Sister sightings

When you are out and about in drab doing the usual errands, moving about with day to day shopping or other activities, how often do you have a "sister sighting"?

There have been many wonderful stories of being out en femme and having fun with sisters and meeting sisters at GNO's and other activities. However, I have not seen any stories of "sister sightings" in the context that I have described above.

I keep my eyes open for other sisters but have not the pleasure of a "sighting". Either the sisters are very passable in my neck of the woods or are not going out in public.

Has anyone had a "sister sighting"? What did you do when you had one?

Fanci

I have been more aware of the possibility of a sister sighting lately. It usually involves a taller-than-average woman who is slightly man-like, but there are other times I'm just not sure. One of the areas where I assume an undressed up sister is before me is when I see another man searching through the women's clothing at the thrift stores I shop at regularly. They might be shopping for a gift for their wife/daughter etc., as I hope others think about me, but I assume they're in the same section for the same reasons I am.

Spotted such a lady last week. I think more probably a transitioning TS. She was improbably tall for a woman, but I certainly identified with her.

Anneliese, you could have spotted me searching through the racks at some big department stores around here recently. I was with my gg GF and her daughter who were shopping. I love those excursions. It's just window shopping for me in that situation, but it's fun. Someone who knows "the signs" would probably have clicked to my level of enthusiasm, even if I was clearly in the wrong part of the ladies' section. (juniors? uh, no.) I have too much fun helping them find clothes.

I haven't spotted any since I was a teenager so I'm not sure how to act. Since I have come to terms with cd'ing, it would probably be a great big HELLO.

The other day when I went to the city-county building, I saw one.
She was going thru security just before I was. Pretty cute really, I didn't say anything, just kind of thought "alright! :thumbsup:"

If it had been somewhere else, I might have stopped and greeted.

Oh great!!!!!

Now do I not only have to wonder if I've been "made" by the general public, I also have to look out for other C/Ders running after me shouting something like...."Hi Debs" :brolleyes: :tongueout

[SIZE="3"]I have once, for sure, spotted a sister. She was with a GG, at a Chinese restaurant. Her shoulders were my first clue. I looked for an adams apple but, it was not very prominent. The cincher was when she went to pay and had her male wallet in her purse. She was very nervous, and I wanted to tell her she looked fine and to relax. I was unfortunatly with family, who I am not out to. [/SIZE]

I have spotted a few possible sisters at Goodwill--and--one day a tall woman scared me away from the dresses rack. 60 seconds later I took a good look, as I hid behind the women's short sleeve pullovers. Finally I got bold and caught her eye and winked, as I held a woman's top. Finally said to her, "Hi I am Jennifer--do you think this would fit me?"
He/she then introduced herself. She said she suspected that I could be a sister in drab.

In the town next to mine, there is a very tall senior-ish full timer that I see almost daily as she walks to the grocery store & back to her apartment. Sometimes I think the miniskirts, and even a petticoat is a little over the top for someone that age, which occasionally distracts traffic.

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Originally Posted by JenniferR771

I have spotted a few possible sisters at Goodwill--and--one day a tall woman scared me away from the dresses rack. 60 seconds later I took a good look, as I hid behind the women's short sleeve pullovers. Finally I got bold and caught her eye and winked, as I held a woman's top. Finally said to her, "Hi I am Jennifer--do you think this would fit me?"
He/she then introduced herself. She said she suspected that I could be a sister in drab.

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Jennifer. maybe you have seen me shopping at the Goodwill store recently. Could be I blended in so well shopping the women's section you would never have noticed me.
Yeah Right. LOL :)

About a year back I was out eating very late at night and our waitress was a sister. I was with 2 GGs and was myself going through a purge and rejection phase. They giggled and laughed so much she stopped waiting on us. I kept my mouth shut, and if they only knew they might not have been laughing so much. Needless to say I am not friends with these girls anymore. Interestingly enough she is someone who posts here!

I saw a gentleman with his wife in a Subway's in Ashland, Va, we were both in drab, but since I keep my hair long and styled femme, he smiled and gave me a big thumb's up. I pretty much figured he must have been cd. I wish I would have stopped and chatted. - If you happen to be a member here, give me a shout!

At a chess tournament of all things a couple of months ago (chess is my main hobby and I've been playing tournaments on and off for 35+ years, when I was in junior high, shortly after Bobby won the world championship). We've been out 3 times but all we do is play chess :( I came out to her on the phone before the first time we went out, I don't think she was expecting that. Have not gone out (or stayed in :D ) with her when I'm dressed yet, she on the other hand lives it 24/7, whereas I'm just beginning my journey and don't know where exactly it might lead.

I have never had a (sighting) This thread sounds like a UFO or a Bigfoot sightings.

" The Very shy creature is rarely seen out if her normal habitat and is easily frightened. If you see the creature you must report the sighting to the military right away and not approach the creature to prevent a forced makeover ! You might end up looking fabulous." :heehee:

Ok silly I know but that's what I was thinking about while reading about the "sightings".

I if you see me out dressed or see me in drab your more then welcome to come up and say hi if you want , but most girls don't what the attention. So if you do "spot" a sister don't do anything to upset her as much as we all want to share this with them.

I would like to "see" a fellow sister but so far I have yet to.......That I know of. The other girls might just pass so much better then I do or can see. I can't wait to really see one of us.

If I do spot a sister you all will be the first to know!!!

I had two sightings this week oddly enough on my Local Walmart.One Asian and one Hispanic .I figured they were both full time girls sometimes I am a little conscious of my eight but this ladies were a lot taller than me.

Haha @ Christina Horton

I've seen a few people wearing women's clothes while out but never a "CD" in full femme.

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Originally Posted by FanciJewel

I keep my eyes open for other sisters but have not the pleasure of a "sighting". Either the sisters are very passable in my neck of the woods or are not going out in public...

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Same here, I have barely, if ever, seen a "sister" or full cd out & about & not in an event where they would normally be at. It's very strange as I live only an hour away from the big NYC, now you know there are quite a few there, but somehow I don't see them around here.

I don't think I've ever knowingly seen a fellow "sister" out and about. I think it may have to do with the fact that everywhere I've lived has been near a military post. Not saying there are no CDing soldiers out there (like me) but I think the soldiers would rather not CD in a town around such a high population of military boys where they could possibly be caught/outed. I also think civilian CDers would rather not be around such a high concentration of testosterone filled military boys either.

When I do venture away from the area where I live, I normally don't actively look for other CDers...even if I have seen a fellow "sister", they've blended in so well, I didn't notice.

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Originally Posted by Deborah Jane

Oh great!!!!!

Now do I not only have to wonder if I've been "made" by the general public, I also have to look out for other C/Ders running after me shouting something like...."Hi Debs" :brolleyes: :tongueout

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I don’t know if you were being serious or not Debs but either way I agree. I often think, why the hell people would get “excited” about meeting some lady out doing her daily activities, for example, going to the shop for a loaf of bread. Would she really want to get ‘clocked’? I know if I am mistaken [which doesn’t happen often but still…] it kills my confidence. Seriously.

I probably encounter a lot of transgender people out and about but I never really notice but then again I never say a thing…why would I want to tear their confidence to shreds?

I don’t want people running up to me going “hey brother!” <<< GTFO.

My friend is MtF [who’s “stealth” btw] and is sitting here reading this post with me and thinks it’s disgusting that people would question the femininity or masculinity of women/ men- how do WE know if they are males or females, or just lesbian women [they could well be transmen…but then again, could just be butch women] or they could be feminine men etc etc…isn’t that like an invasion of their privacy to live their lives without people questioning their motives. If someone was to run up to them in a supermarket and out them, it could seriously put their safety at risk. Not even a joke.

I wouldn’t even make a joke about this, or even think about it at all…I hardly pay attention to people in the streets anyway [because where I live in Glasgow that could get you stabbed], but I’d never even question it either if I seen someone as masculine or feminine- it’s not my business and I keep my nose out, even if they do or do not know it.

Novel post but hey ho.

I agree with you and your friend NiCo but unfortunately, the truth of the matter is, people are judged everyday because of the way they dress/present themselves and I don't think that'll ever change.

If I were to go out in public I'd hate it if someone were to come up to me and acknowledge me because I'm CDing; even if it were a positive comment. Because then, it would make me even more self conscious. I would hope that I could be able to pass inconspicuously. And that's why, if I were to notice another "sister" I wouldn't say anything to her unless first spoken to.

I may have plenty of lesbian and gay friends and am very open to how other people decide to present themselves and live their lives but I have to be honest with you, I am still guilty for judging other people because of the way they present themselves...and I don't think there is one person in this world that hasn't done their fair share of judging of other people...it's a sad but unfortunate truth...

Occasionally, I catch a glimpse of one. My wife on the other hand picks them out right and left, and then discretely brings them to my attention. We never approach these people out of respect for their privacy. Sometimes it is interesting to observe how others react when they clock a CD.

Most of our encounters have been while traveling throughout the US and Canada. Compared to many of you, we live about as far into the boonies as can be. Nevertheless, we have run into them here too.

If you want to see more of us "out in the wild", then it pays to be more observant. Otherwise, you can be somewhat oblivious like me.

Babette

My wife spotted a sister at a local department store salon yesterday. She was dressed in slacks, in full make up without a wig on. My wife assumed she possibly was having her wig styled. I was in another part of the store when she told me and thought "good for her". I had no inclination of checking her out and was a bit envious of her enjoying her experience.

Back in 2007 I used to work in a casino. One night while I was working (I worked in drab) and a group of four ladies were having a night out at the casino. I could tell that one of them was a sister, and I eventually went up to her and started talking to her. After we talked for awhile, come to find out that all four of them were CD's. I was so surprised. Like i said, I could tell that the one i was talking to was a cd because even though she was very beautiful that night, she had a very prominent Adams Apple, she was taller then average, and she didin't do the greates job conceiling her facial hair....some light stuble could be seen on her upper lip. But I was sooo surprised that the other three were CD's as well.....They were soooo gorgeous, and totaly (atleast to me) undetectable!

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Originally Posted by SandraAbsent

They giggled and laughed so much she stopped waiting on us. I kept my mouth shut, and if they only knew they might not have been laughing so much. Needless to say I am not friends with these girls anymore. Interestingly enough she is someone who posts here!

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You could have stood up for her without outing yourself. If you defend people's right to diversity, etc. it doesn't shout to the world "I'm one too."

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Originally Posted by NiCo

I probably encounter a lot of transgender people out and about but I never really notice but then again I never say a thing…why would I want to tear their confidence to shreds?

I don’t want people running up to me going “hey brother!” <<< GTFO.

My friend is MtF [who’s “stealth” btw] and is sitting here reading this post with me and thinks it’s disgusting that people would question the femininity or masculinity of women/ men- how do WE know if they are males or females, or just lesbian women [they could well be transmen…but then again, could just be butch women] or they could be feminine men etc etc…isn’t that like an invasion of their privacy to live their lives without people questioning their motives. If someone was to run up to them in a supermarket and out them, it could seriously put their safety at risk. Not even a joke.

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[SIZE="5"]Wholeheartedly agree.[/SIZE]

I've only had sightings on two occasions. Well the first one was in the late 1970's which went on for several years. There was a guy who rode a bicycle around town while dressed as a woman. The rumor was that his wife had died and it affected him so much he had taken to wearing her clothes. I don't know if he tried to pass as it was so obvious he wasn't a female. He would come to the theatre where I worked on occasion and if I recall, at least once there was a day's or so worth of beard stubble. Most of the time, I'd see him on his bicycle but would sometimes see him in stores around town.

I recently cleaned up my bicycle after it being dormant for over fifteen years. On weekends, I sometimes wear light eye makeup and I think about the guy when I ride my bike with the makeup on.

The other sighting was a few years ago in San Diego. I was at Fashion Valley and was having lunch at a restaurant outside. A sister walked in with a GG and sat down at a table near me. The sister seemed a bit self conscious and again, was obviously male. I mentioned this couple to a GG friend I visit when in the area and she had a positive comment about them. I wish I could remember her exact words as I kind of want to come out to her but am afraid of losing the friendship.

There was also the time I saw a group of gay guys (from what I judged by their mannerisms) at the same mall. One was wearing women's sandals, but I don't think that really counts.

I was in Vegass staying at Caesars Palace last week, My family (wife, 2 teenage kids) and i were dining in one of the hotel restaurants, and there was a sister dining right scross from us with a GG. She was beautiful, iwth a long, platinum bblonde wig. Although i wss trying to be discreet, my wife said, "what are you staring at?" My wife, who knows about Renee and does not approve, had no clue that the sister was not a GG - neither did my kids. As i turned out, I dined in the same resttaurant en femme 3 days later

Unless there has been some type of interaction that was fate,I leave the other girls be.I just think,cool,another brave soul out there.

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They giggled and laughed so much she stopped waiting on us. I kept my mouth shut, and if they only knew they might not have been laughing so much. Needless to say I am not friends with these girls anymore. Interestingly enough she is someone who posts here!

You could have stood up for her without outing yourself. If you defend people's right to diversity, etc. it doesn't shout to the world "I'm one too."

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Then I was so wrapped in denial and shame, it was all I could do to keep my mouth shut and not smack them. I probably would out myself now just to shut them up!

I have seen at least one sister when out and about. As a closet girl, I have no idea what it is like to go out, I have no idea how I would feel if another sister approached me, even in the friendliest manner, And like many of you, I have always wondered just what is the right way to let them know I am and I wish I was as brave? I think you look pretty? I wish I was more like you? What to say? "Hi, I am a pathetic closet dresser, you make me feel good?" Jeez, some times I hate myself......

Susan

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Originally Posted by SusanCACD

I have seen at least one sister when out and about. As a closet girl, I have no idea what it is like to go out, I have no idea how I would feel if another sister approached me, even in the friendliest manner, And like many of you, I have always wondered just what is the right way to let them know I am and I wish I was as brave? I think you look pretty? I wish I was more like you? What to say? "Hi, I am a pathetic closet dresser, you make me feel good?" Jeez, some times I hate myself......

Susan

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How about "I think you look pretty, could I get your phone number?" You might just make their day. Plus if you get their number, even if you really aren't interested in dating, you could come out to them on the phone.

PS....you are NOT pathetic :hugs:

I saw 5,6,7 maybe more, was hard to tell what gender some of the people were. Tanya and her wife went to Capital City Pride in Olympia, Washington yesterday. It was 1 year ago since Tanya went out in the bright day light to another Pride Event for the first time. No one took a double take, no one pointed a finger. In fact many came up to say Hi!!. Our GASS TG group had a booth and many of our members showed up. I did see a few new girls and some that I only could wish I looked as good as. Now I know while I like being Tanya, Lesbians are good lookers.. ha ha..

Tanya

I make it up to San Fran every once in a while and I was just walking down Market Street for about 6 blocks on a beautiful Friday afternoon a couple of weeks ago. I could swear within that 15 minute walk, I spotted at least five or six CDers. It was pretty busy but nobody seems to really notice/care at all - the beauty of SF I guess.

A few years ago, I was out shopping in drab in the women's section of a local Sears outlet store, and I saw a "sister" going through the items in the rack next to mine. What caught my attention initially was the fact that her wig was done up in almost the identical way in which Rose Marie of the old Dick van Dyke Show used to wear her hair - complete with the two tiny little bows on either side of her head near her ears. A totally '60's look, and so out of fashion at the time.

And while her make up and the way she was dressed were otherwise very lady-like and convincing, I did notice that when her wrists poked through the long sleeves of her coat, they were extremely hairy - almost gorilla-like. A dead give-away, and I couldn't for the life of me figure out why that glaring detail seemed to have eluded her when she had clearly taken such great pains to be "passable" in the rest of her presentation.

A couple of years ago, I also spotted another "sister" in a local mall just before Christmas, and she was chatting with an SA who was operating one of those kiosks typically found in the traffic areas of malls. People were doing double-takes (as was I) because her outfit was more like a costume and something that either Mrs. Claus or a middle-aged female elf would wear - complete with a pair of buckled shoes not unlike what Benjamin Franklin might have worn back in the 1700's. Clearly, she wanted to attract attention, and equally clearly, she was making the young girl that she had button-holed very uncomfortable, given all of the snickers that she was attracting towards the two of them.

I subsequently found out from a GG (former?) member here who lives in my area - and who I had originally connected with via another crossdressing forum (now defunct) - that this particular crossdresser was known to her and that she presented herself in this manner because she was into public humiliation.

This GG hasn't posted here in quite a while and seems to have withdrawn from the crossdressing scene (at least on the Internet) even though she was very attracted to CDers in general, and very supportive of her husband. She even ran a shopping service for CDer's at one time where she would accompany them on their outings, and actually had this individual as a client once. Not a particularly happy experience for her, it seems, and from my own observation, I can see why.

Whatever floats your boat, I suppose, and I don't want to appear judgemental, but I do wish that those CDer's who are heavily into the fetishistic components of their "hobby" would keep it indoors. Fine for them to do what they do, but it also reflects poorly on the rest of us who merely wish to be as passable as possible and blend in when out and about, and not reinforce the negative stereotypes that already exist about us while giving those rednecks out there even more ammunition to justify discriminating against us.

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Originally Posted by SusanCACD

I have seen at least one sister when out and about. As a closet girl, I have no idea what it is like to go out, I have no idea how I would feel if another sister approached me, even in the friendliest manner, And like many of you, I have always wondered just what is the right way to let them know I am and I wish I was as brave? I think you look pretty? I wish I was more like you? What to say? "Hi, I am a pathetic closet dresser, you make me feel good?" Jeez, some times I hate myself......

Susan

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I would go to Esprit if you can....that is what got me out...and I waited 40 years for it....don't wait that long.

Monica

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Originally Posted by yumi2000us

I make it up to San Fran every once in a while and I was just walking down Market Street for about 6 blocks on a beautiful Friday afternoon a couple of weeks ago. I could swear within that 15 minute walk, I spotted at least five or six CDers. It was pretty busy but nobody seems to really notice/care at all - the beauty of SF I guess.

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One of them was probably me! :heehee:

Monica

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Originally Posted by donnina1963

How about "I think you look pretty, could I get your phone number?" You might just make their day. Plus if you get their number, even if you really aren't interested in dating, you could come out to them on the phone.

PS....you are NOT pathetic :hugs:

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Why not keep a supply of friendship cards with your en famme picture and your email address and give one to her.


Monica

Years ago, my brother mentioned that there was a 7' transsexual (his wording) working at a local OfficeMax. He said she had helped him several times. One day I happened to need some office supplies, and was in the area, and lo and behold, there she was. I'd say OVER 7 feet. Not passable, but certainly gutsy...and very knowledgeable and friendly. This was before I started dressing seriously.

Since I am a girl that has no choice but to live my life as I am I am always out in the REAL world.

I would say that there are some people that can identify me (not that I really care) and to tell you the truth I would have no issue with someone else that is trans comming up and starting a NORMAL conversation.

On the other hand I would find it annoying at best if some other girl came up and started a trans conversation with me.

Will a CD come up and talk to me? Well I cant say that has ever happened. I have to assume that there are VERY few CDs that ever venture out into the real world. I realze some go to GLBT places in the evenings. Since I generally dont go to those places and really am not a big party person I dont see many CDs.

In my professional life they very often seek me out but I do all that I can to separate the professioal life with my personal life.

Katie

Odly enough, I've seen two in the last two weeks. The first was coming out of best buy. no wig, no forms, no makeup but womens walking shorts, wedge sandels and the cutest purse. the second was at a local deli. I couldn't tell, she was very passable. At first I thought she was a GG, and the cutest outfit (black pencil shirt, frilly pink blouse and what looked like 3 1/2" heels). I was 100% sure she was GG (very attractive). She stepped behind me to wait on her order and began to talk to her GG friend. The voice gave her away. That's when I began to look much closer and there were several tells, but I had to look close to see them.

I said nothing to either. I thought it best to just let everyone go on about their business.

Nico's got the right number here, folks. I know I wouldn't enjoy the sideshow attraction experience, and I'm pretty sure that goes for most.

We all get pretty ticked off hearing the whispers behind our backs... And then go off doing the same. I begin to understand where the aggreived are coming from...

Unfortunately, if it would not make the headline on World Weekly News, I wouldn't be interested in looking.:)

I have been seeing a sister here in South Edmonton walking along the river - I have tried to catch up with her but she always increases the pace accordingly.

If only she knew I was a card carrying pantied sister in drab looking to give her my number !

At my job, I frequently see tell tale signs on guys that hint they might be CD. The poor ones that underdress and get caught, of course, well they're just asking for it. But I try to help them avoid having anyone else notice; I don't know what they think of me for doing that, but no one's ever said anything.

I am out a lot - if you see me, PLEASE say "hi"!

I have had a few sighting through the years of the elusive cdsaurous. Sorry couldnt help myself. Once was at a local bookstore, I was in guy mode the other time. The second time was at a local coffee shop that had acoustic music. This was before I realized how friendly that area was to transgender individuals. Now I go there dressed.
On a side note if anyone from this forum ever sees me out and about, I personally would love you to say hi. Heck I may even buy ya coffee if you are nice!!!

I spotted a 'sister' just a few days ago, and perhaps again today. She popped to her car dressed in a pink and black mini-skirt, I'm afraid her masculine walk blew her cover although the friend I was with never noticed. I'm almost certain I spotted her again today walking her dog. She was wearing sunglasses and covered her face with a scarf. I'd love it if she was a member of this forum and got in contact via PM :)

I saw a TS one day in my work building...she was probably heading up to the electrolgist to get her face done. She looked very passable, and only another TG/TS could have spotted her. I said nothing and let her "pass".

I often see other sisters as Sydney is fairly TG friendly.

One sticks in my mind though, I was in a DIY store in Wollongong (more rednecks than Sydney) she was in the queue in front of me. She would have been totally passable except for her extreme nervousness, but maybe we're all more sensitive to spotting other sisters. The checkout girl was totally professional and didn't bat an eyelid. I caught her eye in the car park and just smiled hello, hopefully I didn't send her back into the closet.

In Sept 2007, I was leaving a local restaurant with my kids and our church group when 3 tall ladies walked in. It was not a read but a recognize since I had bookmarked the web site of one of them.

I attempted to discretely introduce myself as a sister while in full male mode, including bushy full beard. I'm sure she thought I was crazy.

A year later, I got to talk to her at a local support group.

I go out as often as I can I know I don't pass 100% but like to think i look ok and only thoes who are looking for tells or signs notice me
so i would not mind if someone said hi
Susan

Out and about and saw two sisters. They were close to passable to me, so probably wouldn't be noticed by most. They seemed very happy together.

I have seen a few sisters while out in both modes and I have not tried to talk to them. Now one of them I saw I think I met them in a meeting.