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I have been away for a few days and didn't have internet access. Just caught up on reading this thread. It sounds much more encouraging than when I left. Just remember there was a reason (or reasons) you got married. Whatever they were, that hasn't changed. Good luck!
Debbie GG
Tomorrow's Thursday Fiona, I wish you all the luck in the world. Whatever you do, keep talking to your wife. From what I've read, you obviously still love one another dearly, and that's the platform you need to build on.
I'm going through a similar scenario (see http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ad.php?t=37222 ). It is not so traumatic for us, but many of the emotions we are experiencing are the same for you and your wife. I'll keep you all here informed of my progress (we started almost 20 years ago, and I reopened the dialogue in April 2005, when I bought "My Husband Betty" for us both to read), and I'll follow yours. If either of us find the magic formula for acceptance, we can share it! You never know, we may meet sometime, Preston's not too far from Knutsford, where we live. But I think it may be dangerous to let our wives meet just yet, they may gang up on us, unless they just find it therapeutic to share experiences. I'm not sure mine is yet ready to talk to ANYONE else (even in the anonymity of the 'net) about my CDing, and that may be why she's finding it very difficult, and why progress is so slow. We still love one another and want to be with one another for the rest of our lives, so there's our foundation for the future. The rest, we still have to work out.
Good luck tomorrow, I'm sure you'll find a way. I've heard of so many now who've started with what seem like "draconian" restrictions on their dressing, which have relaxed as time goes on, and wives have realised that there really is nothing to worry about. Hope you find the same.
Tony
I couldn't agree more with what Marla says, I have been there more than once. It really is a shock to hear that your partner likes to wear skirts but I came to terms with it to the point where I actually approve, support and enjoy him dressing.
As said before, take it slowly, the last thing she will want right now is pressure, tell her that you love her and your son and that you are still the same person that she fell in love with. I really hope you can work it out.
good luck !
Love,
Stephanie