Outwardly, I'm about as straight as can be.
I do have a Bi past that my wife is scared of and would rather have me keep it in the past.
I have my fantasies. But I will remain faithful to my wife and live my life straight.
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Outwardly, I'm about as straight as can be.
I do have a Bi past that my wife is scared of and would rather have me keep it in the past.
I have my fantasies. But I will remain faithful to my wife and live my life straight.
Totally straight.
Im pretty much bi-curious while in guy mode. But im a straight person by core, i like to be dominated and protected but can't imagine myself having a long lasting relationship with men while in guy mode.
I consider myself BI, but with that said, I am only attracted to fem bois, CD/TGs, and women. Never could I be with a manly type of man, just doesn't do it for me.
I am a (somewhat) softer, feminine gay man who likes masculine men! I like hairy chests and deep voices ...sorry, that's just how I'm programmed!
Please don't be sorry, think of all those big hairy men and how disapointed they would be knowing you weren't into them! The wailing would be heard worldwide!:heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by maya1love
Been with one woman for ten years up until a couple of years ago but before that although mostly women there was the odd exception. These days my take on it is that anyone can fall in love or lust with anyone regardless. You never know what's around the corner. At the moment it's definitely girls for me be that gg or cd xx
Sexually, I'm only attracted to women. I've played with another CD or two, but just some light touching and exploring my curiosities. As for porn, I've gotten some good times from watching TS/She-male stuff. I especially like when a she-male is having sex with a woman. One of my big sexual attractions though is to women with large natural breasts. Only one place to find those.
totally bi for me, sexually male or female, or both.....
emotionally, could never have a love affair with a male..., just sex
most erotic experience in my life was with a female to male transgender...
he was totally passable as male, had breasts removed, was bald on top, and covered with hair,
was an awesome kisser !!! and one of the best partners I have ever experienced, not to mention he was just a real nice guy
This type of question doesnt make much sense to me as people change. Homo become hetero and vice versa and many just lose interest when they get older.
At the moment im not interested in people who look male apart from a CD accessory.
Like people who look female - could be Talisker, a GG or another CD.
Definitely straight here, nothing about men's bodies is attractive to me. But when I'm dressed I think about doing kinky stuff with the GF.. one day! :daydreaming: The idea of putting people into one of 2 buckets confuses me, everyone is different and there is a wide spectrum where you can feel most comfortable.
For now ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by PinkieM
I likewise always acted straight and went through all the usual phases. I started wearing a kilt here in Scotland when i was a boy of 6 and in my teens i knew I really liked it and i also liked to be in the company of other guys wearing kilts
It wasnt until recent years that I found that I got quite a few nice comments from gay guys who obviously liked to see me in my kilts and it surprised me that I was 'turned on' by this whether i liked it or not. The fact that I wear kilts most of the time now accounts for the fact that i get more interest from people who like a man in a kilt and its really nice.
I now have an open mind about what is sexually attractive to me and believe its the right way to be.
I have a few crossdresser friends here who love to go out with me in my kilts because they can dress as they wish and feel confident they arnt being stared at all the time.
I know I'm not a man but I wanted to add my two cents on this topic, as it's something I have questioned since I was a teen and have gone from thinking a was straight to maybe I am a lesbian, maybe bi, to this day I am still not 100 on it.
I met my future husband while I was a junior in high school and knew he was a cross dresser before we started dating. In the back of my mind I always questioned if being with a cd is my way of being "straight" while still having a relationship with a "girl. I don't know if I would say I am attracted to him when he is dressed but I do think he looks cute, and I sometimes find my self getting turned on watching him getting dressed.
I also like looking at pictures of cross dressers but I don't know on what level I like it if that makes sense lol. I don't know maybe I am bi or maybe just a straight girl who likes cds.
KatieGG,
Well, it sounds like maybe you both have the best of both worlds. Its no big deal to have the thoughts you have. I think it kind of spices things up. You and hubby are very lucky to have each other.
Cheers!
Laura
As the GG SO of a CD'er I am reading this thread with great interest! This really is my question regarding my SO. I know he is turned on by other CD'ers although he claims to be straight. I guess it is just confusing to me because I have only ever been attracted to males. I just don't understand; I am trying really hard to though. Thanks for your honesty.
I'm into feminine people and more open to exploring in girl mode.
I have never gave much thought to the straight/gay thing. I watch all kinds of porn, and by being on this forum, I am very much into crossdressing, although not as much as I used to be. I did have one experience with a guy in college. He was my roommate, and I knew from the beginning he was gay. He told me one night he had a crush on me, and tried to kiss me. That was crossing a line, and I told him so. He said he was sorry, and could he just lay beside me and hug me. I don't know why, but I said ok. To make a long story short, he ended up sucking and licking my nipples, and in the end preformed oral on me. I did nothing in return, and for the last 45 years, I have always wondered if I missed out on something. I consider myself straight, but there is that .5% that still wonders.
You know you're straight when....This is not to judge gay men. I love exploring my female inside, but together, from attending several gay weddings to being several times inappropriately touched by males, I know I am straight. It has been decades since I've had a man cut my hair. I am trying to make connections with gg's and I wonder what my physical response will be to being with a girl fully dressed.
I am attracted to all things feminine. I love women. I am not attracted to the male form at all. When I am dressed even I am not attracted to guys. However, an attractive cd/tv, I would be turned on. Am I bi? Maybe? I've been able to explore some in the past and I know what I like and what I dont. I just know I dont like regular masculine men.
I've read several times that the vast majority of crossdressers are straight. But straight while presenting in which gender mode? Where can a girl find statistics to support or to deny this claim?
It is my personal quest to have a GG friend and I wonder what my feelings will be in that scenario. I've had compliments from men while dressed and I liked the notes, but I was not interested beyond that. I've had compliments from other sister CD's, but they weren't particularly feminine or stylish looking so again, thanks for the compliments, but no interest. I wonder if a wonderfully styled CD made a comp.....
I just wonder if it's the image I enjoy or lifestyle..
For me, it's all about women, dressed or drab ... except when dressed I occasionally think it'd be nice to be appreciated by a man, held and complimented, but it's not a sexual attraction.
Interesting thread. I always saw myself as bisexual. When I was younger I was more attracted to girls although in fact my first big crush was on a classmate called Paul. But had many crushes on girls too. Indeed as a young teenager I decided that my crossdressing was some form of attempt to get close to girls by dressing as one. Yet even then I would lay in my bed fervently wishing I would wake up in the morning as a girl. Such was the convoluted logic that existed in my mind at that time in the seventies.
But I was comfortable with my bisexuality and never felt gay. If anything I rationalised that my interest in some guys was down to my lack of any sexual experience. I thought that in all probability I was really straight with a twist.
My first sexual experience was in my thirties with a man and I was dressed as a woman. After that it was sporadic and rare. I did have a short gay affair but when I introduced my female side it ended. I was 42 before I had sex with a woman and she remains the first and probably last. If you went to court with that evidence the jury would have no trouble finding me gay as charged.
But in reality I'm bi. But I do think that if I transitioned I would probably be a straight woman. I'm perfectly comfortable with that.
I was interested in the original post particularly where the homophobes tended to react to gay porn. I've long believed that the majority of homophobes are either gay or bisexual but have repressed it and express homophobic attitudes to protect themselves. As Shakespeare or somebody once said: 'They doth protest too much.' I always believe that anyone who thinks you can choose to be gay or bisexual must have chosen not to be. I didn't choose to be this way and I'm sure most of you out there didn't either.
One of life's ironies
"Is it still about the clothes then?" I think you have hit upon a serious element there. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder can explain that you are more enamored by the clothing than by the gender. If you identify the clothing as the sexual stimulus then the gender remains neutral. We tend to identify the female sex by the way they dress, not necessarily by the way they look. We, as males, are visually stimulated. That manifests itself as dressed vs. non-dressed. If a man dresses as a woman, and commits the same sexual acts, we can identify that man as being feminine, even though he is anatomically a man. Furthermore, I think that fantasy plays a role in gender reversal for us cross-dressers. Whether it be in fantasy or reality depends on how far a person is willing to take it.
I'm definitely straight. Sometimes I think how can a woman even want to be with man when women are just so much more attractive.
There have been lots of interesting responses to the original post, that's for sure. It got me to thinking about exactly what was being tested & measured, especially via penile response. One might say that what turns you on is an indicator of how you feel about your sexuality but I don't think it would include the fantasy vs. reality factor.
If I were to see a very attractive female, I may be very well turned on by her image. If, later I discovered that she had that little something extra, I'm sure that the attraction would diminish considerably. Then there are things that I may or may not think about that might be stimulating that I'd not take part in in reality. So I'm not sure if that would tell the whole story... of if anything could tell it.
I'd think that would be the same thing if one were to judge one's likelihood to cheat on his/her spouse/significant other by checking their reaction to heterosexual porn. A lot of people would react to watching various porn scenes of fantasies that they may have but that doesn't mean that they would actually take part in those same things even if they had the chance.
Me? Not much interest in anything or anyone other than the lady I've shared my life with for all of these years.
Lacy PJs
Lacyfem - this post is the sum of all married women to CD's nightmares!!! Please leave her so that she can have a relationship that she deserves with honesty and intimacy! So po'd !Quote:
Originally Posted by Lacyfem
Rant over My husband is bi, and I've indulged this side of him by giving him freedom to experiment when away on trips, and other play. Sometimes though this side of him can make me feel less than desirable to be honest. When those doubts surface, my fantasies concern trading him in for a more 'normal' male. But there is the little problem of loving him...
Wow, this thread has legs, and hopeful really shapely cute ones! Anyway I've always identified as bi because I loved having sex with men when I was much younger, much more than I did with women. When I was in my twenties that changed and I actually have not had sex with a man in about thirty years. But how else could I identify myself but as bi? Plus I really don't think that what people have between their legs is what makes them attractive. I mean I like genitals but I like the rest of people a great deal more.
I personally am attracted to femininity, the genitalia doesnt matter to me but the femininity does. Although i have never experimented with anyone other than a GG i would say im open.
I consider myself straight. At least 99%. I have had one same sex encounter when I wanted to find out if I was gay at 21. Went all the way. It seemed mechanical, was enjoyable, but just didn't do it for me. Haven't done it again. I do fantasize about it at times but I'm always a woman, never a man with a man. I am also not attracted to men in general. I don't check them out. I check out women all the time, desiring them or wanting to be them interchangeably. But, 2-3 times in my 50 years, I did meet the gaze of a man and was seriously attracted to him. That was mind-boggling. That's why I say 99% and not 100%.
To quote the wonderful Eddie Izzard... I'm a, "Lesbian trapped in a mans body!" :o
Sexually I am straight as an arrow , solely heterosexual with a great love & respect for the female body . Maybe that explains why I love to dress as a woman. How crazy are we to love the female body & want to dress en femme ? Peace, mel
I identify as pansexual. I'm attracted to all sorts of people and my preferences change over time.
I think I prefer other mtf crossdressers but there's a lot of other kinds of people I'm open to.
I have been monogamous with my girl for (most of, sorry) 25 years. I recently got permission for a boytoy.Quote:
Originally Posted by devida
You like what you like. You promise what you promise. What you find hot and who you sleep with are different things.
<3
- MM
I'm so straight that I live 24/7 as a female( I've been doing that for about 10 years and have a steady BF.
Since I have started to embrace crossdressing more I have been finding out that things are changing for me, I am mostly attracted to women but also I am finding out I am attracted to other crossdressers.
I guess that I am attracted to beautiful CDers, but I think
it's because of how much they succeed at
looking feminine. I'm always wishing I could
be that sexy.
I've been married 42 years and can only fantasize
about sex with anyone else. My wife loves me for who
I am and I return that love.
This a somewhat difficult question. I absolute love women, always have, and always will. When it comes to men, I don't find any of them attractive. However, and this is what I mean when I said difficult, I find what's between their legs attractive. I don't look at any faces or bodies, and get turned on or want to please any of them. But when I see what's being packed, it's a different story. That's probably why I love transsexual porn, which I find the absolute best of both worlds. So if you had to pigeonhole it, I'd guess I'd have to say I'm bi, although I could never date a man, even if I was living fulltime as how I feel inside. Now someone else like me would be perfect.
LOL I'm not! I am a Freak! I have to say that after a lot of thought I would have to say that I am a Straight Guy and a BiSexual Woman, depending on which role I am in, though sexually I prefer to be in the female role. Now I do have to put out a disclaimer, and that is that although I have found I love to suck **** and be well, Taken... I am in a monogamous relationship with a woman that I Love so I will gladly forgo the former because I have a wonderful relationship, as for the latter... Well lets just say that my wife finds it a turn on to put me in my place ;-) so we both get the best of both worlds!
I've reached a point in my dressing where I'm comfortable with who I am. I am attracted to women, not men. But I am also very attracted to crossdressers who are fully dressed up. Where that puts me in the spectrum of straight, who knows.
Well... I don't like this question lol. I don't like labeling myself because I don't know if any of them really fit me. Bi would be the closest, but I am not sexually attracted to men at all. I can appreciate if a man is handsome in a suit or something, but that's more of a respect factor than a "oh, I'd sure like to sleep with that guy." I'm completely attracted to the female form. I looooove boobies :P. I have had a few same sex encounters, mostly due to curiosity and confusion (before I found this forum and found that there were more people like me, my CDing threw me through a loop, it seemed like a "gay" thing to do so I wondered if I was gay... Youthful ignorance). Said encounters were primarily oral, but I did bottom once. It was okay, I didn't dislike it necessarily, but I wasn't in love with it or anything. Bottoming felt good, but many a straight male like their prostates stimulated so... Though I do have to admit, I've never been with a guy dressed and that has always been a fantasy of mine, but I don't think I'll act on it. I'd rather spend my time looking for a GF than same sex one night stand.
Tough this one. I love all things female. I do know that my first choice would to be in a long term "lesbian" relationship. However there are "those times" when the feminizing is so complete one longs for the "total pictue" to be realised. Tough this one...
I'm right there with Beverly also
I don't consider myself gay. Not at all. BUT, I don't know what I would call myself. To me, straight does not exist. Gay does not exist. No person can safely say they would only be attracted to one's sex. I believe you fall in love with the person instead of what they identify as. Whether that person is a man or woman should not matter. If the feelings float in your heart for them, then go for it.
I will put it this way. I have not seen a man that I have found attractive. I have seen plenty of women I find attractive. I have also seen some women with something extra that I found attractive too. I guess I am a little out of the ordinary.
-I have never looked at or thought of a guy in an erotic way.
-I wished I was born a woman, but I enjoy being a man too.
-I look at women on the street all the time. Sometimes I want a woman so much it hurts. I have also realized that maybe this happens because I am also jealous of them, of how provocative and sexy they can be in public. I wish I could walk around wearing a semi-transparent spandex, but only if I had a woman's curves. If I did it now, as a guy, I would feel ridiculous.
Confusing? Yes.
Frustrating? No. I don't care what I "kind" am. I am all the above.
Similar to what others have shared, I am attracted to women, and when I look at a guy, I do not have any sexual attraction. But when I am dressed and imagining myself being a women, I am turned on by sexual thoughts of being with a guy, but it is all centered around the sexual pleasure - I do not even picture the rest of their body! I equally fantasize about being with a women when I am dressed.
I have no desire for a man, love the ladys. But like so many others I do enjoy the attractive transgender person.
Pretty damn straight. No interest in men whatsoever! But like you I like to see what other guys look like dressed up. It's a comparison thing and I also like to get ideas of what I might want to wear.
Being completely honest, I'd say I'm bisexual but homoromantic. I like the physical appearance of females and things, but I'm really only romantically attracted to males.
i would say i am bi ,but more like the female form and dont care about what there genitals are .like the male body to look at and be sexual with,but the though of kissing a male doesnt do much