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Hi Girls.
When we/you are totally dressed from skin out( PRETTY LINGERIE ETC.) in the cutest Girly Feminine outfit. Being a Hetro Male--After dressing and feeling so totally Feminine, could see yourself surrendering to the advances of a totally nice male?:brolleyes:
Hi there Janice!!!
I am totally the same way. I'm starting to feel like maybe I might be bisexual, and that's okay! :)
Most of us have or have had that fantasy, Janice. But, most of us arent attracted to men. Just the fantasy of being a sexy woman with a man.:battingeyelashes:
Personally, I surrender to that impulse quite often. However, I'm the man who gets to be with Sherry!:D
Chances are it’s all just fantasy. As someone who is genuinely bisexual, I can tell you that there is a HUGE difference between having fantasies or watching pornography, and real bisexuality.
You are having a fantasy more than likely.
Ponder this question if you were in that situation would you actually act on it? Be honest now.
You are in it hot and heavy with the guy would you be repulsed because you are with another male doing the dirty deed?
90% of hetro CDers would actually run from that situation.
If you are wondering if you are Bi or gay then probably not and you are in fantasy land.
I know I am gay there is no doub't in my mind.
No, as much as I feel like I "should be" and have even fantasized about it. I can honestly say that DRAG or DRAB I am not sexually attracted to GM's.
Janice ,
Not really but I would love to have a GG companion but then I'm not fully a hetro male .
I had to think for a moment exactly how I do feel , it doesn't feel like CDing anymore , I'm not saying I feel cutley feminine , it's easier to say I don't feel male , I just feel totally comfortable as Teresa . Saying that I'm not one for surrendering easliy to anyone , getting where I am now has been tough , I can afford to be picky now !
I’m going to add that no woman should ever “surrender” to advances, nor should a man attempt to make a woman. Being with someone should be a woman’s conscious choice, not something that she’s pestered, pressured, or bullied into.
Traci G, you said if you are wondering you probialy are not. Try this. Like JaniceP said you are totally dressed and you can feel the sexy lingerie that makes you feel veeeerrry feminine what's to say you might just decide to take advantage of the opportunity and decide to perform like a woman and you find out you like it. You like what you did to the guy and liked doing it as a woman, it made you feel more womanly and so good you want to do it again. You have just found out that you aren't totally hetro but bi. Didn't all women have to try it the first time, nearly all of them like it, why not JaniceP.
Teresa you said you are not fully a hetro male, I take that to mean if this guy comes along one night and the two of you really click and he leans over and kisses you, touches you knee below where your skirt is and you feeling like a woman I think you will willing want to go further. Under the right conditions especially fully dressed CD's going further would just be a chance to feel more womanly validating that you are to a large degree a woman and not just a CD.
Deebra there is a big difference between fantasy and reality. As I said I have fantasized about this, but I know me and I know I could never go through with it in reality.
Tracii is right, if there is any question in your mind then you are probably not.
Deebra,
No, not all women have tried bisexuality and no, “nearly all” didn’t like it. I know far more women who have tried it and decided it wasn’t for them, or simply never tried it. This is just male fantasy that women are all canoodling behind closed doors.
So what if there’s some example of a man experimenting with bisexuality. Even if it weren’t purely rhetorical as yours was, it doesn’t disprove Tracii’s statement of “if you’re wondering, then probably not.
Finally, you imply that ANY crossdresser, given the right conditions, would engage sexually with a man. Sorry hon, again your fantasies are taking over and you need to look at reality.
Deebra you are projecting what YOU think women do and you do fantasize quite a bit in your posts.
Not to mention you have a few fetishes too.
Fetishes are OK so don't get me wrong.
If you have to question if you are gay or bisexual then there is a problem because if there is one thing you do know is your sexual preference.
WOW, somebody has been watching too much porn.
Didn't all women have to try it the first time, nearly all of them like it,
Perhaps I hang out with the wrong crowd, but of all the cis-women I know, only one has professed to 'kissing a girl and liking it", but she was a lesbian, and knew it since grade school.
Contrary to popular belief(and the fervid dreams of porn producers), women DO NOT put on sexy lingerie and have sensual pillow fights before falling into each others arms in lust as soon as the boys are gone.
Like many, when dressed as a male, I had no inclination for any intimacy with males. It wasn't until my first romantic encounter with a man, dressed as Jodie, that I discovered that I liked men. I mean, I really, liked men! :o So I suppose you could categorize me as gay, but, since I consider myself a transwoman, does that label really apply?
I'm not being judgmental, but for all the girls who wonder "What would it be like...?", all I can say is: be careful, you may find that you aren't as hetero as you think....
Micki-Finn, , I was not saying women had sex with other women and became lesbians.
Jodie's 5th paragraph says the same thing I said and it "turned her". Her 6th paragraph says exactly what I meant.
Jodie having tried and found out doesn't that make your life so much better? Suppose you hadn't tried, look at the pleasure "as a woman" you would be missing
Janice P, if the above described opportunity comes along are you going to give it a try, a lot of good advise above to think about.
After several good get togethers with a man I found to be very nice to me (I'm TG), and a romantic encounter was suggested by him, my fantasies could well become realities.
No, when I was in my late teens a few male friends wanted to do me while I was dressed.
I'm just so addicted to females!
I had to leave my fantasy, the urges became to strong, and I needed to know what I might be missing out on. I reached a point when I did not care If I was bi, so I surrendered to another Crossdresser. I will keep this PG, and just say, It was great, and I have no regrets. Sometimes you just have to leave you comfort zone, and try new things. Try It you just might like It!
I am completely turned off by the thought of performing any sexual act with a male. Every one of us is different, though. I have no problem if Deebra wants to try it, but please don't assume we all share your fantasies.
- Diane
For me it's all emotional. I don't really respond to physical cues that much. I need to have a bond and be in love and see a relationship that's going somewhere before I think about it. I've had feelings for men and for women but how I feel about the person is so much more important than anything else. I don't know what that makes me. I always felt that if I had a preference it would be for women but as I have begun exploring my gender identity and expression the idea of being with a man has entered my head much more consistently than before. It doesn't really matter because the Genesis of my exploration isn't really sexual in nature. I just want my partner to love me for me. Right now I'm with a beautiful woman and I think I have that kind of love (I still haven't talked to her about my most recent foray into self discovery I prefer to have the conversation face to face in a few days) so I'm happy. I love her so much and really don't want to lose her so I hope she accepts me.
I've been with a few clean cut, slim, young guys. And, they were VERY attentive and flattering! And, I'd had a few drinks. Could I have made out with them? Probably. But, could I have felt them up or vice versa? NO! Because I'm NOT attracted to male parts!:doh:
That's how u tell, deebra. If you're NOT attracted to male parts u AREN'T going to enjoy going down on a man, PERIOD!:straightface:
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Originally Posted by deebra
Depending on the man, I will flirt and let them touch me byt I'm up front about my sexuality and what is not going to happen. But it is fun. But I kinda get off on it. And I don't consider myself to be bisexual. Taboo sex is a turn on. To me anyway.
When I was twenty, I flirted with guys with the encouragement of my girlfriends, but it was generally hands off and keep your distance.
A couple of passionate embraces were fun at the time.
And I wonder why the general population think all crossdressers are pervs. Deebra, I've said it before and I'll say it again, why oh why do you not just open an account at one of those 'private' sites where everyone else is just like you and just enjoy yourself instead of pratting about on a publically open site like this tarring anyone with gender identity issues with your own fantasy brush? Fetlife comes to mine, I believe that is private.
Doc I take you at your word you are not attracted to male parts, however you also say when you try new things even if they are out of your comfort zone you may experience new excitement and growth that you never expected. Sounds like you have never tried it so you don't know. Several members have said the same thing until they tried it, liked it and now find it to be very enjoyable especially when dressed as a woman. I do watch transsexual porn, most are very very good at it and you can learn how to be good at it and it turns you in the direction that it's no different for a CD to do this than a GG. Everyone has to try new things for the first time, it may not be great but it gets a little better the second time and then it's something you want and dressed as and presenting as a woman makes it no different than a GG doing the same thing. Kinda like smoking or eating brocelli, after trying it several time you like it. CD's first learning to do this is no different than GG's first learning to do this. I do accept that not everyone enjoys smoking or brocelli no matter how much they try. If you are wondering the answer is yes, I was invited over a friends house one night, dressed, drove over and being dressed and fulfilling the role as a woman took CDing to a whole new level... to feeling as much like a woman as you possibly could.
Fantasy, maybe; reality probably not.