Not me. I like being where I'm at. I still enjoy many of the activities I partake in as a man. I'm hoping to get out more as a woman in the future, but I have no plans to fully transition.
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Not me. I like being where I'm at. I still enjoy many of the activities I partake in as a man. I'm hoping to get out more as a woman in the future, but I have no plans to fully transition.
I have no inclination to go beyond prosthetics, depilation below the chin, and ear piercing. Hormones and MTF surgery are not in the cards for me.
IF I COULD "GO ALL THE WAY" I WOULD!!!!!!! I'M TO OLD TO REALLY FULFILL MY LIFE LONG DREAM SO I HAVE COMPROMISED, AND I DRESS WHENEVER I CAN AND IF I CAN'T DO THAT THEN I "UNDERDRESS". I CAN TELL YOU THAT THE FEEL OF PANTYHOSE ON MY LEGS, A BRA AROUND MY CHEST AND PANTIES SOOTHES THE "BEAST THAT LIVES INSIDE ME"
Molly
Why would someone wish to be TS? Why not just wish to be a GG? I mean, if this is just a wishing exercise....
Okay, yes I wish so desperately that I had been born a woman. I really hate the fact that I was born male.Quote:
Originally Posted by NicoleScott
If I were younger I would want more feminine features either through implants or hormones but I don't see myself going all the way with SRS.
Happy to be a man, but love being feminine. Best of both worlds. Feel bad for trannys. How do you know where to belong? It must be terribly difficult.
not any more. at one time, many years ago i was tempted to explore that jump. nope, i am content at what i do.
If the social stigma was not an issue, and I could be who I truly feel like I want to be, I'd be an incredibly feminine male. No body hair, boobs, smaller waist, bigger hips, and a nice bubble butt. But I'm not attracted to men, and I have no interest in being penetrated, so I don't want a vagina/be a complete woman.
Do you subscribe to the dog theory of transsexuality:
"Oh look at the cute little transsexuality! Look, ma, it's licking my face and wagging its tail! Can I keep it, ma, can I?"
or to the cat theory of transsexuality?
"This darn transsexuality scooted in the side door as soon as I opened it to take the garbage out, and now the danged thing is walking around like it owns the place! I swear it's psychic, because every time I try to grab it to put it back outside, it hisses and claws me badly, and squirms and jumps out of my arms! The smell is offensive and there are hairballs everywhere! But still, it's been hanging around for so long that now I can't sleep properly anymore unless it is curled up on my chest."
Yes, I would like to transition. Family commitments/expectations and also all the necessary surgeries do present scary roadblocks. So for now I remain trapped by several dimensions :sad:
Well, that escalated quickly!
The psychological aspect of the journey is very interesting, especially when comparing someone who is still ashamed of wearing woman's clothing to some of the more experienced gals here at the forum.
The proof is really right here in this forum: all roads DO NOT lead to the same place. The spectrum is not a one way street leading to "higher" or "lower". A lot of people seem to visualize the "spectrum" as a line, when really it is a multi-dimensional grid. Sometimes people end up putting other people down when trying to figure out where exactly they fit in.
My "in-congruency" or "diss-association" or "mental distress" was purely psychological, it never manifested in wanting to alter my biological genitals.
cant imagine that at age 61,just enjoy female self,
I fantasize about it. If I was no longer married, I'd strongly consider moving to some other open minded city where I have no family and do it. It would definitely be a hard choice, though. I also love my male side...
I am trying to determine what I need to be a healthy me. I also don't want to damage my family. So I am taking a year to discover what lies ahead. I am transgendered and happily accept that!
Suzanne
I have stopped trying to put a label on me because it only confuses me. I know for sure that:
1) I don't like guys, I have never looked at another guy in an erotic way
2) I enjoy being a man. I like my male appearance, my body and my character.
3) I wish I had been born a woman. I would be a lesbian but definitely would feel more like myself.
4) My physique is so masqulin that I look quite funny when dressed as a woman (I have only tried it a couple of times, it's pantyhose and thongs that I enjoy wearing on a daily basis). With my kind of body (I am quite fit after being an athlete for many years) I don't find any sense in fully dressing as a woman. If my body were more feminine on the other hand, things would be quite different. From a teenager I was wishing I were a woman.
Hi,
( You ether are a woman or not.) ???.......
Your not born... a... woman . you can grow into being one,... if.... your born female.
I did not transition ....i did not wont to be a woman had no desire to be one at all. or a male for that matter. yet i have what i ...need...
so we get into whats it like being a woman , i gave talks on this to large groups of people,
Bring female to start with though not complete as iv made sure people know, the potential was there from birth to grow into a woman, not a put on or a frabriction or a wont, just a natural growing process when the time was right,
I dont know about
The fear of leaving thier safe cover of manhood or false manhood,... sorry.... i dont know what thats like, i have no idear, thing is i did not leave something to be other than i am,
This dysphoria, again no idear.
yes i know about depression suicide and what its like to cast down your partner / mate. and totaly hurt them and you cant do any thing to help, and destroy what you had for 40 years,
maybe there are other details that were different i know that though the end result is i have grown into a woman by vertue of being female, in my makeup from birth, = different = yes.
...noeleena...
I have been dressing all my life 55 plus years. From the very start I felt that I was different, that there was something "not right". As I grew older I started to realize that maybe, just maybe I was intended to be female and somehow I got the male chromosome and not the female. There was no internet, no computer, no help whatsoever. I lived with "it". I liked dressing as a woman, I liked how I felt, I liked how I looked, I had lots of girl friends and I wanted to be one of them. Information started to trickle down on sex change surgery but the cost was very prohibitive at the time so I just hid my secret and did the best I could do, Get married, have kids and hope that my feeling(s) would go away. They didn't!!!!! They got stronger!!!!! Because of family responsibilities, employment responsibilities I hid my dream but also realized that I could satisfy my deepest urges by dressing the part (being a woman) and that's what I have done and doing.
Molly
I am male 24/7 and I dress 10/7 only using make up about 3 times a month. I don't know why I became attracted to female clothes, 50 years ago, but I love wearing dresses and skirts.
I like being male so no I don't want to be full woman, one of the great things about being male is embracing love from your wife or gf and as a man I have to have that to be complete, if I switch sides and went for the whole change then where would that leave me on sexuality??? because you could never again be as close to your wife or gf with out that stuff, it would feel mighty weird having female parts and taking hormones, I'm happy enough bleeding both genders in the way I dress, crossdressing is in my daily routine, I've being doing it since 6 years old it's a way of life for me I know no different.
I completely agree with this, like any group there are many different feelings and viewpoints going on and even though we share something relatively in common (many of us have blue eyes), we also have our differences and those differences can run deep.Quote:
Originally Posted by samantha rogers
If you're asking because of someone you know, the best thing is to ask them directly. You can't just get an 80% answer here and expect that to apply to the person you know. :)
~Mel
I totally respect those who feel the need to BECOME a woman. Myself, I like being a man and feeling the zing of wearing girl clothes. That's just me.
I don't think anyone wishes or wants to be TS. Being born in the wrong body is considered a mistake by TS from what I understand. It's possible for CD to eventually become TS; sometimes it takes years to understand one's own feelings.
I had occasional thoughts and feelings that I should have been born a female when I was a teen. But with a little research I surmised that I was a CD, not TS. I do want to experience being a woman in a future life, including all aspects of being female.
I've thought about it at one point, since I was unhappy with being a man. The long term anorexia and schizo over the issue case almost got me. Thinking one day universally on gender was a good thing to me for just being neutral. I rather lessen submitting into delusion and hallucinations. Going through that artificial change would have gained further health problems.
ABSOLUTELY!!!!! In a split second. And - I find myself getting more and more frustrated for not having done anything about it - yet. Life managed to get in the way, as it seems to happen to a lot of us. I know what I need to do, just not sure how - without causing a lot of pain for others. Given the current nature of things, however, I don't think it will be very long where I may not be as "trapped" as I feel. Marriage seems to be failing apart - and that's what I've been holding onto. Maybe its meant to be.
I am Transgender & I am working on becoming who I really am, female & proud of it ...
I will consider SRS and transition if and only if I will be able to have full female organ. However, I hope to have natural female breasts.
I really like being a guy. While it would be fun to experience being a woman there is no way I would want that to be who I am underneath my clothes. Now if only they could improve on virtual reality simulations enough to give us a realistic experience of being a woman...
I really enjoy the duality, being able to switch into femme mode when the urge and time allows, and then being able to go back to male mode. Granted, there are times when having some curves in the right places, and being a bit flatter in others would be great, but I don't think SRS would be the answer for me. There was a time in my later teens when I did begin to question it, but that seems to have passed over time as I've come to accept and embrace the wonderful things that being Bryanne temporarily can bring, as well as the insight that having such a duality can bring to my life.
Actually, I disagree. I think they are two different points on a spectrum and they do have certain things in common, probably even certain causes in common.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jenniferathome
I may get flamed for this, but I think many if not most cross-dressers would transition if it were easy, painless and free of loss of income and family relationships. The primary difference between transsexuals like me and CDers like Jenniferathome, I believe, is that my gender dysphoria cannot be relieved just by occasional cross-dressing whereas Jennifer's can.
^.^
First, let me get this out there. I am a woman, trapped in a man's body. Even down to the physicals. I am diabetic, and the nerve damage has reached my groin area, and has deadened my natural sexual responses just enough that I can not achieve a male orgasm. However, because of this, I can reach a near=orgasm at least twice during an encounter, so my physical responses are closer to female than male.
While I would love to do some things like face feminization and even breast construction, I would be hesitant to do anything that alters the hormonal situation. At the moment, I have what I consider to be a healthy female sexual response, so anything hormone would be out.
That plus, being diabetic means I would have to be really careful about any sort of surgical procedure.
Amy M. Jackson
The problem is that the question assumes that this is a choice or that every guy who ever put on a pair of panties automatically longs to be a woman. That is simply not the case. People are born as they are.
I guess for me is if i could wave a magic wand and be a girl when i wanted to be i would love that, But i do enjoy being male and dont want to give that up, I do wish i could have breasts full C or small D but the stigma is to much i guess. So i would have to say for me i have no real desire to transistion, i may fantize about it from time to time but that is really it.
I don't wish to be TS but I am. It is yet to be seen how I will handle the situation. There are several options and my wife and I are trying to find a solution we can both live with.
Suzanne
I’m going to go back a lot of years. After my military service, discharged 1966 from active duty and I was 22 years old. I resumed my cross dressing habits and did actually consider sex reassignment surgery with a burning desire, since I always felt like I was born the wrong body. There was no internet at that time and very little spoken of about such surgeries in this country (USA), the only country at the time that I knew of was Denmark. Renee’ Richards was the first in the USA in the 70’s that was successful that I even know of, and prior to that even breast implants weren’t even heard of. I went to public libraries throughout my life researching sex reassignment surgeries and few publications had such information, some in Germany in the 1930’s. When in the 70’s John Hopkins started doing such surgeries I did find and read some but most of what I read were botched. By the 1980’s and with the AIDS epidemic few were interested being afraid they may have already been infected with HIV and of course being afraid of blood transfusions at the time also being infected. Even health professionals were not sure of how it was being transmitted, as a first aider and ER technician at the time we also had protocol’s to follow of being exposed to bodily fluids including tears from crying let alone blood, vomit, urine fecal matter and even saliva, scary times for certain. A lot of people especially homosexual’s died from AIDS and I myself was very concerned because of my kissing and fondling others just like me while in drag in Greenwich Village throughout the mid 60’s through the 70’s but was tested “negative” the many times I was tested due to my sexual encounters with other TV’s, 3 in all. None of those 3 ever tested positive and 2 of those are still alive today, we’ve kept in touch with each other.
In the early years of 1980’s after a few years of “sobriety” I sought professional help with my CD/TV lifestyle at a time when I contemplated suicide to end this double life I was living, though now known to family and a very few of my AA friends. I was still in the closet afraid of the rejection which I already received from family and friends, I didn’t want to lose my job or to be forced to resign my first aid duties and part time job’s I held in various hospital ER, Recovery, and Intensive Care Units. Over a period of time, several months of therapy, I made choices one of which was to live as a female as much as possible, still not full time, and hormone therapy. The hormones actually made me sick after a physical with my medical doctor in that I was having palpitations of the heart, arrhythmia’s which were extremely uncomfortable, and high blood pressure. My breast’s developed to a whopping A cup but were tender and sore most of the time. Needless to say, my health was more important to me in keeping fit for the sake of my children and myself and the hormone therapy was abandoned. I later in the early 90’s still thought of SRS and did more research and what I found was not to my liking on botched surgeries. With the understanding that I would not likely ever experience an orgasm as I know it today as a male after surgery.
Some that had such surgery experienced tears in the new (rectovaginal septum) membrane that separates the vagina and rectum, and after several repair attempts wound up wearing a colostomy bag for the rest of their lives. Others suffered penetration harm and painful intercourse while attempting to experience sex with a male partner. Still there were others who found out they made the wrong decision and found it difficult if not impossible to reassign them back to their male state. Still most others are totally satisfied and very happy and content with their reassignment surgeries. These days though who knows, studies have shown that few of these botched surgeries are experienced today, like everything else, it seems no worse than having an appendix or gall bladder removed or even open heart surgery, they have come a long way. But at my age 70, I’ll pass on it and be glad I am still whole.
I'm happy with who I am right now, and have no desire to go further on the road. I actually seriously considered it a few years ago, but I realized I didn't want to pick one particular gender and I like getting the proverbial best of both worlds. And I second the idea that there is no universal answer, each story is a different story - which is what makes the world an interesting place by the way :)
I'm not sure if I want to change my gender. I definitely would rather have been born female and I don't love being male much, but I dont know, I think I'd want to be much more sure before going into a gender change. I think my gender dysphoria is mild at the most.
No to gender change. No to hormones.
No.... My boy side is by far the dominant and would not be easily suppressed. Even dressing, I don't see myself as a woman, I don't want to be a woman and I kinda like my bits just how and where they are.
I think I am pretty androgynous when it comes to this topic. There are times when I wish i was born a girl, other times I am grateful I was born a boy. It's definitely something I have considered many times, but I know if I did fully transition there are huge parts of being male that I would miss.
I'm non binary, which means I don't really consider my gender to be male or female but something in between. The OP mentioned genderqueer. That term is fine and pretty close to they way I feel but non binary has a bit less baggage. I also like the term transgender as an umbrella term because it can include anyone who doesn't always present as strictly one gender or the other which includes cross dressers, transexuals and non binary people like me. I have no interest in transitioning to female, which would probably make me as unhappy as trying to be male made me.
I'm pretty sure I am part of a sizable minority here of other non binary, genderqueer or androgynous people. But you know, this is crossdresser.com so the majority of threads are going to be from people who are cross dressing. I'm not really cross dressing in the sense that I think I am gendered male and I'm dressing to present as a female. Being gendered male was just a mistake my parents, the birth doctor, and society at large made, believing that what's between my legs determined my gender. It did not and I was not truly happy until I let go of the idea that my gender had anything to do with what other people thought. I dress the way I do because it is an accurate presentation of my gender and so it makes me feel comfortable with myself. But even naked I don't see a man or a woman when I look in the mirror. I see something else, someone in between.
I have only started crossdressing earlier this year, but I have thought about becoming a woman for a long time. After I get out of the Navy, I plan to start my process. I don't want to be a man anymore.
Hi girls,
I just want to say, how wonderful you being honest who you are! You all make me more understand, learning and I have be smiling my face. When I read this. Now my husband and Donna is very happy and I'm happy to have both male and female.
Cheers!
I've thought about this question and it is a difficult one. First, if I could start life over again, I would choose to be a woman, hopefully an attractive woman. I really like their ability to be who they are, that means dressing up in a sexy LBD to attract the glances of all who pass by OR to go out in jeans and a tee shirt. We, as men, have to be men all the time at least in public.
With that said, I do like being a guy also. Have lots of friends who do guy things (golf, sports, beer, etc) and we have a good time. If I could have transitioned when I was younger, it may have been a possibility, however, now it would disrupt the family and the good family relationships that my wife and I share with our children. So, now it is just not a possibility.
Many varied perspectives and thoughtful comments; my two cents:
When I was very young, I can recall wishing to be a girl so I could wear the clothes at some point. I still ultimately liked being a boy, playing video games, legos, toy cars, fishing, hunting, etc.
When I was a teenager and still trying to make sense out of why I was turned on both by women and also by wearing their clothes, out of curiosity I wondered what it would feel like to have breasts (IMHO I think a lot of even non CD guys have thought about this at one time or another) or what girls feel like being turned on / orgasming.
At no point did I want to give up my manhood or undergo SRS. The thought of parting with my male essence was terrifying and never an option. I like relating to women as a man and being with them in the male role. That said, I wouldn't mind sharing some girly time with an understanding lady at some point ;).
Naw, just want to be me.....
naw, I love being male and wearing female clothes. My male side is very dominant, Im jus a cd"er
Throughout my life I have thought about and researched changing my sex from male to female. At the time, the procedure was VERY expensive and out of touch for me. I continued on with my cd'in which brought me some fulfillment but I still wanted to become female (and I still do). I accepted the fact(s) that I was different, had other needs and wants which would not be fulfilled. Now a lifetime later, I still want to be a woman which again will not happen because of internal and external pressure(s) and responsibilities. My dressing will not cease now will my desires but I have a type of fulfillment that will satisfy me.
Molly
heck If I had my choice, I would not be a cross dresser - No to TG please
I am a man. I do love to wear dresses, pantyhose/tights, high heels, makeup, and wigs. However, I have a deep-rooted desire to become a woman.