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going to my car the other nitght, my neighbor who had seen me dressed as
a woman befor, decided to confront me.He called me many names but the one
that I remember most was a f-----in sissy.Now I will put on my pink frills with
the best of them but I have never considered myself as a sissy.I always con-
sidered sisies to be someone else....what do you ladies think. dana.
I think your neighbor was born in a pig sty and raised by neanderthals (Sorry Geico guys). But that's just one intelligent person's opinion.
Some people are proud to be called sissies so to them it would have been a compliment. We are who we are.
"Sissy" is, I believe, a sub-genre of crossdressing. Usually one will advertise the fact that they like the word, or the scene, if one does.
By the way, wtf is wrong with your neighbor? Damn, what a douchebag.
:tw: LOL Good oneQuote:
Originally Posted by Lorileah
i'm not a sissy.....i'm just me
what do i think?....i think your neighbour has some personal issues he needs to sort out, because whoever you are providing you are not hassling him, is not his business.......sadly though we see it everyday though don't we, people who just need to bully....
I'm not a violent person (unless provoked), but, If that had happened to me, he would have found himself in the hospital having a high heel removed from a sensitive place. And I would be shopping for new heels.:devil:
Hey girl, I don't know if you're a sissy or not, but I do know your neighbor is an incredible, flaming a-hole.
Hugs...Joni Mari
You should have taken a swing at him.
Love your solution Ashley! Hey, and any occasion to buy new heels is a good thing. Shoes rock!
drushin703, your neighbor is a serious jerk. I think you should come up with a creative way of setting him straight.
I have to agree with the others. I dont know why some people take it upon themselves to hassle other or to get into other peoples business. I think your neighbor has his own issues. Maybe he is a closet CD?
What grade is this guy in, 4th? 5th? I guess he's a tough guy because he had the guts to go and pick on a crossdresser? Or more likely that's how he reaffirms his masculinity after he gets off the phone at 1900-*******...
Just as long as that guy knows you're not afraid of him, you'll be allright.
Odds are high he's hunting the net for naked pics of men. IF he continues to harass you, call the police.
Your not a sissie from what I read.Quote:
Originally Posted by drushin703
From what I heard sissies are masculine men who get dresses in way to extreme girly clothes. (like a pink frilly tu tu or something.) I think it does got something to do with the whole dom/sub scene.
Sissies in the UK are merely effeminate men. So I guess we qualify. As others say though there is no need to ram it down your throat.
You think he might be having some doubts about himself? Hmmmm
It sounds like your neighbor is a jerk. Just think, they vote and reproduce.
scary thought is it not.
Strictly speaking and going by the definition for the word, he's actually right.
sissy /ˈsɪsi/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [sis-ee] Show IPA noun, plural -sies, adjective –noun
1. an effeminate boy or man.
2. a timid or cowardly person.
3. a little girl.
(From Dictionary.com)
OK, that was the devils advocate in me. Now for my opinion!
I've always thought of a sissy as being someone afraid or unwilling to do the hard or dirty work. That is not me. I find the idea of someone thinking that about me to be highly insulting.
Sometimes I hear dumb crap like that from neighbors, I just yell "Aww F*** you" and usually they shut up. That is just kind of my knee-jerk reaction
Some people like your neighbor are just kind of "Nyeehhhh" (said while I hit my chest with my wrist)
So far I haven't been confronted by any of my neighbors for being who I am...but my SO and I were talking about it the other night and how I would handle it..... my responce was that I would simply say " I relize that I wear womans clothes, thats because I feel inside I am a woman, but what is your reason for keeping such a close eye on me and striking up this conversation?" and the I would turn and go back to what I was doing.:)
I tend to agree with Angie. I have never considered myself a sissy---I have always considered myself a woman.
make sure you have a video cam next time he confronts you. Tell him to kiss off. If he swings, kick his a$$ and than post the video on youtube with the title "Sissy kicks (insert name) a$$". Make sure that his friends are provided a link.
Of course I am just kidding. (but it sounds like fun!)
Sissy is a pejorative for a boy or man to indicate that he fails to behave according to the traditional male gender role.
also name for older female sibling
or in crossdressing/transgenger terms a male who dresses in an over effeminate style(like a little girl, maid etc)
simplified wiki definition
stacy-marie
Your boorish neighbor may well in fact be a disenchanted "f***in sissy" without the means or more likely the courage to truly express their own innerself and thus they remain unfulfilled and angst ridden. Next time you need to ask what's really bothering them:devil:
Michelle
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Originally Posted by drushin703
[SIZE="2"]Oh, dear – I seem to have offended that gentleman…[/SIZE]
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Originally Posted by Fab Karen
[SIZE="2"]Good one! Surfing for sissies, perhaps?[/SIZE]
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Originally Posted by tricia uktv
[SIZE="2"]Yes, I suppose. I think ‘sissy” is an old-fashioned term – effeminacy is out of fashion these days. :sigh: I wouldn’t mind being called a sissy. I’ve been pushed through the male forming machine against my will, but I never completely became one of them (thankfully)…[/SIZE]
I can understand how a homophobe would throw "Sissy!" at one of us, but there is a difference as far as I see. To me, sissies are the sadomasochistic version of what we are. While we seek to live out the role of another gender, they seek to be sexually emasculated.
I guess, if you want to boil it down to its base components, it really comes down to control. Girls like me want to control our gender and sexual identity. Sissies want theirs to be controlled by someone else or a fetishistic ideology.
It's just another, subversive form of BDSM. I regard it as a proclivity and not a lifestyle.
I rather relish my sissyness and would have considered it a compliment. I would have offered him a flower.:love: I would never resort to fisticuffs. I could hurt him anytime I want, that's why I have a safe full of firearms, but I choose not to.
Oh, and Cheshire Gummi, here's a flower for you.:love::tongueout
I'm assuming the person who said this was a guy .... a regular guy who hates to see other guys doing anything he doesn't consider the sort of "guy-ish behavior" he would do :rolleyes:
I personally have no fear or bad feeling about being called a sissy (even to my face). In fact, I actually think of it as a compliment. To me a sissy is the term regular guys call a feminine man ... and that's what I am, and I'm proud of it! :D
I agree with Rachel. I am a Sissy and I am very proud of it. I have even thought of changing my name to "Sissy".
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Originally Posted by Rachel Morley
It seems that sort of behavior is almost always caused by insecurity.
Ooohhh... that sounds like fun.Quote:
Originally Posted by TNLadi
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There is a sort of "sissy" scene that involves forced fem or bloomers or other various fetish stuff but that's not what I'm referring to when I proudly refer to myself as a sissy.
When I was young, clever, articulate and a bit too graceful boy growing up in a very rural back woods kind of environment, I got called a sissy at least once a week.
Fight? Oh yeah, I fought and got beat up quite a bit. You see, while I am admittedly quite headstrong, I'm not very physically strong so the average boy could over power me fairly easily. The truth is I've always hated to fight even if I was winning. I'm reasonably competitive but I have zero percent of that killer instinct guys like to talk about.
After many years of working out, rough sports and endless skirt chasing I finally decided to quit running from that little sissy that had such a hard time.
I am a feminine man.
I am a special kind of girl.
Call me a sissy
I'll wear your invective like a badge of honor.
-Misty
Well, here's the really important question? He now has himself in a "lather," got to call you a bunch of names, and act like a "big man." Can you imagine that he will probably escalate? I don't think he's going to be happy with just calling you names.
I bet if you asked just about anyone, (including our thinking-challenged neighbor) to define a "f***in' Sissy, you wouldn't get two answers out of a thousand they were anywhere near the same. It's a nonsensical label, that anyone who has a brain bigger than a hamster's wouldn't enunciate.
BUT, you would be wise to now start "The Ball Rolling," and make a formal complaint at your Police Department. I think you have a real opportunity to make sure that he gets "talked to," that The local police get to "eyeball" him and know who he is, and that they try to make him understand that if he keeps on with this, there will be consequences.
Peace and Love, Joanie
Are you insinuating I need to lighten up?Quote:
Originally Posted by LilSissyStevie
'Cause I'm pretty sure step one to sissihood is to never speak unless spoken to. It's not very proper to stick your tongue out at someone, either.
Bad girl. No cake. And relinquish your firearms. Sissies are not allowed protection from life. You're helpless, remember?
:naughty
Actually, all I'm saying is that you don't get define what a sissy is or make rules fo them. Sorry, I guess your just not man (or woman) enough.:love:Quote:
Originally Posted by Cheshire Gummi
I understand you're offended by my initial statement, but I fail to see how I'm defining what a sissy is. I'm pretty sure the definition is pretty clear already.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sissy_%28transgender%29
You may not be one of the more extreme, but...
Well, when you say something like "I'm into bondage" people assume there are whips involved, not that you just handcuff yourself to the bed from time to time. "Sissy" culture may incorporate people who just crossdress and act rather girly, but its majority are people like that.
I didn't mean to offend you if I did, nor was I trying to define you. That's just what I know and think of it.
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Originally Posted by Lorileah
Ok ok first I THINK you need to apologise to the Geico guys cuz you just slammed them and insulted them very badly hun. There good guy and don't want to be brought down to the neighbor level. There better than that , the neighbor is not.
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Ya what she said. I was going to tell you to call the police and charge him with verbal assault. Then at least if he did try something in the future you know that the police have the report. Even if they only just talk to him it will be recorded as long as you insist and don't back down. Like If he vandalise you place car etc If you don't call now they might not believe you.
Plus if he does attack you and there is a report out on him If you fight back and really hurt him your covered eh!
Personally if some one did that to me I either would have set him straight or kicked his ass. I would not consider it a complement just in the way he said it. If some one said it as a joke I might but it would depend on how it was said. And if I did not beat him into the ground I would stand there and call the cops right in front of him and wait till they came. I think that would either shut him up or give me an excuse to trash him,:heehee: I know I know Not lady like , well that's the guy in me , Dam I thought I tamed him. :doh:
Omg.. what a jerk off.. If he don't like it, he can turn the other cheek and be a real American.
Ya, I may like to dress as a ballerina, but as far a wiki's term, and my knowledge of karate goes, I am no "sissy". Heaven forbid that a man should dress in female clothing and be subjected to the same disgusting stereo types that women see everyday.
And yes, I am referencing to the fact that he not only insulted the TG community, but also women. I don't even want to know what that Jack *** thinks of his own wife..
I'm sorry you had to deal with a moron like that drushin703 :(
I agree with Christina W, the way he said it was meant to be an insult. And if it was me I totally would've confronted him and if it came to it kicked his ignorant ass. My boots could do some serious damage! :heehee: And as someone said on the last page then he'd have to deal with getting his ass kicked by a sissy :p!
I think Sissy mostly is used as a bullying type term by males BUT I believe that sissy is sometimes used by females to belittle ie bully females as well as males and I think bullying is just showing someone's inadequacies in understanding and or ignorance so, just ignore it!
I am sorry you have a neighbor like that. Get someone to mail him a gay (not that there is anything wrong with it) magazine. Then call him a sissy.
In the UK, the term sissy is never used.
So I have never understand what it truely means.
As insults go "sissy" is about as feeble as you can get. Stick and stones may break my bones but "sissy" is going to cause about as much damage as a dust particle :lol2:
Really? No one is allowed to discuss an absolutely documented type of sexual fetish because it happens to share a name with a term you apply to yourself too?Quote:
Originally Posted by LilSissyStevie
Sometimes I am still amazed at how thinly skinned so many of us are.
As far as this guy is concerned, I doubt he knows there's a sub-culture of fetishists that crossdress as submissive misogynistic images of women, it is much more likely he's an ignorant old fool who just went to the easiest most base insult he could come up with to describe the image that frightened him because it was different.
I quite like being called a crossdressing sissy (!) but context is everything. This guy sounds like an idiot.Quote:
Originally Posted by drushin703
What a sad, angry little man your neighbor must be!
Look, he said it because he's a confrontational ignoramus. He said it to provoke a response, and he's your run-of-the-mill average moron. He, like most people, doesn't want anything out of the norm waltzing around in his world. His reference to you as a "sissy" came out because that's the first word that came to his small mind when he thought about a guy dressed as a woman. So pondering the absolute definition of "sissy" is not relevant here.
I wouldn't put up with it from him. What does he think? That just because you wear a skirt, that you're some shrinking violet who cowers at anyone who says anything to him? He's the one causing the problem. I wouldn't confront him while wearing heels, but I'd definitely let him know that his comments are not welcome, and not acceptable. He's no better than you, and you have a right to be wherever you are, especially your own home. No one will ever tell me how to act in my own home. I don't give a damn if I'm mowing the lawn in a bikini. It's my life and my house. If he were my neighbor, I'd tell him to deal with it, and shut up. His ignorance is showing.
sorry to hear about the meat head that lives next to you. if he try's to insult you again just tell him what i tell my sister when she catch's me picking my nose. don't like it, don't look. works for me. i might concider putting a heel some place tender to. i could use new shoes.lol. i would sujest not getting physical with him. cause s#!t splatters when you hit it, and you don't want that on your clothes.
In the minds of people like your neighbor, they don't give a rip about the definitions, terminology or distinctions that we make within the CD community. He used "sissy" as an insult, expressing the kneejerk loathing and hate some people feel toward us based on a self-righteous conviction that we are perverts deserving their condemnation -- and possibly their retribution. He doesn't like having a perv in his neighborhood and and probably feels a primordial need to defend his family and territory, to rid it of this pestilence. The fact that he was willing to confront you in such a manner tells me he isn't frightened by the prospect of an escalated altercation -- in fact, he would probably relish it.
The sad thing is there's probably not a lot you can do to change this guy's attitude, especially now that he's taken a stand. I do know that responding to his verbal attack by initiating physical violence would be a big mistake, almost sure to land you in hot water that could have far-reaching consequences. For that matter, responding in kind verbally isn't going to solve anything either, and may make the situation worse.
As some have suggested, you could file a complaint with the police, and if they're willing to follow the letter of the law that might chill the situation somewhat -- put him on notice, so to speak. And yes, that would put him on their radar, but it also puts you on their radar and if the truth be known, their private sympathies (along with those of the rest of your neighbors) would probably lie more with him than with you. Not that that should matter, but I'm just saying.
There's another thread going on right now about CDing and neighbors that should take note of your experience with this guy. To my way of thinking, about the best you can do under these circumstances is to try to defuse the situation as best you can by being a bigger person than this jerk, which means demonstrating to him that you are a person of quiet conviction and courage unwilling to be shamed by him, and doing so without lowering yourself to his level or letting him bring out the worst in you.
Also, I might make this observation/suggestion: personally, I fully support your decision to be more open about your gender orientation and expression, and I respect your courage. But based on the current realities of the world around us, if you wish to live your daily life more openly, it might be prudent to consider relocating to a neighborhood / cultural environment that would be more tolerant. Sometimes discretion really is the better part of valor.
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Originally Posted by TGMarla
Totally agree, of course. My only surprise is that he trotted out a last-century epithet instead of the default US term for insufficiently barbaric men - "faggot". Most guys of his caliber, that's the only insult they know. (note to our friends across the pond - yes, for some reason men perceived as homosexual are called cigarettes around here. I have no idea why.)