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My wife accepts me as Angie and knows how deep it runs in me. For meny years she didn't know. She didn't divorce me for cd'ing or for being a deceitful man.
It's not always so easy to just hay hun ey I crossdress. Some women just won't play that s%*^. Don't be sohard on others when you have no idea what they need to do to keep things right in the house.:hugs:
Angie
Is it possible to share with your spouse - everything? Every feeling, emotion, thought?
Is it OK to not share sorrows or painful experiences that don't involve her - example work problems?
Is it necessary to share physical pain we endure - aches, soreness, discomforts?
Do we have to tell her all our fears, doubts, worries?
Must we be honest and admit to her that she does not look as attractive or as youthful as she might think she does?
Do we have to tell her her joke is not funny, or identify her best friends' flaws?
Because we love and care for our spouses, we sometimes don't share - everything.
How can anyone claim to tell their spouse "everything?"
Yes - we need to be open and honest to our loved ones - but no one should place themself on a pedestal and try to judge others absolutely.
You can not tell your spouse everything! If she comes back from a bad salon visit you can't say, "that's a shitty haircut you had."
Just the same as if we accidently pass some MAN GAS she won't say, "sometimes you can be so fricken revolting" even though it might cross her mind.
But the SECRET CD HIDING is a pretty big lie!
As long as your not dressing behind your SO's back or trolling the net then I guess its ok to hold the secret. This means you have thoughts and tendancies but aren't acting on any of them and when they come up you beat them down just as fast as they entered your brain. Something like a trained Monk can and will do in the mountains of China.
However if your lying about business trips, having a stash, playing dress up when shes not around etc... Then I say its best to stand up and be counted for. You might get judged as a fraud for the past years you have lived together but you really aren't a fraud because after that as the truth has been told.
Again its just my opinion.
Nadine,
No flaying here. You so totally have a right to your opinion, but when giving such, it has to be expected that so many will also voice there opinions. Don't be offended or upset that there are those who disagree, it's just human nature. I choose not to open up to my wife, because it's not that big a part of me. I do it in private and have no proclivity to be public about my dressing. Except in a few rare cases, when I traveled, I've always have been just a closet "home" dresser, as is, I'm sure, alot of us are here. I tend to think that there are alot of us here who just do it recreationally and seldomly. We don't feel a need to make it a normal part of our lives, it's just fun and natural to us. And we don't feel it's necessary to make it our lives. Would it be great to have it normal and natural as a part of our day to day existence? Maybe.. but the ramifications aren't worth the freedom to do so.
I do hope that you understand. We're not against you, so please don't be angry with us for not living the lifestyle that you choose. God bless you for being who you are...and wish us the same.
Jenny
Never Ever!!!