Sorry I've been gone but until recently the past few weeks haven't been the best. As Becky shared, my wife didn't like my shaved legs. She's so concerned about what others would think. For myself, I absolutely don't care what others think. I just want to do what helps me feel content. And smooth legs are absolutely wonderful. I feel so feminine and connected with my true female spirit.
Hi Nikki, I think that your wife has other fears than what others will think. How are the others to know. I have been keeping my legs hair free for the past 3 years and nobody but me and my wife know and as long there is no stubble to make them scratchy my wife doesn't care.
Hi Rachel, what other fears do you think my wife may have? Nikki
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While my wife is still uncomfortable with my closest relatives seeing me with shaved legs, she has given me the go ahead to shave them again in October. So, she's ok w/ me shaving my legs over fall and winter when I can wear long pants while visiting relatives. Outside of that, she's not too concerned about my shaving any longer. In fact, my legs still appear smooth since the hair is growing back slowly and yet she has no problem with me going on walks with her while wearing shorts. She really is only concerned with what my relatives would think. For me, I don't care what they think at all. Nikki
well, this seems positive, given the prior update, so congrats and i'm happy for you :)
As they say, baby steps. I honestly doubt if anyone notices any guys legs....perhaps if you were really wooly and suddenly turn up smooth...
Glad to hear things worked out in the end, but tough getting there! Hope you can now dress with more sheer stockings and post lovely pictures
Hugs, (still hairy) Ellen
Yuck! The hair is growing back and starting to show. Back to two pair of hose which I absolutely hate. Cannot wait for the fall to arrive...it's going to be a long spring and summer for sure! Nikki
In this subject, I outed my self.
It was after Christmas 2016 and we had some people came over to review the Christmas photos.
I had set up my older laptop on a TV tray and attached a 17" flat screen monitor facing away from me. This way, I could run the laptop during the slide show and they could watch without everyone trying to look over my shoulder. The laptop has a very narrow viewing angle.
After the "slide show", I put the" slide show" on auto play.
The slide show of the Christmas photos was running nicely for about 15 min. I wasn't touching the screen. Then the screen saver came on and used the "photo" directory and any sub directories under it.
BUT I forgot something. I had recently used a sub-directory under the "Photos" directory (A breach in protocol) to edit some 150 photos 'Leslie Mary S" after a shoot. Normally, I use a sub directory two tiers bellow the "Models" directory, which is not a sub-directory under the "Photos" directory.
About the 5th thru 7th photo shown by the 'screen saver' was Leslie Mary S. Anyone who was ignorant to who 'Leslie Mary S' made the connection, but I know that there were some pre-make-up photos in that set.
I quickly and artfully bumped the table to juggle the mouse thus stop the screen saver. I hadn't been using a mouse. hence no mouse was attached. I reached very quickly and and awardly over the monitor screen and hit the space bar.
I am now using 3 one Tera external hard drives. One for my models photo work (some semi-nudes etc), one for "publicly safe' misc photos, and the third for those closest type photos (no nudes on it).
each external drive is now over 50% full. Just bought a 5 Terabyte external drive.
Archiving sensitive long term storage to high quality DVD-r disks. One for each model session of each model, about 65 disks now, which are in a locked contain.
Until I started to shave my legs, I wore opaque tights. Some are quite fashionable and match my dresses. I do prefer natural pantyhose, but a girl must compromise some times. As for shaved legs in the summer, take up cycling, and your wife has her cover story.Quote:
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I NEVER wear hose to hid my leg hair. I don't have any, leg hair that is, but I do wear hose to help hide scratches, bruises, and scars. I have been mean to my understanding pins.
Nikki,
I hope all is well with you & yours as you are suggesting.
As far as photos on the phone. I JUST SAY NO. No photos of Connie or friends on my cell phone.
I have an early digital camera that I use, download the photos then delete them from the camera.
Yes it's big. bulky & runs out of AA battery power now & then but, there's No chance someone can see what's not there.
Hugs, Connie Marie
Mine instantly get transferred to a DVD of in the interim a dedicated USB stick.
Takes time but involves deliberate actions to hide the shots.
Eight dollar insurance policy there with just a "V" indicating something different.
Das ist verboten, a German word. :-)
Sometimes, deep in my heart, I wonder if I left those pics purposely on my phone with the hope, or perhaps, not at least not a care, that my wife would find them.
Nikki,
I have followed this thread for a while and can understand you trying to keep / maintain peace with your wife's requests to not shave certain months and permission to shave on others.
However to me it appears not shaving is causing you great pain and it is not something you want to contend with.
If I were you I would go off an without permission get laser done on my legs and later on maybe tell the wife something strange happened after that last shave and the hair just never came back..............
Sorry if I am out of line but you have a life to live to.......just saying
Best wishes in working this out !
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Seriously though, Nikki, that is one approach. While not likely to be well received at the time at least, it has the distinct benefit of obviating any further discussion about shaving.
Hey Nikki,
I have to agree with Kelly and Lauri. Gulp, I never thought I would ever say that. With all due respect, hasn't this gone on a little too long? Also, there seems to be a little too much control going on here, maybe even manipulation. Just get rid of the hair already, get sent to your room or whatever and get on with your life. It's just hair!
Jeri Ann
Hi Jeri Ann, Kellie Marie and Laurie,
I have a very happy marriage, with a lot of mutual respect and understanding. My wife's feelings matter a lot to me and while I would love to have smooth legs all year I fully respect her point of view and as the good husband i am I will comply with her request. She too has respect for my feelings and that is why she has agreed for me to be smooth over the cold months. Although I'm unhappy with her request, it isn't unreasonable. However, I am happy that she is comfortable with me dressing and transforming at all. I very much view marriage as being sensitive and attentive to one another's needs and desires. And, in a sense, I already feel like I've been placed in time out until October :) Nikki
Well said Nikki, could not have said it better myself. Clearly your marriage is one of mutual love and respect and one should never forget that your wife has accepted a lot of things that many wives would not. Forcing the leg shaving issue may turn your wife off your dressing and make things a lot worse.
Nikki,
Any updates now that it is starting to get warmer or are you going to have to stick it out until October to shave.
For me hair is mental state killer, I hate to even leave the house to go to electro appointments even though no one can really see the hair that is left unless they are with in a few feet of me
You look so pretty in your photos as always, hope your wife can come to compromise so you can wear those pretty sun dresses between now and October
Other than live with it, the only option is to join a road cycling group that has shaved legs, and then emphasize how stand out with unshaved legs
Finally had the nerve to ask my wife what she thought about the pics of me she found on my phone. She's very uncomfortable with them and, as she had muttered under her breadth the first time she saw them, she again said that I looked prettier than her. I explained that's the power of makeup. I wear quite a bit of makeup and she wears very, very little. I ended the conversation there since it was obvious she didn't want to discuss the matter any more.
What would get any GG unglued would be the lie rather than the "dressing".
My wife hasn't seen my photos but she said to me "why would you enjoy dressing? you must look very ugly as a woman!"
As Nikki said "that's the power of makeup"
One thing that I'm kind of lucky with is that I have very little body hair and the little I have I pull out a little at a time.
I show my gf my pics--the ones I'm the most proud of where I look fabulous haha!--and she just gives me that 'oh brother' look. I just smile because I know if she thought they were hideous she'd have NO problem letting me know that. So I know she thinks I look pretty and/or sexy. Either way--be proud and love yourself. That is what it's all about.
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And Judy...I think you are beautiful. Very nice smile. Very feminine. I have very little body hair too. Thank you heavens above! Getting dolled and looking halfway decent is hard enough without dealing with that nightmare. Lol
Nikki, a disappointing but not surprising result i'm guessing. Just keep plugging away....
If everything goes accordingly (and so often it doesn't), I have a makeover tomorrow with my beautiful friend at a wig boutique I frequent occasionally. I'm excited to see if she can do my makeover better than me...I do have lots and lots of practice. But, who knows...maybe she can help me to look my best! I wish I had a gorgeous gown to wear but alas I don't have one. Hope everything goes as planned and I have another story to share with everyone. xxx Nikki
One of my girlfriends didn't see my update on another thread about my further talk with the Mrs about my pics. So, here's a complementary update. I talked to my wife about the photos a second time and she again mentioned that she thought I was prettier than her. I explained that it was the power of makeup. I do wear a lot of makeup...I'm totally intrigued by the stuff! My wife wear's very little makeup. She's so much the tom boy and I'm the complete opposite. I think that's a bit funny if you ask me. I could tell she didn't want to discuss the pics anymore than that. So, I ended the conversation at that point. I do wish she'd look at more of my pics in my "girl mode." Maybe sometime in the future. But, I think she's a bit on the defensive especially with her thinking I look pretty. xxx Nikki p.s. if you have any other questions just fire away! And I just got back from my makeover. Shortly, I'll share how it went and what I learned.
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Well, I learned some fantastic makeup tips during the makeover. But, I didn't like the overall look. We experimented with colors that simply didn't suite me. So, I'm transforming myself as we speak applying the tips that my friend/makeup artist shared with me.
I'm also fortunate. I do not have any hair follicles on the back of my legs or my thighs. The front of my legs are almost bare also. I wear shorts all year along due to the discomfort of peripheral neuropathy. Several years ago my daughter who was in her early 30's was sitting across from me, and, asked if I shaved my legs. I asked her if this was the first time she noticed I had no hair on my legs. Yep, over thirty years and finally she noticed. I explained the lack of hair follicles. When en femme I always wear hosiery, and, that includes when I'm en femme in the summer. Typically a warm day around here in the summer it's in the 70's with low humidity.Quote:
Originally Posted by Leslie Mary S
Nikki, I would suggest you ask your wife to start looking at the legs of men when you're out. I see many men who have a minimal amount of leg hair or no leg hair. It is especially true among older men. And, if you are diabetic or pre-diabetic the chances are you're going to naturally have less hair.
My wife knows I do not shave my legs. She hates me that I have no leg hair. Worse than that is the fact I also never have had underarm hair. Hear her and other women rant about shaving legs and underarms....wow! Many women like their men to have smooth bare skin. Others like their men hairy.
My personal opinion is your wife needs to re-evaluate her position. She is afraid of societal norms and expectations. She is more afraid of what other think than what makes you comfortable. Maybe all your wife needs to do is to tell nosy relatives that SHE likes her man to have a totally shaved smooth body. If she really wants to shock them, then as she is saying that she can run her hands sensuously over your cheeks and chin! :)
Nikki, in your 1-4-17 post, you commented,
"As I commented in my first post to this thread, she did quickly mention that she thought I looked prettier than her. Hopefully, in talking to her further I'll learn that she made that comment because I wear a lot of makeup, and pretty dresses. You see, she really doesn't like makeup or wearing dresses for that matter. She's a tough as nails girl who doesn't get all caught up in fashion and the like."
Here's a thought .. AFTER you've taken her to a nice dress shop and purchased a pretty one for her, take her for a makeover. Let her become really pretty. She will probably love the results. Tell her she's your arm candy as you walk with her.
Jenny,
Thank you for the suggestion. I'm afraid it wouldn't work for my situation. My wife is really not into makeup. She's beautiful but simply will rarely apply it. And she's most comfortable in a t-shirt and jeans. In our walk-in closet, I own more dresses than she does. And she rarely wears the dresses she has. It's really too funny how I'm the "girly girl" of our home! Now, if I buy her a puppy she'll likely let me do just about anything I want...mmm, I'll need to give that some serious consideration! lol
xxx Nikki
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Hi Judy,
You're so beautiful...I'm quite confident that your wife would very surprised and probably not very happy to see how stunning you are when transformed into your feminine self.
xxx Nikki
Don't know if you have thought about it, but could be the combination of dress and high contrast makeup is too much. Have you tried dress with subtle makeup.
Could it be the long hair, have you tried bob styles?
Sometimes SO want to see party styles only and hate the look of natural female, while others want only natural and no party.
Have you any clue as to which types of presentations are definite no-no's and which might have less charge for her?
I have an idea that might help. Why not show her all your pics and ask her to pick out her favorite? Then post that one here so we can all see it!
Girlfriends, you guys are providing some many different ways to proceed...I'm getting confused as to which way would work best. I just know I have to engage my wife more fully with my feminine side. I would like her to embrace me totally...but, i think that's asking too much! ugghh
OMG!
Nikki, I hope that everything turns out o.k..
Hugs,
Bree ;)
I reviewed your pictures with the blue dress with and without corset. Most of GG would envy your figure.
If your wife like t-shirt, trousers and it is undergoing some steroids treatment, she can be frightened to be the male of the relationship...or to be too attracted to your female persona...who knows?
Nikki , I always contend seeing a therapist and finding a path to the truth with you mate is the best. Good luck!
My wife continually shares that her self-esteem suffers because she's struggling to lose weight. She knows that many consider women to be attractive when they are thin. I encourage her not to feel that way. Recently, I explained to my wife that my self-esteem doesn't suffer at all from my feminine ways and spirit. In fact, I brought to her attention that I actually feel special and better about myself because of my inner feminine soul. It makes me such a better person...more compassionate and understanding than I would ever be without that part of me. Now, my wife's response to when I said I feel special was a bit surprising...she just said, "that's neat." I don't know if it's helping with her poor self-esteem...I'll need to ask.
weight lose>> When Mom's not happy , no one is happy >>so help mom be happy!
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lots of reading to do there....but I think there may be something to the idea of gut bacteria having way more of an impact on the rest of us than we might have been able to believe. if you have not tried apple cider vinegar with the "mother" used in salads.. I 'v lost a bit o weight ....and its really the only thing different that i can think of ??
I t may be anecdotal but, a qt has lasted me over 2 months so its a a cheap try !
The Mrs wasn't too happy the other day and started to get after me a little bit about my dressing. I wasn't in the best mood either. She began saying, "I let you do your thing blah, blah, blah..." I don't even remember what got each of us in a bit of a tiz...but, I know it was something petty. We quickly made up (as in forgave each other...not gave each other a makeover...though I wish!!) to each other...and then she gave me a special value twin pack of Neutrogena makeup remover towelettes she had bought for me! This life isn't easy and I wish my wife would fully embrace and even enjoy my feminine side. But, I have no business complaining.
Last year my wife relented and was ok with me shaving my legs in the Fall. So, October is right around the corner. Hopefully, she'll be fine with me shaving my legs again. I've been hating these hairy legs for the past many, many months!
Until recently, I've been a bit down since my wife has again turned down my ask to shave my legs. She wants me to wait until after the holidays...so, another long month of misery...:(
I have a sweet and funny story...which has greatly improved my mood. Two days ago while my wife and I lay upon our bed together, she was her usual perceptive self realizing I was too quiet and was slipping into my occasional sulky, pouty mood. She quickly brought to my attention that I needed some time to be my feminine self and told me to go get dressed. I commented that it was too much work getting ready which sent my wife into immediate and utter hysterics with the loudest chuckling and laughter I've heard from her in our more than 30 years together. Now, we have a good laugh on a regular basis but this time it was beyond the realm of what we've ever experienced before. Her laughter was contagious and I joined her laughing to the point of crying. I asked her what she was laughing about (I had a pretty good idea what it was - and I was right). She replied she has long knew from experience that painting on a full face takes a tremendous amount of time, energy and effort. Good reasons she says to me regularly as to why she rarely wears makeup herself. And having seen pics of me in full glam mode (to include those difficult to affix false eyelashes along with tight-lining, face-taping and contouring) and how long I spend getting ready in our bathroom she more than readily appreciates the amount of work entailed. So, there I was commenting on the obvious that it took too much work to dress up and yet there she was knowing that I always like seeing her dressed up despite the fact she's always told me it's too much effort to pretty herself up. Compounding everything is her knowledge that beyond the cosmetics, I have a penchant for pantyhose, girdle, 3-4 inch heels, hip pads, corset, body briefer, tight dress, full head of hair, etc, etc, etc. What a wonderful experience is was for us to have a ridiculously long bout of laughing and chuckling together about my feminine side...it was a priceless moment that we'll remember and cherish for the rest of our lives! Nikki
That is so wonderful!!!!!!!!!
Lovely story Nikki, thanks for sharing. You are very lucky to have such an encouraging wife.
My wife is back home and I just summoned up the nerve to again ask her to allow me to shave my legs...she replied not to ask her right now...but I just did! Ugh! I cannot help myself...I'm asking her again later today...I'm just sick, sick, sick of all this hair!
Nikki
I think you should ask a different question.
Ask your wife when the right time will be to have a proper discussion about your situation.
I politely asked my wife again if I may shave my legs...SHE SAID YES as long as I allow the hair to immediately grow back...I've decided to wait another day and ask her again just to be sure before I go ahead and remove all this unwanted hair! I cannot believe she actually said YES! Wow...I'm just so happy! :)
Again I wanted to reply with a PM, but you are too popular. Everybody loves their Nikki!
All my pix are taken and uploaded to my Dropbox that is under Leah’s e-mail address. Dropbox is password protected too.
But that is a fear of mine, not deleting a pic or not clearing the browser history and getting caught and out myself.
As for the legs, I just tore my ACL and have to wear a brace that makes my leg so hot! I’ve told my wife I may shave my leg hair and then I’ll tell her I have to do the whole leg so I won’t look ridiculous and then gotta do both for the same reason. LOL
I wonder if that will work