Do you want to be a girl or just look like one?

This has been another marvelous thread, and it’s wonderful that so many of you have shared your thoughts on the subject. I probably fall somewhere toward the “I want to be a girl” part of this spectrum, if that makes any sense. Growing up I was a sensitive kid who identified with females. I always wanted to wear female clothes, maybe as long as I could remember. I recall that I wanted breasts, and made breast forms marked with red nipples that I would fill my Mom’s bras with – but like others here of “my generation”, that was a time when transitioning and Christine Jorgensen were definitely not mainstream. So now, yes, when I dress (usually for a part of every day) I feel complete; my forms feel like me, my clothes feel natural. I know I’m male, but I’m trying to integrate my ying and yang -- again, if this makes any sense,..

i wanted to be a girl at a early age if i was young again and had all the support groups and information i do now but i guess being a woman would be great the only thing that has stopped me is family stuff my parents are up in age my mother was so against my dressing i lived with her as a youngin oh and im a only child on that side of the family

Hi Kate, Like you I thought about transitioning also. That was a long time ago but unfortunately it NEVER went away. If I could I would do it in a New York minute but because of monetary constraints, family responsibilities and a whole host of another reasons I had to come to the realization that it would never happen. So in its place I dress as a woman, try to act as a woman, try to pass as a woman whenever I can. Actually I feel much more at ease when I am dressed or even partially dressed.

Molly

I'm OK as a man in general and if I were 20 I would transition.
Knocking on 60 it would be unwise health wise.

All of my life I have wanted to BE a Girl. I still do, but for me it is too late. Like so many others have said in this post, If I were in my 20's, knowing what I know now, I would transition, but now I am 58 and it is too late for me. So I must be satisfied just looking like a Girl. I have a GG Friend who has helped me with clothing suggestions but says I do look like a real girl, even without makeup! So, at least I have that. I know the feeling is Very Deep in me, when I dress and become Barbara, I feel so calm and relaxed, it just feels Natural.

Interesting, same here, if still young enough would transition too

I had forgotten about this thread. I think, all things considered, I've been pretty blessed in my life even if I never did transition. As a man I was able to be a father and I wouldn't trade that for anything. Now, at 65, I still look pretty good en femme (regardless of what my detractors say) and am still pretty attractive. I still cut a pretty good rug on the dance floor as well. I'm entering into a new relationship with a fantastic GG (the one with the guy wasn't going to work out) and we can be very close as I have become a full spectrum person and am more understanding of female needs and vissisitudes. It's always my choice whether I want to present en femme or en homme, however. The way I see it my friends is that it doesn't get much better than this. :battingeyelashes::)

If I could have decided at a young age, I would have picked being a girl/woman, now that I have a sucessful career and a wife, deep down I would love to be a woman, but just cant see myself upsetting the ones I love.

If I were 18 or there abouts, I would go through transition, I've always wanted to be a girl. However, for me personally given my age that opportunity has realistically past. I would settle for just looking like a girl, but that isn't gonna happen either lol, but that said I'm happy with where I'm at and who I am.

At 59, I agree with those my age. If I knew then what I know now, things would be much different. I Sam way more female than male.

It's to late to change now even if I was younger I don't think it would happen. But I sure would like to have been born female

It's too bad our age is factored in, 'cause I'd vote for being the woman. But we also have other circumstances to take care of. It's not an easy thing going from one gender to another. Hey, it would be great to take an entire month off and jump into a gender transformation machine.

Jus thinking

If I was a LOT younger than I am I would seriously think about SRS. However after some recent experiences I would prefer to look like a woman. Sometimes it's better to just visit that to stay.

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It's too bad our age is factored in, 'cause I'd vote for being the woman. But we also have other circumstances to take care of. It's not an easy thing going from one gender to another. Hey, it would be great to take an entire month off and jump into a gender transformation machine.

Jus thinking

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The Transporter in Star Trek would be just such a device Ter. They had storylines involving same sex relationships, etc. but never used this idea(close in one of the animated series' episodes). All someone would have to do is add a little additional programming into the pattern buffers, Wah Lah, Instant any age girl.:battingeyelashes::)

Hi Kate, I have the best of both worlds being a mans man when I want and dressing like and acting like a lady when I want to.

In my mind I am a woman, I am now working on making my body match. Seeing as I am in my early 40's I am young enough to enjoy my remaining years in a body that is congruent with my mind.

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Originally Posted by xdressed

I definitely only want to look like a girl. I have a lot of respect for people that make the full transition but in my case I know that would not make me happy. Crossdressing is quite a personal thing for me, something that I only do on my own and sometimes with my SO. In my 'real' life I am not very feminine at all even though I have long hair, and I can't imagine changing that, but I also have no intention of removing the other side of myself.

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Ditto.......peace & love.

My friends who are transitioning/transitioned seem to talk a slightly different language than I do.

To be or not to be... i want to live as a female and be accepted as one. I don't have to be one completely however that is still possible but at almost 60 not sure all the work would be worth the time i have left. Just let me be me and accept me as female and i am fine with that.

I wish I were born a female, but I wasn't so I just want to look like one and carry on a lesbian relationship with my wife... haha I have no desire for SRS, I was born this way for a reason, whatever the reason is beyond me... I am 100% masculine except for the fact I like looking like a female...

JUSST WANT AN INCREDIBLE FIGURE SO WHEN I DRESS I LOOK REAL GOOD..... when in male or drab mode I don't care so much about the sex of things, but I sure do want to pass WELL when I dress.... and I like filling out a bra too, even if it needs some fredericks silicone falsies along the bottom edge of my bra...

Yes I would had rather been born a girl but I was not so I enjoy it when I can look like one with out all the side effects

I would like to revise my original response by saying I am more a female at heart. So yes, I want to be a girl, now that the "Do you want to be a girl?" question keeps popping up. Do I see myself going the whole nine yards? That, I am very unsure of. At 21 (in less than six hours), I have plenty of time to make that decision. Otherwise, I'll stick with my body as is and go on looking like a woman. Maybe my wish will come true, or I will be reincarnated as a female. Sorry if that sounds far-fetched (remind me if I wrote that term correctly lol).

i would love to be young lady but i also love being able to just crossdress

I want to be a woman in all aspects. I am male but not really a man at least in my mind. I present as a male when I have to but am wearing as much female clothing as possible. If I knew then what i know now at the age of 18 or 19 I would have made all the necessary changes to be able to live now as the woman I want to be with that being said I guess you could say I am sick of being male. I have a beautiful daughter and she is the light of my life so I don't need all of what I have down below. So on to the next chapter in my life,

If I could have chosen my gender at birth I would have chosen female, but at this time I'm not 100% how to answer this question. I guess I would rather look like a female than be one, just so I could live both sides of life. I just would like to be treated as I were female when in female mode. I don't really know, it's a very confusing question. I don't plan on going through surgery or any treatment as of now. I guess I'm still searching for my identity.

But I do like this question a lot, I makes me think.

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Originally Posted by Kate Simmons

Do you want to be a girl or just look like one? ........... ;):battingeyelashes::)

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I would love to have been one.
My life would be so less confusing .... oh yes if I was a girl ... I would hope I looked like one also.

I would like to experience breast implants. If I can aford it, its done.
As long as I can remember, I liked to play roll playing games where I played a woman.
PS
Its really fun.

Definitely want to be a girl! A feminine, pretty girl!

yes..no...maybe...still working on that question

I can honestly say I would just like to look like a girl. Though tempting to be one. :devil:

I enjoy being male but like to dress up

Want to stay a man but it would be nice to be a woman a few days a month. To look down at real breast and you know would be great. I wouldn't trade being a man though. I love women to much to be one.

You know... It's interesting...
Yesterday I went to the CNE with my family (for non-Ontarians it's a big faire) and as we were walking around I was noticing how all of the women looked.

They didn't need any makeup, and very few even had any on but you knew they were women.
There was a few points where I felt really sad, not even jealous, just remembering my own image in the mirror and lamenting over my male features and the fact that save for thousands of dollars they're there for good.

Last night was the first time I really felt sad over my appearance being male, it's not about wanting to look like a girl - rather the fact I shouldn't have been born a man in the first place.
Mind you, my issues seem to go waaaay deeper than just that but I'm positive now it goes beyond temporary superficial changes.

All I can do now is continue my therapy and see what I need to do and which path I need to take to be happy.
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I feel the same as Kathyxd. I enjoy being a male but do like to dress up and I admire women a lot.

I just enjoy wearing the clothes and being feminine

Heres a sad sad story for you all. I was dating thjs girl and during that time i began crossdressing and then trusted her enough to tell her. We broke up a few weeks later needless to say.

Sometimes i wish i was a woman so i coukd feelbeautiful and bouncy and free and joyous. Woman dont understand the bondage of being a straight male. They get to jump around and act silly amd dress up and dress sexy a.d some women dont need to go to school or anything. take off your clothes and youll be making hubdreds of dollars an hour.

Also im so emotional and confused and anxious, i cam never be myself. But switching the sex will cost me a fortune and ill always know that in the back of my mind, that i was born a man and my body is that of man, with fake breasts and surgically man made vagina, ill never get to be a mother (not that i want to even be a father). If i win the lottery then sure as hell the first thing id do is move far away and get my breasts vagina and all that jazz. I would LOVE my life, but now as a boy i fear woman and I went through a stage where i hated women (before i started crossdressing) because they were what i wanted to be. Sexy sexy sexy sexy sexy sexy people. I love to feel pretty.

In conclusion ive recently decided i do want to be a woman, what i wanted was to feel pretty. The gym, diet and over the type (leaning towards metrosexual) will help me feel like a pretty man amd i will loce myself.

Until then i make a sexy girl :-)

I want to look like a beautiful woman all the time.

Presently, I enjoy just where I'm at....going out just about every weekend and being Kristina. Then I'm a guy the rest of the time.

I would love to feel what it's like to be a woman, emotionally and physically. At this point in my life, I would settle for being able to look like a woman, hopefully passing, but doubtful that could happen. I don't mind being a guy, sometimes it's easier...but still, the feeling of the clothes...the cut, the fit. I gotta have it once in a while to keep sane.

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I would love to feel what it's like to be a woman, emotionally and physically.

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Uhh................I wouldn't recommend it. (remember those monthly things):heehee:

Thera

Exactly, Marlana. Mostly I like to FEEL like a girl. The clothes/makeup/perfume/jewelry etc are the means to an end.

For now, I just want to look like one.

I have always dreamed of being a girl but it was never possible.I have a definitely masculine frame.

For me, I'm sorta in the middle. I'd love it if I looked more feminine overall; less body hair, softer facial features, and feminine arms, legs, and hips... But I also prefer having my current set of genitalia and I don't have any real desire to become an actual girl. Though I do wonder how things would have been different if I'd been born one, sometimes.

Really, I want to be a shapeshifter. That'd be pretty sweet.

I like being a man. I sometimes like dressing "like a woman" as it provides an associative outlet for my feminine expression. Not looking to favor one more than the other as they are both part of my gender continuum. Sorry if that comes across sounding all science class . . .

Just look like one and have the clothes. And feel like one sometimes.

There are times when I do want to be a girl, had I been smaller a had it been economically possible I would have wanted to transition early before marriage and family. But the economics would have forced me to wait until I was 60 with a wife I love and desire sexually. Someone in the thread jokingly mentioned shape-shifting, that would be my choice today for me and my wife to do some trade offs, I could learn to love boys and she girls?

I actually do want to be a girl, not just look like one. But only for a short period of time, that's why i settle on looking and feeling like one...

I only want to look like a girl. That makes me special feeling.

Simulating being a girl is unfulfilling, but actual transformation would completely disassemble my world.

If I had unlimited resources, would probably attempt to undergo transformation so that I could present as female. I would keep my genitalia though. It may leave me trapped in gender limbo, but it's been good to me over the years, and as Eeyore said, "...I'm sort of attached to it."

In the absence of that fantasy though, I'll settle for my closet, and frightened forays out into the world, and see where they lead me.