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I dont know how it works my curent GF knew abought my crossdressing before we got togeather.She was a friend of my ex wife or at least an aquaintance and my ex outed me to everyone.I told my ex before we got married and she was very suportive for the first few years of our marriage but as time went on she decided she could not deal with the fem me.My curent GF knows but does not want to see me dressed she likes the hard biker guy that i am.Could go on and on but WHY!
Thankfully mine is supportive , but I think she,s a little wary , as she saw an adult movie of mine ( t- girls ) left in the dvd player by accident .
I am blessed with a patient and loving wife. My only wish is that I,d come out to her sooner......
LOL DarcyAnne, she has 2 of them...but I wouldn't wish them on the devil himself! :heehee: I picked the cream of the crop. :hugs:Quote:
Originally Posted by DarcyAnne
My girlfriend Nikki is 100% accepting and supportive.My girlfriend likes my femme side,she feels my femme side is very caring,soft and feminine,She love shopping with me and I am one of best friends in her life.She always tells me that I am beautiful and calls me Gretchen when I am dressed as my femme side.
last night she says I bought this makeup and don't like it you try it and see if you do. About fainted but got over it quickly (wanted to grab it out of her hands) but gave her a kiss and told her how great she is. I'ts a little light but I will cherish it just because she thought of me, Major hurdle I think
Darla
My wife is accepting and supportive. I shared the big "SECRET" with her before we became seriously involved. It's who I am. Neither of us understand the reason for Crossdressing. I have my own theorys. She knew this part of me was permanent and came with the package. I may sound insensitive when I say that if someone doesn't accept a person for who they are, well prehaps it is not a good matchup. I have wasted to many years worrying about other folks opinions. L
Unaccepting wife/SO
Thanks, Tammy, for starting this poll. The results are so amazingly positive that they confirm my feeling that the risk and damage of hiding is greater than the danger of sharing.
My wife is very supportive and in fact has told me she likes Valerie more than my macho person, who tends to be assertive, arrogant and much too sharp, while Valerie, I think, is loving, sentimental and defers to her. What fun it has been to shop together and how much I like when she consults with me about an outfit! Not that the many earlier decades have not been good, but I suspect they would have been better had I had the courage to accept and affirm what I liked to be and do. Well, better late than never!
Valerie:GE:
I'm quite encouraged - moved up the scale from unaccepting to tolerant!
nitch
HI all,
I voted "haven't come out, but hope to". It would be unfair to charactorize my wife as "unaccepting". She knows and accepts that I wear womens panties, nearly daily. She doesn't like lace. For nearly a year, she has know that I occasionally wear pantyhose, but she has asked that I not do it in front of her, although, I think she may be coming around. I have not attempted her acceptance on my more extensive CDing, but I have hope.
I am envious, and made hopeful, by the multitude of respondents, that indicated varying levels of acceptance by their so's.
Jaydee
My lady is pretty cool about it. I would imagine she would have preferred for me to be a regular 'Husband', but she knows 'Sarah' is as much as part of my persona, as my male side.
Sarah R. :bunny:
VERY Supportive!!!
Rach
I am surprised by the results of the poll. About 62% fairly or quiet supportive. Hmmm. Its seems a little high from what I expected. Such might not be true in a completely random poll. Maybe a greater proportion of unsupportives in this sample are out of those relationships... I marked Don't Ask Don't Tell...but like others described, there are occasional points of light. I wonder how the results would look if the SO responded. Joni
:hugs:When I told my wife she did a lot of reading. We have talked for hours. We still have our days but for the most part everything is going good. Last weekend she ask if I wanted to go looking for a new wigand make up. I think she has been great and I could not get by with out her.
Rhonda
The poll indicates that most of our partners are at leaste aware of our crossdressing. So far, only about 30% of the members have SOs that do not know.
I think it is wonderful that most of our partners know.
They can't change their perception of crossdressing if they do not know we:love: crossdress.
Very supportive, She shops with me, and for me. Always remembers Tina for Christmas and Birthdays. If I have not dressed in a while and seem tense, she is the one that will tell me to go put on a dress.
The day I came out to her, I was scared of how she would take it, but to my surprize she got up and took me shopping. We bought dresses, under things, and shoes. All new (I had been a thrift store shopper up until then) it has been that way every since, for Thirty years. She used to be my wardrobe conultant, now I'm hers!
I feel very lucky to have found someone so understanding, I know it is not what she bargined for, but she took it with grace and compasion. I am one lucky gurl!
Tina B.
My partner tolerates me dressing up, when i first told her she was shocked and didn't want to even discuss it. Over time i dressed in front of her and she realises my femme-side is part of who i am, i am glad i told her, as there is no secrets between us, and i know she loves me for who i am. She has even used my make up, so it benefits her having a Cd for a partner.
I'm lovin the energizer bunniness of this thread.. it just keeps going and going!
I very much enjoy reading your responses and, like others, am quite pleasantly surprised at the numbers. While I do feel for our sisters who haven't been as fortunate in coming out, I feel this thread should be a source of hope to many others who are considerring it. The chances of having the dressing at least tolerated (my initial goal/hope, which has been exceeded btw) are quite good according to this poll @ 6.5 to 1 ! :)
As noted by Joni, this is obviously not very scientific poll, but given a) the abiltity of respondents to just vote in the poll anonymously, without posting, and b) the invitation to participate given to those who are or were in a relationship, I wouldn't expect the "real" numbers to be that terribly far off. Now I'm not a statistician, but I wouldn't mind pretending to be one... a cute one, with a rather short skirt, cute top and to-die-for heels...
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She was very supportive and we were best GF's and she knew throughout our 30 year marriage we wore matching nighties on our wedding night.
Unfortunatly She Passed away about 3 years and 4 months ago and ai mostly live and work as Annette now
Great poll
:hugs: Annette
My wife:hugs:has been the best!! After the inital 20 questions, it just keeps getting better. We shop with/for each other, she helps with make up tips--She's the best in the world!! I still know where the boundaries are and observe them to keep the balance.
To say Mrs.M is accepting and supportive is actually an understatement . I told Mrs.M just prior to our first date , that was 11 years ago . Mrs.M helps me in evry way she can and does buy for me and make suggestions and goes out with me , she has even given her approval for me to leagally change my name next year and said she would marry Viccy. I am sooooooooo lucky to have found such an incredable woman , a truely amazing soul mate. I love you Mrs.M :love:
She is accepting as long as we maintain our boundaries. I came out to her about ten years ago. At the time our marriage was having trouble, I was depressed and on Prozac. I decided that a little honesty wouldn't hurt. I was tired of suppressing my life long need to dress fem. In the beginning she wasn't happy but as time went on she noticed I was less depressed and no longer needed the drugs.
Last week she told me that my crossdressing cured my depression. (She is right.)
i'm not buying it, there;s not that many accepting ggs. if so where are they. an accepting gg is almost as mentally ill as us cds. truth hurts .
This is a very encouraging poll. You have to believe that the responders represent a wide crosssection of the CD community, and about 80% of our SOs are at least tolerant. If I had known this when I was younger, I might have come out to my own SO a whole lot sooner.
My wife is in the tolerates category. However, she is a very accepting, tolerate person in everything else. If any of her friends told her that their husband was a crossdresser she would be very supportive. Just not her husband.
Mercedes