A Question.....

I never really thought about it before,that said...I hat that we (cd'rs)are looked upon as sexual deviants,perverts. I hate that I have to hide who I am in fear of violent reprisal from some pathetic bigotry. I hate the confusion that comes with Cding and I supose the guilt,knowing who I am and what I want and being frightened of it,then perhaps its not knowing but rather a certain sence of uncertainty(refering to the depth of my trnsgenderedness)the fear that I may someday find that I am not just TG but TS,NO offense ladies theres nothing wrong with being TS its just I'm uncertain how that would work with my wife who I love dearly.I love who I am and hate that I/we cannot be accepted for who we are rather than judged for what we wear,how we present ourselves.

what i hate hate living different lives i thing I'm up to a bout 4 now. I have the true life with my dearest wife that i cant say enough about who loves me no matter what theirs the life with my kids 18 and 21 thats kind messed up from tying to hide what i am and to be a love father but its hard to sort through the feelings so you fall short. then theirs the work life were you have to be the manly man and I'm in construction. Then try to have friends in male mode which is even harder and then theirs family were do you fit in and it does not end every relation ship is a problem all in it self dressing is easy i love it all it keeps us from true life and joy i wish i was a man or a women being stuck in the middle is tough thanks for letting me vent.
Jessie

I dislike that it is so taboo. Why we just can't be pretty men and not have to worry about "Passing." The whole deception thing that is forced upon us because of societies unacceptance. In order to go out dressed many of us have to appear the woman or face the consequences. I dislike the whole cloak and dagger aspect of cding. Hopefully with time and the great heroes we have out there plugging along this will change.

10. My 40 something belly.

9. Hiding my clothes, shoes, & make-up.

8. Window shopping with peripheral vision.

7. Sore feet from wrong size heels and shoes because I buy them without trying them on in the store.

6. Not contacting fellow cross dressers to share our life.

5. Five o'clock shadows.

4. Not being able to shave my girly areas.

3. Not having perfect hair (or wig).

2. Being a scourge to society and a disappointment to my wife.

1. Enjoying my time on this forum and having to hit the "boss key" because someone is coming.

Kathleen

I'm with Karren....I'm having too much fun CDing to "hate" any aspect of it. But, I have to admit it's annoying when a phony nail falls off and I can't find it.... ARRRRRG. And, I've gotten so used to sneaking around, it's sort of become part of the fun.
I do empathize with those of you whose CDing has caused a rift in your relationship or broken up a family...that has to be the thing to hate the most about CDing.

Vikki

is the learning curve for both the CDer and their partner can be so painful. The jouney toward self acceptance and mutual support can be a long bumpy road to travel.


Louise (GG)

What I hate about crossdressing is that:

I have to hide it and sometimes feel ashamed of it;

Sometimes it causes problems with the wife. I think because she is afraid I'll get caught and that she doesn't really know how far I might get into it and where that might take me; and,

I hate that I have to hide it.


Dressing makes me feel good, makes me feel whole.

I hate feeling guilty about wanting to wear girly clothes when I do the world no harm

I hate the fact that even some other CDs judge you on how well you pass, when sometimes I don't care and just want to wear a dress , tights and heels etc

Sometimes I do want to pass, but not all the time and I hate having to be what other people expect me to be, I just want to relax and be whoever I feel like at the time

I hate going out dressed and having to worry about other peoples reactions and having to be extra vigilent incase someone wants to beat me up because they feel threated by me

I hate hiding this part of myself from my wife, even though I know she has very strong suspicions and know deep inside, I also know she doesn't want to know and would in an ideal world like to be able to share things more.

I hate people assuming I'm gay just because I can be a little camp and yes I like wearing womens clothes

I hate the double standards where women have 'boy cut' jeans and 'boy pants', but for a man to anything remotely unmasculine and you're either gay or a freak

Arrrrrgh I'll stop now before I go off on a rant

If you don`t mine i will change my wording to dislike as i have the word hate reserved for a few special people,
i dislike my self for not doing it when i was younger as i think that i would have looked more girlie then and got away with going out dressed as a girl,
i dislike myself for not having the guts to go to a club or some where c/d friendly,
i dislike it when some one starts chatting to you and all they are thinking about is meeting you for sex,
i dislike it that society will not accept people for what they are because they are a bit different to some ,
but most of all i dislike my self for all the hard times that i have put my children through as i know they have suffered because of my c/d,ing.
joanne f

I the fear of disclosure and the hurt that my wife would suffer if she discovered my secret. I the fear that I would lose my wife. I the lost time that is spent hiding my clothes. Since I can't dress when I please, I the mental effort that could be spent on other concerns instead of planning my next dressing session. I the feeling that there is some flaw in me that makes me do this.
Debra

I hate, the fact that I could lose my job because of it.

I hate, that if I am ever successful for doing good deeds I could face the real defacement of all good deeds done by me just because of my history of liking to wear womens clothing.

I hate, the looks of going thru a womens clothing store or area of a store for women like the cosmetics or clothing areas and you get looks as if you are some type of criminal or dangerous person as it gets every womens attention on some level like I have crossed an unwelcome boundry.

I hate, how I have to hide my things if friends come over.

I hate, I only feel comfortable wearing clothing outside under the cover of darkness in an automobile.

I hate, the fact that I feel more like a woman inside than a man and I can't freely express that and still be respected as an intelligent human being instead I am treated with suspicion and disgust and share a similar kind of treatment a child molester would get by society and I wonder if we did a national study what would the general populace feel more uncomfortable with; a crossdresser or a child molester.
I bet it would be closer than I care for even though one is totally harmless and probably a more nurturing individual who wants to protect children more so than most and desires to be positive to society than the average person is to their fellow brother's and sister's and the later of the two is a proven individual who is actually opposite by being destructive and disrespectful to others

I don't like that it can be such a "big deal" with some people, when most
people don't care.

What I dislike the most is having outgrown my teenage body, not the
youth so much as the size and having peach fuzz for body hair.

I won't say the word hate, but sometimes it is such a bother getting ready and all the necessary preperation required. In the end it is all worth it and Cinderella's night comes to a quick end.