as actual contact with a female. This means that when you cross-dress (or just anticipate cross-dressing), your brain will respond as if you were in contact with a real female.

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that is interesting Confucius, so does that mean that crossdressers are girls in denial? Or by corollary do TS women never need a date on Saturday night? Maybe it's just because guys are horny a lot?

I must say I have had thoughts of being with a man. But it's just a fantasy and will never happen.:hugs:
Angie

I think these feelings are completely normal...whats stopping you if you are single from further exploring these feelings? Maybe you are bi ? Nothing wrong with that...I am bi...maybe you are not...but you will figure it out....my first bi experience I LOVED...now its just normal..to me anyway. Everyone is different.

For me there is a sexual aspect to it but I think it runs deeper than that, it's a sort of satisfying rush to be seen dressed in a different way but at the same time I'm not really looking for attention or acceptance. That rush doesn't stick around the whole time and I get to eventually just lounge around at home in a pretty dress so I think it's more than that to me.

I feel the same way in many respects, Lexie. I do identify myself as bisexual, but I definitely feel more of an attraction to women. Crossdressing often has me fantasizing more about taking a far more submissive role with a man. I consider the act of crossdressing to be a very intimate experience in general that has a tendency to make my imagination run wild. it's our choice whether we act on these fantasies i suppose. I know what you mean though it can be pretty confusing at times

Being dressed makes me feel empowered and that alone is sexy. My urges and needs are a reflection of that fire that is ignited inside when I dress. Since I am alone in my adventure and only dress when I am alone my fantasies run wild from man on man to man on a CD(man) to being a lesbian.

One of my friends that knows, and approves of my crossdressing asked me why I crossdress and what kind of pleasure I get from it. The only thing I came up with was this..........I asked her this question: Do you know how you feel just before you reach orgasm?. She said yes. I replied, thats how I feel the entire time I am dressed. That may be a little bit of a stretch but I bet most of you CDs would agree with me!

Since I started at puberty, it used to be a very sexual thing. Every. Single. Time.

Now that I actually do it more often, it isn't as much. It's simply how I relax, the way I feel truly comfortable.

For me, frequently I like to dress a bit ****ty/naughty. Women's clothes can be so fun to make you feel sexy. I don't get that feeling dressed as a guy. I'm very heterosexual, so I fantasize being a lesbian. I guess I'm kind of like Eddie Izzard and his comment about being a male lesbian :-)

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Originally Posted by SilkeeLegs

One of my friends that knows, and approves of my crossdressing asked me why I crossdress and what kind of pleasure I get from it. The only thing I came up with was this..........I asked her this question: Do you know how you feel just before you reach orgasm?. She said yes. I replied, thats how I feel the entire time I am dressed. That may be a little bit of a stretch but I bet most of you CDs would agree with me!

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Wow!, do I EVER agree with you about this. It, for me, is the PERFECT explanation and description of my feelings. Thank you so much for this perspective, Ms. S--MUAH!

Hugz,

Janelle (formerly from Chicago)

In my experience, safely exploring fantasies is the quickest way to becoming un-confused.
It is similar to exploring different types of food and cuisine. You never know, you might really like it! Or not.

Could you imagine a forum such as this one where everyone constantly argued about which type of cuisine was best? We could all over-think everything and analyze everything just like we do here, but the absurdity would be more obvious:

"Well, the fact that you love Mandarin flavors indicates an early synaptic imprinting associated with certain brain frequencies."

Ah, yes.

Because your 30 !! ,lol,,,

Wow, what a subject. For me it started off purely sexual the silky feeling of a pair of tights being slipped on. As I got older it still played a part in my dressing. Now it now longer plays a part in my dressing it must be the familiarity of the clothes and my experiences and my mind set when I put them on. I morph from a man to a sensual woman and that gives me my satisfaction if you know what I mean.

I get that felling from lingerie but when I'm fully dressed then it just feels right not sexual

What does a man with a whistle and a bunch of dogs have to do with a CDer and [almost always a male] their clothes?

E V E R Y T H I N G.

Pavlov and his dogs is the reason WHY.

This very Forum provides irrefutable evidence everywhere for anyone who will take the time to READ responses and pay attention to the #s plastered all over this site.

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Originally Posted by Lynn Marie

In my dressing, I'm emulating my dream girl. She's a turn on, that's why she's my "dream girl". She wears stockings, garters, and heels. That really gets my attention.

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That's it exactly! Each time I dress I seem to go a bit further, take a bit longer, and the excitement builds higher all the way and higher than the previous time. It's a very interesting twist too to go out instead of spend the night in- the excitement is sustained til I get home again It's a shame that undoing the process is such a downer, but i suppose there's no thrills without spills

As a gay man I'm very sexually turned on by taking the submissive role. I think of very feminine clothes as traditionally potent signaling of passivity and the wearer's desire to attract a domineering man. By wearing woman's clothes I feel desirable in the eyes of the kind of man that I'd like to submit to. So, yes--it's very sexual.

For me, crossdressing is always a sexual experience in thought if not in action.