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I've looked at the number of peeps I can count on 1 finger , I can acually say exist , who know I Dress ?., One is my Wife obviously, but I have 2 close friends who know, but I do do out a lot dressed so I meet a lot of peeps. So how many close friends actually know you dress Hmm ?
Debs
About 6. 2 of them are ones I?m sure close with and call my sisters. I decided to tell them both recently. The others are ones I talk to daily, but don?t have the super close relationship due to work schedules
Like u, Debs, I'm a closet dresser. Only my immediate family and ONE close friend knows I dress.:straightface:
However, I've met 1000's of T's and vanillas out dressed. Just NOT near where I live!:)
While the official count is restricted to 1, my SO, the unofficial count count be much higher. Allow me to explain.
I've been seen by my neighbours, fleetingly I might add but one of them couldn't keep it to themselves and gossiped to friends, people I also share time with playing badminton. It's the little quips that sometime get made, nothing direct, but it's a case of I know they know. Certainly not the full extent. It's unlikely they have put two and two together and realised I go out and about when chance arises.
I'm not prepared to bring it out into the open with this group. I don't want it to define me with them. I doubt many of them would be entirely comfortable or truly accepting if I were to turn up at one of our social gatherings enfemme so I'll let sleeping dogs lie and leave it as it is.
Considering the friends I have, I can't thik of one i'd like to come out to. I like the dynamics of those relationships as they are.
I've engaged with many from outside our community, strangers whom haven't batted an eye at our encounter and as long as I can do that from time to time I'll go with that.
As a closet crossdresser I am a very alone lady. That's why I appreciate this forum so much.
Hi Debs
I'm very much a home cat and despite my wifes wishes still pretty much keeping the extent of our lifestyle private.
Other than obviously my SO, her sister and her girlfriend there was the flower delivery lady, the sales assistant helping my wife pick out outfits for me in a ladies wear shop, the two women in the photo processing shop and the recent security lady on holiday.
None of my previous friends as I am to embaressed to meet them anymore and certainly not my family.
Amy x
I am totally alone and in the closet. The only people who know are perhaps some store sales associates who have seen an anonymous older man purchase women’s underwear with cash and the folks here online. And, like most of us here, I use a pseudonym.
I go out and about frequently, but her than my supportive wife, no one knows both sides. I guess it could be said that I'm in the closet, and she is in there with me.
Other than my wife and therapist, I told my wife I didn't mind who she confided in to help process her thoughts. She told her older cousin, who I know very well but have never talked to about it. That'll be a fun conversation when it comes up...
There's my wife, who regularly sees me partly, but never FULLY dressed. She has flatly rejected that idea.
There's one male friend who openly accepts both versions of me. Because of wife's rules, that's a very rare event.
I have another male friend who knows, but has never seen me en-femme. We've fallen out of contact over the years.
I have a GG friend who knows and I think has seen me, but I haven't seen or spoken to her in 20+ years. Does she still count?
I told my sister and she said she "always wanted a sister", but the occasion has never come up where she met my Sara side (we live 1000+ miles apart).
So yes, I'd say I'm pretty much alone in the "real" world.
Thank goodness for the ladies in here!
LET ME PREFACE THIS BY SAYING, if you want a CD friend to talk to, I’m open . Many here have taken time to chat with me via the forums message system. I’ll respond to those that need a one on one .As I mentioned in a recent post, my barber/hair stylist knows as I ?fessed up as I asked if he would work some magic on a wig. Also my wife..an X friend of hers knows, and maybe a mutual friend of theirs, I?ve never heard confirmation on that. I did go to a few get togethers recently, but those people have seen Joss , but not my male side. Absolutely zero family members know. I say it would be so great for everyone to know and I pile dress as I please, but would that make it less special to me ? I don?t know. It?s a dilemma I consider often. I recently expressed to another member here how I?d love to go out more, I just fear being clocked. Things could be so much easier if I could just choose . It?s so in my head at times
Hi Debs :hugs:, Only my:love:Wife who Tollerates it, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**
Im very alone with my Crossdressing Im sure my wife suspects other than my wife I have no desire to tell any family members or friends the only people that know I dress are the people I interact with when Im out dressed in public.
For the most part I have tried not to involve family, friends, and neighbors. Everyone else is fair game. Maybe to some degree, that may be why I come here. I do not have anyone close to me I can talk to about my adventures in CD land.
I have done plenty of very high risk things in the past as far as getting caught by neighbors, but most would likely not say anything about it if they did see me. As far as I know I have not been spotted by any neighbors.
Sandi
I'm one of the alone brigade too. My late wife knew I liked womens clothes, but wasn't happy about me wearing anything but panties under my normal drab. I think my step kids know that I like womens clothes like jeans, and tops that still retain the "male" look when I have them on. I don't think anybody outside of my crossdressing groups know the extent of my dressing.
Close friend/relatives?
My wife of course. Beyond that, when we were in Jersey we had a lot in our groups. Now we're in the desert of NE Pa and there's nothing, no one, nada, nyet. Relatives, no way, they are all phobic so to keep the peace I'm invisible to them.
I'd love to have a friend or two in the vicinity. Maybe lunch once a week, a bit of shopping or a movie night on the weekend. Still looking, still hoping.
My not-so-on-board-with-it wife knows. It's a don't ask, don't tell. Decades ago when we still were having some conversations about it she may have told her female cousin. One of the issues my wife pointed out was that both of us ended up in the closet for different reasons. She really has nobody to talk to about it, although now over the decades, she seems to have become more accepting of the fact there are no other undisclosed kinks.
I never really counted but I'd say at least two dozen. Partially that's because I belong to a local CD group and thus all the members and their SOs know. In addition a few GGs know.
But it's interesting that this question was asked. On Monday (Aug 11) Femulate.org published a story about support that I think relates to this question. Basically it says that everybody needs support for something. As CDs we are in a slightly difficult situation in that to get personal, face to face, support we need to take a huge step. But fortunately there are other sources of support like this site.
My wife and one friend who also dresses. I would have to know and trust someone very much before I could let them know.
Only my wife and even only for the past 4 years for her. Never really considered telling any friends. Looking back I wished I had told my much older brother - when he told me he was gay would have been a good time but so long ago I was still very much in denial myself. Considered telling one of my sisters but unfortunately I have found people are not really very good at keeping secrets. Recently met another cd at my church and we are slowly developing a friendship but that will be femme appearance only so I don?t think that counts. Oh yeah my therapists.
This forum greatly alleviates this isolating lifestyle - or whatever you call it.
Wife, BFF, email friends from here, daughter, a couple of female friends up in Vegas. When my ex (dead) weaponized my CD'ing for her divorce, I'm sure she told everyone she could.
One neighbor but, no immediate family.
I had actually been making a list of people I was out to. Other than my wife, and my daughter and her family, I'm not out to any other family members. However, I am out to about 30 friends, and about 20 various tradespeople (services, restaurants, shops, etc) who I see regularly. All of the above have seen both Joanie and my male self. Absolutely everyone has been positive and accepting, which makes my heart swell. I interact with many, many more people on a daily basis -- I pretty much go out anywhere and any time I want. Today at lunch I went to Michael's to buy some upholstery pins, and through the drive-through at Chick-Fil-A. I don't even think about being dressed a lot of the time. I'm just me. I know I'm a very very lucky crossdresser and only wish I had come out to my wife much sooner. I feel terrible for those of you forced to stay in the closet, or even the house -- I hope someday you can break through the barrier. Until 6 years ago or so I was 100% closeted. Not even my wife had any inkling. Things do change.
My parents and brother knew before they passed.
Both sisters, and grandsons and their SOs.
My daughter told others years ago when she was mad at my wife and me.
Pretty much most of my family and friends know, along with people who were members of Tri Ess in Atlanta back in '07 when my wife and I were members.
Also people who I have come into contact with while getting wigs, nails done, female glasses and waxing.
As long as my wife and family are OK with it, I don't care who else knows.
We have had friends over for dinner while I was dressed.
As far as I know, none have had any problems, other than my daughter's ex, and I don't care what that sub-human thinks about anything.
EVERYBODY knows I wear dresses all the time. In fact, the last time I wore pants was 2024 late September to my mother's funeral. That includes church where I doll myself when I go shopping, interact with my local amateur radio club, etc.
John
To our knowledge, only my supportive dear wife. We?ve discussed sharing with the children, but decided not.