Outed to the whole neighborhood, catchy response suggestions please

Please forgive nikkilovesdresses. Obviously that person can't read my original post where I describe how important my SO is to me. I guess it is necessary to put every detail about everything in so someone does not make a statement unrelated to the thread question. OF COURSE I talked to my SO about this. Perhaps I should have also listed my tire rotation schedule?

Also please forgive that person because she is saying that there is no purpose for this forum. Because that person feels we should not be asking the strangers on this forum these questions. Because the people on this forum may or likely have had more experience with this situation than my SO or I.

I sometimes wonder why people do not stick to the concept of the original thread. Introducing the periphery of thought not part of the original question and making statements about someone means that every thread needs to include a person's complete life story or someone may criticize their plastic bottle recycling efforts.

Posts like that person put on here is why I get tired of the replies that add NOTHING. But serve only as a public way for someone who has nothing to add, to take any ambiguity, and produce a useless post.

But thank you to the people who understand that this forum is to be HELPFUL to each other and not just unkind.

More reason why I have dramatically curbed my posts and all but eliminated my threads. I am restricting them to what panties I am wearing, clear nail polish, and underdressing. Plus a rare thread that absolutely must be posted.

And I refuse to post anything that is not positive, helpful, and considerate.

"They are not 'women's' clothing, they are my clothing!" The objective is to get others to see you as a person without stereotyping you.

Minerva.

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"So you're a cross dresser, eh?"

"Yup."

Kinda ends it all right there.

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That and look them straight in their eyes.

"They aren't women's clothes, they are MY clothes. *I* bought them!"

- Eddie Izzard

Sorry for your social disruption honey. Be YOU. You don't have to apologize for that, you don't have to make excuses for that.

For those who give you grief, do you *need* their approval, or do you *want* their approval?

If you don't *need* it, move on. (Talk to the hand)

Really, who you are is FAR more important than who 'they' expect you to be.

<3

- MM

Some really good advice. But that is what a Forum is for, isn't it?

Thanks ladies!

Love the "trans-sister" comment!

Some good and some great comments.
Something I should worry about too.
I have no idea what I would do or say. At over six and a half feet, I would be embarrassed and go hide in shame.
In my mind I have many wise a$$ comments, but am too reserved to say them.
Take care of your S.O. first, last and always.
Jo

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- " Yep - it was either that or run for local council, but I think being a politician is more stigmatised and less good for the community, don't you...? "

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Winner!!!!!

I was busted by a neighbor coming home late from a party. I asked, "Well - how do I look?" She laughed, said "Not bad!" and that was the end of it.

Those neighbors sound really creepy, though!

"Yeah, I know, women's clothing... weird right? If you think that's strange, wait until you see my Observation Room!"

Hi Billie,

This past summer I was asked to get some stuff from my wife's car. it happened to be that I was in a maxi skirt, cami and bangles. My (young, like 20's) upstairs neighbor was out back sipping beer with his friends.

I walked out to the car, opened the trunk, and grabbed the items.

As I walked out I got a 'What the hell?' from the husband. Since then he has treated me like sh!t. We have gotten into a couple of verbal arguments (with him saying stuff like "Why don't you go and put on your wife's clothes?).

I outweigh him by like 100 pounds. I have 10+ years of training in Kung Fu. I *so* wanted to slam him on the ground in front of his friends... in a dress.

But my better angels guided me differently.

You/we can't expand small minds. We just have to be us. Sometimes that is really hard.

<3

- MM

I did not scroll through all of the comments to your thread. This may have happened to me. The house next to mine is a rental. The occupants were three women: grandmother, mother, adult daughter, and, an adult son. As I was passing by the side of my house my hearing heard a discussion of not understanding why "he" would dress in women's clothing. In order to see me someone would have made an effort to violate my privacy. I suspect that's what happened to you. My neighbors would line up at the side of their house on the patio and wait to see if I would appear en femme in my back yard. Of course, I decided to limit my dressing to inside. I'm quite sure they told of their discovery to other neighbors who have been there since before I moved into our house in 1978. It seems nobody cared. Nobody changed their attitudes. Nobody made an comment. Since I did not have positive knowledge they actually passed on their discovery, I did not tell my wife. The nosy neighbors have long since moved..actually evicted for not paying the rent.

Since, the "cat is out of the bag" I would discuss this breech of privacy with your wife. She should be prepared so she is not blindsided by anyone or starts to received the cold shoulder. I would not give anyone any smart ass comments. I thought about how I would confront my neighbors. I had planned to just say it is something that I do because it relaxes me. And, I could honestly tell them I do not know why I do it, but, it is a part of me. I intended to leave it at that.

I would make a comment that you found it unsettling that Mr. XXXX thought nothing of violating a families privacy by peering with binoculars.