Conversation with a rude person - two days of being very sad

Hi,
I have been following your posts since I became a member here. For what it's worth you inspire me.
Hugs,
Trish

I feel your pain Marcelle, I have a similar issue with members of my own family. Mouths like a run away diesel, they go at you when you are in the room and go at you when you stay away from being in the same room.

Marcelle, A great smile is everything-it shows confidence and reflects the strength inside...and you have a great smile! I would know 'cause thats all i have and its gotten me much success in life. Even at my work(largest theme park in the world) we have enforced rules about harrassment, hostile work environment, etc, yet always someone risks their job because they try to establish control over another- no matter how petty or cheezy that effort is. Humans...so predictable. Count on your co-workers who know your track record, your dependability. I'm a small man too-but i weight train and exercise passionately. I don't intend to be the next arnold but i know it essential to my long term health and my state of mind. The term "personal best" is inside for us...not for others to gauge us by. Live for you, your family, outsiders will always come and go. And keep smiling!

Let me start off by telling you that she had no right to speak to you that way. She is now feeling that she is the only person who has rights, and you are in a very dangers place at work. Why you may ask. Because people who think the way she does will sooner or later start problems for you. She may even try to have you fired. How do I know? Because I have been there. The difference is that I went to my company and reported the person. They talked to her then sent her for sensitivity training. Three weeks later she came over and apologize. What was said to her? I will never know, but she must have told others. Because many other people in the office started to talk to me that had never done so before. Never had a problem after that. I even received a promotion a year later.

You're a better person than I am. I think if I wear in that situation that woman would have met my inner Italian. I would have delighted to point out all of her imperfections. I would have sarcastically treated her like a snooty princess for the rest of the day.

I WOULD have her crying.

Sorry, my advice would probably get you fired

Marcella,

Thank you for sharing. You handled it like a true lady (I might have slugged her). Know you are braver, stronger, and a better woman than she'll ever be. Stay who you are- beautiful inside and out.

Marcella,

Now that I've hit 10 post and can really see what you look like, plus the image you posted on my gender pondering thread.... let me just say (more calmly) that woman must be blind. You are very beautiful. And I dont mean that as a "pass", just an honest compliment.

You also seem like you're happy on the inside, and that's where real beauty resides. Dont let that person tear you down to her level. She is obviously very insecure and needs to bring others down to elevate herself. Like a bully.