I told my date last nite. And, she kept saying--------------------------

I have some of the same questions as ReineD does. I also like what Presh said. If feelings grow and the chemistry, trust and appreciation for you is there, she may end up accepting you for you...all of you. Funny how love can do that for us.

Ok, time to give all of u some more info to think about!

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Originally Posted by BRANDYJ

With the limpted information Doc is giving us, it's hard to say what this woman is thinking. But here's another thought based on the fact she at least confirmed she wants to keep seeing Doc. it's possible she is doing her own on-line education about crossdressing and other gender related topics. Right now she does not want to talk about it. Perhaps because she is uncomfortable and would rather not discuss the crossdressing since she is not knowledgable uncomfortable with, for lack of education on the topic. Of course she's not very interested in it. Very few women are. It's the man she might be interested in! Interested enough to want to still see each other and maybe...just maybe do her own research on the topic before she wants to talk about it. That is IF she is interested enough to want more then a casual dating type of relationship. If the chemistry is right with both parties, she may come around. So if Doc has long term romantic hopes for this to work out, He needs to just let her lead when it comes to any conversations about crossdressing. So if I was in this situation, I'd have to weigh just how strong my desire for this woman is and continue to see her but perhaps prepare myself for the worst if she does not grow stronger feelings toward me and I see it going no where. But I think it's to early to tell. But again, we don't know how serious Doc wants this to go. Nor do we know if this woman is wanting a serious relationship. But so long as each enjoy each other, I say continue to see each other and see where it goes.

Very incisive post, Brandy! I purposely haven't posted much info, because I didn't want to inject MY opinions of what she's thinking in here YET! Or my thots/feelings, for that matter. Also, I wasn't sure WHERE this thread would go. Or, even where I wanted it to go! Here's what else she said in our last discussion:
"I thot about researching about CDs on line. But then, I'm not really that interested in knowing more about them/it. Everyone our age has their issues, I guess that's just one of yours!"

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Originally Posted by ReineD

Hmm. Sounds as if she thinks this is a hobby that you can choose to not engage in. She probably has no idea what's involved with the CDing. But, she did call you, so that's a good sign! :)

Are you attracted to her? Putting the CDing aside for a moment, is she someone that you enjoy spending time with? If so, how do you see your relationship growing?

And my last question, or rather comment is not promising. Let's just say that things do develop between the two of you, and through some leap of faith she eventually realizes that CDing is more than a hobby, and she further comes to acknowledge that you need to express yourself. Would you like to eventually involve her (or any other potential gf) with Sherry, meaning would you like to dress in front of a girlfriend if she was accepting? And if so, I hate to bring this up but you yourself said that even many people in the CDing community have a hard time with femme skins. Does this woman know that you wear one, or was your discussion about the CDing more general?

Ok, u r really pinning me down here, Reine! Finally ASKING me what I think, rather than speculating on what me and my GG friend think!
Yes, I'm attracted to her. But, on my scale of 1 to 10, I'd say about a 5. We've fooled around enuff for me to think that neither of us will see stars and rainbows if we sleep together. I don't see her as a long term GF. However, I've been WRONG about such things before! In BOTH directions, way better and way worse.

And, your LAST point is my worst CD nitemare! A date asking what I get out of dressing and/or wanting to see pics of Sherry! I imagine that would be the kiss of death, after seeing the response of my old college girlfriend who's carried a candle for me ever since then. She finally blew me off after seeing pics of Sherry!

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Originally Posted by Presh GG

Sherry,

You made this lady wait 10 days without calling her, till she had to call you ?

I'd say she's interested and probably sat by the phone hopeing you would call her !

And lastly she is right , You are a nice person... what in the world is wrong with that ?!

Presh GG

U may be rite, Presh! I think she would have liked to see me last weekend. But, I was working and dressing. And, I told her so.
Here's something she's said a number of times: "I could tell u weren't emotionally available rite away." She said that for the first time rite after I told her about my dressing and she repeated it on the phone recently. She added, "Because you're still dealing with your ex and your daughter". And, now she knows I also have a secret life! I don't know if she's rite or wrong. Maybe rite as for my feelings for her? But, what did she mean by that?

She mite mean many things by that remark. I haven't asked her why she thinks/says that because I guess I'm not ready to find out where she stands if I WERE "available"!

I enjoy her company. But, she's a woman of few words. Not a great conversationalist. That's not so good when I'm not sure what she means. And, she tends to repeat things over and over!
I guess I'll keep seeing her unless I find someone whose company I like better. Hey! I never said I was a, "Nice guy". She's the one that keeps saying that. I've warned her that maybe I'm NOT! I try to be as honest as possible with dates. And, I am with her. If I start seriously dating someone else, I'll tell her. However unlikely that scenario is!

Yea, move her into the <maybe pile. She sounds like she thinks your CD stuff might interfere with her boring droning. If you do decide to stop dressing, wait till after post 8000.

So, how'd you meet her, Doc?

Sherry
Why don't you ask her " what do you mean ? "
when she says something that could be taken more ways than one ?

And like Reine I want to know too,How did you meet her ?

Presh

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Originally Posted by Presh GG

Sherry
Why don't you ask her " what do you mean ? "
when she says something that could be taken more ways than one ?

And like Reine I want to know too,How did you meet her ?

Presh

I think I answered your question as well as I can already, Presh. Maybe I thot we were falling into a "friends" relationship. I've NEVER had a meaningful "friends" relationship with a GG unless it was also physical in some way. I thot maybe telling her about my dressing mite stir the pot for both of us! Or, maybe it would not. "Not" meaning in MY experience, we'll probably drift apart. Because I don't think we have enuff interests in common, or care enuff for each other to become "habit forming"!
But, at this point, I really don't know.

I don't meet many new people thru my work. I don't hang out in bars or coffee stores. Don't drink much of either. So, WHERE am I going to meet women? Online, of course!