I don't think that at all. It is pretty easy to read between the lines that people type here. When it's not, I don't worry about it. I can't imagine why anyone would think that I do, unless there's some serious projection going on.Quote:
Originally Posted by ellbee
That said, I note that you are still pushing that false equivalence trope. I'd love to point out all the ways it's false, but we'd be crossing the line then, so for that reason I won't.
During my teenage years, when I was found out and shamed very badly, it was a curse. So much so that I kept it bottled inside me for 30 years.
Since coming to terms with my dressing and finally acting upon it, I almost don't recognize the person I used to be. I have a hard time understanding how I managed to hold it back for so long. The need to dress is hard wired into my brain and asking me not to cross dress would be tantamount to asking a gay person to stop being gay. Cross dressing makes me feel a freedom and a joy I don't get in guy mode, and that's a blessing.
Xox,
Tina V.
In a nutshell I love it, nothing can beat the superior comfort of lingerie and of course all the rest, drab underwear has all been consigned to the trash bin long ago.
I just started crossdressing in public and I can’t get enough. It’s almost as though I’m obsessed with it. Maybe the newness of it will fade in time? Who knows? But it feels great right now.
I absolutely love to cross dress to the extent that I can. It’s a big part of me and I know it will never go away nor would I want it to. Crissy
But why would I ever want to stop? I adore being Roxanne, and could be her forever and ever! Just have to learn a bit more! Roxanne and I have a love affair - she loves me, and I simply adore her! I feel so complete when she and I are one!
The newness of it simply does not go away. I began in Virginia, and since then, well, since then . . . .!
I love it. But I have some complicated feelings about it.
Looking at it rationally, what’s wrong with cross dressing? Are we hurting anybody? Are we causing deliberate pain to anyone? The simple truth is no. So why do people see it as taboo? Aren’t we all here in this world for a brief second? Shouldn’t we enjoy it and live it according to our deepest convictions? Why do we judge and restrict? It makes no rational sense, and this is coming from a guy who fears societal judgment so much I’ve never told anybody about it.
On the other hand, occasionally it makes me feel isolated, I realize it’s not the norm and of my close circle of people I know I’m probably the only one who does it, but I may be way wrong. I wish we cross dressers had a radar to detect others if they want to be detected.
Other than that I love it. If it weren’t for cross dressing I’d still be a bit of a weirdo since my interests are slightly different to the norm.
I sense "Roxanne" will never go away from my life. She is so very sweet, understanding, and gentle to me. She helps me feel care, and love in my heart, and makes me so very feminine. Oh please, Roxanne, be mine forever!
Rational has nothing to do with why people see it as a taboo. Fear and ignorance is at the root of it. That, and a heaping dose of populist melodrama, fanning that fear with fabricated dangers for women and girls in public restrooms. Yes, fabricated.Quote:
Originally Posted by TolerantCD
And please don't bring any scriptural proscriptions into this. We aren't to debate religion here, and besides... everyone is entitled to their own beliefs. The plain fact is that we are who we are, no different from anyone else save this one trait (albeit a complicated one).
I fully dress daily. My mind has progressed from being a CDer to being TG. I wouldn't ever want that to change as I love it so much.
I still love to dress. It is not an affliction for me. It is who I am now!
I have never considered it an affliction. I have come to believe that it is a gift that is only given to a few of us. It helps to explain why we desire to be the person not assigned by birth but willing to accept who we are.
It is something I simply love to do. Not a day goes by where I am not in some minor form of my female side. Panties 7/24, some makeup on eye lashes and brows, sleep in a bra with forms every night, with a sexy night shirt. Wear bra and forms to breakfast every day, unless someone is coming over. Body is always fully shaved and toe nails painted most of the time. All of this is an eloving situation that my wife now accepts. Not DADT any more
I enjoy it and have finally began to accept that what I like is OK. I would not call it an affliction but on the other hand, if I could make it go away I probably would (strictly due to the stress it can put on relationships).
There was a time that I thought CD'ing was an affliction, and shame was its first cousin. As I came to accept the things that I could not seem to change about myself, I realized that everyone has their quirks and no one is perfect. I have come to enjoy this as a part of me, and take it one day at a time growing as a person who knows they are not perfect and I also need to accept other imperfect people also.
Well said Jillian. We all have quirks, and secret sides.
Neither.
When I dress, I feel peace.
I share your opinion about making it go away. It would make life so much easier. I could go back to my other hobbies.
Life would be so much easier for me and my wife if I were not transgender so I would have to say it's an affliction.
I'm way past the shame and if I could do it over again, I would have ended the shame even sooner. I love to dress it just makes me feel so right.
I love wearing feminine clothing. I do not worry about what others think that is their problem and not mine. :devil:
I think we have gotten ourselves into a cesspool of worry about what others think and it will drag us down, not a good thing.
So to me it is not an affliction but it is a good thing.:)
Fran
I love love love dressing up and feel the most complete when I am Kim.
Crossdressing is not an affliction. My wife thinks it's an addiction. I love dressing and feeling feminine. I have never fealt ashamed or guilty, just an understanding that most people (including my wife) don't get it. So keep it close to avoid unnecessary conflict.