What's your favourite theory on why you crossdress?

My family, school and everyone else in society made me cross dress. I'm actually a woman, and always have been. I just didn't look like one. So they made me wear this stuff and act certain ways. Once I transitioned, I was able to finally stop crossdressing and pretending to be a man, and wear clothing that makes a lot more sense to me - generally a dress and flats, and just be myself.

As to WHY that all happened? I think I'm intersexed - my brain is largely female, at least the bits of it that differ between genders, but the rest of me, as far as anyone has tested, was male.

I have said elsewhere my mum was sure I was going to be a girl, so I think the wires got crossed at birth.

Hazelxxx

Just feels free and fun and natural and pretty and sensual, expresses the girl in my soul :) Not a theory, more a fact x

I've had many theories over the years but I finally come to the conclusion that somethings just "are". It's just in me and I am what I am.

I am what I am. Some girls like pretty things, some do not. Some boys like pretty things too.

I figure I was a woman in a prior life, it just feels too good to be wearing a dress and heels sometimes :p

As others have said I'm much more comfortable in enfemme. I am happier, content, virtually impossible to anger, do not engage in conflict, loving, communicative, etc. I have always wanted to be female, had milk from breasts ages 7 to 10, was supposed to have been a girl, dressed in anything I could as far back as memory. I am beyond cd and would like to trans but cannot. There are thousands of reasons we do it as you can see above... it answers the need.

born complete accident, way late in parents life, historically from family trees all ancestors had boy/girl children close together in age. I was born out of my scheduled time in the world (no complaints) so nothing bad ever happens to me. All my closest friends are my siblings age (way older than me). I really believe i would have been born a girl had it happened at the normal time for my parents.

I am a do it yourselfer. I work on my house, work on my car. Build and fix my own computers. Cook and decorate. I have a sense of style and aesthetics. I am curious and voyeuristic. I notice I tend to dress like women I am attracted to. (Kinda sounds like a creepy horror movie when it's put that way)

so I guess it's part do it yourself woman, part fashionista and part emulation. Probably more do it yourself

In my case, the reason is psychological. I was rejected by my father and was expected to be a man as soon as I could dress myself. While my father never showed me any love or tenderness, he showered my mother and my sisters with gentleness and affection. When I am in male attire, I have no fantasies about being with a man. When in-fem, I find myself fantasizing about the man who will love me. As I grow older, my need to express my feminine needs has dwindled, but it still comes to fore three or four times a year. Then I dress in heels, hose, garter belt, bra, slip, dress. and wig and let my imagination go where it will. With my build, I always look just like a man in a dress, so I have seldom ventured into public as my feminine self. For a few years when I lived in Houston I was able to dress and go out because of the largely LGBT section there and acceptance was easy to find, but I still never found the man to fulfill my fantasies.

Just lucky I guess

Cos' it makes you feel so good

As a young boy, I was a scrawny little guy and my sister was my best friend as a youngster. We often played together with her friends,all girls, and that became the norm for me. We would play dress up together as both parents worked until mom came home. Then, my mother opened a ladies clothing store in a new shopping center and I helped her at the store after school. I couldn't wait to go to the store and help unpack new dresses and other ladies merchandise. I would hang the dresses, skirts, blouses and then run the steamer over them to remove the wrinkles....I was in grade school and then in Jr. High school at the time.....I was doomed to be a girly boy crossdresser which I still embrace to this day. I'm so lucky!

To be honest, I have thought about the "Why" for far too long, I never found a theory that supported the question so I gave up on it a while ago. It is what it is at this point and that will have to be good enough.

For me it may be that as a young child I never got to finish my exploration of dressing up in girls clothing, as my grandfather got mad at me when my grandmother let me play with her curlers and some clothes one day. My grandfather ridiculed me, exchanged some words with my grandmother, and stormed out of the room. I believe this may be root cause of my desire to crossdress even as if today. The years of suppression only seems to have fanned the flames. Today, I just love to crossdress when I can. It's a wonderful feeling to be dressed. This feeling, however is something I cannot explain. It just is, what it is, and I don't want to let it go.
Di

I feel it's genetic.
I've always felt this way and can't remember a time when I didn't. It started long before puberty and had absolutely nothing to do with sex and having no siblings to "borrow" from my curiosity turned to mom's stuff but not because of any influence by her or anyone else.

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Originally Posted by carhill2mn

The theory that I think is the best is: all fetuses start out as female and over time changes occur to those with XY chromosomes, sometimes these changes to the brain do not
happen in ways that are most common to a male fetus. Thus, the brain is a little different than the majority of males and responds differently to certain stimuli such as wearing women's clothes and other things usually more common to females.

In other words "I was born this way"!

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Not to be overly technical, but that's a hypothesis, and it's the only one that begins to explain how powerful our differences can be as well as the diversity of variations on "normal" gender identity and sexuality. The brain is incredibly complex, and it's logical to believe that regions within it that determine such things as gender identity and sexuality can be "mis-wired" in a variety of ways that produce instincts and behaviors that fall outside the feminine-female and masculine-male models. Basically, that differentiation (or non-differentiation for genetic females) depends on properly timed and dosed infusions of hormones from the mother, and the hypothesis is that infusions that are too early, too late, too little, or too much can cause anomalous development of some of the millions of neural connections in the brain.

We crossdress despite the overwhelming messages of disapproval and contempt from many of our fellow humans. Why? It's tempting to imagine that we all start out pretty much the same and that some childhood event imprints this differentness on our developing sense of self. In come cases the individual (or the parents or siblings) may remember such an event, and it's entirely possible that it did have an impact. But the prevalence of this behavior among a single-digit percentage of genetic males suggests a more-or-less predictable anomaly rate that defies culture or family background as causation.

Why so many variations? Lots of different ways to be mis-wired.

In other words, we were indeed likely born this way...

for me, i truly think a percentage of me is female. Sexually i feel like a female, more submissive and also there are certain things I like that k=most men don't. I tried to hide it for years, but as you get older you become comfortable and so...today these are the things I want and like. It is still a sexual thing for me...

Child of the universe, living in a Hyper-masculine collective/society/organism/network, Balance needs to happen so certain souls get deputized to fill that masculine/feminine energy imbalance in the collective. Just a thought/theory

Theory on why I cross dress? I wish I knew. I can't attribute it to anything. I just did it from an early age.

Cuz I look so damn sexy in my panties and lingerie

Although I did not start dressing until I was about 15, there was an experience when I was 8 that may have subconsciously affected my later life. When I was travelling to Singapore on a ship (my dad was in the forces) they had a kids fancy dress party. I went as a clown, complete with face paint. I cannot recall the experience much, but it may have aroused my curiosity.

I think that when we are born, some of us get an 'extra helping' of stuff in our brains that leans towards femininity. I have noticed things in my life that I gravitate towards, such as women's fashions, my admiration for women as a whole, being fascinated with makeup, and other things. I think I get along so well with my daughter because our brains are similarly wired. She and I talk about a lot of things that really only women enjoy, in general. Another example is my admiration for strong women in real life. And I enjoy movies that have women that are in strong female roles. I found I enjoyed clothing shopping with my daughter, when she would shop for dresses etc. Most men can't be bothered with that, but I love women's clothing stores (even although I would never buy anything if it was just me going there) I am 100% heterosexual, but I love feminine things.

I think that if reincarnation exists, I'd love to come back as a woman. But I'd likely be a lesbian. :heehee:

Why do I crossdress? I like to look like a woman, to wear heels, and the way my 'boobs' bounce when I walk.

I keep thinking about this. I have been attracted to female attire ever since I can remember. However, it's not just a strong attraction to the beauty and comfort of female clothing or the calmness and peace of mind I get from wearing this, but also to my huge aversion to male attire which I have detested also ever since I can remember. I'll be posting a thread on this soon, as especially due to this thread I've been giving this topic a lot of thought.