Closet dressers, how many of u r truly FREE TO DRESS whenever u like?

I'm wondering if ANY of u r completely free to dress whenever u like at home and/or in private!?:thumbsup:

I have my daughter part time, so I'm NOT! If u have roommates, an SO, (live in or NOT), or live with relatives, you're NOT COMPLETELY free either!:straightface:

I'm wondering if we must live alone and NEVER have unexpected guests, to be COMPLETELY FREE to do our private dressing?:brolleyes:

If you're a closet dresser and can dress whenever the mood strikes u, what is it about your living situation that allows u that luxury?:)

Doesn't being "in the closet" MEAN you're not free to dress whenever you want, doc?

If you are free to dress whenever you want aren't you OUT of the closet?

Or does that just mean you "dress" only when completely alone?

Stephie

Oh, and BTW, I just LOVE your broom!

Doc,
Great thread!
No I can no longer dress when and as I please, I have my daughter and her family living here now. I can dress in private anytime I please tho just to be clear. I will never place dressing over family or friends . But thats just me , I could be selfish and a hermit and run them all off but thats not me.

You're right, we are never completely free to dress whenever. My wife is supportive of doing this, but I don't push my luck by coming home and throwing on a skirt if the mood is right.

Honestly there are some days, if work was rough or just the end of a bad week, I just want to come home and get dressed, all nice and pretty with lipgloss. I'm slowly learning how to apply makeup myself without having to turn to my wife every two seconds and say "now what" (plus I always ask which make-up I can use since I have no idea what I am doing) Anyhow last weekend I really just wanted to dress on Saturday night so I did while my wife went out with a friend, so it was so alone "Alexxis" time, which was nice.

But yeah, I'm never truely free to dress, if I am expect to meetup with someone for one reason or another or if I need to run so errands, dressing would be my first thing I do after I am assured I won't be seeing another person that night, except for my wife or if we invited someone to chill with me being dressed.

I live alone, in a house that I own, and am probably about as free as anyone could be to dress when I wish. (I do have a dog, but he's very accepting.) I live fairly quietly and unexpected visitors are extremely rare. The funny thing is that as I've gotten more and more into being out and about as Diane, my motivation to dress up fully at home has waned quite a bit. If I am going to go to the trouble to "go all the way," I want there to be some opportunity to show it off to the wider world. I usually have a few chances every week to do this, but when I'm at home, I don't much care what I have on. And it doesn't help that I usually come home pretty tired from work and often use my house as little more than a place to hang my clothes and rest my body at night.

I do wear heels 90% of the time and have long nails, earrings, permanent makeup and a few other things on all the time ... so the finishing touches are just that, the last details I put on before I go out. In the house, I'm usually in whatever drab clothes I wore to work that day, or something like a nightgown or bathrobe.

- Diane

I live alone, so I'm fairly free to dress when I want. BUT I currently have a GGfriend who doesn't know about my dressing. So I need to dress around her schedule of visiting me. Thankfully she's not the type to just "pop in" and she always calls before coming over. Other than that, I can dress when I want pretty much.

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Originally Posted by Diane Smith

The funny thing is that as I've gotten more and more into being out and about as Diane, my motivation to dress up fully at home has waned quite a bit...And it doesn't help that I usually come home pretty tired from work and often use my house as little more than a place to hang my clothes and rest my body at night...In the house, I'm usually in whatever drab clothes I wore to work that day...

- Diane

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WOW Diane, you and I are quite a bit alike! I could have written that.

I am in the position where I have my own private accomodation and there is only myself here, however, my ex partner and my children live within 200 yards of me and both my sisters are not above 1.5 miles away. As I have a slight mobility problem, both my sistres and my son have keys to my front door to gain access should I have problems (prone to falls and fractures etc.) One of my sisters calls weekly to help with housework and one calls to help with shopping etc, these calls can be entirely at random. Whilst none of these guys would even dream of looking in my private areas such as wardrobes or drawers it does mean that I cannot dress at will. Even at this hour of the morning (06:10 am UK time) it is not advisable as my son may be passing on his way home from night duty, see the light on and call in for a cuppa (he is a Police Constable BTW)
So on the face of it, it seems some of us have total freedom but in fact we do not. I agree with Lucy, family and friends first, my own needs second (I believe that is a femmine trait in it's own right anyway).
Did any of that make sense? :)

I do, I do! I can, I can!! :)

Ok, first of all, let’s clean up that misconception about your daughter. My daughter lived with me every Fri-Mon, most holidays and additional time from age 2 through 16. You will soon discover as I recently did, that when you buy her a new car at 16, you will be lucky to see her one day a month, :sad:. (picking up allowance). So enjoy the time you have with her now, lol. There, now for the rest of the program…

I do live in a house and I live alone. I am also self employed. That resolves many obstacles. But I still have unexpected guests pop by, and plenty of annoying peddlers sticking tape and flyers to my front door glass. Solution: I park in my garage. I covered the garage windows with cloth from the inside so nobody can tell if my car is here or not. I keep the louvers closed on all of the front windows. I disconnected my doorbell and I never answer the door. I have a motion sensor mounted over the front door that sets off a chime in my office when somebody is on the porch. I have 3 surveillance cams mounted on the front of the house and a multiplex receiver that allows me to see (and hear) all three cams simultaneously on one monitor screen in my office. (remote control pan/tilt too). So I know when somebody is out front, and can observe the activity. I have locks on my gate access to the back yard. I just allow my dog to bark when somebody is outside. My office is on the backside of the house so nobody can tell if I am home at anytime. I only use a cell phone set to vibrate, and got rid of both landlines so nothing “rings”.

Nobody but me has keys to outside doors. My daughter knows to call me when she is coming over. The people who do have keys to the house, actually have keys that do not fit the doors here. They just do not know it. My 2nd story sundeck is surrounded with sailcloth and all windows are tinted making it impossible to view inside, but I can see out from the inside. So my next door neighbors cannot even tell if I am home.

I have more cams/sensors/lighting/deterrents in the back. All windows have sensor alarms. I am friends with my neighbors, but not enough for them to consider coming over here without an invitation. They are afraid of setting off one of the alarms or activating some security equipment.

My stereo/tv/etc can be on without it being heard outside. Even the noise of shooting my pellet rifle/gun inside is not detectable. At night, all cams have IR and sound, and there are flood lights activated by motion/heat, or my handy remote, as well as other surprises. :cool:

If anybody (or animal) sets off my front door alarm, I simply walk into my office (carefully so I do not trip in my 5” pumps, lol) and watch the show on my monitor. It’s pretty cool knowing how close they are, but how far they are from discovering me. Even if the police tried to raid my house, I would know in advance and have a minimum of 15 seconds to “disappear” first, with every trace of CD activity locked securely away.

I know, it sounds like overkill, but I do this stuff for a living. Plus after the initial set up I can totally relapse, er, uh…I mean relax…without any concerns about privacy.

But if I ever suffer a stroke or heart attack…I’m screwed…lol
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Nowadays my wife is pretty awesome about letting me dress whenever I want, but when I was in the closet during college it was very difficult because I almost always had roommates. When I finally got my own apartment I was free to dress whenever I wasn't busy with school or work :)

having a cold and lonely bed allows me do do as i please.

i am single, and live in the country. not very many want to drive out here to visit...but it is along a heavily used bike route so i do have to be careful about a couple friends. but as of yet none have stopped by when i am at home.

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In theory i could dress any time i like as everyone knows but in practice it is completely different, saying that, i dress androgynously all the time as i only have women's trousers and jeans and mainly womens tops.
The problem is i rarely have the time anymore to do things i like , always having to go somewhere and our daughter has just moved back in and will make snide remarks mainly about my nail varnish if her friends are coming around , our son on the other hand just says " i don`t care what you do" , my wife simply says " just wear what you like when you like , and i know she means it as she has no problem with it at all but life does not quite work out like that for may reasons.

Well my wife works full time and my 2 daughters are in full time education. So I have especially the morning to dress, up until lunch time. Thats the time its for me to become a woman.

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Originally Posted by Stephenie S

Doesn't being "in the closet" MEAN you're not free to dress whenever you want, doc?

If you are free to dress whenever you want aren't you OUT of the closet?

Or does that just mean you "dress" only when completely alone?

Stephie

Oh, and BTW, I just LOVE your broom!

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I wondered about that! If u start out as a private, closet dresser, but were free to dress whenever u liked, would u eventually begin to go out dressed? Out of boredom, or simply "natural progression"?:brolleyes:

On the other hand, I KNOW everyone lives their own way! So, I was SURE some would continue to dress privately! And, thot we mite hear some interesting stories! Like Eluuzion's!:)

I'm free to dress around my wife whenever the thought strikes me. Our kids don't know, and by mutual agreement aren't going to know at least until they're adults. So, in practice I don't have freedom to dress when I want, however I want.

I could get away with dressing more then I do, but!!! Its OK with my SO, but we live in an apartment comlpex, so during the daytime I really am not free to dress, as you never know who will drop by.

I now have my house that I own all to myself. After work and at weekends I’m free to dress whenever I like.
Due to this freedom I can go shopping when I like and get parcels delivered to my house which is nearly every day at the moment (dam pink fog! = my excuse for being a shopaholic).
When I get home from work, my male self is gone until morning. When I wake I’m thinking, right which panties and stockings I’ll wear to work today, then at work I’m thinking, what shall I wear tonight, what style of make-up, or should I really go late night shopping again!!!

I live with two Dominant ladies who allow me to dress whenever I feel the need, I am allowed to under dress every day,and can do my nails whenever I please, but not live 24/7 enfemme, which is fine with me, because the desire to fully dress hits me maybe six times a year.

Not me,we have a teenage son living at home.He goes out now and again but not often enough.He has just started working so the outlook is brighter and i am looking forward to more time to dress.

Nikki

My wife prefers that I dress at times (when cleaning or cooking) and allows be to dress (if I wish) the remaining times. Her only restriction is that I don't dress (or underdress) at work!!

We've been in this arrangement for may years ans have been quite happy!!

Danielle

I don't dress often. I'm certainly not free to dress all the time. If I were free, I think I would always be dressed enfemme. It just can't happen right now.

i am free to dress as i like with my wives full co operation she even helps me to dress and does my make up and buys me loveley girly things for my birthday and xmas

I have my own place. I live on my own and prefer it that way. So I am free to dress, all the time if I want to.
I have lived this way now for 3 years and I could never go back to living with others.
All I have to do if family or friends come over is to just put all my clothes, heels, make up and stuff away before they arrive.
It’s a type of freedom that I could not live without now.

A happy, SUZY.

I was free to dress at anytime or place. Then I got married that all came to a end. Now only when she gone out for the day or week. Plus I had to purge all my things so she could have the closet.

To answer your question, Doc, yes, no, sort of.
Yes: When I was single and lived alone, I could dress at home whenever I wanted, and did on average 3-4 times a week. Even though in the closet, I did go out some. Being closeted means (to me) that my male identity is not known when I am en femme and that it is not known to others (friends, family, and co-workers)that I am a crossdresser It doesn't matter if I go out or stay in. I can go out and still be closeted.
But I stayed in more than I went out. Making up and dressing up provided excitement and arousal. Going out provided thrill.
No: Now married, with child, I cannot dress whenver I want. Still in the closet.
Sort of: When the child is away, or I am away, I can dress whenever I want. Wife knows and accepts.

I have never felt any compulsion to answer the door for any unexpected visitors. Dressed or not, I don't answer for unwelcome/uninvited salespeople, religion peddlers, donation solicitors, political candidates, etc. Wanna visit? Call and make appointment in advance. Sometimes dressups go on hold while I quietly allow time for doorbell ringers and knockers to give up and go away. No guilt.

I am free to dress when ever I wont to around the house, as just me and my wonderful wife live here, however I am not free to do so when we have company as I am only out to my wife. so yes I am tottaly free to crossdress when I want to and then I am still in the closet with the rest of the world.

Currently dress whenever I'm home. I come home, the boy clothes come off, shower, live as a girl until I have to go out. I buy my Cosmo, Glamour, Seventeen, etc., once a month, and toss the old stuff out. I tend to read a lot of the beauty/fashion forums; it's quite interesting, to read a girl's point of view, I've learned a lot over the years.

My wife has no problem with my dressing and I can do as much of it as I want to ... in the confines of our home or when in a motel.

I'm another with an understanding wife, and no kids in the house, so I dress pretty much as I please, except when I need to go to town, and I don't answer the door if you didn't call and let me know you where coming, so no surprise visitors.

The fact that we're "closet" crossdressers kind of suggests by default that we are not at liberty to dress whenever we like. However, when there is any kind of prolonged "alone" time, out come the girly things!

I am coflicted with this thread. I am seeing and reading too much hiding from family members, that in some cases are lucky to be able to live under your roof (daughters, sons). This is one of the main problems. Why are you hiding from something that should love you unconditionally.

Now the reason for the conflict. I hide my skirt, hose and heels wearing from my mother. But then again, if I wear a nice shirt just because I wanted I am asked 20 questions and viewed suspiciously. LOL. So in many respects I am no different than you all that hide.

I pray I find a female that loves me, and I love her, and she loves my little quirk. :)

Lived alone for the last 9 years and free to dress whenever I want as no one really ever comes over and my family always calls before stopping by, so I have time to put things away beforehand. Apart from at home I tend to dress fully male for school (not willing to risk anything in the department) and either underdress or wear panties, girl jeans, and tights most everywhere else. At least that's the way things have been lately. I still haven't made it out fully dressed, but it's on the short list of things to do in the future!

U OBVIOUSLY don't have children! There's NO WAY for me to list all the things that COULD happen should my kids discover my CDing!:straightface:
But, I can assure u, 99% of them r NOT GOOD!:sad:

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I am conflicted with this thread. I am seeing and reading too much hiding from family members, that in some cases are lucky to be able to live under your roof (daughters, sons). This is one of the main problems. Why are you hiding from something that should love you unconditionally.:)

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If u want: love, hate, ups and downs, anxious nites, extreme happiness, followed by hurt feelings and disappointments, have children!:)

If u want "unconditional love", watch Leave it to Beaver, or get a puppy! :heehee:

Anyway, that's what I've found in MY many years on this planet!:brolleyes:

I'm long time divorced living by my self and free to dress so there is no valid reason to be in the closet. Come on out of the closet...

Living alone does have some advantages at least it gives me the opportunity to dress whenever I want. But another nice thing about it is that I don't have to hide every thing and can actually leave my girlie things out in plain view in my house.

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U OBVIOUSLY don't have children! There's NO WAY for me to list all the things that COULD happen should my kids discover my CDing!:straightface:
But, I can assure u, 99% of them r NOT GOOD!:sad:

If u want: love, hate, ups and downs, anxious nites, extreme happiness, followed by hurt feelings and disappointments, have children!:)

If u want "unconditional love", watch Leave it to Beaver, or get a puppy! :heehee:

Anyway, that's what I've found in MY many years on this planet!:brolleyes:

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LMAO! Well put doc! It is one thing to be a parent. It's an entirely different thing to be a responsible parent, lol.
Technology does help when you share custody...GPS vehicle trackers being my favorite, hehehe. (Particularly when the 3 days a week custody drafted when my daughter was 2 yrs old, has now gradually age appropriately self-modified itself into dinner once a week...if I am lucky.

Yo, Pythos, regarding that "hiding from those who should love you unconditionally thought"... That's a great point, in an ideal world...Unfortunately, that decision in my real world...has potential consequences such as providing fuel for a golddigging "ex" to blow the wheels off of many different carts in a shared custody arrangement. :sad: She has a consistent track record from day one...proving her agenda.

My situation does not require any "sacrifices" specific to my relationship with "family" members. So there is nothing to be gained by disclosing my private interests. So I agree with doc's 99% negative outcomes of disclosure. :)

As a general rule, I do not try to fix things that are not broken...(computers being the exception, of course, lol).

Also wanted to add the point that my extensive "privacy" set-up at home would be the same with or without CD being part of my life. I just feel it is necessary to maintain privacy in these times. Also, I had 3 roommates my first year of college. I have never had a roommate since...just does not work for me...
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:battingeyelashes: I am completely free to dress whenever I like at home, And I am usually dressed every day.:battingeyelashes: I live alone and do not have drop ins, All my friends know to call first before they come over plus you have to get pass the gate to the Apt complex :tongueout and the only way to do that is use a gate code which calls my cell-phone allowing me to let you in. And if I do not know you are coming I will not open it. Not to be rude just for security because anyone can come to the gate an randomly call a code.

I wear skirts and dresses in the house all the time as I live alone. If anyone is coming over they call. Outside I wear jeans and tops or shorts and tops depending on the season. My favorite indoor outfit is a chemise.

I am married to a very understanding woman who also is very supportive, She understands my desires to dress and never Say's anything negative when I do. Which for the last year or so has been every day. I do not have to hide any of my things from her, We share a huge walk in closet and its got more of my girlie things in it then hers. I can go out dressed anytime I want to, and with her blessing, she hates society's stigmas as much as I do, But I live in a very small redneck town and my business would suffer tremendously if I do go out on the town, So I chose to stay in the sanctuary of my own home.

Are daughter knows that I dress and is also accepting (she is out of the house now) but I try not to dress in her presence when I know that she is coming over. Its not because I am embarrassed to be dressed around her, but I do not want to make her feel uncomfortable around me (her dad). Most of the time she comes by is because she needs some fatherly advice and it is hard for me to mentally do when dressed.

Well, I guess that my closet has gotten a lot larger over the years! I dress every day while I am at home.
Jaen has known about me since before we were married.(which will be 20 years this December 22nd) The second person to ever know and see me dressed was her daughter.(She is mine also. I usually don't differentiate between step and not)
Since the years have gone by, I have told numerouse people. My mother, sisters, friends, a niece, ect.
I used to do the hallway dash while changing clothes on the way. Now, I just open the door.
Friends know that I will most likely be dressed as a female.
Looking back on things, I have not lost a single friend when they found out.
One friend was actually pissed at me because I didn't tell him a lot earlier.
It sounds like some of the problems that come up when an SO finds out and gets mad because of the deception.

I'm extremely fortunate to dress whenever I want, thanks to my extraordinary wife who is far beyond tolerating or accepting, but actually encouraging. My life is a dream come true.

I,m free to dress as I wish on the days I'm off work and I do.
Other times are not near as inviting-to much happens in my world
to be Abby 24/7.

Wow, I am surprised by the reaction to my post.

So many here seem very content to go with the status quo.

It is actually quite telling. Really look at what you said. What I read is fear (justifiable to be sure), that is fed by ignorance.

My mother, and Aviation are inflexible. But Doc, I have to ask, What negative things can YOUR kids do to you? Are these viable fears, or the irational fears we all live with?

To the other posters talking about custody cases, Have you not seen the several court cases where the crossdressing of the husband WAS NOT even considered in the custody cases?

The ideal world some of you talk of is one that can only come about if we all stand up for our rights. But of course you won't, and most likely neither will I. The fear is too strong, and that is all it is, fear. But we Americans that are suposedly fearless, really do exhibit some serious fear.

Oh and no I don't have children. Never have had the money or cash flow to support one. I am quite happy I have decided to not have them, cause why in the hell would I want to bring a kid into this world? For one thing, looking like a thug is more acceptable than to look like the opposite sex. There are of course far more important things but, they really don't apply to this forum :)

I live alone, so yes I do. And I enjoy it! My girlfriend knows to, and is very supportive. Lucky me.


Em

I under dress daily but harder to dress more than that due the my kids...:(

Hi girls

I too have got what I believe is a very understanding wife. I used to work away a lot and 'she' always came with me in my case. Despite what my other half thought, I didn't always get dressed on nights away, I suppose it was a comfort thing if I got the urge...

Now I'm home based, I still try not to push my luck by dressing more - it's more as the urge / need arises. She says she has no problem these days if I want to slip into femme mode when I get home from work but, even after years of CDing, I still feel a bit embarrassed dressing in her presence.

xx Polly R

i live alone so i dress all the time, everyday/everynight, and i have good neighbours and freinds who know, so i have no issues.

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Currently dress whenever I'm home. I come home, the boy clothes come off, shower, live as a girl until I have to go out. I buy my Cosmo, Glamour, Seventeen, etc., once a month... I tend to read a lot of the beauty/fashion forums; it's quite interesting, to read a girl's point of view, I've learned a lot over the years.

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Pretty much the same for me, although my subscriptions to Cosmo and Glamour keep me plenty busy reading about all things girly, and I'd be overwhelmed trying to add to the list... :heehee:

I have the luxury of complete freedom to dress whenever I want within my residence, as my kids are grown and on their own. My GF knows I CD, and the enjoyment I derive from it, but prefers her boyfriend be her man... which I understand. I'm her BF when I'm with her.

Yet, I prefer being en femme alone, rather than submerging my desire to CD in order to cater to her preferences.

She'd love a marriage proposal, but unless she comes to terms with my needs, ain't gonna happen...

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But Doc, I have to ask, What negative things can YOUR kids do to you? Are these viable fears, or the irational fears we all live with?

To the other posters talking about custody cases, Have you not seen the several court cases where the crossdressing of the husband WAS NOT even considered in the custody cases?

Oh and no I don't have children. Never have had the money or cash flow to support one. I am quite happy I have decided to not have them, cause why in the hell would I want to bring a kid into this world? For one thing, looking like a thug is more acceptable than to look like the opposite sex.

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What could my kids "do to ME"? Pythos, that thot has NEVER entered my mind!:brolleyes:
It's the damage to THEM that concerns me! Learning their "dad" mite be, "some weirdo stranger", that they don't know!:sad:
For my TEEN, the consequences could be devastating!
There's a GOOD CHANCE they will not understand! Heck, I DON"T, how could I expect them too?!:eek:

Like u, I had no intention of having kids. Or, even marrying. Which I avoided until my middle 40's! :D
However, after raising a step child, I decided I wanted one of my own! Once u have a child, expect a commitment of 18 or more years! Coming out BEFORE she's 18+, just doesn't feel rite to ME!:thumbsdn:

All can say is, if u have your own kids, Pythos, YOU"LL UNDERSTAND!:devil:

Fascinating. You are concerned your kids will think you a freak, or a weirdo.

Let me tell you something I would have MUCH rather have had my father be a crossdresser, than the bully that beat the crap out of my mom, and myself. I would much rather he to have been much less macho and more open to affection. I would much rather had him be a little softer a person than a person that drowned his sorry in alcohol. He became a nice person later in his life, but the damage was done.

If your kids ever do find out, and that you hid it from them, I think you will be in for a world of hurt.

Hiding helps no one.

The whole idea that alcoholism, wife beating, and other such stuff, is more accepted than a father that crossdresses really really speaks badly of our culture.

My wife knows and tolerates, but only to a degree. One or two nights dressed a week are the max, and she freaked when I proposed to go to a cd convention in Harrisburg. Life is better than it was, but a long way to go. I was thinking of seeing how she'd react to "Sissy Sunday." Or not.