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Do you ever think how fortunate you are, to have discovered that you were NOT the only one who put on womens' clothes?
Prior to this discovery, I felt alone in the world.
When I did find out about other crossdressers......my world changed---for the better!
love to you all............ Sonia X
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Originally Posted by Sonia Greene
like finding an osasis in the middle of a big dessert
Finally I knew: "I was NOT alone"
I feel an added companionship that can't be compared.To know others are accepting and sharing the same feelings, gives me confidence I lacked before.We don't have to be alone in this jungle.
Sonia,
Not so much that i was alone, for I knew others were doing it thanks to a "Dear Abby" letter in the summer of 1976 which really prompted this activity.
What is fortunate is the discovery that I am not alone as to the reason of why I engage in this activity.
I knew I wasn't alone when I read a Life Magazine article on Transvestites in NYC.... 40+ years ago.... I just didn't know if they knew I knew! Lol.
We all have seen CD's on TV for years, Flip Wilson, Milton Burrow, and other who have crossdressed in the lime lite, but if I have known what I know today 30 years ago I am sure my life would be far different than it is today.
I knew I wasn't alone, as Tina mentioned Flip and Uncle Milton, and I had read stories of men who did it in various adult magazines over the years, but they were few and far between. But since I got on the net and found that there are thousands of men who have this hobby/fetish. And through these forums I can actually communicate with them and they with me on thoughts, tips and suggestions, and though I haven't met one of my sisters from a forum, and the wife would kill me if I actively tried to arrange a meeting for any reason, I know there are many who have.
A BIG [SIZE="4"]THANKS[/SIZE] to the Admins that put this and other sites like this together for girls like us where we can get to know more about ourselves and others like us.
I have found this site to be an inspiration, moving me in directions I would not have gone otherwise. It has enabled to open up to myself and my sisters.
Never felt alone but always felt that I was "bent" as they say. I agree with the above that if I knew then what I know now....But then again I may not be here if that was true. Of course blessed with that knowledge back then maybe I would have been clairvoyant enough to prevent AIDs and the "recession" and the world would be a better place for you and me...just wait and see.
But to answer the question, I enjoy this site. So therefore I am thankful for it. I get to see the differing opinions and thoughts of people who I am akin to. It goes to show ya that we are not all cookie cutter. We are just as diverse as the "real" world.
I still feel alone sometimes. Not as much since I've accepted myself for who I am. Maybe I just need to get out more :)
Maybe when I started CD'ing 60+ years ago, I felt alone. But certainly not anymore! After all the stuff in movies, TV, and newspapers about Transvestites, Crossdressers, etc., how could one feel alone? We are an Army!! Join up, we want you!!
Yes I thought [I] was alone for years, thought I was sick, mentally off or some other garbage like that. I had seen and heard of female impersonators on the TV but thought for a long time that was just being done for intertainment.
Now I know the truth and feel so much better about me. Then I found this sight and now I feel like I have friends of like mind.
So nice to know we are not alone.
To the writer preceeding this and everyone else.....thanks for all your posts---interesting to digest.Quote:
Originally Posted by sissystephanie
It was about 60yrs ago since I actively got involved, but I saw the Roberta Cowell write up in our family newspaper when first announced. And I was SO excited by this thought!
Until comparatively recently though, (20yrs or so?) crossdressing has not had as high a profile as it has now. Films like Tootsie etc. helped.
But you ask your friends if they do dress, chances are they'll be horrified to be asked.
We are doing now, what the Gays did years ago, and see how integrated they are now.
Sonia
As the writer said......."We are now an Army", (but I hate khaki--as it doesn't suit me!)
Yeah, I remember what it felt like to think I was the only person on the planet who was like this. But when I found out that there were others, they were somehow portrayed as people with some kind of condition. I didn't like that much either. Having a "condition" is bad to me, or at least never seems desirable in the way it is presented.
I think in recent years, with the more open flow of information, it's been a lot easier on me. Not only have I come to terms with myself (and learned to really enjoy my gift), I also see a lot of other cd's who are also very happy with themselves and don't seem to have any "condition" at all.
I guess for me, it wasn't enough to know there were others like this. It was much more meaningful to find other normal people (as in people who do not suffer from some "condition") like this. :)
I hope that made sense.
I'm very grateful for this site and the knowledge that there are others out there like me. For the majority of my life most of my exposure to anything cross dressing related was TV shows such as Jerry Springer, In Living Color, and COPS all of which did not help my self esteem or self acceptance very much.
I would say it was nothing short of a revelation! For over 50 years, I felt so strange with all the other emotions that come with being a closeted crossdresser. Since finding this forum, I realize that I am definitely not alone. It is such a relief, sort of an epiphany, and has given me the courage to explore things that I would have suppressed otherwise.
I felt and have always seen others, the ones who are brave enough to escape their walls .. What I never was able to do prior to the internet was talk so openly about dressing...
That takes a big chip off of my shoulders even tho we all do not agree on the ways of society, we do agree that this isn't something we asked for.
Some (most ) are pleased to have it in their lives and few ( like me ) wish it would just go away... I have came to a lot of terms with it being here , I do thank all of you for putting up with my ignorance at times right or wrong.
Yes ,I do find comfort not that others have this un accepted behavior but that I am not alone and that I do get great advise on how to deal with it from others who have been down that path I was about to take.
For most of my life I thought I was alone in the world with the need to wear women's clothing. I didn't understand it and felt guilty and ashamed. It was a secret no one could know. When I found this site a couple years ago it was like putting a window in my closet. I now know a bigger world exists. I am not out in it but at least I can meet with friends and enjoy the view.
Jaydee
I was glad to find this forum and the Tri-Ess group in Houston. It is great to know you are not alone and that there are people out there that can relate to you. I love the way they make me feel when we meet and do things together like dinners and meetings. I love to dress up and have someone tell me that I look good in a dress.
This website has been a tremendous help for me in coming to terms with my need to express my feminine side. As most of us know, it is not an easy road to travel, by any means, although some are lucky enough to have supportive people around them that are understanding and accepting to a greater or lesser degree. My journey has been challenging, but I have come a long way towards feeling good about myself and letting go of the guilty feelings I had for a long time. Self-acceptance is the first step for many of us and this forum has been a wonderful gift for me. Thanks to everyone for taking the time to share all the joy and sorrow that we all experience. I always come back for support and now feel strong enough to encourage newbies to this forum to be true to themselves and that they are not alone!
:love::love:
Yes!!! Meeting others, whether on email or web or face-to-face, has opened up vistas that produce feelings of "no guilt", which can only be good, as there's too much of that in the world!Quote:
Originally Posted by Gabrielle Hermosa
To know that many, many other cd's have lots of calibre, with nothing dirty about it reinforces our own belief in ourselves too. Many of us, myself included have had feelings of insecurity or lacking in self-confidence in the past, but these are now dispelled and the flags are flying!
Three cheers for crossdressing, and all who enjoy it!
Sonia
I knew crossdressers existed, but I fell for the whole "gay" scam. I also felt that I was the only one that had the thoughts about dressing like I do. Boy, was I glad to have been proven wrong ;)
I saw old television shows that had men wearing womens clothes (uncle Milty) and figured there were others who dressed this way.. shows like Monty Python were nice to see, regardless of whether they were doing it for the show or, in this case since they are English, likely did it anyway.. I knew there were others, so when I ventured to the internet and entered "crossdressers" into Google it sure was nice to pick and choose from all these sites, this one being one of the first to be listed.. the community is here.. how big is hard to say.. I'd like to think that for every one that is registered, there are at least ten who are just curious and thinking about either joining as a want to experiment type of person, or about the same number who want to join but are afraid they will be found out about.. and for all those who are here, want to be here, never wanted to be here there are also an equal number or greater that aren't on the internet.. or maybe I'm full of it...
I think that's when I first knew, but wasn't it LOOK mag?Quote:
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
Of course, the internet's what awakened me to this Not Aloneness! LOL
It was a BIG relief for me to learn that there were many others that shared my interest in dressing as a woman.
I knew in 1978 that there were others, after a Cher show at Ceasers in Las Vegas. One guy played Bette Midler, one Diana Ross and a third played Cher. I wanted to turn in my letchers Badge, as I was at the stage and could have touched them as they struted and danced by. Quite a bit different from most of us, but some of you are very well gifted in the presentation of or Hobby.
This is certainly a wonderful site. Go Gurls!
Lonely at first... then realised there must be others like me, but in the wilderness... then the internet...
This suite of forums has quite possibly changed my life...
I would like to really thank the people who put it together... awesome vison..
And as for the people here...
When you realise that you are part of a much bigger community it is so empowering it defies words...
This place is so important... sorry... off thread! :hugs:
I always knew, I saw women all the time in womens cloths (sorry, couldn't resist)Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonia Greene
Yes, this forum has made me feel like I am part of a community, being able to ask questions, or give advice is priceless.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonia Greene
BUT, I would still give anything to actually meet another CDer, face to face.:hugs:
Yes, I feel very fortunate to have found this site. I, too, felt lonely and alone in my CDing. What a thrill and a relief to find others and a great place to communicate with them.
Hi Sonia well said.
Yes Sonia I am with you. Coming here and reading about all of you has helped me more than I can ever say. It would be so nice to someday meet some of you in person and exchance thought about things. I did not choose this but life is easier for me now that I have embraced Jolene and express her.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonia Greene
I do have to add ........ I Love My Clothes. :)
I was about 13 when I first realized I wanted to wear women's clothes. I knew then it was unusual and was smart enough not to talk about it.
As I grew up I became aware that I was not unique, but at the same time was unaware that there were so many of us. I spent much of my adult life keeping this side of me at bay, and was largly successful. However, I always felt that I would need to embrace it someday.
Now in my fifties and with the opportunity to dress I have indeed embraced it as much as I can, and oh how I enjoy my female side :)
The advent of the internet and its online tg community has been a wonderful bonus to us all. I now know just how many of us there are and, more importantly, just where I fit in to this community. This has helped me come to terms with my female nature and to make the most of it.
As far as acceptance goes I regret that we still have a long way to go. But somehow I feel that it will get better, although not as quickly as we all would like.
I feel lucky and gifted to have this female side of my character and it's great to be part of a such a wonderful community.
Luv
Susan
:o...I dont think I was ever depressed about it (my crossdressing) but I
was quite concerned, having to live in this black body and have to whitch
my macho, manly manerisms off and my female manerisms on.Just knowing
that others on this earth though as I did, did as I did, looked in the mirror
as I did was and is a growing comfort.I thanks God in heven for this gift he
gave to me.I am no longer concerned about who I am or who I transform
myself to be..........dana.:)
For me, it wasn't just that there are others out there that like doing something, that everything I had been "taught" or "told" was somehow wrong, sick and depraved, but that most everyone here are really quite normal people. Some even have very normal relationships with loved ones.
This is a major part of the reason that has led me to actually believe my wife when she says she accepts my CDing, rather than just saying that to appease me. Does that make any sense?
For years and years I thought what the #&%@* is wrong with me? Yeah, I saw the entertainers mentioned, Flip looked good!, but that was mostly played for laughs.
Me? Shame, remorse, guilt, anger at myself, depression et al.
Then I found this site! Do I hear a Halleluah?
You bet your sweet brassiere I do. For years I had no idea if I was gay, some one-of-a-kind freak, or what. When I finally was able to do some research on crossdressing (this was 25+ years ago) the only material I could find was psychological textbooks that treated it as an illness and recommended shock therapy as a "cure". Not a whole lot of help for my self-esteem, I tell ya.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonia Greene
Only years afterward when I discovered that I'm not alone, and that it's quite typical for a crossdresser to be heterosexual, did I finally start to accept who and what I am.
ralph
That's the key START..some of us didn't take this to heart from the gate and through endless efforts tried to supress it for years, lock it away as a dirty shameful secret..Quote:
Originally Posted by Ralph
You just don't rub away 40 years of filth by wipeing the top layer of dust off, plenty of tarnish yet to polish..
I discovered that I was not alone when I was about 12 years old. It was the early 60's and I found a book about sex and there was a chapter on transvestites. I had been dressing for 7 years by that time and really did think I was the only one in the world who did this. This was a long time before the internet. I find it amazing all the information we have at our disposal now because of the internet! It must have been a very lonely life for a crossdresser a century ago.
Tho I must admit that I nver really felt that I was alone, discovering this site has been a big boost for my dressing up, especially with all the great advice that many of you have provided.
I see that there are a lot more of us than I had ever imagined! This forum is proof enough.
Yes, I have felt alone in the past, even though I knew there had to be others like me. Joining the forum here helped get rid of that feeling!!
Shall we give three cheers for Crossdressers.com? Hip, hip..........!!
(I gave my thanks before writing this)
Sonia
Thanks for all exchanging your experiences, which reinforce our group strength....
I felt so alone. One weird kid. Years later i discovered a few magizines at my local porn shop--"Ladylike" was helpful. Also "Transformation". I went to library and found almost nothing. But eventually our library got computers, and then went online. Amazing, thousands of cds read, "Fictiomania"! Felt great when I got online myself.