Does anyone dress JUST due to a sexual fetish for women's clothing?
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Does anyone dress JUST due to a sexual fetish for women's clothing?
No. Absolutely no one.
At least nobody I know.
You?
Not me either. I dress because I have to. Once dressed I may have other kinky things going on that may be more fetishy....
From reading here over many years I'd say that a good few would admit that in their early days that a certain level of arousal might be experienced but that was effect not cause.
For most that element of it dies away over time.
Personally I've never looked upon my dressing as being a fetish.
I have to admit that for me CD is highly related to sexual pleasure and satisfaction. I would not call it a fetish because, at least officially, fetish is associated with objects and body parts. As CD involves much more and nowadays is equally shared between me and my Girlfriend, I would not define as a fetish.
As Helen mentioned this aspect (sexual) is becoming less important through time.
A fetish is about the act and nothing but the act. Once you perform the act, that's it and you go back to whatever you were doing. It's a reason the term cross-dresser is preferred to transvestite.
Seeing myself in women's underwear I do admit can be arousing in the same way I'd see a woman in the same underwear. But if it was just about arousal, then it would over and done with in no time. I feel the need to dress without any arousal being there, and it's an enjoyable need beyond the sexual element. With the exception of possibly badly chosen bras and heels, I feel more comfortable and more myself in women's clothes. Sue can't be put away in a box and forgotten about. She needs to express herself.
I continue to carry out other aspects of my life when dressed. So it's something deeper than just a fetish and as others have said, crossdressing and our need to present as or feel like a women is part of who we are.
Sue
No, for many of us on this forum dressing started at a very early age.
Myself 1st pair of panties was at the age of 5, they fit and felt amazing.
A neighbor friend ( my age) had me try her panties on.
But the true start was playing dress up with my friends on the block I wore girls cloths many times prior to this event.
Their were no boys within walking distance of my house. This was late 1950?s.
It is common for there to be a sexual element in many CD's and TG's early in their "career" of being and expressing their identity. But, as Helen says, it usually does not last more than a few years in youth and only occasionally reoccurs in adulthood. It is thought that at first the person is very enamored with discovering their different identity, but it still needs to mature a bit. As they shift from an exciting and different feeling about themselves to more acceptance that they really are different and the gender reversal takes hold and becomes a part of them, the sexual aspect fades into a minor part of the identity or at least less significant part. But, like everything else, not everybody goes through this process.
For me it was very sexual at first in my youth. But later that became less important and now is just a blip on the radar. It is natural to associate gender with sex even though in terms of actual neurological processes there is very little actual connection. That is, sex and gender operate on very different neural networks but we are taught that males and females are supposed to be very different even though, in the whole package, they really aren't that different. That allows us to draw an association between sex and gender. The association bolsters the teachings and the beliefs and thus links processes strongly. But over time, the underlying lack of connection, in spite of the association, wins out and we enter a more realistic relationship between sex and gender that reflects the truer neurological processes. That is the theory, but the fact is this aspect has never been studied much so getting beyond theory is hard. But it does make a lot of sense.
A big NO.
I admit there were certain outfits/articles that I did find very erotic a long time ago and enjoyed experimenting with but on the whole no, this is not a fetish for me.
A fetish is usually an extreme coping mechanism that involves doing something that is generally considered taboo in response to an unfulfilled need or desire that goes a lot deeper than the object or act. I would guess that most of the people on a forum like this have evolved beyond that point in their understanding of what motivates behavior and, therefore, no longer need to rely on such a coping mechanism.
Yes. For me it is 100% sexual and has nothing to do with identity or any kind of gender dysphoria.
Despite all the vehement denials, Jane, research the number of pantie threads posted here! Countless comments about an item of clothing no one ever sees!:tongueout
Followed by many bra and nylons posts!:heehee:
Personally, I've been dressing for 25 years and at age 77 sex is STILL a big part of my dressing!:o
Altho, I go out dressed quite often, that's my main CD activity now. And, sex is NEVER involved in that!:battingeyelashes:
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No, CD'ing is not a fetish for me, it's a hobby because I have a strong feminine side..... I just love to crossdress. :bs:
That is a difficult question for many of us to answer. There was a time, early on, when just I was aroused by just the thought of putting on an article of women's clothing. There was a time when I was thrilled when wearing lingerie was included in the bedroom. And there was a time when even that caused some stress in my marriage.
But what remains unclear is to what degree my cross dressing was driven by the sexual pleasure or if there was something more there. I suspect in my case that there is indeed something more.
It's exciting, on so many different levels. So what?
While there IS a fetish quality there, I dress primarily to "Escape" from MYSELF AND Maleness and its "rules". Becoming an entirely different person with none of my normal concerns and worries.----where I can completely unwind and relax.
I love the fetish side of it, and love just dressing up too, it depends on my mood.
Some days I want to dress up in the trashiest clothing and, well, it doesn't last long. I have a couple faux leather dresses, some hot body stocking, crazy platform heels, I love lingerie.
Some days I just want to dress up. Like today I dressed at 9AM. I slipped on a tight shiny bright pink mini skirt, patterned tights, my Roanyer breast plate with a bright pink bra with a tight long sleeve, very low cut top. The bra keeps wanting to show over the neckline! Oh, also a pair of white platform sandals. I bit on the trashy side, but nothing like some outfits! A gal might wear it on a night out clubbing.
My wife and I have been just lounging around, doing some cooking dong some serious "taking it easy" as it is HOT out today. Now it is 3:30PM and soon I will strip down to some shorty shorts and a t-shirt because mama wants to have dinner out on the deck later after it cools off and I am not prepared for the neighbors to see me out dressed!
Yes, it is common. A quick look around on this very forum will confirm that. It will also indicate that there's a lot of denial going on, but that's a topic for a different discussion.
Jane, when I was a teenager, perhaps maybe. Since then, no.
I did when I was in my teens. As a adult, no.
Sure, it's a fetish for me sometimes. Sometimes it's just fun. Sometimes it's a very feminine feeling. Sometimes it's a blend of all of them. Regardless, I enjoy my time dressed. As a side note, is it me, or is there are negative feeling in the forum about the word "fetish?"
Under this definition, I don't think dressing would be a fetish, unless someone is turned on by a specific item of clothing (like a pair of heels, for some).Quote:
fetish
/ˈfediSH/
noun
1. a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.
I wanted to dress when I was 7 years old, before I knew what sex was.
At 14, when I put on a pair of my sister's pantyhose, I immediately erupted without doing anything.
For me, it's both a desire, but there is also a sexual component (generally when I think about it, as opposed to arousal when I am actually dressed).
We're all different in our own way.
TheHiddenMe, pretty much covers me! Some clothing I get worked up without even wearing it. Like i said earlier, lingerie is a bit hot button, heels too.
If I said no I think I would be lying. I will admit when I was younger it was all sexual but as I started to dress more complet it became more of just feeling more relaxed in women's clothes. When the kids got an opportunity and they moved out my wife was really worried that Maria was going to evolve. Instead the opposite happened, most of my dressing is just watching TV and relaxing and reading. I guess we change with with our chances in life
Pantyhose has always been my trigger. Seeing a woman wearing nylons makes my heart race and I instantly get amped up and feel the need to immediately put on a pair. Even hearing a woman say the word 'pantyhose' drives me wild.
Simple answer: Yes.
For more depth, I suggest you read up on Classical Conditioning. (Pavlov's dogs, etc.)
Here's another definition of the word...
An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence.
Note the lack of mentioning sexual gratification. ;)
In that context? I believe a LOT of people out there (CD'ers & non-CD'ers, alike) have a "fetish."
And that could be pretty much *anything*.
They simply use a nicer term for it -- but it's still a fetish. :p
Mostly... fem clothing has always turned me on sexually.
It's just part of my life. Has been since well before I knew what a fetish was. I can relate to the fetish angle on some occasions. But I think it's a similar feeling to when my wife puts on a negligee. It can help with promoting a sexual mood. I'm not sure if that is a fetish or just normal human behaviour. I like to think it is perfectly normal because that's me sometimes.
I believe the original poster here used "Fetish" with sexual connotations in mind? "Completion" is NOT a necessary requirement for fetishists. Only that u become excited or aroused!:o
And almost every single one of us has been turned on by some aspect of their dressing at one time or another.:devil:
Yes, No, Maybe, Sometimes, the world may never know!
Aunt Kelly, it seems a thread about Fetish can't go for long without you chiming in and patronizing us (CDers) each and every time about our supposed denial in this area.
Since you seem to be considering yourself as an authority over the subject, can I pick your brains and ask what your definition of a sexual fetish exactly is? Because unless the OP gives his own, I am left to conjectures. For example, I consider myself a fetishist since I love hose, shoes, skirts and dresses. But they don't arouse me unless a girl is wearing them. I am still a fetishist? Well, a girl will generally arouse me more when dressed than naked. Seems like I am indeed having a sexual fetish, right? Also, I don't wear French maid outfits and the like, nor racy leather or latex attires. Do I still qualify?
Really, enlighten me. Knowing it will help all the other members in denial as well.
I'd take that bet everyday and say you're wrong.
I think a fair percentage of the posters here--probably 10 to 20%--dress because it better suits their gender identity, not because of sexual attraction of the clothes.
And there are a number of posters here who say that and you ignore them.
You're like my wife; you never let the facts get in the way of your opinions.
Note: As of today (6/7), there are about 1.5 million posts in this forum.
There are 137,xxx posts in the Transsexuals forum, or just shy of 10%.
I can safely say there are aspects of this lifestyle which can be highly erotic. I can't say this is a sexual fetish. If it were then I would go back to total boy mode once the sexual part is satisfied. As it stands now, I am hardly ever in complete boy mode anymore. This has really become a way of life.
Wow Jane 9 years since your last started thread (interesting and good question) and as to "YOUR" question, for me its a fine line of "fetish". I feel so in sink with my inner self when dressed and everything is highlighted in senses.
noun
1.
a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc
But I am not affirming anything. And the fact that I admit that I am aroused to varying levels by the dressing doesn't mean that other members are necessarily experiencing the same. It's a lot of members, a lot of different people and lot of different experiences. Although I share common elements of the crossdressing experience with other members, I have yet to find one to which I fully relate. The same must be true for everyone here, I guess.
Im horny enough just wearing panties. Anything more almost always results in something more. ;) is it sexual or a fetish? Sure, take your pick.
After all the above comments I think we can agree that fetish means sexual, in some form or another, if nothing else, Paulie!:heehee:
Between the ages of 3 and 21 - NO
age 21 and 22 - Very much YES
23-56 years of age - NO (well - maybe 3 times in the last 3,000 dressing sessions)
If by ? fetish? you are asking whether crosssdressing was or is sexually stimulating, I would say yes, definitely. In my younger years just a picture of a woman wearing panties in a Sears catalog would light my fire. Putting on a nice pair of nylon briefs was even better. And even now, although the instant arousal is not there , I still find wearing lingerie to be very sexual.
It’s complicated. For me it certainly started out as sexual and wearing female clothing was a huge turn on. Nowadays I wear women’s jeans, t-shirt & underwear all the time, and sleep in a nightie. None of these things turn me on any more. They just feel ‘right’. Wearing a skirt is still a turn on but I don’t wear a skirt ‘out’ I’m sure if it became normal for me to wear a skirt in public it would not be so much of a turn on but still feel ‘right’.
No not just due to a sexual fetish But yea I think there is certainly a sexual fetish in involved in cross dressing. There certainly was when I was younger, probably still now. I dressing session which may go on all day, dressing casually in slacks or jeans then going out to the mall and shopping a restraint and afternoon movie. /then back to change for something more formal at least a shirt or dress freshen the makeup and out to clubs for drinks and maybe dancing, hopefully seeing some one from the old support group and then back to home which may end with gratification or not. But it is a fun da or being a woman and looking pretty at least in my mind, enjoying seeing myself in mirrors at the mall and at the clubs latter Is that a fetish I don't know but it is fun and that is what matters
I wont consider it a fetish.
That to me is when you have a fetish for stockings or such.
The need to dress is sometimes sexual, but mostly a deep rooted need to dress up and escape for a few hours.
It does become sexual at the end, yes.
So a mixture of desires perhaps.
If the idea of being fully dressed and made up, and with a woman sexually is a fetish then yes for me.
The question (which i cant answer myself) is does it matter?