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I don't understand what you mean? That more people would know or be judgmental? I mostly worry about how it might impact my career if someone who was close-minded found out. The bigger the company the more people like to gossip.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sarah-RT
If I were 20 again and fully passable, I would certainly start the process towards transition....all the way except the genitals. In the late 70s / early 80s, I had nobody to talk to regarding how I felt. There was no internet to learn more, I had never heard of a sexual therapist. I did not know if I was "nornmal". I wish I had the tools younger people have today to learn more and make clear decisions. I would have loved to be a woman...
I am now 34 and pretty sure I could pass full time if I really wanted to. If I had the money and didn't have to work for a while, I would possibly still consider moving to a different state and living as a female full time till I was fully comfortable with the new me. Then I would find a new job and experience life from a woman's point of view.
I have already thought about the outfits I would wear and the type of home I would live in, the furniture and garden etc.
I have never had any attraction to a man so I can't see that ever changing, although I would on occasions allow one to take me out to dinner and pay for everything just to see what it was like but I would be very very fussy about who I went out with.
I may be persuaded to go out with a fellow CD who also passed 100% so we could be the hottest looking lesbian couple around and watch all the men falling all over themselves trying to take us both home
I can't say whether anything would or wouldn't happen between us as I have never been in that situation but I you never can tell if we both felt strongly enough about each other. After all, they do say "Love knows no bounds"
I probably would have transitioned and life would have been so different and a lot of unanswered questions would have been answered and a lot more would have been created. Instead I ran away to the Navy, got married and have two great kids and a loving wife of 30+ years now. Alas I'll never get those questions answered, but the most important thing, we have a great life together. We are who we are what ever we look like.
I feel this way too.... We have the BEST (and of course, the worst) of both worlds.Quote:
Originally Posted by Isabella Ross
If I was twenty right now and know what I do, my future would look nothing like my past.
I definitely would transition, wait for the right man to come along and experience life together.
When I was younger passing was not an issue. I was twenty in 1970. It was not a TG friendly world then.
Happiness does not always come by being dealt a winning hand but playing the hand you're dealt to win.
Jeri
I actually turn 20 this year. Given the choice and (lack of) constraints I would certainly wish to present en femme as much as possible, but I'd be sure to tell upfront if and only if asked. It's all too easy to dismiss others' reactions but then we all as people have our boundaries. Hurr.
As a student, maybe I'd consider being much more open about this part of me / habit / 'other side', but then again I'd have a million other things on my mind besides being a dude trying to look like a lady. If I do at all, mostly makeup at best. After all, while I was at pre-university, cross-dressing was very heavily frowned upon by the discipline committee. I was one of their first targets of the year I enrolled - my entire orientation group wanted to wear the uniform of the opposite sex.