struggling....

Now this is just a fantastic outcome and a great thread!!!

I've heard it said that women like men who have feminine characteristics, but I can't remember where and I haven't seen it repeated anywhere. Who knows why? I think its partly that men who aren't afraid to show a little of their feminine side dont do the toxic masculinity thing. Just my opinion.

But in my own personal experience, lots of women are not put off in the slightest when they see me in a skirt and heels. In short order, conversations cover topics that no macho guy ever hears about. I feel as though they see me as one of their girlfriends in whom they confide. So your experience, while new to you, is really fairly common. Women, and I'll stick my neck out and say most women, are just fine with you getting a pedicure, underdressed in a bra or wearing a dress. Just maybe not so much with your own SO.

Suzanne - yes I believe you’re mostly correct - young women want the badass trouble maker haha but as they get older many opt for the sensitive type - as has been discussed in other threads in the past, this activity of ours is just another facet of our personality that comes from the same place as being thoughtful etc. my wife certainly made that connection - and my new friends at the spa thought it was a valid point as well.