My Marriage is Over

hello jenna i dont know about your state but it seems your marriage is over all i can say is get a lawyer and you will probaly have to fight her also if you are sole owner of the house at least in my state i would show her the door well good luck



samantha

Well, it looks like I have made quite a few new friends here. All I can say is THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR YOUR SUPPORT! It makes me feel better to know that I have some friends out there that knows exactly what I am going through and wants to help me. A quick update on my situation. I have been trying to open the lines of communication with my wife Maria for the last week or so, to mixed results. It seems that every time I try to talk to her she tries to avoid me, but with a little prodding she opens up a little. While she is pretty clear on her intentions to end our marriage, it does not seem like she has the desire to go through with it. She tells me that it is embarrasing for her to end it. What I can say about me is that the thought of stopping the dressing crops up, but in the end I know that the desire is always inside me, so how far will that get me? It will be a constant battle that will have long term effects on me and my wife. As I type this I am having mixed emotions about my situation. On one hand, I still love my wife and dread not being married to her anymore. On the other hand the thought of being free is a little exiting, and is making me want to leave a little. Also, her constantly telling me that she wants me out plays a part in that to. I am thinking about giving her some space for a few days and revisiting discussions as the longer this drags out the more emotionally draining it is becoming. I love all of you and thanks so much for your support!!!!!!!!

Well I'm sorry that you are going through this. I've been doing this for a long time now and no one knows. I'm sure if my family knew they wou'dn't support me. My only advice would just to try and talk, talking usually helps and just see where that goes.

Hi Jenna,
I'm in the same position, the only difference is my wife found out about my dressing over 6 years ago. After the initial shock she said she would accept it and over the next few years she helped me buy clothes and makeup.
Out of the blue in June she said we had to talk and in tears said she did'nt love me anymore and wanted a divorce.
I am out the house in a rented apartment and she has made it clear that there is no way back.
We has been together 18 years and married 15 with 2 kids, i wish i had some answers for you but i dont,i just understand your pain as i'm having the same as i write.
I wish you the best and hope you come thru all this as quick as possible

Cathy

Your kids will miss you but in the end being in a house where your parents don't get along is way worse then having them live in two places, know that one from experience as a kid. One thing to think about is when you are happy with yourself people notice and your kids will notice in time. As some one else said time is a great healer. I have just spent the last 11 years raising two boys myself full time, my youngest is 16 now. They have both told me a few times over the years that the ex and I being a part was much better then when we were together arguing all the time. Trying to keep a marrage alive for the kids really doesn't help the kids in the long run. Good luck in what ever you decide