I told my wife..... Here's to a promising 2010!

This is very long so if you want the Cliff's notes just read the paragraph before the first list and below :)



Around New Years someone posted a thread about what their resolutions might be if they had them. I posted my small list and my number one was "1. Tell my wife about my CD'ing". I joked saying "The first thing is going to be tough, but I figure I have all year to do it" because I honestly thought it wasn't going to happen.

Well I did...She was coming back home from a weeks trip back to our hometown. I made a plan that morning that I was going to tell her. I had to pick her up from the airport on my lunch break so I knew that I wouldn't have enough time to proplerly tell her so I made myself tell her I had something very important to tell her after work. That turned out to be kind of a bad idea because she was very anxious and worried all afternoon but I knew I had to do it otherwise I would just get home from work and chicken out like I've done a million times in the past 4 years.

Well I got home and she immediately wanted to talk. I told her she should eat dinner before we started because she hadn't eaten all day and I didn't want her to feint lol. She said she was too anxious and couldn't. The mood was so intense I can't even explain it. I started to spew out the line I had been practicing all day and immediately stopped, I went and got some water and tried once more. Finally the words came out "I have been cross dressing since I was 15". She couldn't come back with a reply so I went on: "Hun, I've never told ANYONE this before. I've been painfully keeping this secret to myself for almost a decade", instantly all my anxiety and nausea went away, I felt like a ten thousand pound weight had just been lifted off of my chest.

At this point she was still just sitting there. I broke the ice and told her that she can ask me ANYTHING she wanted. I had come prepared with a sheet of answers to questions I felt she was going to ask me. Thank you so much for your thread about talking to your SO's Marla, it was my saving grace. The first thing my wife asked me was "So are you, uh, you know, um..." I said "Gay or Bi? No..." We both chuckled that she couldn't spit that out :) Then she went down the list:

• Why do you like it?
• Is this some kind of kinky sex fetish?
• Do you want to become a woman?
• Have you been wearing my clothes?
• Aren’t you satisfied with me?
• When do you do it? How often?
• etc

Al-throughout the Q & A she was physically trembling and I could tell her mind was running . I can't imagine the stress she was under, but I think she handled it very well. She was never accusing or angry even though she asked me thing like was I borrowing her clothing or using her makeup. At this point I think she just wanted to learn about me.

After she was done asking her questions I went down the rest of my list of questions I thought she was going to ask. She told me that she might be a little distant for a few days while she deals with the news....BUT, after that I think she relaxed a little bit and got a little curious:

• Do you have a girls name? - Yeah, Kristin, last name Skye, spelled S-k- (she finished the last name for me :P)
• Do you have a wig? - Yep.
• What color is it? - Explained the color the best I could.
• Can you do makeup? - Yeah, but I'm not very good.
• Do you stuff a bra? - Kind of...I use things call breast forms that are way better.
• Do you own any clothes? - Yeah, I used to have a large collection that I purged, but I'm starting a new collection. (told her a few things that I have so far)
• How do you hide "him" - (We'll keep the answer to this one off the record :P)
• What are you favorite clothes? - Short skirts, jeans, tight tops, heels and boots.

Those kinds of questions continued and each question had a side conversation. For example when she heard my reply to her question about makeup she said "well maybe someday I can help you and do it" or when I told her about one of the shirts I had "well if we're going to do this then one of the best parts will be me getting to borrow some of your stuff!".

She also brought up going out as two girls. I told her this is one of my biggest fantasies and explained some of the stories that you all have posted about going out with your SO's. She was open to the idea, but when she had the bad thought of me getting hit on while we were out she panicked I little bit. I told her that it is something I would like to do some day but we should take it slow for now.



Anyway it was a long conversation, but I'm so glad that I finally had the courage to have it. Neither of us really got any sleep that night. She was still very nervous, startled, excited, and scared about the whole thing and I was so happy to have shared my cross dressing with someone that I didn't want to sleep.

Anyway, I just want to thank everyone on the boards. Without you wonderful people that day really may have never come. :hugs:













OH! And I forgot to mention the best part. He last question was "So when do I get to meet her?". She said whenever I was comfortable to let her know so she can prepare herself ^_^

Oh Kristen that is awesome. Sounds like you did it properly and she is seeing a positive side to it. You go girl. Contratulations. Hope

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WOW Kristin! :hugs: :hugs:
I read this three times, lol... I truly could not be any happier for you. I am so glad it went well :love:

Please let us know how the two of you are doing. I wish you both well!
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Kristin Skye, that is absolutely wonderful! :)

I know about the weight lifting...happened to me too, though my wife wasn't nearly as calm about it as yours. But I felt so much better for having finally come clean.

Some of the others will also tell you this...even though she has accepted this for now, don't push her into accepting more. She has a lot to digest, and it sounds like she has a good digestive tract for it, but there is undoubtable some shock she's feeling right now as well. Let her set the pace, as much as possible.

But I am so thrilled for you, Kristin! God bless you and your wonderful wife! :)

Very happy for you:love: There might be some ups and downs just answer everything you can as honestly as you can and tell her no more secrets from here on out.If she wants other gg's to talk to tell her about thr FAB forum. Best Wishes to you both.:hugs:

Yay!!! I am so excited for both of you. It really could not have gone any better than that. You guys remind me of how it went down with Melissa and myself. I'm the only one in her life (beyond the board) who knows and we like having that secret to ourselves and fitting Melissa into our lives is an adventure.

One thing I would suggest is if you find that Kristin is becoming more of a romantic interest with your wife, instead of just a gal pal, you may want to try this. I told her that I already know the male side, and even though it's the same person, there are definitely some differences between the two. So I wanted an opportunity to date Melissa. First it will take place at home where we're both comfortable. Getting used to each other and enjoy some time together. but eventually I want to go off and leave her at home to get ready on her own and then pick her up and take her out on a real date. Just the two of us.

I think you're wise to give your wife as much time as she needs to digest it all and be prepared to answer a couple of questions repeatedly that will make her feel more secure (I had 2 that kept asking every once in awhile "just to be sure" ;) ) but because Melissa was so open and honest, I was able to settle in quite quickly.

I wish the both of you many happy experiences as Kristin finds her own place in your marriage. :hugs:

oh Kristin!!! I'm really happy for you, girl!!! It seems that your SO is going to be OK with your CDing. Well, you have read it here thousand of times: Don't move too fast and let your SO set the speed at which she is comfortable. Good luck hon.

Congrats Kristin! You are on the right track! Just think how next New Year's is going to be! :daydreaming:

I'm so glad that you were able to tell your wife. It will make a big diiference.

Thank you everyone for your kind and congratulatory words! That is exactly what I was talking about in my original post, you all are the best ^_^

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Some of the others will also tell you this...even though she has accepted this for now, don't push her into accepting more. She has a lot to digest, and it sounds like she has a good digestive tract for it, but there is undoubtable some shock she's feeling right now as well. Let her set the pace, as much as possible.

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I know I need to let her do the pacing and that's my plan but she is the kind of person to take in big bad news and then never talk about it again and I'm just afraid that if I don't casually bring it up or talk about it going forward its just going to become that "thing" that I do. I really want her to be involved. That's why I'm planning on introducing her to Kristin the weekend after this. Do you think that is too soon?

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answer everything you can as honestly as you can and tell her no more secrets from here on out.If she wants other gg's to talk to tell her about thr FAB forum. Best Wishes to you both.:hugs:

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I did tell her that from now on I know there is no reason I have to keep any secrets from her. I think she liked that. I also mentioned that there was a Loved Ones and FAB forum that she could go to if she needed advice on how to deal.

I also asked her if she would care if I was on the boards while she was in the room as kind of easing her into the idea and she said it was ok, although I was on here last night while she was busy elsewhere and as soon as I heard her coming down the hall my hand hit that red X faster than you can blink your eye...silly programmed reflexes :heehee:

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One thing I would suggest is if you find that Kristin is becoming more of a romantic interest with your wife, instead of just a gal pal, you may want to try this. I told her that I already know the male side, and even though it's the same person, there are definitely some differences between the two. So I wanted an opportunity to date Melissa. First it will take place at home where we're both comfortable. Getting used to each other and enjoy some time together. but eventually I want to go off and leave her at home to get ready on her own and then pick her up and take her out on a real date. Just the two of us.

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That's a really cool idea Firefly, I will keep it in mind, thanks :hugs:

for all the negative stories we hear, it's ones like this which reinforce my belief of the power of female love and compassion.

It appears like you both handled the news quite well Kristin. From the sound of it, after a little period of adjustment, I think the 2 of you are going to have a very exciting time this year. ;)

Kristin, like everyone else, I think that's great and I wish you both all the happiness in the world. I think working up the courage and facing the heat was amazing on your part. For all of us, it's a roll of the dice; some of lose and some of us win. One day I will do as you did. Best wishes to you and yours.

Kristen, Congrats just remember now that that 10,000 lb weight is lifted from your chest your wife is holding onto a lot of that extra weight you released and she may not be able to take hold of it all the time. She might need a break every once in a while. I hope all goes well and that she will share with you that other side of who you are. Good luck and remember listen to what she is saying. Don't just hear her. :)

That's great Kristin. From what I read it sounds like your wife is going to be very supportive. Congrats to you for taking the courage to bring it out. It is much better when we tell than when we get caught or get outed by someone else.

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That's great Kristin. From what I read it sounds like your wife is going to be very supportive. Congrats to you for taking the courage to bring it out. It is much better when we tell than when we get caught or get outed by someone else.

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We both agreed that me coming to her and telling her was much better than her finding out some other way. The ONLY thing she was mad at me for was that I didn't tell her years ago, but she also understood how difficult is was telling her after 4 years of knowing each other.

Kristin: What a beautiful story. I'm so happy for you and your wife.It is obvious that your wife is an intelligent person, and like most intelligent people has a curious mind.Your honesty in all matters will make her relaxed, and I can see that, notwithstanding the immediate confusion your revelation might cause her,she will be the one to push the envelope further.I also detect great intimacy in your relationship, and this will weather all storms. You are leaving the darkness of winter, and spring will bring a host of new blossoms in your marriage.

Kristen, that's great news. I can only enforce what the others have said and moderate your enthusiasm. Your wife will continue to process the information and you may very well see her go through different stages of understanding. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this, just be prepared to reinforce your position and to support her in her quest to understand what you are going through.

As an aside, your fantasy about going out as two girls can have some unexpected (and humorous) situations. My wife and I had gone to the theater to see The Producers a couple of years ago. I was en femme and we were both dressed nicely for a formal evening out. After the show, we stopped at a lounge to enjoy an adult beverage. A nicely dressed gentleman riding a handicapped scooter approached our table and started hitting on... MY WIFE!!:eek: Although it turned out okay (the man had been enjoying adult beverages for some time and his wife came to the rescue), it was one scenario we had not envisioned and took us both by a bit of surprise. My wife confessed later that she was flattered and I sure don't blame her. I must confess I felt somewhat helpless as the "girlfriend" when it first started.

My very best wishes as you and your wife join on this journey together.

Awesome news Kristin! Definitely a tough thing to do, but it's definitely for the best in the end. Hopefully once she has had time to digest it, everything works out really well for both of you, as I'm sure it will.

wooo hoooo yay!!!!!! doin the girlie dance wooo hoooo. go step on a scale girl cause I know you're feeling weightless... thank you for sharing this... now for the rest of it...
one. and this is soooo big and important...RESPECT. HER . BOUNDARIES.

Remember this as important... you feel relieved that you don't have to be in the closet, but guess who's in there now? Yep. Her. And she can't talk about this with anybody she knows. Which is how women work through things, with their family and friends. But she can't share this can she?? So, be there for her. And know that the best thing of all is that she wants to meet 'her'. let her know that you are you and that you love her. Carol

It sounds like you're off to a great start Kristin. Just know that your wife may go through periods of confusion and less acceptance; I know mine did when I told her. If this happens, please, be patient and understanding and be as supportive as possible. Don't try to move to fast and always keep the lines of communication open. I wish both of you the best!

wow I am soooo incredibly jealous of you. I have the courage to tell my friends, but my girlfriend scares me to death. Congratulations!

Wow, congratulations! I am so happy it went so well.

If it seems that your wife is less accepting after a little while, it will only be because there are things that she doesn't understand. It will not mean that she is changing her mind. Should this happen, you are more than welcome to invite her to this forum and join FAB.

Also, please try to be sensitive to her feelings, even more so than usual. Some wives are reluctant to tell their husbands when they feel it is too much, for fear of seeming non-supportive.
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Wow... Truly I don't think that could have gone any better for you. You will be in 7th heaven in a few months. When I told my girlfriend it went good but not anything like that Hugs Michelle

Friggin' Awesome!

Congratulations. I'm glad it went so well.

Awesome! Just awesome. I could learn something with your whole approach to this. It's not just having the answers to her questions but the confidence you seemed to have in answering those questions. Congratulations! I don't know how it will eventually unfold for me but you have inspired me.

That is wonderful! Now you can check that resolution off and just spend the time enjoying yourselves. :bighug2:

Yay for Kristin & her wife!!
You seem very smart Kristin, and you have thought this through very well. Kudos!!
One things I am wondering about which Carol mentioned. Is there anyone else you are willing to tell or have know so your wife can talk with someone else?
Everything else seems to be going well and I am looking forward to your future post after the girls get to meet!!

Glad it all went well :)

As others have said just be prepared for her to have off days when she doesn't want to have anything to do with the cding, it doesn't mean she gone off the idea but needs to maybe sort things out in her head. Try and answer anymore questons she has as honestly as you can, let her know that she can ask anything and not to be scared of asking just because she thinks it may hurt your feelings, (I did this and it caused alot of problems)

Enjoy the exciting things that you can both do together and have fun.

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Awesome! Just awesome. I could learn something with your whole approach to this. It's not just having the answers to her questions but the confidence you seemed to have in answering those questions. Congratulations! I don't know how it will eventually unfold for me but you have inspired me.

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I'm glad sharing my story was inspiring to you. To be completely honest: I don't know why, but if she hadn't had gone out of town and I hadn't had the opportunity to dress and spend time with you all on the forum for 4 consecutive days I don't think I would have the confidence that I did while talking to her and that I do now. Its almost like just in those four active days in girl mode I evolved and really took it to the next level of comfort ability.

I almost started rambling again, hehe :heehee: I'm sure things will work out and unfold fantastically for you eventually. :hugs:

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One things I am wondering about which Carol mentioned. Is there anyone else you are willing to tell or have know so your wife can talk with someone else?

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Yeah Carol brought to light something I did not think about. Right now I'm not sure if there is anyone else I could tell that would give my wife someone close to us someone to talk to :/

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Glad it all went well :)

Try and answer anymore questons she has as honestly as you can, let her know that she can ask anything and not to be scared of asking just because she thinks it may hurt your feelings, (I did this and it caused alot of problems)

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Thanks Sandra :) And that is an amazing piece of advice that I wish I had had figured out a long time ago...

Just one word of advice from someone who just told their wife 3 months ago--COMMUNICATION!! Keep talking and don't get discouraged when you hit some bumps in the road. Take care and best of luck!

Hi Kristin
Congratulations , I am so happy for you and your understanding wife , and I would agree with what the others have said about keeping an open and honest dialog going on the subject and don't forget to be her man too.
Best of luck to you.
Tomara

Hi ! You did a nice job on the way you went about telling her.
Let me put my 2 cents worth in okay? In my opinion, you want to proceed slowly in the way that would make her more comfortable. As an example, if you see a woman on a television show you might want to make a mention how much you like that style of dress/skirt/jacket etc. on HER. Notice I said on her, not on you. Often a woman will then say something like, "would you wear that" or " what style do you like", something like that. In other words, you start the conversation AND let her continue it. I am a salesman in my "other life" and believe me it is a very effective way to "lead" a conversation in the way YOU want it to go. Again, start it and then be QUIET. Good luck dear !!!

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Hi ! You did a nice job on the way you went about telling her.
Let me put my 2 cents worth in okay? In my opinion, you want to proceed slowly in the way that would make her more comfortable. As an example, if you see a woman on a television show you might want to make a mention how much you like that style of dress/skirt/jacket etc. on HER. Notice I said on her, not on you. Often a woman will then say something like, "would you wear that" or " what style do you like", something like that. In other words, you start the conversation AND let her continue it. I am a salesman in my "other life" and believe me it is a very effective way to "lead" a conversation in the way YOU want it to go. Again, start it and then be QUIET. Good luck dear !!!

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That's probably pretty good advice as I was also thinking about that. Thank you for reassuring my presumptions.




And wow were you right Carol. I asked her last night how she was feeling about everything so far (we hadn't really talked since Monday). I brought up her having someone to talk to and sure enough it has been very, very hard on her not having anyone to talk to. We have a mutual friend back home up north that I told her I wouldn't care if she talked to, but she said that she feels she can't even talk to her. Anyway, we kept on talking, she cried a little more. She didn't want to talk to me about not having someone to talk to so I ended the conversation making her promise to talk to me in the future about her feelings.

This is certainly going to be a long, complicated and interesting road. Thank you all again for your support and caring :hugs:

Why not tell her about the FAB forum we have here. It's private and we help and support each other.

Reading your story actually brought tears to my eyes. What a wonderful story and a beginning to a whole new chapter of your lives together. It will certainly redefine your relationship in a very positive way. As you told your wife, you both knew your relationship as it had been in the past, but now it just changed, and you both will be building on your past relationship with this new part of your life.

You have been very honest, trusting, and open with your wife and bared your soul to her and I suspect those are strong attributes you have to build your relationship with her with in the future. I suspect your wife recognizes that by her reaction and things she said. As with anything that is worthwhile, there will be challenges, but I think you both have something special.

Congratulations to you both . Its such a relief , the burden of secrecy gone ....I applaud you both . This is a new exciting time for the both of you , so celebrate , have fun and grow happily together . I remember the first time I sat down with my wife dressed ....the moment of sitting there eating together was so intense . We then played board games ...trying to to calm the moment ....
Enjoy each and every moment ....good luck xxx

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Originally Posted by KristinSkye

I felt like a ten thousand pound weight had just been lifted off of my chest.

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...and thrusted squarely onto her shoulders.

Not saying you did anything wrong! Quite the opposite!

Just want to point out that when the weight comes off, it doesn't just disappear. Your wife is undergoing a lot of stress because of this, and it's going to take a long, long time to digest. Don't make assumptions, and don't overwhelm her.

You did the RIGHT thing, but keep on doing the right thing!

Its always good to hear about a successful "coming out". As others have said, there may be some bumps, but this was really good.

When I came out to my (then) gf (now wife) we talked it through...but I didn't have the forethought to list out answers to likely questions - its harder to do extemporaneously! anyway, we reached a similar place, and after 10 years of marriage, I can comfortabley dress to whatever degree I want in her presence. And she accepts and enjoys me in the bedroom as well.

Awesome that you've taken the first step. Just remember it doesn't get easier from here. My girl really doesn't have anyone to talk to either. I've made sure to not press how often I dress for the past few years. But now she's pushing me to dress more often. Keep the focus oh her and always be open to hearing her out.

Best of luck!
Kasha

Wow, Kristin, that is great news to hear. You are a lucky girl.
Congratulations and - a little warning - be patient with your dressing in front of her. I think she could have a setback in acceptance as she gets the idea that she looses her man.

Jolanda

Great for you and a good job. It was good that you were prepared and had practice what to say. It seems like everything turned for the best and I do hope that this year will be everything that want and need. Sometimes and many times it is our fears that keep us from telling the truth and being honest with ourselves and other. We do need to be careful with what we say and do with some people, not everyone will as accepting.

That's is very good news. I don't have a wife or a girl friend right now ( working on that ) but it is one of the hardest things to tell a loved one. Me when I first start dating a girl on the 2nd or 3rd date I will tell them about it. I have never had a bad response and it all was fine just no long lasting one..... Yet. Keep the lines of communcations open and I feel your wife will be your biggest support and best girl friend. Just make sure she knows you will not leave her for (anyone) women or man ever. You may look at other women but make sure she knows why you look. Have fun and make sure you introduce her to all of us here. We will welcome her with open arms and a big kisses.

Hi Kristin,

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Thank you so much for your thread about talking to your SO's Marla, it was my saving grace.

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I'm really happy that my wife Marla's thread has helped you :). Equally, the moderators here that have made it a sticky ... kudos to you!

I'm so sorry I'm so late in contributing to this thread but believe me when I say that I am super duper happy that you and your wife seem to have come to an understanding about your CDing. If you and your wife can get to a place where there is no fear or lack of understanding then I can tell you, from personal experience, that there is a real chance that it will bring you closer together because when you share such intimate and personal details between one another, providing the security is there (she doesn't feel threatened by it) there's every chance that this could be the beginning of something really wonderful between you. I absolutely know my crossdressing has brought me and my wife closer together.

Take care and good luck,

Hugs
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Just one word of advice from someone who just told their wife 3 months ago--COMMUNICATION!! Keep talking and don't get discouraged when you hit some bumps in the road. Take care and best of luck!

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Yes, my advice is to keep the communication lines as open as possible. Trust is so important here. Even though I knew about my husband's CDing from the start, over time he began to become more secretive about it, because we just weren't talking about it. I have never tried to make him feel that his need was shameful (although he downplayed it from a need to an "interest"), but he still felt, for one reason or another, a little embarassed about it. He withheld his membership to this site from me for over a year which hurt me very, very much, to know that he would not come to me with some of the thoughts that were on his mind. For example, I never heard him refer to himself as a girl..I still think he is having trouble expressing himself (something I hope to work on with him). He told me that he would even give it up for me..but of course, I would never ask him to do that, because I love him..all of him..and your wife loves ALL of you too, so please, don't hold yourself back. Because of my pain about him hiding his membership to this site from me, we had a four hour conversation, which turned out to be about CDing as well as some other intimate issues we needed to discuss. We both needed to communicate more..and we feel so much closer as a result. Be mindful of not shutting her out subconciously..let her know what is on your mind..but also be mindful that she may take some time to feel comfortable with the idea, and may still be hurting over the secrecy. It helped that my husband apologized to me for being secretive and acknowledged why I would be hurt by that. He let me cry and scream and even say a few not so nice things. He also assured me that I wasn't going to lose my man, which was an underlying fear of mine. We talked about his coming out to himself years ago, which he never shared with me.
Love and communication are key to a long lasting and loving relationship. I congratulate you for taking the next step and wish you much happiness and fulfillment ahead!

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Hi Kristin,

I'm really happy that my wife Marla's thread has helped you :). Equally, the moderators here that have made it a sticky ... kudos to you!

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Hey Rachel, I didn't realize that Marla was your wife, you've got a keeper there for sure :)

Seriously though without her insightful and well organized post I really doubt I would have came out so early in 2010 as I did. Being prepared for the conversation made every difference in the world and Marla was not only spot on as to what questions and reactions would immediately arise, but also the advice on how to handle myself and interact with my wife during the talk was fantastic.

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Yes, my advice is to keep the communication lines as open as possible. Trust is so important here. Even though I knew about my husband's CDing from the start, over time he began to become more secretive about it, because we just weren't talking about it. I have never tried to make him feel that his need was shameful (although he downplayed it from a need to an "interest"), but he still felt, for one reason or another, a little embarassed about it. He withheld his membership to this site from me for over a year which hurt me very, very much, to know that he would not come to me with some of the thoughts that were on his mind. For example, I never heard him refer to himself as a girl..I still think he is having trouble expressing himself (something I hope to work on with him). He told me that he would even give it up for me..but of course, I would never ask him to do that, because I love him..all of him..and your wife loves ALL of you too, so please, don't hold yourself back. Because of my pain about him hiding his membership to this site from me, we had a four hour conversation, which turned out to be about CDing as well as some other intimate issues we needed to discuss. We both needed to communicate more..and we feel so much closer as a result. Be mindful of not shutting her out subconciously..let her know what is on your mind..but also be mindful that she may take some time to feel comfortable with the idea, and may still be hurting over the secrecy. It helped that my husband apologized to me for being secretive and acknowledged why I would be hurt by that. He let me cry and scream and even say a few not so nice things. He also assured me that I wasn't going to lose my man, which was an underlying fear of mine. We talked about his coming out to himself years ago, which he never shared with me.
Love and communication are key to a long lasting and loving relationship. I congratulate you for taking the next step and wish you much happiness and fulfillment ahead!

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First off let me say your husband is lucky to have you.

Luckily for me I feel very confident that my wife feels the same way towards me as you do towards your husband. Even though it was tough on her at first (she also had some pretty bad crying fits in the first week) she has been absolutely wonderful and understanding.

I've been letting her bring it up since I came out in the first week of January and so far we have had very lengthy, open, understanding and insightful talks once a week. In fact she brought it up last night and we talked for about two hours.



Tonight is an exciting night for me, because she promised me last night that I could show her 1-2 pictures of me dressed tonight. I know this is a huge step for her, because since I've told her a month ago she has had absolutely no visual exposure to my CDing. She also said last night that this is step 1 of 3 that she wants to go through to get accustomed to seeing me en femme.

The next weekend that she has all weekend off she's going to let me know on that Friday before she gets off work that she is ready and she wants to see me in my casual wear. Just a bra, panties, lounge pants and tank top (no makeup, wig, heels, etc). Then on Saturday or Sunday she's going to let me know when she's ready and she'll tell me to go all out and dress.



There's so much more I know I'm excluding about how awesome shes being about the whole thing, but I'm just so excited about that weekend I can't remember :P