POLL: How Accepting is Your Wife/SO ?

My wife says she's supportive of my need to dress, but I only dress in front of her when she says it's OK, so as not to ruin a good thing.

I picked "Generally Accepting"

She says I can do it whenever I want. Unfortunately, I only get a chance to dress a short while once a week or so, behind the bedroom door. (kids around). She does not participate. Occasionally we share an easy joke about it. She's not repulsed by me when I am dressed, but she doesn't look at me very much. I'm careful not to turn it into an inconvenience for her. She doesn't mind when I look at stuff for me when we're shopping.

Sodapop

Early on I told my girl friend and she put this big grin on her face as said: I know how to have fun with this. I am blessed.

I would say tolarates it, but "I don't want to know it if you are wearing intimate apparel" and "I will say I don't know you if you have to go to the ER". Although they often fit, she is very assertive about what are her clothes and what's mine. Although I have "borrowed" a few things (like the bra I'm wearing now), I would call her wardrobe masculine - no everyday skirts or slips and she wears dressesm skirts, slips, bras and pantyhose only when she "has too". It appears that she doesn't want to dress like a girl; but I do!

My S/O is very supportive and accepting.What a great friend she has been for me and she never says anything that would make our lives crumble.:hugs:

Thanks again everyone for your responses. :hugs:

As with Jenny Logan's situation, my wife was more upset about the secrecy thingy than the actual dressing... though that ( understandably) took a lil time to come to terms with as well. :o

I hope that the response to this poll will give some hope to our sisters here who have not come out yet, or are still struggling with this issue in their marriages.

Bet wishes, and good luck to you all.

Love,

Tammi



p.s. Klup, I'm so sorry to hear of your situation... that's just awful!!!! :( Granted, the only thing I know about your relationship is this little bit you posted, but your status quo - and the destruction of the clothes thingy - sound wholly unacceptable to me. :thumbsdn::thumbsdn: I don't know if you've tried counselling together, or maybe you're cool with agreeeing to disagree, but I don't know how you let things continue like this. :strugglin If you're interested, post a new thread about your situation, and maybe get some feedback that may be helpful. In any case, take care and good luck. :hugs:

She knows I like it and doesn't mind playing around a bit. I don't know if it would go out of the bedroom or further than some lingere. we'll keep trying

When my wife first discovered my secret, she was quite shocked, to say the least. Several days of tension and lots of questions followed, then nothing. She knows, but has not participated. Maybe someday................

Terrilynn

Sally, you are so lucky. I have been told that you make your own luck. I am struggling with how, when and if I will tell my wife. Will I be lucky?

Debora Jane,

I have found out throughout the years that my dressing surfaces at stime of stress, like holidays. Getting to dress and enjoy the time is cathartic, not being able to is frightful.

Tammi, I voted Accepting and supportive, God bless her . My wife has know about my cross dressing since before we got married. We've been together 40+ years now and are still learning, adjusting, compromising with the whole CD experience .
If I could stop CDing and still be the same person would she be happy? Yes
Would she ever ask or try to force me to stop ? Never!

She's always been there for me and for my part I know she needs to have her guy around too. Like I said 40+ years and still a work in progress, but we've never been happier. :happy:

i have been very blessed in that reguard she is also susie's best friend and there is also some boundries that i stick to :hugs:

susie

Wonderfull new BBW girlfriend accepts me, we go shopping together.... I am SO happy, and hey.... She borrows MY clothes !!

God bless you Helen ! :love:

I'm in the "Tolerates - don't ask/don't tell" category. This is unlikey to improve since she refuses to sit down and discuss it.

My wife actually got me into my first dress, she started it all for me.

Very Unaccepting, it's so sad..


NaomiLynn

My dear late wife was in the very accepting and supportive group. As many of you already know, I told her before we were married. She was so acceptive that we wore matching white silk lingerie at our wedding, and on our wedding night. Well, that part did not stay on long!

The only rule she had was that I could not dress openly when our two children were around. When they got on their own, everything went. We used to shop together and go out to eat as two girls. I had that beautiful, loving girl as my bride for almost 50 years before I lost her in 2005. And yes, I still do miss her!

Sissy

More Girl than man sometimes

Accepting and supportive, God bless her (him)

now if this poll was in the gg section what do you think the responce would be ??

well my wife was not accepting at all thats why she is my ex

My wife has always been supportive

I made sure to tell my wife before we were married. To me that was just a huge lie that I would not be able to keep up. I'm not sure if I wouldnt have married her if she had not accepted but I honestly dont think that our marriage would be as strong as it is.

My wife is about 98% OK with it :hugs:
Angie

Unsporting but won't demand I stop. Just worries about what others would say if they knew. She won't talk about unless she gets upset. Then she's totally unreasonable. I guess I'm lucky that she's still here. It's would much easier on her if she would just talk, and realize that this is not going away.

My wife is 100% OK with it and is my biggest ally and supporter. She helps me shop, gives me makeup tips and even picks up things for me at the store that she thinks I might like. When I recently came out to my kids (ages 25 & 30) she was by my side with her story about how we were a team with this. When I decided to go out in public for the first time, she made sure everything was as good as it could be and then walked along side me with her head held high. I couldn't ask for a better partner! :love:

You are lucky, Suzie. Does she have a sister?

I have dress since we were married and the wife doesn't think about it one way or the other. She tells me I'm still her man no matter what cloths I'm wearing. Now she always tell me to dress and act like a proper lady not a teenie bopper or a tramp.:hugs:

Mine actually prefers me en-femme, & gets grumpy if I don't dress almost daily. :mad:

Weird but true!

Veronica