Dressing yourself vs. Being dressed by another.

Hi this is paula i woued to have someone dress me up it would be areal turn on

Turn-on? Perhaps. However, I feel that sometimes there is something much more gratifying - more fulfilling - than mere sex. Do we dress because we want release (read into that what you will), or do we dress because we find release?

Personally, I dress to fulfill a desire that is inside me. A desire to prove to myself and to others that what I feel inside is real. I'm not saying I'm a woman inside, although there are those among us in these forums. I'm saying (or at least trying to - it's late :)) that there is a part of me that craves to be out among the public. My male side doesn't seem to crave validation. My female side, however, does. I love the compliments. I love the jaws dropping when they realize I'm not a woman. To me, that means that - at least for a tiny bit - someone saw me the way I see myself inside.

As I said earlier, having a woman help with dressing, and actually caring about the result as much as I did would be the ultimate validation to me.

Am I making sense here at 1:00 in the morning? :confused:

Kathi

[QUOTE=As I said earlier, having a woman help with dressing, and actually caring about the result as much as I did would be the ultimate validation to me.

Am I making sense here at 1:00 in the morning? :confused:

Kathi[/QUOTE]

Kathi, it makes sense to me at any time of the day or night. Those of us that are heterosexual males surely seek the validation of a GF.

I absolutely love it when my girlfriend gets involved with my crossdressing. A few months ago, she decided to take me to victoria's secret and she bought me tons of panties and lingerie and a couple new bras. For christmas she got me a gift card for VS, so we went again. It was really fun. then when we got home she picked out what I was going to wear and helped me get dressed in it. I had never been so turned on in my entire life. Now its starting to become a pretty ritual thing for her to pick out girly things for me to wear on my days off from work. I guess it comes down to the fact that I wish I had been dressed as a girl when I was a little boy, so having a female dress me now is kinda like that. It gets even better when she tells me i've been a good little girl. I love that :)

For me I have always wanted my wife to dress me. Personally it would be the ultimate for me. I guess that it is the kinky role play that in my mind that I have tried to convince her of for some time now. She has only helped in a small way in the past. Been about 5 years now.

I join all those who would find it the ultimate in loving acceptance if my wife were interested and even turned on by dressing me and doing my nails and makeup. Unfortunately, I have to settle for her allowing me to do it myself or to get a makeover.

I think that dressing or undressing someone else or being dressed or undressed by someone else can be a very sexy experience. It doesn't really depend on whether or not it's being crossdressed, as far as I'm concerned.

I'm gonna go with the "validation" response that seems to have been quite popular since this thread started. The erotic or control issues of having someone dress me wouldn't be a big deal, but the very fact that the other person takes such an active interest in the dressing... that, as they say, is priceless.

Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful beyond words for a wife who understands and accepts my crossdressing, but it's also something she's not a part of, like the way I don't forbid her from listening to Neil Sedaka but I would also rather poke my eardrums out with rusty nails than have to listen to him with her. So if she actually showed interest to the point of wanting to dress me up herself, that would bring me complete validation. Heck, I'd go to a Sedaka concert with her to return the favor!

Well, maybe not.

ralph

When I first started it was wonderful to be dressed by someone else, It was the excitement of dressing, being accepted, and loved at the same time. Not in an overly sexual or kinky way, but putting myself completely in the hands of a good friend (gg) was very liberating. For her it was great fun as well as an act of compassion. we remain very close girlfriends today but she no longer dresses me. The more confident I became as Daphne there was little need for her to dress me. So to answer your question I would say, yes I would like to feel those feelings again however, If I asked Kim to dress me today she would but it would have little if any emotional benefit. I don't like to think of myself as Barbie doll.

I suspect she feels the same way.

I hope this helps

I could not imagine anything more loving than being helped into my femme clothes by my wife. In fact the very idea has my mind reeling.

Lots of people have mentioned the level of acceptance this would signify. I think that for me it would go far beyond that, because being dressed is something that only the closest people do for another person, and it happens so rarely for any man it would bound, I would have thought, to be very special.

Little boys are far less independent than girls, though they invariably deny it! Girls, on the whole, are able to dress themselves – and take pride in the fact – long before boys get it right.

Part of the intimacy in a relationship, surely, is helping your g/f or wife do up her bra or that difficult-to-reach zip?

To have the favour returned would be so wonderful, I can hardly bear thinking about it.

There are other aspects to this, too.

I have recurrent back problems. It has sometimes been so bad that I cannot bend down to put my socks on and have needed my wife's help. That is about as unsexy as you could hope for.

Change the situation, though, and imagine her helping me with stockings and, perhaps, a garter belt and the blood pressure goes through the roof.

To think of her helping to smooth down a whispy light silk slip that she has just helped me into again, is a hugely attractive thought. Hell, my glasses are steaming up at the idea.

To take the concept to its logical end, and see us spending an evening together with me en-femme and having helped each other dress and make-up, would be the huge fun of taking it all off again!

Oh dear, Paige, what have you started!

Seriously, though, it would go far beyond the erotic!

I was once driving a female colleague to an appointment. We were stuck in traffic for ages, and when we saw the cause for the delay, it was very sad.

A large labrador dog had been knocked down and was lying by the side of the road, with lots of people, including the distraught owner, gathered round.
We did not deliberately look, but were unavoidable witnesses. I felt sad for everybody involved, as anyone might, but we got on our way after the delay and the event passed.

A little later, though, my colleague lit up a cigarette and, without asking, started one off for me, too, so as not to distract me.

When she handed it to me the kindness of this brought me to tears, and I found myself sobbing. In what would otherwise have been a potentially rather boring journey, my unexpected and completely spontaneous but delayed reaction to the injured or dead animal, really opened things up. We had a great trip, and became real friends.

On completely the other side of the coin, during my college years I had to find temporary holiday jobs and one year a friend offered me work in an Old People's Home. They were caring for disabled ex-servicemen with a huge range of difficulties.

I was very nervous about how I would cope, looking after such vulnerable old men, but the job included accommodation and keep, so it was too good to turn down.

Having to provide such basic care for some of these men – to the extent of helping them dress, wash and groom themselves and help them with the most basic bodily functions, was an eye-opening and humbling experience.

So – being dressed, or helped to do so, is a hugely significant thing to me and would express so much that I wish I could be with my wife!

Sorry for going on, but it is such a wonderful idea!

A few factors affect how the being dressed by another would feel. I f this were my wife and she was doing this in an accepting and sincere way it would be mind blowing (she doesn't know about this). If it were done by her but in a way as to try to dicourage the behavior it would be bad. If the situation is that my dresser is a third pary who will choose and decide what is best and how I should look then that would also be a positive experience.
The one plus to having someone else dress us is that we lose the responsibility of the action which can remove the guilt. I will often let nail techs choose my nail color, allow a makeup artist to select my look, let a hairstylist design my hairstyle or rely on an SA to make the final choice of two outfits. I find doing these things does make me feel better. i hope this helps.

I do not think I would like for someone else to dress me, but would leally like to have a GG tohelp with makeup and hair and to help me feel more fem by telling me what I needed to do tolook better.