Why is it so hard to find cd friends who aren’t looking for sex?

my view of dressing is for my entertainment and pleasure only. I love talking to the lovely ladies on this site. I do not aspire to be a REAL woman as far as being with a man or changing myself surgically into a woman. I love the thought of wearing the clothes but when I am with a Real woman I am a REAL man.

For those of you drawing the comparison to how women often feel when wanting just to be friends, I think this goes somewhat beyond.

Why? Because crossdressing is very sexually charged. In fact, if you aren't sexually charged when dressing you probably aren't a crossdresser and further down the continuum to transsexualism.

I realize not everyone dresses for sexual gratification but that's how it all started for us and it's still there, just in a diluted form.

So, with that much sexual tension, it's hard to get past it... Unless neither of you are dressed and not talking anything about CDing. And even then, it's still there.


I am absolutely not attracted to other crossdressers and found it shocking when I realized that was so common. I *am* turned on by some crossdressers that do it particularly well, but that's more of a projection thing than a I-want-to-be-with-them thing.

Still, there is plenty of sexual tension in that.

I find the same thing as well.

I have been on AOL since it's inception and usually float in and out of the Crossdressers room.

I specifically say in my profile that I am only there to chat and you know the rest. The only IM's I get are "Heyyyy, You Wanna....)

[SIZE=2]I've been here for well over 3 years, and also would like to share my secret with a "fellow traveller", with no interest in sex at all. My wife has known for 20 years, but is not supportive and prefers it all to be out of sight, out of mind, so I can't share my feelings with her. I've recently made contact with KayR, who lives quite close. We share a lot of interests outside CDing, and I'm sure we'll meet face to face in the near future. Got to get my wife more "on-side" first; I'm not going to be doing this behind her back, and I'm really looking forward to meeting another CDer for the first time.[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=2]Tony[/SIZE]

I run into the same problems. Was relentlessly hit on at a club recently. And one on one another time with CD whom I made it incredibly clear to in advance, that I didn't want sex.

I must admit that when I dress, I want to look as sexy as I can, and that I do crave attention. I've found it flattering, it's just when someone can't take "no" for an answer, that I get uncomfortable and upset.

And the whole thing ends up feeling really lonely sometimes. Ususally after talking with someone new online, the moment I mention that I'm not into anything sexual, the person either immediately disappears, or excuses themselves with some nicety and is then gone after that. In the best cas escenario, the person will say that they do want something sexual and wish you luck.