Yes and no. Depending on my mood. Sometimes I am perfectly content being a man. Other times I see the pretty clothes, jewlry and makeup and then I become very envios
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Yes and no. Depending on my mood. Sometimes I am perfectly content being a man. Other times I see the pretty clothes, jewlry and makeup and then I become very envios
I find myself torn, I'm not all that attached to being male and I enjoy dressing as a female, I tend to think I present male more because I'm used to it than anything else.
20 years ago, madly Yes.
I evolved somehow to the point that I've developed strong self-image of me in both genders...I can't do without one or the other.
So I feel I'm half female/half male, and I like it. My female expression of me seems to be rather external and extrinsic part of me, not internal/intrinsic. ...guy inside/girl outside. I'm bored and unsatisfied of male presentation, it's just not me.....but I'm perfectly happy cutting up my knuckles while fixing an engine block on an old car, and going out in public in a cocktail dress later on. The "need for conquest" element of being a guy is still there, yet I want to doll up and be beautiful.
If the pay is competitive and there is a 401K & health benefits pkg...yes...I would accept the position.:D
Otherwise, no thanks...
It is like being a doctor. I am not a real doctor, I just like pretending to be one in the bedroom sometimes...:heehee:
Now if anybody figures out a way to become invisible, call me.
:love:
I don't know, I think your wife would see straight through you :heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by eluuzion
Sometimes very strongly. A lot of the time the desire is there, not as strong, but there nonetheless.
That said women have some issues they have to deal with. Mood swings from hormones, discrimination. I have seen childbirth a couple of times. Each time, I said forget about being a woman. But then I forgot about it! LOL!!!
Would I like to be a woman???... Of course I would! Providing I was born that way (GG). Yes I could go the route that some have taken with hormones and surgery and some day I may do just that, BUT.. and no offence ment to those who have gone that way... I have a deep voice, wide shoulders, narrow hips, and a mans face and height, that said... with enough money and surgery I may well be able to fix those parts (or at least some of them) and I may be able to get by in the world, heck I may even be able to fool some... but I would never be able to fool myself! I would still be a woman in a mans body to me.
[SIZE="3"] And don't even get me started on how much it would cost to get enough shoes in my size to keep a woman happy[/SIZE]..... :devil:
Do I want to be a woman? Nah.
I've thought long and hard about which label I should place on my screen-name, and I'm using TV because I love the clothing... but not forever.
Girltoy, I think your "name" says it all.Quote:
Originally Posted by girltoy
SarahLynn
Some very good answers. When I was asked that very question I said no what I wanted to is no SRS but live as a women only to chenge to a boy mode when nessary.
if there was an SRS that could make me identical biologically the same as a woman, i would give it some serious thought, but that would include the ability to have children. given the current state of anti-aging medicine and all of the treatments available such as knee and hip replacements, who knows how long one might live. the idea of living a second life as a woman for the next forty or fifty years is certainly intriguing. the only limitation is the cost. but for the time being i am happy leading two different lives. i get to dress as much as i can and when i am not, i do enjoy my male side immensely. i think i can be extremely close as cassandra to being a woman without the current SRS.
Would I, if I could, transition fully with all the correct body parts? Perhaps.
I've seen several here who have mentioned some of the "bad" aspects of being FAB (Female At Birth) but I'm wondering if they have given much thought to the other "bad" aspects, breast cancer, cervical cancer, ovarian cancer, radiation treatments, doctors who are not fully "professional" in their behaviour, etc.. Lets add in men, who in general, treat women as chattel not equals, bosses who expect more than what the job calls for, underlings who will be advanced ahead of you because they have families to support, etc..
There are times of late when I imagine myself as a lady, yet I know these times are usually when I'm engaged in procreation activites. More than anything I wonder how it feels to be "on the receiving end". And I know I will never know these things regardless of what phyical changes I make to myself. I know it would not be the same, even if i had SRS.
For now, what I want most is to have more time to fully dress. To have a wardrobe of beautifull clothes, nice shoes, jewelry, long hair again with full makeup, and to be able to dress this way anytime I wish. And to truely look like the woman I feel is inside of me. She would appear to the outside world as a mix of the following ladies in their heyday, Grace Kelly, Teresa Brewer, Vera Lynn, Connie Francis and Connie Stevens. And she would have a singing voice as lovely as all of them too.
If I can't have that then I'll continue to exist as I am, frustrated with my male self but not totally dissatified with me either.
SarahLynn
I think Rianna said it best...
Based on that premise, and it is how I feel, I would (and hopefully will) go through everything necessary.Quote:
We take the hormones and undergo the surgery because we are women not in order to become something that we were not.
Yes, absolutely yes, I've wanted to be a girl since I discovered there was a difference when I was 5 years old. Each time my body went through changes making me more like a man, I went into deep depression and despair. I didn't have testacles when I was born, and I had been told that they might come down naturally. When the did, I tried desperately to push them back up where they came from. When my voice started changing I turned to drugs and alcohol. When I found out I was a bass, I got even more self-destructive and suicidal.
Unfortunately, I had zero support from my parents. My mother understood, but her father was a right wing fundamentalist Christian and might have gone so far as to have me kidnapped and exercised. My father was feminine, but he didn't want me to have to go through the same abuse he endured as a kid. Too late, I was already there.
I hoped that if I got married and was having real sex all the time, I wouldn't need to dress, and might accept being a man, but that didn't work out so well. Marriage, 2 children, divorce, and child support made it impossible to put together the money for the measures required to transition. But being confronted with the consequences of never seeing my children again, I decided to wait.
If there were a magic spell that would turn me into a 20 something beautiful woman with all of my current wisdom and knowledge, along with perhaps, the memories of the woman I had become, I would do it in a heartbeat. I'd even give her my body, and all the success that came with it. Alas, it's only a fantasy that only exists in fictional books, movies, and television.
I often wonder if, when we die, we have the option of heaven or reincarnation. If so, I might opt for another round as a beautiful and successful woman. If I have to go to heaven, I hope I have the option of choosing my body, and maybe even making adjustments when I want to, like a second life avatar.
Since I was very young, maybe 4-5 years old, I've had dreams of life as a 16 year old girl, who had been having a wonderful time with boys. But I also remember being strangled to death, I think by my religious father, who framed my boyfriend for the murder. When I moved to the mid-hudson valley, I realized that I had lived there before.
I wonder if that your woman had always wanted to be a boy?
I'm a tall masculine looking man and I could never pass as a woman no matter how much surgery I had. I live in a town of very short people. I've decided as much as I want to be a woman it's just not feasible. However the good lord blessed me with rather feminine legs so it's not so bad. Hosiery therapy to the rescue. Being female is all I've ever wanted so it's difficult to come to terms with the fact I can't ever have what I want. I'm hoping some day they'll invent the technology to allow us to step into the Star Trek transporter, be beamed out and beam back in with the body we truly desire. I'd be a petite brunette and love it.
This is a weird question for me . Do i want to be a women ? Not really . Do i think life would of been easier if i was born in the exact same living conditions and was born a girl ? Probably .
What a wonderful thought. There is a belief among those of a certain Protestant denomination which says that we made a choice to come down and live our lives. One has to wonder if we were given that option & quality control missed a boo boo during production.Quote:
I often wonder if, when we die, we have the option of heaven or reincarnation. If so, I might opt for another round as a beautiful and successful woman. If I have to go to heaven, I hope I have the option of choosing my body, and maybe even making adjustments when I want to, like a second life avatar.
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Originally Posted by DebbieL
i too am one of those mainstream christians that believe in reincarnation. i think one's soul is like the electricity that drives our bodies. it is never extinguished, it just moves to a new body. if i could choose my next life, i would like to come back as a girl and grow up in cali in the 50's or 60's. how cool would that be. speaking of reincarnation, maybe some you who believe you are a woman trapped in a man's body really are. maybe you were a woman in a previous lifetime. it does make sense. especially when it says in the bible, "the kingdom of heaven is at hand". if i take that literally, then i am to believe that heaven is right here on earth, living a life we choose.
I'd love to on a part-time basis but never full-time. I identify too much with being male, other than the CDing part.
But then again maybe after a one-month trial, I wouldn't want to turn back. I'd probably have to find new friends as the dynamic between my current friends would be disturbed, or is that disturbing...
at least for a weeekend. or every day
I love the flexibility of being a man, a woman, or a combination of both (androgyne). My opinions have changed over the course of the past year, but one thing is constant: I love being a gender tourist and I feel that if I did fully transition to being a woman that I'd have to find a way to transition back as a man.
From an old Jewish prayer:
"Each day I rise and thank God I was born a man..."
'Cause in my case,
I'd make one bu++ ugly woman.
So unless I was born a GG - I will stay the way I am.
If i could hit the restart button i would, or if i did not have the family ties that i have i would love to transition. i have even prayed for it. i still have deep feelings about switching sides. but right now i have too much to loose. now if i were in an accident and i lost the use of my male parts then i would push the issue with family and friends.i guess i am on the line with this question.
Start over again? No, I don't think so. I would miss my wife and my kids too much to do so but to live along side of them as Annie would be most fulfilling for me.
I said "no" just because family questions. I m very happy with my life.
Honestly, the asnwer has changed over the years moving incrementally towards wanting to spend more and more time as a woman. I don't know that circumstances will ever permit me to be, but I have to say, yes, in many respects I "want" to be a woman. That being said, my realities are much like yours...I don't foresee being fully out to everyone in my life and work...so I'll remain, part time. Its really not a bad compromise.
I sometimes wish I had been born a woman, but I really enjoy being a man and have no desire to under go surgery or to transition.
That said, I'm curious, how man of us would appreciate femininity if we had been born a woman? I mean the only time my wife wears really pretty or sexy clothes its when its for me.
Oh what a question. I regret my sex so much. I should have been a girl. I love everything about them. They can look pretty, dress and walk sexy, buy beautiful clothes...
I love dressing up so much and I take a whole day to prepare. I love shaving my legs and painting my toe nails. I have to say that I am not a very aggressive person and I don't have the nerve to go into a beauty shop to buy lipstick. I buy my lipstick from the supermarket 7:00 in the morning and I go to the self checkout.
I need help!
Hi Annie, Not really I just love dressing like a woman.
If I was a woman I probably would have been a F to M CD.
Orchid
Sometimes I have those deep feelings that are womanly, and feel: "Why am I struggling so much to be a man in the everyday world? So much hiding, stress,
taking on a false self" I guess I have more of a road to go to self-acceptance, exploration, and going deep.......
Yes, I would want to be a woman. I feel I have the heart and soul of a woman and if I knew back, maybe 20 years ago, what I know now I would have had SRS. Thank God though, I am content with my life and don't fret about it.
In that case you definitely don't need the stress of transitioningQuote:
Originally Posted by Donna June
yes i want to be a woman. If i could go back in time and change up the chromosomes a little i would.
Nah! Thought about it for years. Wanted a vagina and to get rid of the thing between my legs that I hated. Now years later I would rather dress when I feel like it and not have to fem up 24/7.
yes...if I could flick a switch I would be a woman in a heartbeat x
No. I enjoy being a guy a lot of the time. From what I can gather, my dressing stems from how wonderful my wife is. I always want to be like her when I dress. She drives everything in me.
Cindy...just to say "congratulations" to you
I would transition if the time was different. I am making changes that I and my wife can live with, such as shaving and laser to the beard. But I have made committments that I feel I should keep. If things change though I would transition.
Do I want to be a woman? No - I certainly enjoy some of my maleness.
Would I want some femme features to be real / permanent - resounding YES
Would I want to live full time femme but keep the "man parts" - resounding YES
I'm selfish - I want the best of both worlds!
I love female clothing! I love the female figure and form!
I want the shape & the clothing while keeping the man-part too
The answer is...I AM A WOMAN! Oh...you meant physical in body. If God let me wake up tomorrow as a GG I would throw a party. But after the pain and fight I went through after the stroke...I am not volunteering for more pain, or more pain for my kids.
Em
NO.
I would just like one thing ...... to be present in a world where people like ourselves are totally accepted and understood .
One can dream .
No. I couldn't give up the life I have worked so hard on.
with that being said, I would love to spend one day as a woman so I could get out and be confident.
I do like some aspects of being male. If truth be told not too many aspects though. I would not want surgery but I must admit that I have often thought that I would like to live 24/7 dressed.
AnitaH
Not permanently but If I could just switch back and forth I would love it. If I could just change shape to a 5ft 5 120lb little pretty lady I would probably do it every other weekend. And still have the life I do now. I know that's not even close to possible but it's fun to think about.
I would definitely love to have smooth, hairless skin, long hair and c-cup breasts. I believe I would keep what's between my legs though. Somehow I find that very sexy.
I have loved my years living as a woman, but I am too chicken to have any type of surgery done.
Yes, I want to be a woman with all of the good and bad that goes with it, my feelings to be female have only grown stronger over the years. While I do not regret who I am or who I was born as my overwhelming desire to be everything XX consumes me. I will continue to live both lifestyles out of apprehension and maybe fear so my real hope would possibly be reincarnation.
This. As just another women it wouldn't be anything special.Quote:
Originally Posted by TheresaJTS
Yes a woman please... Its funny people are like "if you find a Jeanie what would your three wishes be... Easy answer 1st wish to be a beautiful woman who could model for her career, second to be 20 again, third that everyone in my life knew me as a woman like it has always been the case! Life would be perfect!
This something that I have kicked around for a few days since reading this thread. My answer is no, and the reason is I could become a woman and have no one to answer to except myself as you all know that have read my posts I can g 24/7 as a woman with no problem in fact I do quite often even at my job.
My main reason I am very femme acting I do not date other men or do I date women, I go out and have social evening with my girl friends and work associates i even have danced with men at some of the clubs we go to these are not dives they are upscale entertainment venues and the discussion has come up about my transitioning to a woman, I have talked to our resident phsyc at length on this and what I myself have determined is that no I could never be a real woman, in appearance yes in my heart no I would not have the proper tools of a woman although I have been dressing since I was 6 or7 years old I couldn't do it. the dancing is another thread that I may post. things at one time got a little sticky.
As always Millie