Tough decisions

Not to be too trite, but..

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“If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was, and always will be yours. If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with.”

― Sherrilyn Kenyon, Unleash the Night

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I think there is a difference between closing a door and recognizing that your partner is walking a path that you can't follow.

Some would view it as abandonment, some as opening the birdcage door.

Think about that *really*hard* before you pass judgement.

<3

- MM

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Originally Posted by LeighR

I will most likely not build my wardrobe in the way it was and will mostly just be happy in my panties and sometime my night wear but for me I had to take a breath and realize I was hurting my wife too much and being extremely selfish. Many here won't understand and that's ok but it was my decision as difficult as it was.

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Oh, I understand – well done! :clap:

Just to clarify the last post it's an email my wife sent me to share with you all and I had no problem with it so you can get her very good perspective

I wish you good like with your down sizng Leigh. You really must love your wife and I hope it works for you girl.:hugs:
Angie

Pink fog is like a virus and doesn't truly go away for most of us, but neither should you allow the person you care about walk away until you know for sure.

Good Luck and much love!

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Originally Posted by NicoleScott

I get this, as my first wife could not stay married to a crossdrresser. Still, my initial reaction to LeighR's post is that Leigh is a lot more committed to the marriage than the wife. Thirty-two year marriage down the drain because of some clothes.

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Please don't simplify it to just being about clothes - if it was just about an article of clothing then you yourself wouldn't have such an issue of this either. It is all much more than that at least in my mind. And to diminish the whole lifestyle down to 'its just clothes' really hurts my feelings and seems to me you think me as a SO of a CD that I'm petty and ridiculous. I don't think I'm being that way and in my situation for 20 years it was never an issue and out of the blue I'm just suppose to be OH ok your not who you represented yourself as but because I took vows I should just set that aside? The vows to mean aren't what mean something it's the fact that I love him and he is my best friend that I'm willing to try to navigate through this whole thing.

Sorry - it struck a cord with me and I had to say something. Please don't trivialize the issue on either side by saying this is just about clothes.

Thanks for listening,

Coping2014

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Originally Posted by Emi_

We who cross-dress can be a fairly selfish lot. We readily and happily choose ourselves over our spouses as if it were a fundamental human right. We don't think about her heart and her dreams and her life and her needs. We are so overcome by our desire that we forget that we made a promise. My "right" to be "me" ended when I turned into part of "we."
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If I am not willing to suffer for the sake of the woman I married, she does not deserve me for a husband and I certainly don't deserve her as a wife.

Every time I put on my makeup and pretty things, I know I am doing so only by the grace of my wife who has so graciously given me this privilege. She owed me none of this. No spouse owes their partner the "right" of self-interest.

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Wow wow wow.
All I can say to this is 'hats off to you'
Such nice and decent words.

"To thine own self be true" and Act 2 Scene 2 - Pelonius - Hamlet