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Just wondering if any of you have spent time with your parents or families as a girl or attended any family events like funerals or weddings and how were you accepted? I always wondered if I had just told my mom when I was younger about my interest in female clothing if I would have been allowed to dress up at home and then to take it a step further, if other family members knew would they accept me dressed as a girl?
NOT ME! I don't think I would be breathing air right now if I had!
Not with my parents but I have spent some time with my daughter and her husband and baby as Stacey.
It was a great time of acceptance for me.
Outside of my wife and children, no. I don't know about my extended family, but yes, I have wondered the same about telling my folks earlier in life. I'm sure, as clever as I thought I was being, their answer would have been something along the lines of "Yes, we know." Oh well. Hindsight and all that.
We have boundaries in our house for Kathie. So being en femme in the presence of other family, including my wife who has bought panties for me in the past, is a NO NO.
Not no way not no how. I would be ridiculed and told to move to whatever planet Cd's come from.
Jeannie
I attended a Halloween party dressed up two years ago with my wife and children. My niece and her two daughters were also there.
As far as dressing to be dressed, and just chilling, nope. Only with my wife.
Nope. Only around the wife.
Unless one has full acceptance, I think that attending a wedding or a funeral in a mode different than that expected by the rest of the family would not be appropriate. It is very likely to be interpreted as attention-getting behavior and would not be respectful to the person(s) who are rightly the focus of the event.
I never have and never would of dreamed it when my father was still alive because he was very openly anti gay, bi, lesbian, or transgender. The rest of my family is not a whole a lot better.
:eek: This is a big NO for me. It might be a dream for many but I don't want to go there...
Hi.
Oh dear im the odd one out.
I do every day.ummm i dont do male & i dont really think i could any more.. funny that oh well....
...noeleena...
No, never, nada, nyet.......however you want to say it.
No one other than the wife, should have come out to my mother when I was a teenager, looking back on some of the things she allowed me to do, with out my fathers blessings, I think she would have understood, and been a great supporter. As a teenager in the early sixty's, she would let me use hair straighteners, hair coloring rinses, and a lot of little things like that, things boys just didn't do back then.
Tina B.
I dress around Jean, my wife, all of the time.:D
I dressed around my daughter when she lived in town.
My mother has seen me dressed once.
And my younger sister has seen me dressed every time she comes to my house.:thumbsup:
not something I would consider. I look forward to someday being courageous enough to go out with my wife, but not to family things.
ACCEPTANCE should never be expected, or demanded, from another individual. Especially in regards to parents or family because it puts them in the vicarious position of deciding between their love for you and their own personal beliefs about what constitutes acceptable human behavior.
I know my parents love me unconditionally. I am their SON. I am not trying to be a DAUGHTER to them. Their love doesn’t differ between SON and DAUGHTER. It is the same. Any perception of mine to the contrary is a product of my own mind.
Acceptance STARTS and ENDS with one person. ONE PERSON ONLY! YOU! If you cannot ACCEPT yourself for WHO YOU ARE, if this is indeed WHO YOU ARE, then how can you possibly expect another person to reciprocate?
“IF”s are a way of thinking about possibilities that MIGHT have been. Although they might be FUN to think about they do not adDRESS the matter of what “IS”!
Yes, I’ve spent time with my parents and family and attended events. No. Sometimes I FELT like I wasn’t accepted. But I never asked for it in the first place. I’ll admit it hurts. That goes with the territory. Get used to it and get over it! That’s LIFE.
Not yet, but it's on the bucket list
I came out last week to my parents and spent the weekend with them for the first time as avana :)
No not yet.....My parents might be accepting. My brother maybe. The rest of them-not likely!
Avana, That's great!!! How did things go,acceptance?........
Beth
they are wonderful people and embrace me as their daughter! :) so, very well.Quote:
Originally Posted by BethCD
Ugh! Not just no, but HELL no! It would probably kill my Mom and I don't want to think about my Dad! I love them too much to ever do that to them!
My grandparents dressed me up when I was about 4 or 5. I really don't know if this started me down the path or if i was already on it. I certainly don't blame them, I enjoy opportunties to dress and embrace it.
I have gone out on Halloween with my mother and wife. We dressed with the same theme. Black dresses and white vampire makeup. I have also dressed in front of the daughter, in the house only, on Halloween.
Yes My son and one granddaughter
My father has passed on and my mother is about 2000 miles away. So there is no reason for anything there. But I am dressed around the house with my wife and youngest daughter all the time. I go out with my oldest daughter now and then and will stop at her house when the grandchildren are in bed, so I see my son-in-law. But no to the grandkids as their parents don't want it that way and I am certainly okay with that.
Yes in front of my dad (whom I live with) and sort of in front of my mom (I was trying on clothes that she was giving me). Since I started full time a week ago, I've been dressed around my dad every day; I'll see how the extended family handles it when I visit for my younger brother's high school graduation later this year.
with my brother only and my partner. I have yet to interact with my folks dressed.
Once when younger I took part in a procession, myself, an older brother, and several others were on a float dressed in girl's tennis outfits. Can't for the life of me remember what it was about...
I think if I did dress in front of my family, they would be at least be tolerant. I bet a couple of my sisters would help me with a makeover...
When I transitioned back in 79/80, when we would go out to my parents I'd usually "tone it down" to guy clothes but still "under dressing". They knew the "public" excuse for me looking/dressing as a girl but not that I had wanted it to happen and I did not openly do it in front of them. When that summer can around and it was time for a swim in their pool was the first time they truly saw me and the physical changes. I wore a pair of cut-offs and a bikini top (bikini bottoms were under the cut-offs) out for a swim with everyone the first time. That first time was awkward to say the least. By mid-summer, I was only in a bikini and no one thought it out of the ordinary. After that summer, I quit butching it up for our trips to their place and quite often when we went out on a Friday after work I was still in a nice dress and heels. I think they had more of a problem with the affection between my wife and I during this time than my appearance. Seeing two girls snogging wasn't up their alley I guess....
Jenn
I think I've mentioned this before - but maybe not. I've gone to a drag show with my wife and two adult daughters before (all the girls know I'm a CD). Not earth shaking in itself, but that was one of the only times with the daughters since they just much prefer dad to Steph. Then while visiting my mom a year or so ago, I opened up about Steph and even went so far as to show her pictures. (On laptop that I always carry with me since I do a lot of work from it while on the road). Don't need to tell 4 brothers and one sister - since I'm sure I never had enough time to make it to bed that evening before mom (who is VERY close with my sister) spilled the beans and it probably went family viral from there! (I've caught comments from sster) And then there was Halloween a couple of years ago when my daughter had a halloween party. She O.K.'d Steph to show up. Just so happens she invited her in-laws and seveeral other close friends I knew. Of course when my son-in-law opened the door he didn't even recognize me. All the Gg's had a blast with me ( who did your make-up, how did you get boobs, my gaud you carry yourself better than most etc.. and of course by the end of the night they were all eyeing me very suspisiously (acted too comfortable and natural my wife said). We are around the in-laws all the time and have yet to have them bring up that night - in a good or bad way.
only a few passing moments with my father between going out to clubs,burlesque nites etc with my gf.
i went to a houseparty at my sisters dressed as a witch last halloween she knows as i "borrowed" her clothes for years when i was a teen and thinks i should become a drag caberet act(im a very funny guy/girl with a sharp sense of humour)
my mom and other sister dont know yet(divorced parents) but i think were meeting for breakfast on mothers day,maybe ill introduce her to her other daughter then.
stacy-marie
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