Ugh! While at my inlaws, my wife just stumbled across picks of me dolled up

I show my gf my pics--the ones I'm the most proud of where I look fabulous haha!--and she just gives me that 'oh brother' look. I just smile because I know if she thought they were hideous she'd have NO problem letting me know that. So I know she thinks I look pretty and/or sexy. Either way--be proud and love yourself. That is what it's all about.

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And Judy...I think you are beautiful. Very nice smile. Very feminine. I have very little body hair too. Thank you heavens above! Getting dolled and looking halfway decent is hard enough without dealing with that nightmare. Lol

Nikki, a disappointing but not surprising result i'm guessing. Just keep plugging away....

If everything goes accordingly (and so often it doesn't), I have a makeover tomorrow with my beautiful friend at a wig boutique I frequent occasionally. I'm excited to see if she can do my makeover better than me...I do have lots and lots of practice. But, who knows...maybe she can help me to look my best! I wish I had a gorgeous gown to wear but alas I don't have one. Hope everything goes as planned and I have another story to share with everyone. xxx Nikki

One of my girlfriends didn't see my update on another thread about my further talk with the Mrs about my pics. So, here's a complementary update. I talked to my wife about the photos a second time and she again mentioned that she thought I was prettier than her. I explained that it was the power of makeup. I do wear a lot of makeup...I'm totally intrigued by the stuff! My wife wear's very little makeup. She's so much the tom boy and I'm the complete opposite. I think that's a bit funny if you ask me. I could tell she didn't want to discuss the pics anymore than that. So, I ended the conversation at that point. I do wish she'd look at more of my pics in my "girl mode." Maybe sometime in the future. But, I think she's a bit on the defensive especially with her thinking I look pretty. xxx Nikki p.s. if you have any other questions just fire away! And I just got back from my makeover. Shortly, I'll share how it went and what I learned.

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Well, I learned some fantastic makeup tips during the makeover. But, I didn't like the overall look. We experimented with colors that simply didn't suite me. So, I'm transforming myself as we speak applying the tips that my friend/makeup artist shared with me.

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I NEVER wear hose to hid my leg hair. I don't have any, leg hair that is, but I do wear hose to help hide scratches, bruises, and scars.

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I'm also fortunate. I do not have any hair follicles on the back of my legs or my thighs. The front of my legs are almost bare also. I wear shorts all year along due to the discomfort of peripheral neuropathy. Several years ago my daughter who was in her early 30's was sitting across from me, and, asked if I shaved my legs. I asked her if this was the first time she noticed I had no hair on my legs. Yep, over thirty years and finally she noticed. I explained the lack of hair follicles. When en femme I always wear hosiery, and, that includes when I'm en femme in the summer. Typically a warm day around here in the summer it's in the 70's with low humidity.

Nikki, I would suggest you ask your wife to start looking at the legs of men when you're out. I see many men who have a minimal amount of leg hair or no leg hair. It is especially true among older men. And, if you are diabetic or pre-diabetic the chances are you're going to naturally have less hair.

My wife knows I do not shave my legs. She hates me that I have no leg hair. Worse than that is the fact I also never have had underarm hair. Hear her and other women rant about shaving legs and underarms....wow! Many women like their men to have smooth bare skin. Others like their men hairy.

My personal opinion is your wife needs to re-evaluate her position. She is afraid of societal norms and expectations. She is more afraid of what other think than what makes you comfortable. Maybe all your wife needs to do is to tell nosy relatives that SHE likes her man to have a totally shaved smooth body. If she really wants to shock them, then as she is saying that she can run her hands sensuously over your cheeks and chin! :)

Nikki, in your 1-4-17 post, you commented,
"As I commented in my first post to this thread, she did quickly mention that she thought I looked prettier than her. Hopefully, in talking to her further I'll learn that she made that comment because I wear a lot of makeup, and pretty dresses. You see, she really doesn't like makeup or wearing dresses for that matter. She's a tough as nails girl who doesn't get all caught up in fashion and the like."

Here's a thought .. AFTER you've taken her to a nice dress shop and purchased a pretty one for her, take her for a makeover. Let her become really pretty. She will probably love the results. Tell her she's your arm candy as you walk with her.

Jenny,

Thank you for the suggestion. I'm afraid it wouldn't work for my situation. My wife is really not into makeup. She's beautiful but simply will rarely apply it. And she's most comfortable in a t-shirt and jeans. In our walk-in closet, I own more dresses than she does. And she rarely wears the dresses she has. It's really too funny how I'm the "girly girl" of our home! Now, if I buy her a puppy she'll likely let me do just about anything I want...mmm, I'll need to give that some serious consideration! lol

xxx Nikki

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Hi Judy,

You're so beautiful...I'm quite confident that your wife would very surprised and probably not very happy to see how stunning you are when transformed into your feminine self.

xxx Nikki

Don't know if you have thought about it, but could be the combination of dress and high contrast makeup is too much. Have you tried dress with subtle makeup.

Could it be the long hair, have you tried bob styles?

Sometimes SO want to see party styles only and hate the look of natural female, while others want only natural and no party.

Have you any clue as to which types of presentations are definite no-no's and which might have less charge for her?

I have an idea that might help. Why not show her all your pics and ask her to pick out her favorite? Then post that one here so we can all see it!

Girlfriends, you guys are providing some many different ways to proceed...I'm getting confused as to which way would work best. I just know I have to engage my wife more fully with my feminine side. I would like her to embrace me totally...but, i think that's asking too much! ugghh

OMG!
Nikki, I hope that everything turns out o.k..
Hugs,
Bree ;)

I reviewed your pictures with the blue dress with and without corset. Most of GG would envy your figure.
If your wife like t-shirt, trousers and it is undergoing some steroids treatment, she can be frightened to be the male of the relationship...or to be too attracted to your female persona...who knows?

Nikki , I always contend seeing a therapist and finding a path to the truth with you mate is the best. Good luck!

My wife continually shares that her self-esteem suffers because she's struggling to lose weight. She knows that many consider women to be attractive when they are thin. I encourage her not to feel that way. Recently, I explained to my wife that my self-esteem doesn't suffer at all from my feminine ways and spirit. In fact, I brought to her attention that I actually feel special and better about myself because of my inner feminine soul. It makes me such a better person...more compassionate and understanding than I would ever be without that part of me. Now, my wife's response to when I said I feel special was a bit surprising...she just said, "that's neat." I don't know if it's helping with her poor self-esteem...I'll need to ask.

weight lose>> When Mom's not happy , no one is happy >>so help mom be happy!
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lots of reading to do there....but I think there may be something to the idea of gut bacteria having way more of an impact on the rest of us than we might have been able to believe. if you have not tried apple cider vinegar with the "mother" used in salads.. I 'v lost a bit o weight ....and its really the only thing different that i can think of ??
I t may be anecdotal but, a qt has lasted me over 2 months so its a a cheap try !

The Mrs wasn't too happy the other day and started to get after me a little bit about my dressing. I wasn't in the best mood either. She began saying, "I let you do your thing blah, blah, blah..." I don't even remember what got each of us in a bit of a tiz...but, I know it was something petty. We quickly made up (as in forgave each other...not gave each other a makeover...though I wish!!) to each other...and then she gave me a special value twin pack of Neutrogena makeup remover towelettes she had bought for me! This life isn't easy and I wish my wife would fully embrace and even enjoy my feminine side. But, I have no business complaining.

Last year my wife relented and was ok with me shaving my legs in the Fall. So, October is right around the corner. Hopefully, she'll be fine with me shaving my legs again. I've been hating these hairy legs for the past many, many months!

Until recently, I've been a bit down since my wife has again turned down my ask to shave my legs. She wants me to wait until after the holidays...so, another long month of misery...:(

I have a sweet and funny story...which has greatly improved my mood. Two days ago while my wife and I lay upon our bed together, she was her usual perceptive self realizing I was too quiet and was slipping into my occasional sulky, pouty mood. She quickly brought to my attention that I needed some time to be my feminine self and told me to go get dressed. I commented that it was too much work getting ready which sent my wife into immediate and utter hysterics with the loudest chuckling and laughter I've heard from her in our more than 30 years together. Now, we have a good laugh on a regular basis but this time it was beyond the realm of what we've ever experienced before. Her laughter was contagious and I joined her laughing to the point of crying. I asked her what she was laughing about (I had a pretty good idea what it was - and I was right). She replied she has long knew from experience that painting on a full face takes a tremendous amount of time, energy and effort. Good reasons she says to me regularly as to why she rarely wears makeup herself. And having seen pics of me in full glam mode (to include those difficult to affix false eyelashes along with tight-lining, face-taping and contouring) and how long I spend getting ready in our bathroom she more than readily appreciates the amount of work entailed. So, there I was commenting on the obvious that it took too much work to dress up and yet there she was knowing that I always like seeing her dressed up despite the fact she's always told me it's too much effort to pretty herself up. Compounding everything is her knowledge that beyond the cosmetics, I have a penchant for pantyhose, girdle, 3-4 inch heels, hip pads, corset, body briefer, tight dress, full head of hair, etc, etc, etc. What a wonderful experience is was for us to have a ridiculously long bout of laughing and chuckling together about my feminine side...it was a priceless moment that we'll remember and cherish for the rest of our lives! Nikki

That is so wonderful!!!!!!!!!

Lovely story Nikki, thanks for sharing. You are very lucky to have such an encouraging wife.

My wife is back home and I just summoned up the nerve to again ask her to allow me to shave my legs...she replied not to ask her right now...but I just did! Ugh! I cannot help myself...I'm asking her again later today...I'm just sick, sick, sick of all this hair!

Nikki

I think you should ask a different question.

Ask your wife when the right time will be to have a proper discussion about your situation.

I politely asked my wife again if I may shave my legs...SHE SAID YES as long as I allow the hair to immediately grow back...I've decided to wait another day and ask her again just to be sure before I go ahead and remove all this unwanted hair! I cannot believe she actually said YES! Wow...I'm just so happy! :)

Again I wanted to reply with a PM, but you are too popular. Everybody loves their Nikki!

All my pix are taken and uploaded to my Dropbox that is under Leah’s e-mail address. Dropbox is password protected too.
But that is a fear of mine, not deleting a pic or not clearing the browser history and getting caught and out myself.

As for the legs, I just tore my ACL and have to wear a brace that makes my leg so hot! I’ve told my wife I may shave my leg hair and then I’ll tell her I have to do the whole leg so I won’t look ridiculous and then gotta do both for the same reason. LOL
I wonder if that will work