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Found today in a local city general chit-chat forum. The original poster is known for making random flames without a lot of thought, but I thought I would copy here as the summary point is one I have not seen people discuss.
I will probably not reply -- you know what they say about wrestling with pigs. :straightface:Quote:
Originally Posted by local newsgroup poster
It was the death of my Father which made me change my mind and do this. I think he would find it hard, but yes, I think he would be. My Mother is but never wants to see her son dressed.
Nope....
I don,t think he,d recognise me :heehee:
:battingeyelashes:It would have disappointed him for sure.
Put me down for a "nope" also.
I'm in the "nope" column. He was disappointed in me when I was a kid, so if he knew I still dress I don't think that would change.
I like to think my mum and dad wouldnt have cared less as long as I was happy. If there was any objection though it would have been from dad.
Id have never felt confident about myself to have told them when they were alive though. But that was a 'me' issue, not a 'them' issue.
No.
I think my Father would be mildly confused and embarrassed.....but that probably goes for everyone I know.
Hi All: My mother would definitely understand, after all it was she who bought me my first bra pantygirdle and slip.
My father didn't want kids and didn't really like me, so he would not have been "more disappointed" than he already was.
MY dad would not aprove .. but he would have told me whatever makes you happy .. you have one life to live
Yes I do think my father would be proud of me, I try to be the best I can be which is what he tought me to do. I was visiting my parents and my brother and sister were there a long with other family members. I was wearing short short and my legs were shave and my sister was giving me a hard time. My father told her to lay off.
Anna
My father went to prison for murder, so I could care less if I could make him "proud".
But you could file me under "nope".
Hi Tess! That's a question that will forever remain unanswered. He passed away when I was 4 so I never really knew him. My last memory of him was as he lay dying of a heart attack. That was in 1958....he was 52 at the time so, being from that era dating back to close to the beginning of the 20th century, my guess would have to be no! Now, my mom knew I put on her stuff since I was about 5 - 6 and never said one word about it or went to the trouble of trying to put her stuff out of my reach. She died when I was 14 so with her my answer would have to be a definite "I don't know!" Sorry, she kinda' served as mom and dad!
Well, here's my answer too. Yup! My dad would have been proud of me for just being the "real" me. Both my parents wanted girls but only got boys. My mom did all she could to try to raise me as a girl - fond memories :) at least until I started school and then all that "male" crap started :(
Love to all - [SIZE="4"]Susan[/SIZE]
Well I am somewhat like Susan. My mom wanted me as a girl and my father was against it, totally. So he would never have approved or accepted. My mom would have accepted it and perhaps embraced it.
Edyta
Quick answer, Nope! Long answer, not many of his generation would aprove.
But then he lived his life his way, and would expect me to live mine my way, wheither he aproved or not!
Tina B.
He's been gone for 15 years, so it's hard to say. I think the answer is yes. He became remarkably tolerant as he grew older. Also, there were a few indications that he might have had his own little secrets too.
He was finally proud of me a few years before he passed away.
But, I didn't start CDing until a couple of years after he passed. Thank goodness!:Angry3:
My dad knows. I don't think he is "proud" that I CD but on the other hand, he is kind of indifferent. He just doesn't want me doing it around my kid or his friends seeing me.
I have done things in life that pissed him off or freaked him out a lot more than being CD. This is one of those "I'd rather you didn't but whatever..."
EDIT - You know, most of us have kids and are often talking about how us being CD would effect them or our younger kin. It is kind of unusual to see this group talking about how this CD thingwould or does effect our parents. Ehh just kinda unusual.
As a strict Catholic both he and my mother would have found it terribly disappointing if they had known and would probably not have accepted it at all. Just the grief I took from my divorce is an indicator of how much their hard line Cathlic views on such things influenced their thinking.
my dad has passed ........ i don't think he would understand ......so a no here too.....
Me again, the originator of the thread.
I am a bit startled, and somewhat anguished, to read so many No's, many delivered so flatly that it is easy to perceive that there is a lot hurt out there on this topic; I get the impression that a lot of us would have trouble talking about this.
Earlier, I did not say anything about my own father, as I did not have time then.
Like some of the others here, my father died when I was fairly young, not quite 14. I do not remember him especially well... I don't remember much of my childhood especially well (fault of the way my memory works.)
Based upon some things my mother has said (but refrains from telling me the details), I know that my father was decidedly human, a man who tried his best but who struggled with human feelings. Someone thought by many to be "remote" but who was not: someone who didn't really know how to deal with people; someone with sometimes an excess of empathy that could lead to difficulties. I think if anything he might have been a bit scared at how much like him I turned out.
I don't know if my father would ever have "understood" my dressing, but I am sure he would be proud to see how much I contribute to others, in my work and in my activities around my dressing. I think that he would have been intellectually fine with the idea of crossdressing... but it is hard to say after so many years how he would have reacted emotionally to seeing me dressed. I rather suspect that after reading about some of the struggles that some of you (and the transmasculine and the transsexuals) have gone through, that he would have felt that pit of sadness, and of injustice done, and would have welcomed me and my CD / TG / TS friends.
My father came from a family of activists, and he conveyed to us a healthy respect for the struggles of other people for dignity. He was, though, a bit estranged from his own mother and father, who were absent from home due to spending more time worrying about others than about their family. He would not have wanted to deny us any measure of compassionate human closeness, provided it was balanced with home life.
I know my father never accepted or understood my sister being gay; so therefore I assume he would never be proud of what I do now, therefore, as long as I can help it, he never will, lol. My father is proud of me, he has told me so. He is proud of who I am, and what I do for a living, and my wife, and his grandchildren. He is, though, way too old to change his ways of thinking of most in life: politics, religion, etc. That would also include this topic. Hell, if he knew I also enjoy bdsm, he probably have another heart attack!!!!!