I do not know, it is kinda a derogatory label. Maybe dressing as women, we should consider ourselves with empowerment such as vixens instead. Just a thought.
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I do not know, it is kinda a derogatory label. Maybe dressing as women, we should consider ourselves with empowerment such as vixens instead. Just a thought.
I find the term very offensive and demeaning. That's just the way I feel.
Ok. I'm granting u your wish, Brass. Your such a total vixen!
As far as I'm concerned, u can call me anything but late for a CD outing!
I'm sorry if I sounded rude, but I just hate that term.
This idea seems to turn some people on (see almost any fictionmania story). I personally don't really care, people can call me a sissy, whatever. I don't get turned on or offended by the term. It's just a word.
Some submissive CD's get off on the "sissy" stuff, but I don't see that it should be applied to anyone else. I generally find it to be a derogatory term too.
Carol
Carol,
You are so right. I just want to scream when I hear that term.
You probably won't see me use it, because I'm also not a huge fan. But, I also don't really care if people call themselves a sissy. I DO contain certain biases towards people that use that term...could be positive or negative, depending how you look at it. By I see sissy almost synonymous with fetishist in a way. Just a view I've developed.
Please explain the word "sissy".
I'm not a fan of the word either... it conveys weakness for me, now vixen - I totally want to be a vixen
I'm sorry to be such prude, but to mean both terms are mean spirited and hateful. I know that I'm a minority here on this subject, but that's the way I feel. I had to get that out, I don't mean to offend anyone, it's just a pet peeve of mine. Hugs&Kisses to all. :2c:
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Originally Posted by Shananigans
Exactly, some people want to be a sissy, and that's fine. If that's what someone wants to do, what's the harm? If I want to be a sissy, I can be a sissy. In fact, maybe I am. Of course, it's different if someone else calls you this term. Rather like a certain term widely used for people who came from the Niger. It can be embraced and used for empowerment, or can be used by narrow-minded Conservatives (a truly offensive epithet) to offend innocent people.
I totally agree with you on this. This is how I view the term as well. It would be like calling our wives a doragatory name. But sometimes with some couples, when in the bedroom, sometimes name calling can be good. I guess the word can be insulting by which context it is used. Iike Ihave male friends I can call on the phone and say hey what's happening you A**hole, and no offense will be taken, but in a different context the same name can be insulting. So with the name of sissy, it really would depend on how the one using the name means it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Julogden
I don't think you're in the minority, Arlene, most of us wouldn't want a stranger calling us that. I don't care for name calling for anyone, and that word if not used by two consenting adults usually is intended to demean. It's fine with me if someone wants to call herself that, but I don't call anyone else names and wouldn't take it too well if it were used towards me.
Janice,Quote:
Originally Posted by Janice Winona
An excellent post darlin.
Anyone call me a Sissie and i would become quit vocal,I hate the word
I accepted myself as a crossdresser. That was how I got to this place, putting on my mothers clothes. I understand a sissy to be one who would not fight or hit back or played with dolls or girl stuff. Not just putting on clothes of the opposite gender. Of course the term was actually given to boys. I do not at my age see myself as a boy, but I am a man. A woman is a man too in human terms. Look there are more feminine chromosomes are than there are masculine ones.
XX XY 3x's and 1 y what do you think maybe going on here. But from the moon I can't be seen even with a telescope, microscope and a magnifying glass. lol
Tess
Was Calamity Jane a sissy? I don't think so. Seriously if there was car accident everyone in this forum would assist the injured right? Sissy would be derogatory my opinion. Whats Webster dictionary definition of a Vixens I mean I know what it means, but the devil in the details? Dam now I am going goggle:)
vix·en (vksn)
n.
1. A female fox.
2. A woman regarded as quarrelsome, shrewish, or malicious.
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[From dialectal alteration of Middle English fixen, from Old English fyxe.]
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vixen·ish adj.
vixen·ish·ly adv.
vixen·ish·ness n.
Word History: Why does the word fox begin with f but its female counterpart, vixen, begin with v? The answer lies in English dialects. In the speech of Devon, Somerset, and Cornwall, counties of southern England, words that begin with the voiceless fricative sounds (f) and (s) are pronounced instead with voicing, as (v) and (z). (The local rendering of the county name Somerset, in fact, is "Zomerzet.") The voicing is due to a Middle English sound change and may have roots even earlier. At least three examples of this dialectal pronunciation have entered standard English: vat, vane, and vixen. The first of these is a variant of an earlier word fat; the pronunciation with (f) was still used in the 19th century before being displaced by the southern pronunciation (vt). Vane, which used to mean "flag," has a cognate in the German word for "flag," Fahne, showing the original f. Vixen, finally, represents the southern pronunciation of a word that goes back to Old English fyxe, the feminine of fox. It was formed by a change in the root vowel of fox and the addition of a suffix -e or -en. Besides being one of the rare southern English dialect forms to have come into standard English, vixen is also the only survival of this type of feminine noun in the modern language.
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Originally Posted by brassieres
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Why do we insist on labels? Isn't it just OK to be human?
Little boxes...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=La21jYGIQ8k
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2_2lG...eature=related
I am Kaz... I am unique!.. OK I have friends who share some of my interests, but they may not be in my box and when I think they are I am usually surprised later on when I realise they are not... I treat everyone as unique.. although they do show some tribal attributes!
A senior colleague of mine recently emailed me (work related!) that he 'knew' which tribe I belonged to... My immediate reaction was anger - I am not in a tribe! I am in many tribes! But then, on reflection, this could be a tribe!
But I am a member of many tribes...
Count me in as one that hates that term. It has so many bad connotations attached to it. I do dress in women's clothes and emulate all the beautiful, loving strong things that I see and feel women are. That is an act that the general public might say I'm a sissy for doing it. But they better never call me a sissy to my face or all hell will break loose. I think it puts women down suggesting they are less then man. The most common use of the term is to bully a weaker kid. One that is not physically strong, smaller, or not as brave as the other boys on the street. So among kids, it's a very hurtful word. I happen to also be a submissive BUT only to the powerful loving woman I serve, my SO. But I am far from submissive to anyone else. So even being a submissive CD, I can't stand that derogatory term. Why some CDs like to be called a sissy is beyond me.
Go shop E bay and you will see tons of sissy dresses and sissy panties listed as such by the seller. I am sure they are attracting the fetish CD wiht that kind of wording. Again, I find it insulting and derogatory and so does my SO.
Sissies, Transvestites, Cross Dressers, Transsexuals, all sound degratory in their own way to the un initiated.
I am starting to think I should present myself as a dresser. Male to Female if necessary.
To the politically correct that could be turned around as well.
Think of terms for other races, Frog, Pole, Pom, nigger, Balts. I have not mentioned the religious ones as they are more militant. Politicians, Lawyers, Sticker Lickers, Parking Inspectors et al.:) They all seem to be put down instantly.They have all been put down at some time yet they are only a description of a particular race or outlook.
Beverley the dresser.
Why are we having this discussion? Is this a common word? I don't think I've heard the word on here before this discussion. Maybe we are validating this term by giving it more attention than it deserves?
If anyone uses that in a derogatory way towards you just ask 'em if they think a sissy would have the balls to put on a dress and heels.
Sissies, bah! Here's to Wonder Women and Bra Power!
Hi,
Would i be refered to as a sissy, i dought very much, one my age, 64, two im a mature woman & three im a very strong woman as well.
To myself it refers to one who is a boy who is scared of something or someone or doing some thing a bit like a dare, that goes back 54 years, that was used then.
...noeleena...
I don't think your a minority here as I don't like that term either. It is a hateful and degrading term and As Contessa stated "I understand a sissy to be one who would not fight or hit back". This is how I understood the term and I while I will try to act lady like while en femme, I will also whoop some ass if need be too ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by MsArlene
If anyone wants to add this label to the long list of terms they will allow society to put on them by all means, it's your choice. I'll pass.
Really girls with all that is going on in life we are focusing on this word. its reminds me of the rhyme
Sticks and stones
Will break my bones
But names will never hurt me
just for the record I dislike the word hate, but feel the word pretty can be used freely
Have a nice day :-)
I don't like the idea of labels although I am well beyond the age where I pay attention to them.
However when I was a pre-teen and was referred to as a "sissy" it did hurt. For that reason alone I wouldn't welcome this as a label.
Just my $0.02,
Sandra1746
OHHHHHHHHH SISSY HUH !! Well ,,, Well ,, Call me what you will , I m more of a hobbiest ,Novest , A realy,,, realy dedicated wanna be woman , lady , girl, But maybe a sissy to some depends on the dummy thats talkin ? But always remember its bad enough to get beat down by someone for runnin you chops in front of your girl or buddys or someone your trien to empress but ohhhhh la,,,la,, Its quet another to have it done by AKA A sissy ,,, Now thats a party !! So a SISSY you TELL ME ,, You make the choice ??
NO!
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Those of us that might channel Tasha Yar, Ziva David, Dianna Prince, Emma Peal might knock those who do right on their tushies or with a submission hand hold drive them to their knees!
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Additionally most of us are fully fueled and empowered by testosterone most of the time and embrace that most of the time and although we know that it is usually best to quietly walk away from cretins, it wouldn't be good to catch us off guard at an otherwise bad moment with a nasty remark.
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Personally, I hate the term sissy and am offended if anyone applies it to me. Now, I could be wrong about this, but in my wanderings around the Internet I've found that there are people out there who embrace being a "sissy." And if it works for them, great, I have no issue with it. In the cases in which one embraces being a sissy, it seems to me that it tends to be very sexual. In other words, it seems to me to be a sub-section of crossdressing that may be as much or more of a fetish that usually involves very submissive behavior.
It's when the term sissy is used in broad strokes to paint all crossdressers and/or transgenders that I have the issue with it. When used broadly it becomes either a misrepresentation of what a "sissy" is, or it is derogatory implying a weakness or abnormality. I am strong and confident. I am not submissive. I am not a sissy. For those who embrace being a sissy, enjoy. But please don't apply the term to crossdressers in general.
I don't want to be referred to as a "sissie". Arlene summes up my opinion precisely. If someone else chooses to call himself a sissie -that's certainly their perogative. I don't know why the collective "we", whomever that might include, would even consider using the term.Quote:
Originally Posted by MsArlene
I personally don't like term, but it's a matter of choice. If someone want's to be know as a sissy, it's up to them.
More like a friggen ROCK STAR !!!! Or a SUPER STAR !!! If they all knew how hard we work to look this great we would be ROYALTY .
I hate the term myself..
I wouldn't suggest that term to the veterans, police and other members of this group.
Hoo Boy, Just be careful. I started a similar thread some years ago and nearly had my head handed to me. Personally, I feel if the shoe fits wear it. Talk is cheap in any case and that includes when people call other people names or give them certain labels.:)
Im back !!! How about PRISSYS ,, Cuz I be PRISSEN ,,, Or your MAJESTY ,,,, Or youe hinest ,, Or just >>>>>>> SUPA STAR !!!!
I agree, But there is a difference when someone calls you a sissy and your wanting to identify as one yourself, as some do. It's not for me, but for those that like that term, who am I, or anyone else to say they should'nt even if I don't liek it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Abigail Evans
I'll just say that I don't like the term. But, to those who do, have at it.
"Sissy", to me, seems to indicate some kind of submissive man in a sexual manner. I find the submissive thing hard to get my mind around even though I had a long term relationship with a woman who considered herself submissive. I finally broke off the relationship when she wanted me to choose what she was to wear and to give her a list of things to do every day. Felt like it was becoming a mirror of my job but even more so. I don't micromanage but she wanted me to do it to her.
But I digress. The bottom line is I like to dress as a woman. I am still the primary provider for my family and I like to think my wife and I have a pretty balanced relationship. Work for us but, as always, YMMV.
Whatever floats your boat, some people like being called worse but that is for the bedroom - not the public arena where we are being judged every second of every day.
But yeah, I would class it as derrogatory since it implies weakness and is a bit sexist IMO.
I am certainly not a sissy! I would object vehemently if someone called me that. I just happen to have a very strong feminine component to my being.
Sticks and Stones and all that....
Several reference sources had two main definitions:
1) a man or boy who is weak, timid, or cowardy
2) an effeminate man or boy
Some sources added other defnitions, including:
3) informal name for "sister". Some use it as their name ("Coal Miner's Daughter")
4) a girly girl (overtly feminine gg)
5) a man or boy who enjoys little girl's clothing
I don't see any of these as offensive, if a definition fits.
Certainly, some crossdressers are sissies, but not all crossdressers are sissies, and not all sissies are crossdressers.
I don't have a sissy dress to enjoy, but I would love to have one. None of the other definitions apply, so I'm not a sissy (yet). If I buy a sissy dress to wear (and enjoy), you could call me a sissy, and I wouldn't be offended (because it would be accurate).
Interesting point of view Nicole. I can't even disagree with you. But still, I don't like it. I guess my main objection is when it is used by kids to bully a weaker or smaller boy.
Thinking back to when I was a young pre-teen to teen years. I honestly don't recall being one of those bullys. But since I was not weak or chicken, I was never bullied or called a sissy. I used to feel sorry for the kid when I saw the bullies picking on him. It was common back in my youth. Today it's in the news all the time about how wrong it is.
I personally would not.
A "Sissy" is a specific fetish that has cross dressing involved but not the main point.
I don't consider cross dressing a fetish in my case.
Until I joined this forum, I had only heard the word sissy used to demean others. It sounds like nothing but a put-down to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Shananigans
After seeing it used here, I kind of agree with your view as well.
I ain't no sissy! *rolls ups sleeves*
If you have a brothie I guess you would be a sissie.
I am not one so don't call me one. You can call me many other things but I ain't one of THEM!
I don't particularly care for the term, mostly because it's typically used in a demeaning manor. I also have never really been one for labels.
A sissy is more a fetisch-term. Maybe we shouldnt call ourselves anything, why not try the term humans?