Take Two Gender Aspirin and Call Me in the Morning
Gender is a formal and functional characteristic. It’s descriptive, prescriptive, and subscriptive. It describes us, is prescribed for us, and we subscribe to our own personal versions of it. The prescriptive element of gender identification and behavior doesn’t tell the whole story. In fact, it doesn’t even tell the most important part of the story. The combination of gender identification and behavior is primarily descriptive. It describes how we self-identify and want to be socially-identified. It describes how we self-direct our behavior and want it to be socially-directed.
I suppose it’s possible for a happy masculine boy to grow up to be an unhappy masculine man, but it isn’t clear why this would cause him to retreat into feminine behavior. If boyish or adolescent masculinity was satisfying then why not return to it or never leave it for gender identification and expression purposes? Furthermore, there are numerous ways to express mannish or adult masculinity. Why reject it categorically for a feminine identity and feminine behavior? If some masculine boys can become feminine as they mature, perhaps there are developmental reasons that deserve biological investigation. The social conditioning argument for this type of conversion seems pretty queer to me.
People who can’t recognize significant differences between and within groups of cisgender and transgender people are not very observant. Gender inequalities exist but they do not justify the creation of social inequalities.