Excellent posts, everyone. Thank you so much for your support.
I go back and forth on whether or not she's had an affair. Back before she changed her phone number I checked her phone records and saw an obvious pattern of increasing phone activity between her and a guy she works with. Bad enough, but not evidence of a sexual affair.
The therapist was mine, although my wife did see her once, but my therapist made it cleas that I was her patient, not her. I read the letter to my wife. My therapist has a copy, and there's one on my computer.
I really don't think she wants to out me. In fact, I think she wants to be "fair". I think she tole her lawyer that I'm a crossdresser (the reason for divorce) and he saw an opportunity to go for it all because he knew I'd be afraid of being outed. My real fear is how much of the divorce is public. What is the likelyhood of someone finding out just through the normal divorce proceedings?
Thanks,
Rhonds
