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I have purged too many times and I hope I won't do it again. I feel bad because of all the nice clothes I have thrown away. I would have a complete wardrobe by now without the purging. Ladies, remember that if you purge you will wish you had not done that. I need to find advice on how to prevent the purging from happening.
Of course I have. I think most of us has. The thing I miss most is photos of when I was much younger.
I regret all of my silly purges ! :sad:
Unfortunately I have purged several times. Some times by me, others by family members. I can recall my mom getting rid of my stash twice when I was younger. Some of those items were pretty awesome clothes that I wish I had back. Never again!
I've purged twice; never going to do that again. This is me, and that's OK!
I only purged once. Right after my divorce, she knew I cd'd and never had an issue with it, but I suddenly ended up with both boys living with me. One was a teen and I no longer had a legit excuse for the girly stuff being there so I got rid of it. I regretted it almost immediately & started to rebuild. We ended up back together a few years later after working things out and things are better than ever now.
I have had 3 big purges. and I always feel that way. I miss the shoes i had before or the wig. but now instead of purging when i feel that way i just put my things far out of sight so i can feel purged but still have my stuff for another time.
Twice! The latter when my wife discovered my crossdressing and as she admits now overacted. However, when I begin to purchase items it will be with her 100% permission and hopefully suggestions. Damn, I really miss the clear acrylic platforms!
Oh well, I'm sure they will make more!
Mikka
I lied in my earlier post, when I said that I had never "purged". :straightface:
It was about 16 years ago and I did it on a grand scale. Closets and dressers FULL of clothes I had purchased. There was so much stuff and effort involved in throwing out all of my "femme" belongings...that I decided to just leave it all there...and "throw" MYSELF out! :)
Yep, I just left that cheating wife, all of her "femme" belongings, the house, the cars...and just walked into the sunset...:daydreaming:
Was it expensive? You bet. It still is. It is still one of the most "expensive/extensive" investments that I have ever made in my life.
Any REGRETS?
No, regret and rumination about past actions is like trying to back out of a car wreck after the crash. It is impossible to change the past. "Looking back" to times of poor decision-making is wasting productive time absorbing negative thoughts. I choose to spend that time thinking about productive, happy things I CAN do now...like working on my bikini tan on the sundeck tomorrow...:D
So, I would have to say that for me...purging my "femme" belongings worked out pretty well. As usual...It all comes down to perception...for me anyway...
Self-deception can be as handy as duct-tape, if you know how to use it...;)
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i did that once. think it is a good idea to give myself a cooling period before taking action if i ever get an urge to do it again. going shopping for girly things that feel good to wear is fun. fulfilling, and exciting. my so and i have a wonderful time shopping. the cooling off period applies well to many things, not unlike making major purchases such as home appliances. just seems a good idea to not rush into action based on emotion
I have regretted all of my purges. What a waste. Oh my ! :bonk:
Of course! When our son was born I threw all my stuff in the BBQ in fear he would see me different if he found out. Of course the huge flames sparked neighborhood attention so I quickly put my half burned collection out for fear of the fire department. Looking back I laugh but still miss my first pair of heels and favorite skirt. Obviously i never quit just adopted the dadt policy
I have collected and purged so many times over my life and I always came back to rebuilding my "wardrobe". what a waste of money. The last time I begin to re-establish my feminine accessories, I decided I was not going to trash anything anymore.
The wife purged most of my stuff ....at least the sexy stuff that i liked ...5 inch heels and micro mini you know the ****ty stuff we all love ...she claimed that they were out of style and that we could replace them ....yeah right ...replace them with with granny outfits...oh well i suppose i should be thankful ...and try and work a sexy grandma look ...
Joann
I am just recovering from my first purge. I did it because I was gaining two roommates and was paranoid about them finding out. I threw all my femme belongings and a few months later I started buying girl things again. I now keep my femme belongings locked in a suitcase.
I purged my only pair of women's shoes. But they were a gift from an ex-best friend, so I really don't miss them because I'm mostly pissed at her.
Yes I have dumped my clothes and did regret it....mini's,heels,nylons,bras....dam what a waste.
Oh YES !
My very first purge, when I was going to 'grow up' and forget all that dressing up like a girl nonsense. All of my first clothes ... most of them stolen from a cousin, and others from sisters of school friends ... It wasn't just the physical item, but how I got them. I remember every single skirt and panty and there was a story for every garment. I regret the loss of those more than anything.
I can identify with that. My first real outing was the Texas "T" Party back in the 90's.
Later I had this major purge. Big Big mistake.
The sexiest, short suede skirt ever. It had a moth hole! No-one would've noticed! I miss it!
just threw out stuff that doent fit.. its annoying, but cant store everything.. and its better to build a good wardrobe of good pieces than have ton of junk to worry about getting found..
Yes, 3 times. I've regretted it each time. I won't do it any longer. I particularly regret throwing out all those strappy sandals and pumps.
Wow. Seven pages and I think I'm the first to say, no. Not once have I ever felt the need to rid myself of my clothes.
In another thread, one of you ladies had said that I was special. That I had a clear definition of self worth and that I didn't feel the need to conform to the standards of others. Which, ok. I'll give you that to an extent. But alot of what I've read was, everyone seems to ditch the stash because of fear. Fear of being caught. Fear of being harassed and judged. I don't subscribe to that.
Me? I'm awesome. I'm amazing. Fact. No one I know can talk down to me because I might look very silly or not at all feminine in a dress, it doesn't matter. What matters is, it makes me happy. Makes me feel good about myself. And no one dictates my happiness but me. If and when I do decide to get married, while I will take what my SO feels into my decision, ultimately, the decision of what to do is mine. I won't hide my dresses, blouses and other things. Will I have a place in my closet for it, sure. As I only dress in my room, the main dresser is used for my man side, the one who i need to dress quickly without effort on the go. Therefore, it makes sense my guy stuff is out, readily available where putting on my lady things take a bit more effort. Do I hide what I do from my family or friends? No. I simply decided not to tell them about it. Not out of fear, but having to explain who i am and why i do it to 50 more people is just a very large undertaking and I'm tired enough as is. =3
yes i thought i was just a freak of nature and got rid of everything i had hiding in my closet. the funny part is i put it all in the firepit in my backyard and had a big fire. i thought i could stop . but i was wrong .I soon replaced everything I wont do that again im ok now. lol that was about 12 years ago
Yes,and I regret it,I lost many a gorgeous outfit...never again!
Ugh, yes! Destroyed a beautiful set of matching lingerie from Macy's. Shortly thereafter, I came out to my wife. I had to laugh, she chided me for purging, saying it was a stupid waste of money. I haven't purged in over two years.
Anna
Twice now I have thrown everything out only to start all over. Self loathing gets expensive after a while. lol
I have no idea where my wig went. It must have been a victim to a purging at one time or another. Those things aren't cheap you know! Aside from that I mostly purge impulse buys and stuff that I don't plan to ever wear. I recently purged a few dresses and some lingerie that was ready to be retired. But yea, my advice is if you're feeling like you want to bury your desire just box things up and put them in storage. A few months later, or days in some cases, you'll be glad you didn't send them to the dump.
*Hugs*
Yes I did a couple of years ago and I fought the earge to dress but I lost the battle and had to start all over again it won't happen again
I've done it a few times and regretted it every time. I lost some very nice stuff (including forms) Never again will I purge but will get rid of stuff that doesn't fit anymore.
Been there, done that..... probably 20 times when I was a teenage and young adult. Now I have the opposite problem..... I don't though anything out unless my partner pesters me to......
There have been many times I wanted to get rid of Susan's clothes.
But after I remember how much money was spent buying the clothes, I decide to just keep them.
I've probably purged over 10 times throughout my life. Sometimes I regretted it that same night, sometimes it took a year or so, but I think I just about always regret it sooner or later.
I've purged a few times in my life. However I never had the proper gear I starting to accumulate now. I used to live in remote places before and didn't know how to CD anyway. So I bought any crap from I could from stores like Penningtons, and they sell doughty stuff. I have now gotten rid of the old junk and now if I buy anything it will be in proper style for years to come. I also make sure it fits properly and if it doesn't then I'm getting it altered. No more crap! I want stuff that is either going to make me look like a drag queen or try to make me look like I can pass in public, one or the other. I will never purge again, I am getting ready to go hard and not take my foot off the gas!
Although it is a natural, and sometimes recurring phenomenon, purging is never a good idea. Because CDing will always know where you live! ;) And when it knocks on your door again, you'll end up buying everything back. So, do yourselves a favor, and don't give in to the urge to purge. Just choose a different hiding spot!!!
Its just So embarrasing !
Gone cottin choppin.
Yes, I've done it, and regretted it every time. Now, my closet has two sides. Right rack are guy's clothes, and on the left side are the girls.
If anyone I know or am dating at the time ever gets a look in there, I say nothing. They usually fill in the blanks that they're leftovers from an ex, or that I'm seeing someone currently and she parks a lot of her wardrobe at my apartment. None have suspected that they're actually MINE.
It works and I don't ever have to worry about hiding anything I own from company.
I've purged once in my life, back when i was around 12, i swore not to dress up again, but like a lot of the girls said here it is always a part of me. I didnt dress for about 5 years, but the thoughts of dressing always lingered. Till i was about 18 then stressed out one day before my DMV driving test i put on one of my cousin's old green satin dresses. I always remember the feeling of putting that dress almost 10+ years ago. I felt alive, and felt great, the silky skirts and tight bodice of the dress was luxurious =) something that i've been suppressing looking back that i shouldn't have repressed. Ever since then i've been dressing and never purged. Anyways i spent a ton of money on all the girly stuff i have now, dresses, tops, skirts, wigs, shoes, etc etc..... so yea i regretted doing that purge back then, of course i discovered that CD is a part of myself, and cant just be shutoff simply like a switch.
Oh yes, I have been there and done that> If you get the urge. Take a walk, have a coffee and think about it. Deep down inside you know that it will be a mistake. This is a part of you, not just a phase. Once I realized that i never thought about purging again.
I purged once, when I was 12. After that, I didn't see anything wrong with it. I kept it to myself. It was many years later that I started going out.
Personally I've never done a purge... I almost did once when I made my big move across country, I couldn't think of a safe way to get everything handled by the movers... In the end I put everything in a huge moving box, double wrapped it, and shipped it to a friend on the mainland. I was glad he hadn't opened the box and I'm pretty sure he was clueless as to why I shipped a box to him instead of just letting the movers take care of everything.
Yes I have thrown my panties out several times and some other thing that I wish I still had. Every time I moved or started dating a new girl .
Did this twice- and it turned me into a pack-rat: I hardly through anything away now- so now i have to go back the other way so i don't become a hoarder. no more purging.
I know what u have been through. Multiple times I have pitched cloths, shoes and everything that goes with it in fear of others finding out only to purchase all new things again. Finally I was reunited with my high school sweetheart ofter almost 25 years, after a year of dating I figured it would be best if I just told her, it took some courage but I did and I am glad. It took some time for her to get used to the idea, but its who I am and she accepts me for that. My only words of advice is be yourself.
Yep, many times. When I was in my teens and early twenties, I owned mostly underclothes so it wasn't that big of a deal. In my late twenties I bought lots of jeans, shoes, and tshirts that I spent a lot on - and getting rid of them felt like cutting out a piece of myself. I threw them all in the trash just before I turned thirty and I said I was finished with it all.
.......Then I bought more clothes and shoes. The next time, I was sensible enough to donate them at least. I did that at the end of 2011. Now it is almost March and I have recently bought more shoes, jeans, and tshirts yet again. I would like to think that if I feel the need to purge in the future, I will just store them somewhere else and so still have them when (not if) I want to dress again. Lesson learned the hard way.
Gave my stuff to the TG SUPPORT GROUP in Grand Rapids last July
I've purged so many times in my life I have lost track. The last time I was living alone and had a full walk-in closet and 2 dressers full. When I got married again I had to get rid of it all. So my new wife could use the closet. I had cloths from Norstroms, 40 pair of heels and bras and panties from every high end store in Michigan. Do I reget it? YES I love my wife but I also love dressing up and going out which I don't do much of now.
ive done it few times and also like most i regret every single time. but once i gave my exgirlfriend all my clothes cause i was moving in with a new girlfriend who didnt know starsha lmao... and once i had family throw away my clothes in highschool and then they never talked to me about never even brought it up in conversation can someone say denial lmao.
To many times every time I thought it would make a difference in a relationship, Wrong