Sexual Perception

My wife and i have just recently split we have been together for twenty years with a couple of breaks she now says that my crossdressing is a major part of our split,i cannot help who i am i am not gay or bi sexual i make s qite attractive women all be it quite muscular but she says ive ruined her clothes i have not even tried her clothes i have my own stash she has never seen me dressed her sister has though and that has upset her i love my feminity ilove make up lingerie floaty dresses high heels and when i make li=ove the woman in me sometimes slips out much to her satisfaction i dont want to change nad would absolutely love to meet a woman who understood that you hear about these women but where are they i am a good man and an even better woman

What I see from reading the posts, and from life experiences, too many peaple do not have a good sexual imagination, I have been told I was a weirdo because I like to do other things than the missionary position. I hated those guilt trips. Paige I like how you think, because there is more to sex than just doing it. If you are married to a man that likes to crossdress, and the thought of him all femmed up turns you on and heightens the sex between you and him, you both will be fulfilled. I would like to be married to a GG that has such desires like you do Paige. I have never had sex while dressed as a woman, but I would like to experiment with making love enfemme with a woman. :hugs: to Paige

I can't speak for my gf's thinking on this subject but I know she has had a g on g experience in college and she professes to be heterosexual. She has accepted me and enjoys it when I am dressed including during love making. She is obviously not threathened by my cross dressing. I don't know if her past experience has influenced her acceptance or whether she is simply a very open minded person (which she is).

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Originally Posted by Ashleyxxx

My wife and i have just recently split we have been together for twenty years with a couple of breaks she now says that my crossdressing is a major part of our split,i cannot help who i am i am not gay or bi sexual i make s qite attractive women all be it quite muscular but she says ive ruined her clothes i have not even tried her clothes i have my own stash she has never seen me dressed her sister has though and that has upset her i love my feminity ilove make up lingerie floaty dresses high heels and when i make li=ove the woman in me sometimes slips out much to her satisfaction i dont want to change nad would absolutely love to meet a woman who understood that you hear about these women but where are they i am a good man and an even better woman

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Ashleyxxx, I really don't want to add to your troubles, nor want to be too pedantic but I found it difficult to read and understand your post for its complete lack of punctuation except for one comma, not to speak of typos.

She's only seen me dressed a few times and we've never talked about anything like her sexual feelings about it. I know she doesn't like it, she made that real clear. About the only positive thing she ever said years later was I had a nice a** in a mini ;-)

She has a FTM sister and that bothered her alot at first, she accepts it now. She needs to open up and talk more about things, I try w/ her but she's a tough nut to crack. I'm so easy going and non judgemental she knows she could open up if she ever felt the need at least.

You seem genuinely interested in the subject...I just posted my first post today (first of any communication other than my wife)...it may give you a different perspective.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ad.php?t=92269

This is something that i have been thinking alot about recently since me and my SO split up. In the past 6 months i came to realise that i was in love with her which i never thought would happen. I always thought that i could only love her as a friend how wrong was i :heehee:

Now it scared the hell out of me when i realised this did it mean that i was Bi and stright. After many hours of thought the conclusion i came to is no. I thought that i had fallen in love with her personality as i had only ever seen her dressed and with make-up no wig (till after we spilt). Im not sexual excited by women but yet with her i was and the fact that i was trying to deny this for so long may of helped leading to our split.

Im the past week since the split i have thought long and hard about my sexuallity and i dont know why but i cant seem to think of anyone other than her in this way, maybe its because im still in love with her who knows hopefully time will tell.

just my :2c: as a GG

In my many conversations with my wife about sexuality in general we have discovered quite a bit about each other. She knows I crossdress, and I know she is bi. We have indulged each other quite a bit, and tried quite a few things. Co-incidentally I know for 100% that I am not gay. I have had homosexual sex, and neither was aroused or enjoyed it. My wife and I have had other partners in our bed both male and female. However, she likes her men to be men, and her women to be women as she states. We have a very healthy relationship, and the only thing that keeps us from having sex is our kids.

I have said on these post a number of times "my SO accepts my cd'ing, but does not understand it". Here is a detailed explanation of that statement. In her words, "I really don't care either way, because it is you that I love. I personally do not understand what your attraction to women's clothing is, but it doe not violate the rules. When I wear your underwear it is purely a comfort thing. There is no stigma attached to it. I just like the way it feels." When I first told her about my cd'ing I explained that there was sexual energy to it. this would typically culminate in masturbation. Since this time period those sexual impulses have given way to mainly a comfort thing now, but my wife still remembers the sexual aspect, and therefore does not understand it.

Paige,

Are you a clinical Psychologist.

Your talk like mine...non-threating, no-confrontational and keep me thinking and feeling OK.

Paige, I think there is some truth to a woman facing her own demons as you so eloquently put it. I know that many of us have been there ourselves and have found some sort of resolution to this question. Maybe the SO/GG isn't willing to face that issue, particularly if the spouse/BF is a CDer and that was a surprise. Too many issues to deal with at once and maybe it gets put on the backburner as the relationship gets the attention. If that can be worked out, then her sexuality may be the next question addressed.