Mentally ill?? Run, don't walk, to your nearest "head shrinker" if you think crossdressing=mental illnessQuote:
Originally Posted by prettieboy
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Mentally ill?? Run, don't walk, to your nearest "head shrinker" if you think crossdressing=mental illnessQuote:
Originally Posted by prettieboy
Lately my wife has not only accepted it, she has been encouraging me in it and I can't tell you all how good it feels to finally have someone that I can talk to face to face about it!!
Quite supportive, as long as we're at home.....we do shop together.....tolerates a bit of makeup if we're out at night.....
My wife has known about Karen (although that name did not exist for me until years after our marriage) since we were dating way, way back in the 1960's. Over the years, however, she has grown to be completely non-supportive and becomes hostile whenever the subject of crossdressing comes up. I no longer initiate any discussion concerning it, preferring to avoid the inevitable confrontations, lingering bitterness, and verbal abuse that comes with it. Even if she sees something related to crossdressing on a television show, it reminds her of it and off she goes. Comments like "look at that pervert" or "why would any real man do that?" are common. I now just ignore her, saying that I really don't want to talk about it. Now that I have retired, I've lost nearly all opportunity to allow Karen out of her closet and I really, really miss it.
Sorry this comment got to be a bit longer than I intended...
my wife has known about dee for 30 years. she is very helpfull. We do everything together have for years. Now she has talked me into going out and doing things while dressed and we are having even more fun.
but I wouldn't want to jinx it! Having told my girlfriend a mere two weeks ago, I've been heartened by her response. After heart-to-heart talks and the usual questions, she has expressed a willingness to have me dress for her. As you can imagine, I'm quite enthusiastic! We've planned for my debut this weekend, and I'm so looking forward to it! Unless there's an unforeseen disquietude in her demeanor, I'm optimistic as to her reaction.
And I've told her I won't be offended if she laughs; as long as she doesn't cry I'll be happy!
Thanks for the poll, Tammi.
If it all works out, I'll be voting with the majority.:D
I envy those of you who have a wife who is accepting and dream of a wife who would be participatory and helpful. I was caught a few years ago in partial dress when my wife came home unexpectedly. I confessed and told her almost everything. It was a difficult time and almost caused our marriage to break up, more on my part than on hers. I made many excuses and ended up telling her that I didn't need to do this anymore and for a while it was true. Currently she thinks I no longer dress anymore and if she were to find out again I don't know nor want to know what would happen. I love her too much to take that risk but really would like to be in the place where the largest majority of those answering the poll seem to be.
Marissa
I am hoping for greater acceptance as time goes on, considering I recently told her after being married for 7 years. She is slowly bring it up in conversation, mentioning the word "crossdresser." I figure after a while the initial shock of being married to a CD will wear off, and she will become more accepting. At least that's what I hope!
After about 3 years of being married to my wife, I slowly brought it up.
Well now we are into the marrage 17 years and she likes me to dress up whenever I can. If the kids are at school, she's wanting me to invite "Susan" over. Since "Susan" is such a great girlfriend to her, she loves it!
Now my wife is intested in being the dominatrix and I am her slave but I have to dress how she wants to see me in for the day. I then enjoy doing some housework while she supervises.
Quite fun I say! Nothing like a nice frilly apron while doing the dishes
Well she tolerates, don't ask don't tell.
She is kind of a b**** about it sometimes. ehh about a lot of things...
As one of my cd'ing friends put it, "She's accepting but not enthusiastic".
Had a bump or two along the way but she is very accepting and supportive. More then I could have hoped for. I <3 her so.
It really depends on her mood.
There have been times that she acts completely against me dressing (panties are my thing, no desire to wear any other womens clothes) but on the other hand, she has bought me panties, suggested I wear them during the day. She has ever taken hers off and had me wear them during sex.
So all in all, I never can be too sure how she'll react.
Maybe she is interested in you dressing but she is a little too closed up. Many people think it is WRONG and it should not be done. If you are a man, dress like one. But with many women (including my wife), it took a few years for her to really understand that it is not bad, it doesn't hurt anyone, and that both parties can have fun with it. With my wife now being so supportive, she will instigate things quite a bit. Even this morning, I had an email from her (she loves to communicate with "Susan" this way) and she had invited her for a day of chores and fun.Quote:
Originally Posted by carsoncitypanties
Once your SO is accepting of your interests, slow and easy wins the race. She may slowly accept it and in time, enjoy it.
But we do not talk about it. I do not talk about my female feelings or desires it freaks her out!
I suspect she thinks that I might CD when she is not home and does not say anything. I do not CD, afraid of getting caught.
wishonastar,
Have you tried to ask her why it freaks her out so much?
I know I explained to my wife that it is not hurting anyone and she agreed.
Mental ill is reference to the Normal. If most people were CDing then it would not be mentally ill.Quote:
Originally Posted by goofus
If 50% of the worlds population were bisexual then it would be normal and not mentally ill as some feel.
Is it mentally ill to wake up at 5am drive to work for 1 1/2 hours in stress full traffic,get home at 7, spend maybe 1/2 with the family? I think so but it is normal so it is not considered a obsession or obsessive compulsive disorder or mentally ill.
Is gender confusion in all it's forms mentally ill. No it is just different. But to the rest of the world it is mentally ill.
It does not matter any more. She is in her own world and so am I. The only things that keep me home is my kids and house. What she thinks about me is no longer a concern.Quote:
Originally Posted by XdressingSlave
mine is a keeper....wouldn't trade her for all the tea in china...
i feel great to the amount of people who have very supportive So's. It makes me feel good that one day I'll be sleeping with a women while wearing panties XD
my wife dose not like that I dress but she dose bye my panties for me just none with lace on them
I told my angel before we moved in together. She laughed at first, and only nowand then just pokes fun at me occasionally when I'm dressed (which is pretty much all the time at home). But she does it in fun. Calls me her girly man:D
Unfortunately, my DW wants nothing to with my CDing. She wishes it would go away. Although, she has told me that as long as our kids don't see it, and as long as she doesn't know when/where I do it, she doesn't care.
Funny thing is for us/me, it was my wife who first brought the dressing up, beginning with lingerie, and now complete outfits. We are very much each others best freinds and share all allowable time together.
Very supportive :)
So long as she gets her husband when she needs him ;)
Life is Gooooooooooood!
[SIZE="3"]My wife and I share clothes and everything. There was a time that if an issue arose or an argument ,about anything ,when I was dressed, I would begin to get undressed. My wife said that that infuriates her! She told me that if we are arguing then Kelsy was going to just have to stick around and deal with it:eek:
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I just had a really interesting run in the other night, AND yeah SHE is accepting, but just kinda shy to it.. My wife told me, that "AS long as I am a GREAT husband and provider and give her lots of Love", Then she will accept me, "NO MATTER WHAT!!".. I am sad for the poor soles who do not have the same gift and go through the other realm.. My heart goes out to you all.. Just please read AND "PLEASE", Tell them early in the relationship!!!!!, As I did not. My best advise!!
I have a very supportive wife. I can see I'm not the only one. She shops for clothes and jewelry for me. I can't express how much I love her.
My wife knew I use to dress, but doesn't know I still do. But other than that she is totally againts me dressing. So I would have to say Unaccepting SO.
Tammi, this is a good poll. It is great to know our spouses our so OK with it all. Maybe there is hope that further acceptance within society is coming. At the workplace, etc.
Somehow I still think we are not getting all the replies from the negative side. The numbers just seem a little high on the accepting side when you peruse past threads on this subject. Maybe it is just harder for those in unaccepting relationships to vote here. Still, the poll has a lot of merit and it cannot be THAT much off.
Maybe it is the positive effect of this site. As more of us become members and our SO's see it is possible to marry CDs the numbers increase.
Maybe we need to start a secondary poll where we can determine how this site has influenced members and spouses by encouraging CDs to come out and spouses to work through the issues!
I have a wonderful SO that is so accepting and loving of my cding that I really do not always deserve her. She wants to take Michelia out shopping and dancing and drinking and out with the family on little outings. Her 10 year old and my 7 year old want to do this too. They are also very accepting and encouraging. But daddy is a wuss and keeps all the fun at home!
Michelia
I voted "accepting and supportive", although it's very early days. I told my wife a couple of weeks ago. We had a chat for an hour or so. She said she was glad I had told her because "it is part of who you are" and then she:
-- gave me a selection of make-up products (and a drawer to keep them in)
-- gave me a make-up lesson
-- let me rummage through a selection of old clothes she was about to give away, and keep anything I wanted. She gave me some wardrobe space, and the next day she went out and bought me a bra as a surprise.
I'm realistic enough to know that there might still be a problem or two along the way, but for her initial reaction alone, she gets the top vote. An amazing woman.
It may not be as bad for those of you in serious relationships as it may seem at first glance. My wife had dropped hints while watching movies, etc, that she had no tolerance for CD. I took an enormous gamble, when I could no longer stand the repression, and IT BLOODY WELL WORKED! She told me tonight that she finds panties in the sack a turn on, and is a little disappointed with the limited capabilities of my current stash.
Of course, who can say how your situation will play out when you come out, but it has been extraordinarily surprising & positive for me.
Keep the faith, Ladies.....