Absolutely, my legs are long and my booty looks extra perky when I'm cding.
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Absolutely, my legs are long and my booty looks extra perky when I'm cding.
When all of the stars line up correctly, I do find my appearance to be attractive at least to me and my friends and admirers. It is a long process to create Sarah from this 69 year old body and face, but I do find the end results satisfying considering all of those factors. I don't always achieve the goal but it is fun trying.
I, for the most part, find my fem-self quite attractive.
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I'm not doing too badly, and turning 49 next week.
A lot of the ladies in femme form certainly do look quite attractive. Sadly, that is something out of my grasp as a "dude in a dress."
I definitely find my female self more attractive than my male self. Makeup, when done well, can hide a lot of flaws not to mention a good hairstyle wig. I find that I am more confidant in female mode and that's probably because I feel complete when I can fully express my true gender outwardly . Strangely, I'm not acting feminine in girl mode but I am almost always acting when I am in male mode. Such is life. Of course a mirror is a crossdressers best friend I am not ashamed to say that over the many years I have been mostly pleased with my mirror image with my efforts to emulate the feminine I so dearly admire.
It's disappointing, but I do not. Ms. Mirror hovers angelically over one shoulder telling me how pretty I am...what a doll, what a catch. But Ms. Jpeg floats mockingly over the other shoulder leaving no flaw unexposed. Now, with shapewear, the right wig, the 38Ds or the doubles, some eyeshadow and lipstick, Ms. Jpeg can capture me still in life, and sexy. But it will be one frame of many.
Forgive me if you find it arrogant to say, but I was a very cute child. A cute boy that women would often call pretty. I was a handsome young man (and now I wish I had had the compulsion to crossdress back then). I am still a handsome man, but it seems the pretty is behind me now. Time will tell, as I learn more about makeup, its application, and styling, if I can find a way to bring out any prettiness left in this handsome face.
"No airbrush was destroyed in the making of these pictures, nor any camera in the taking of them"
-Sincerely, Ms. Jpeg
Yes, I do think that I look attractive when I put the effort in. Much more attractive than as a man, I also think. Calliebelle, you have to be nicer to yourself...you're gorgeous.
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Sweet of you to say but the photo editor had more than a lot to do with it. You on the other hand, naturally beautiful.
I've come to accept that we as humans mostly do fragmented thinking and feeling. It's quite a struggle just to keep consistent, in simple ways like making sure we aren't hypocritical in our daily life, fight off the temptation to cheat on taxes, etc.
CDing is very emotional and so we are driven by feeling. We can feel a lot - how sexy we are, how stupid we are, how sad we are at the tragedy of having a face or hair that can't be transformed into an angelic female face, etc. I'm saying all this to encourage everyone who doesn't allow themselves to explore just how wonderful they look.
I find myself attractive as a mirl, and I want to look attractive, using my own standards. I solved my problem by creating a whole new category of beauty- for mirls and MIADs! Now I have no trouble seeing any man enjoying all there is to be enjoyed about CDing as attractive. I look at them from their own point of view. It is not about passing, it is about supporting each other in feeling what we want to feel.
Attractive has three components- pleasing to look at, sexually attractive, and attractive as a person [looking safe, interesting, warm, kind, etc.] I am ok with most people finding me unattractive sexually, and it doesn't reduce my pleasure in feeling myself sexually attractive. I am fine with others just thinking my outfit is well coordinated, or even thinking, well, looks like a man in a dress- harrumph! None of it matters because I am feeling free and happy, and a peaceful and well-meaning individual contributor to society. That feeling seems to attract people to me, which is very nice.
Women do the same for each other, and have exactly the same problem- how much they will like what they see in the mirror- and whether and how much to disguise, enhance, shape etc so they fit can feel attractive, or otherwise ok relative to whatever set of expectations are hounding them!
I'm saying all this for those who feel they don't measure up- That feeling is clearly limiting to our joy and unnecessary.
Sorry for editorializing if too much ;0)
I certainly don’t feel I pass but I don’t look ghastly either. When out with other cder’s I do get a lot of compliments.
Do say that I’m at peace with how I look and that’s all that really matters.
Sometimes yes, usually no. It seems easier in a picture, but in real life it's much harder.
Not really maybe I am just old. But I don’t feel I could pass for even second. The face just does not look femme.
Well yes absolutely! I love the way I look! This is last night.
Heck I feel more sexy as a woman than a man!! So I find my fem self attractive ! Even though I'm not really passable it is a lot of fun!!
More attractive as a female than male is my perspective but wife says I’m more handsome as a male, than pretty as a GG. My shoulders are just too big.
Phili. I feel you have hit the nail on the head with a vengeance. Long may you live dress and prosper.
Julia
Looking at the pcs here I'd say I find the ones with you looking at me [as if- of course you are looking at the camera] the most attractive. But that reminds me there is another category of attractive- "fits beauty standards" promulgated by fashion magazines. Such a look is called attractive by definition, and we are trained to say and tell ourselves it is attractive. But when we feel 'attracted' to that, it is more like objectification- we want possession, not relationship.
And we also short circuit our ideas of attractive based on age - as in Laura saying she is old as if that is a problem for attraction.
Natalie's pic is drop dead gorgeous, and she could be on any magazine cover. Since she is looking away I cannot feel her personality, so although she is super attractive, as a model is attractive, I can't see her eyes, I can't warm to her as a person when I look at her pic.
In Laura's pic she is relaxed and looking right at me with kindness- I feel right at home. Of course, I am older too, which amazingly [joke] allows me to really see older people. When i was younger I didn't know how to interpret the faces of older people with feeling.
I do find her attractive but last week when trying on wigs I looked in the mirror and thought I had a strong resemblance to my daughter. It was really quite an aha moment.
Sometimes!
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No, Monika. Not sometimes with you. Always.
Yes I find myself attractive when en femme. I receive many compliments as a woman but never as a man.
While I don't find myself attractive in the classic sense, I love to dress and the way I feel dressed.
After looking at the "Boy mode Vs Girl mode" photos I think we all look much better as women
Yes, I definitely try to make Jamie as real as I can, and I love being my feminine self; not much effort required on that part...
Jamie
I find myself much more attractive as a woman than in male mode. Maybe that's because I'm attracted to women, who knows.
I definitely find my fem self attractive
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And so you should, Violet!
I love the way my body looks, especially if I'm wearing something like yoga pants because I got the butt for it! But when it gets from the neck up, not so much. I don't have a wig or makeup to help complete the appearance. Maybe with a little work I'll change my mind
I've never thought about seeing myself as attractive. I have experienced those moments when the makeup has been applied and the wig goes on, you look in the mirror and see that other person looking back at you and I've liked what I've seen.
Dresses, skirts and blouses all fit me as they should, in just the same way they'd fit a GG so I don't look like I've squeezed into them. Add heels and I think I can turn a shapely leg so when I look into a full length mirror I definitely like what I see. However that all said, I don't think the casual observer would class me as attractive compared to say a typical GG of my age. Someone did once while I was wearing a Vee necked black long sleeved tee and showing a convincing amount of cleavage, did describe me as "Looking Hot" so I'll certainly take that.
Whether I feel I'm attractive or not, depends on the day. Sometimes things don't work out like they should.
I am very attracted to images of myself in fem-mode or seeing myself in mirrors when dressed.
Actually,i do find my femme self attractive most times. Seems i look a younger woman than i am a man
I like my look from the neck down. I still have facial hair, so I don't do makeup.
Monique65 - agree - I love my look from the neck down, especially my legs in hosiery and heels. Never done makeup or wig or try to pass.
I think I look okay. Always some weird resemblance to a second cousin.
I actually have, and some women and men thought so too! And that helped alot!
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I whole heartedly agree, Violet, You are sexy to me!Quote:
Originally Posted by Violet Remplier
The first times I dress i did pictures of my body and I like it! I feel sexy, curvy and desired by men. But the first times I did pics of my face I saw a man dressed as a woman, so then I did make up, I didn't how to do it and I was really disappointing. I had to do pics with few light, kind of blur to see them as a woman. It's been a journey to be who I am today. I feel more confident and even my wife doesn't say it directly but the other day, for example, told me that I look exactly as my mom, and my mom was a pretty woman. Another time she told that my legs are like my mom too. Showing my pics to a male friend that is psychologist that has helped me a lot as a therapy, without he being a gender therapist, told me that I look very alike my sister.
May be you need to try different looks, try different make ups, wigs, dresses. My initial dressing was so provocative and sexual, that's normal with crossdressers in the closet because there is a huge desire to express feminity but after think more and try more, now i'm finding my way without leaving that sexiness proper of all women.
I love myself, may be that's called narcissism so what?
As a woman, I do receive quite many compliments, as a man I almost don't get any positive word about me.
I will go along with what my daughters say, that I am pretty when dressed. When me and wife walk down the street or in a store. We seem to have heads turn. and a couple wolf whistles. Maybe it is people looking an wondering what the heck is that. I do think I am attractive in both modes, feminine especially.
Kelsey
I think we all find our feminine selves attractive to a greater or lesser degree. If we didn't we probably would not dress up.
Given the huge response to this thread I think that shows we are all narcissistic.
I don't do fully en-femme, so i guess attractive is out of the question for me.
The best i can say is that i consider my "miad" look less unattractive than my male mode. :thinking: My legs and behind look nice in leggings or skinny jeans, but that's about it....
Interesting question. I wouldn’t say I FIND myself attractive, but I FEEL attractive. I guess it’s a subtle but important difference.
I feel really really so attractive that I would seduce myself...lol
They called gynephilia...be turned on by yourself in femme mode.
I think is like to watch yourself in a mirror, it doesn't matter male or femme mode if you do that like yourself there's something wrong with your selfestime.
I accept that may be you don't like how you look in femme because you haven't achieve yet a good level in your skills in make up, hair or taste to dress but is matter of time.
I'd said before here, that the first time I fully dress with make up and wig, I wasn't satisfied, more than that, I felt dissapoint, of course! I was a male in femenine so I start learning.
Now I love myself, I get turned on and I enjoy watching my pics, very few times I discard some just because I can see the man.. in them....
Very much so - the liking and the feeling both; just for a few minutes now and thenQuote:
Originally Posted by Vanessa Grandy
I recently had my first professional makeover and photo shoot. For a very average guy I must say I make a hot woman. My first thought was “I’d hit that!!”
Looking in the mirror, no. I just don't look feminine enough to feel that way when I see my reflection and/or picture. I would describe the feeling I get looking in the mirror as "satisfied, content, happy". Maybe someday I will get my look to a point where that will change, but not yet. Until then, I am happy with who I am, just not attracted to them.
Not even if I were blind.
I don’t think I could ever pass or maybe I don’t want to .......The look that’s in between is what I would like to achieve,that would be me. That’s the comfort place for me ,no need to be beautiful I’m to old for that. So in that regard I guess I would pass.
This explanation is perfect for me too. Growing up I didn't like well lit rooms with a mirror when dressing up, but I loved my reflection in a double pane window when it was dark out and a light on in the hallway so it was a dim reflection that was blurred by the double panes. I also love making a beautiful shadow or silhouette. Now I don't mind the mirror so much but still prefer a dimly lit room :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Micki_Finn