I like my Male side and/or I like being a Guy

"I like my Male side" or "I like being a Guy"

I have seen these statements used a lot in here and have even used them quite a few times myself.

I have though about this lately and tried to figure out just what that Male thing is and why so many of us like it so damn much.

But lets just for a moment leave the having sex part out of it.
Yes we all know it is great, so lets move on, shall we?

And no this is "not another teen movie would you transition if you could question"
It is however more of just an observation of mine.

This quote/song comes to mind: "Anything you can do I can do better"

What if anything is out there anymore then can't be and isn't already done by women and could just as easily be done by us while dressed? Well Not much.

Working on my car maybe? Nope.
OK not best done in a mini skirt and heels, lol. But still.
I personally know female mechanics who are just as good as me.
In fact one of them is one of the only 3 mechanics I trust with my cars.

Construction/Contracting/Home repair? Again Nope.
Pretty much the same applies here as car mechanics above.

Hunting/Fishing/Shooting/4 Wheeling/ect
Or just replace the above with your favorite "Manly" activity or sport.
Again, plenty of capable women already do all these things.
So again, why couldn't you while dressed?


I know!! It must be the clothes us guys get to wear... :lol2:

I can ramble on with examples .................... But I won't. :D

[In a perfect world where we could all wear what we wanted where ever we wanted when ever we wanted and be as much or as little of the women we would like to be either full or part time]
There are technically really only two things we as guys can do that we could not do while dressed that can define us as men.

1 is biological, 1 is social.

Biologically : We can "go" standing up.
But for $19.95 plus shipping and handling women can too. :D

Socially : We get to be slobs. Yes its true and you know it. :doh:

While most of us don't like our body/face hair nothing in the rule books says we have to even remotely maintain it. I see plenty of employed / dating guys with unibrows and/or beards. We can take dressing down to new extremes, or new lows depending on how you look at it. Almost nothing about us "has to be" kept up to be accepted in public.

So is that it?
Is there something more then being able to be a slob in public?

Sooooooooo, Finally my question to you:

What exactly is it that you like so much about being a guy that you feel [in a perfect world as above] you could not just as easily do while embracing your female side.

when im dressed im proper and idel hands are not allowed as a guy i am lazy , plan and simple (mostly) lol good question i will half to thinkabout it more too

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Originally Posted by SamanthaM

[B].......What exactly is it that you like so much about being a guy that you feel [in a perfect world as above] you could not just as easily do while embracing your female side.

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It's not anything that I "like so much about being a guy", it's that in everyday life my default / comfortable status is a guy.

For me, I'm just being real with myself. On occassion I enjoy dressing in women's cloths, so I guess I am a simply a male crossdresser.

I like being me... No matter how I'm dressed!! :)

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Originally Posted by Karren Hutton

I like being me... No matter how I'm dressed!! :)

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Karren didn't you get the memo?
Or did you spill flavored coffee all over it? :lol:
You are 99.998% of the time the exception to the rule, in the best way possible. :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by SamanthaM

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1 is biological, 1 is social.

Biologically : We can "go" standing up.
But for $19.95 plus shipping and handling women can too. :D

Socially : We get to be slobs. Yes its true and you know it. :doh:

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Sam, u fooled me! I thot when u said, " social", u meant, "social"! As in, "social" intercourse with, "the guys". It takes a few minutes of "guy" talk, and I'm ready for a nap!:sad:

So, I guess I make a lousy "guy"! I flunked the, "social" part. I just like doing my own thing.
OR, have meaningful conversations that don't involve; sports, cars, or who you bonked last nite! For more than 15 minutes, anyway!:brolleyes:

We have the best of both worlds - so why would we want to be anything else

JoAnne Wheeler

I would never transition. I enjoy the best of both worlds.

Leaving the sex part out there is really nothing I really like about being a guy. I hate having to dress drab everyday to go to work. nd giving it up on the weekends for my wife. If I could I'd be Angie 24/7.:hugs:
Angie

What I enjoy about being a guy as of lately is just the social acceptance I receive because of being born male, it makes my day to day interaction with other people easier but that is about it.

I am still very self conscious when I am out and about en fem but little by little I am becoming more comfortable with it and enjoying who I really am.

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Originally Posted by SamanthaM

What exactly is it that you like so much about being a guy that you feel [in a perfect world as above] you could not just as easily do while embracing your female side.

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I suppose technically, there is nothing in my personality or my actions that could not also be done while "embracing my female side" - including having sex with my wife. What do other people mean by wanting to act and feel and be feminine, that they could not just as easily do while embracing their male side?

When I talk about preferring my male personality, I mean traits that are more predominantly seen in men that are considered "unladylike". Just for a random sampling, here are some examples of things I like to do that are stereotypically "guy" behavior:
- I like to pick my nose unashamedly (at least while I'm alone)
- I like to scratch the family jewels when they itch
- I don't walk so much as waddle
- I sit with my knees spread out, tilt back on the rear legs of a chair
- I don't give a rat's artichoke about my appearance; specifically I rarely shave, rarely clean or trim my nails, rarely brush or comb my hair except to get the Einstein frizz down when I first get out of bed, etc. etc. etc.
- I like to engage in pointless, overcompetitive rough play with my son (surprise! my daughter doesn't care for that)
- I like my deep bass voice
- I like idiotic comedies with exaggerated amounts of violence and destruction
- I couldn't tell chartreuse from lilac and have no interest in learning the difference
- I never, ever, ever remember faces or what someone was wearing

BUT...
- I have no interest at all in sports, auto mechanics, hunting, or fishing
- I like sweet romantic comedies
- I'm not ashamed to cry during tender moments (in real life or movies)
- I like show tunes!
- I like bubble baths, hate showers
- And of course the reason I'm here... I like soft, satiny nightgowns and dresses and nylon panties
- I like to hug (and be hugged) by male and female friends

The thing is, I really don't think of them (unless the subject comes up and I spend an hour of introspection like this) as "guy" or "girl" traits; I think of them as "ralph" traits.

But I also realize that the preponderance of guy traits makes it unlikely, even undesirable, for me to try to pass as female, and the generous helping of girl traits makes it hard for me to really fit in with my male friends. I could just see it: "Ralph, how about them Raiders? Ralph? Yo, Ralph! Oh, lookin' at the girls, are you? Heh-heh-heh, I bet I know what you'd like to do to HER!" RALPH: "Yeah, I wonder where she got that skirt?"

ralph

Ok, I can't resist.

1. Dressing as a female requires some overhead that I don't have to do as a male.
Shave
Put on make-up
Wear a bra and forms

2. When I am in Guy mode.

I put on a sweatshirt and jeans and go to my shop
No need to shower or shave, I am getting dirty anyway
I can be a slob and pee in the grass. ( I live in the country and have 2.5 acres,lots of trees and nobody sees me.)
I can come in at the end of the day, shower and shave and my wife is happy to see me.

I recently went on vacation and came to the following conclusions
1. I like to scuba dive. How can I dive with breast forms
2. We went to the spa for a massage. How can I get a spa massage with forms and a bra.

needless to say, there are somethings done better as a guy than dressed as a Cd

Well unfortunately I am half guy. I have lived too long with the advantages men have had in the world of business to go being held down by gender. I do enjoy some male things but also embrace my femme side. If I repress Edy, my male half gets depressed and grouchy. So while it might be nice to have been born a girl, I am not about to change the male half into a whole female. If I was young and in the time frame of today rather than the 50s & 60s maybe. Today while not perfect, is much more accepting of TGs and TSs than in my youth. Think Christine Jorgensen and her trials in her transition. So there is much that can be good about being half each. As several have said, some of the best of both worlds.

Edy

A a guy, I'm pretty much "wash and wear". A quick shower in the morning along with a shave and I'm ready to go. As a woman, I take an hour to do my makeup, then worry all day if it still looks good. My hair has to be just right. I put all of my jewelry on. I have to be careful so I don't break a nail. I have to carry a purse around everywhere in case my makeup needs a little touchup. The heels become uncomfortable after a few hours. I have be careful so I don't get a run in my hose.

Now don't get me wrong. I love all that stuff, but not 100% of the time. After all, I am a crossdresser. But something about hanging out with the guys, drinking beer, watching sports and letting one rip whenever I need to has some appeal to me.

I guess I am fortunate enough to live both parts. I have an understanding how both sexes live their lives and I think that has made me a more well rounded and understanding person.

My personality doesn't change when I change clothes. I am still "me" no matter what I wear. I just have a little different perspective.

It's easy, I like being a guy, just cause I am one! If I don't feel the need I can just not shave, I can show anger, I can be the decider, when things go wrong at home, I get to play hero, at times being the guy can just be fun!TinaAt other times, it's also fun being the heroine!

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Originally Posted by Samantha43

Now don't get me wrong. I love all that stuff, but not 100% of the time. After all, I am a crossdresser. But something about hanging out with the guys, drinking beer, watching sports and letting one rip whenever I need to has some appeal to me.

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I agree 100%:thumbsup:

It seems that I may be a strange duck!

As a guy, I am probably a big lout; I watch TV, let my wife bring me supper etc. etc . .

But when Jo comes in for an afternoon or evening; she is cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, vacuuming etc.. She even does windows for crying out loud!

Sorry girls, but Jo is just a neat freak. My wife loves her help, and tells me that 'I' can pitch in and help out too.

Sorry, but it seems that it is Jo or nothing!

:love: and :hugs:
Jo

I have said often, I don't care what anybody thinks of me.
the truth is I do care and I often care way to much.

when at work I want to be the best, I used to have the best things. (ex wife got that) " "she got the gold mine I got the
shaft"

when I'm with my peers, I'm competitive take charge type of person.

I won't even wear earrings around people I know, other then my wife.

The must daring thing I ever did in public was have my hair french braided at Fantastic Sams' and had another piercing in my ears.

I have had my hair permed and streaked in beauty shops, that didn't bother me. I knew guys I worked with wouldn't walk through the doors there.

I have gone out on Halloween dressed as a girl. (liked it a lot)

we go out of town I'm free to be who I'd like to be.

if I was truly free I'd be a woman. (at least it think about it)

I have put too much effort in protecting my image.

I love being a guy everyday because it is easier. Being a cross dresser I know how much work goes into being a girl on the outside and can only guess the rest. My wife has said to me I am spoiled because I get to experience the nice things of being a girl and if I feel like looking rough no one cares. She on the other hand will always do at least some make-up to, in her words "look presentable" everyday.

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Originally Posted by SamanthaM

What exactly is it that you like so much about being a guy that you feel you could not just as easily do while embracing your female side.

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Nothing. It's easier being a woman. Well, that's how it feels to me anyway :)

Sarah...

As an old bachelor, I like that it is far less work, getting dressed, but, much harder, to find dates, or answers to personals. As a lady, it is much harder to get all dressed up, but, guys are lined up, looking for a dance, odate, and a list of guys e-mailing presonal ad. Lonliness is the norm, as a single bloke. A literal flood of male interest, as a lady! By the way, i have known many tomboys, and females, who refuse to be called ladies, or women, and a few who have mustaches, and dress as sloppy as any male slob, sadly. Feminism changed everything!

Interesting question. I guess for me, it's the freedom to "be a guy" in my dealings with others. I'm more direct and confident, more relaxed, more able to focus on what I'm doing. I can have 30-second phone conversations that are mere exchanges of information. I can enjoy beer. :D

The best part is that I can do all of that and still come home, kick off my shoes, and enjoy my pretty toenails...

Simply being "The Slob" is about the best I can think of when being a guy. Never have cared much for sports, either watching or playing. Sometimes just being able to sit and read the newspaper while in "that room" and not have to worry about who sees me do what I'm doing, legs spread wide and elbows resting on knees while holding the paper.

One other thing, I just thought of,.... being able to enjoy a nice big cigar. I know there's gonna be some nonsmoker who's about to bash me with her purse for saying that, but sometimes a big stogie is a pleasure.

Being a guy comes naturally to me, thats why i like it......No effort needed :heehee:

I can't tell the difference between the "two sides". It is just me. I get dressed every morning and do what needs to be done. What I am wearing does not correlate to what I am doing.