Inqiring minds want to know - Week 2

4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

I do my best. Perhaps the best person to ask would be my wife.

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

I have no problems with that.

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

Hard to answer. I love everything about woman and I support them when I can. They are an ammazing creature. They have the power and ability to bring out the best in us and make us do crazy things just to be around them.
Life would be boring without them.

4. Yes, I listen very closely to my SO. It didn't come naturally, but missing some important messages over the years have trained me to pay attention...if she has an issue it is important.

5. I think I'm sensitive in male mode but I'd have to mark myself as "needs improvement". I say that because one of my adult daughters commented that I don't say "I love you" enough to them. Its a work in progress.

6. Speaking from long experience, my sexual preferences and cross dressing are unrelated to each other. You either like women or men or both, but cross dressing has nothing to do with it.

4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

Yes. Absolutly.

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

Tried that, got beat up. This was way back in my school days. Learned NOT to express anything soft or "feminine" in male mode, and it's a darn hard habit to break!

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

I assume so. That being said, I find a well dressed woman much more attractive and sexually appealing than a naked woman. Never been into porn like some people I know. NOT physically/sexually attracted to men, naked or other wise.
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4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

Of course, but we talk and thats about it because I am not going to change for someone else, I am only going to change myself for myself.

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

A male who shows those emotions is usually rediculed and called gay, but as Kara I tend to feel like there is a shield around me. It's kind of hard to explain.

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

Yes, infact even more. But I do want to say (Because this is the first question everyone asks me): I am not gay. Just the simple act of thinking of being with another man makes me want to throw up.

Lots of Love,
Miss Kara

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4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

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4. Well, if she provides me the same courtesy.

5. I can, I just do it better in a dress and heels:battingeyelashes::battingeyelashes:

6. Appearance wise, sure. But to really get me revved up said woman better be able to speak about more than just fashion,reality TV:Angry3:, or anything else that is just noise. So, I guess what I am saying is that looks count, but brains are where its at, for me at least!

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4) If she raises her hand and waits for me to call on her before talking, then yes. :heehee: I am divorced now, but when married, I tried endlessly to communicate, but she never shared anything with me or anyone else. I was married two years before I knew what her favorite color was

5) I have always been told that I am one of the only males "they ever met" that did exactly that.

6) If you are referring to "physical aspects only", as in the typical "if you have the time, I have the beer", meaning anything that is available, no. I have been with probably way too many women in my life, lol...but I was never just into the physical only, without losing interest quickly. I always required a cognitive connection for real interest. Same is true today. So, not sure where you file that one.

4) Yes, if they tell me. Communication is important in any relationship. When there is a breakdown in communication, then there's a huge problem.

5) I think for most people it's the fact that society does not allow for this. For me, I have no problems expressing this with a SO.

6) Most certainly yes!

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4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?[/Quote}
Yes. And, she listens to mine. Maybe it's why we get along so well.

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5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

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I can express it and do.

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6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

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Maybe. I love women for who they are. Do non-CD males feel the same way?

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4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

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Oh yeah. They are very important to me. But then they always have been.

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5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

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I can say that when I was in hiding I didn't want to give any kind of outward sign of femininity. But I think now that I am out there, or as out there as I'm going to be, I am more empathetic and sensitive all the time.

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6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

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Yes. Well, I can't speak for non-CD men, but I think I love women more than they do.

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4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

Yes, I really do listen, She may not think so, But I do listen. I always do my best to solve any issues that she may be concerned or worried about. Not always to her total satisfaction, But I do my best.

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

I don't think that I am any differant person, no matter how I am dressed. Softer feeling aren't really changed that I know of.

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

OH YEA

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4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

Yes, always.

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

It seems like the male inside is at polar opposites to the female inside. Getting these feelings out "all the time" when in male mode is a chore. I would say I'm more of these things in male mode than other guys though.

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

When I see a hot girl, my first thought is sexual, then the secondary thought of wanting to be her comes up. My desire is usually to be the submissive one to her, not just take her like men do, though if that's the only way, I'm game.

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4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

Yes, I try to.

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

I like to think that I'm pretty consistent regardless of how I am dressed.

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

Yes, I think so.

4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

Absolutely! The hard part is getting her to talk, rather than saying everything is fine.

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

Not applicable in my case. I've always been a sensitive 70's kind of man. I cry at movies and don't have a problem with sharing my feelings. I'm a hugger and find many men of my generation are the same.

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

Hard to say since I don't live in their skin. I think I appreciate, and observe the finer touches of femininity much more than your average male. I've never thought naked pictures were all that attractive. I much prefer pictures of women with clothing and accessories that bolster and compliment their beauty. I think we TG are probably all about the details whereas your average guy may be more into the broad picture. And of course there is the whole envy thing working within us.

4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
Yes! The problem was the other side of that road. I never got the concern and the ear when I needed it. Perhaps it was the fear of the CDing being brought up.

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
Not really sure but I think it's because as a male we need to be strong and expressing those feelings is not what society has envisioned for us.

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?I can only speak for myself as a CDing male. I am turned on by women but idk if it's the same way a non CDing male is.

4. Well, I am currently single now, but when I was with a SO yes I feel that I did my very best to listen and understand.

5. Part of it is trying to hide Makaila from the rest of the world. As I have gotten older and cared less about what other people think about me I have expressed those feelings more often in male mode.

6. That is a joke right? Sure, I can admit when a guy is good looking but sexually they do nothing for me. Now an attractive woman who is intelligent and independent . . . I am just your typical male in those situations :devil:

4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

I currently do not have a SO, but I feel it is very important to carefully listen to any worries or concerns that the people you care about have. It is vital to understanding the person's feelings on whatever the subject may be, and to be in the position where you can attempt to help them by either by explaining to them why you think their worries and concerns are unjustified, or by realizing that they are justified and attempting to change the aspects of you which cause them. Although, I have come across women who believed they were not being listened to because my opinion did not change after they had explained how they felt, and that's just ridiculous logic which I believe probably comes from them being so convinced that their opinion is the right one, that they are completely ignorant to someone else possibly being able to have a different opinion on the matter.

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

I can, it's that the person asking this question, as well as being incredibility sexist in thinking all men are the same, is ignorant to the many different reasons that make men enjoy cross dressing.

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

Yes, I am attracted to women in the same was as any other heterosexual male.

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Thank you to all that gave their time and help with our first set of questions.:love:


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4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

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Don't have an SO.

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5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

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I've had a lot of problems with disrespectful responses when I try. This isn't confined to expressing feelings. :sad:

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6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

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For a long time I have been closed to the idea of a relationship with anyone and have had this part of me turned off, but yes, I am attracted to genetic ladies.

4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?

Of course! :)

5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?

I can and do express them.

6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?

Not being a non-CD male, I can't honestly answer that. Hard to say definitively without the experience of not desiring to Cross-dress. I think its the same, but that's sort of akin to saying I think I can imagine the pain of child-birth, I'll never experience it, and thus, really can't relate at all.