Be Careful What You Wish For

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Originally Posted by Marcie4you

I'm SO sorry. I know that doesn't help. My wife left in 2007 for a real man, I almost prefer she died, as then I could still love her......Hang in there, the hurt, will soften a little with time......

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Just because I like to wear "girl" clothes doesn't make me any less of a "Real Man"

A Real Man, keeps the vows he made at his wedding
A Real Man, loves his children, no matter what
A Real Man, provides for his family
A Real Man, cares for his wife, ... no matter what
A Real Man, stands tall and is proud of his accomplishments
A Real Man, is ready to help a neighbor in need
A Real Man, is confident in himself
A Real Man, is able to express himself and allow himself to be emotional
A Real Man, understands the world does not revolve around him
A Real Man, is willing to do whatever it takes to protect his family
A Real Man, will look a person straight in the eye and speak the truth

Yeah, I can "fem" it up with the best of 'em and I like to do that, ... but, I always remember who and what I am, no matter the clothing I wear.

Sorry I missed this thred phyliss.

Firstly sorry to hear your very sad news, and yes your right, many of us have those sort of wishes, although I have to be honest and say I feel I'm one of the lucker ones.

Firstly I'm lucky enough to be one of those that can drive my dressing, rather than it drive me, ie I can go with out dressing every minute of my life, and i'm able to spend prolonged periods of not dressing, until I want/am able to dress. (ie I control it, not it controls me)

Secondly I'm lucky enough to have a partner who knows about Tracy and we can talk. I think we both would agree to difficulty between us because of my dressing, but all the same, I wanted her to know about all of me, over just painting her an outer shell and presenting that as me, with out telling her fully about me totally. At least there are times we can talk about it, but having a partner that knows, doesn't mean having a partner that partake, or encourages.

You now have a very different live ahead of you Phyliss, and I wish you well, losing a loved one is always very difficult, which is why we should always grab good times and remember them with affection, to have been together nearly 39 years means no matter what life threw at you, you both meant a lot to each other, and therefore I hope you new life journey is as good as clearly your life together was, to have been together for so long.

keep well phylis, and all the very best at this sad time.

Oh Phyliss...I'm sooo sorry to hear for your loss....I can't imagine. I certainly don't hope that you blame yourself in any indirect way sweetheart...You know...if she truly loved you, which I'm sure she did...she must be at peace with your lifestyle now. You have lots of friends here, and we'll be here for you if you need to talk...ok? Please, feel free to write me if you need someone to talk to..ok? Please hang in there sweetie! Christine

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Accept my sincerest sympathy.

Where does the soul go? Some say Heaven, Some say other places. When I look up to the sky on a Glorious clear night and see the myriads of stars, too many to even be counted, and I think of all who have lived on this earth, too may to be counted. I cannot escape the thought, that maybe the soul becomes a star, ever burnig bright. A guide in the night. Could this be true, will we ever know for sure. Likely not. But it gives me great solice to contemplate this thought on a clear evening when I think of friends and family members who are with us not. Just pick a star for your wife to be and she will forever guide you through eternity.

God Bless you BOTH!

Paula

Dear Phyllis, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you have plenty of good memories to keep you going until you are reunited.:hugs:

Phyliss, I'm very sorry for your loss. After more than 38 years together I just can't imagine your pain! Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this most difficult time.