How do you feel about this name or term? I had a gay male friend on myspace who went by this name and it bothered me due to how it sounds. To me this is like calling me this and a ''chubby chaser'' (I like big girls) or I have yellow fever.
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How do you feel about this name or term? I had a gay male friend on myspace who went by this name and it bothered me due to how it sounds. To me this is like calling me this and a ''chubby chaser'' (I like big girls) or I have yellow fever.
I think it's degrading.....
I think if someone self identifies as a sissy, that person is into it. If someone calls someone else "sissyboy," that's different. I would take it as a threat or a challenge.
The term sissy just never ment anything good.
Many transgenders have fantasies about female domination or forced cross-dressing. For me, I had so much pressure to act and dress like a boy, even though I hated it, that I wanted DESPARATELY to have a woman try to "Force" me to dress and act like a girl. I didn't have many lovers, but each was very dominant, very much in control, and very much attracted to the fact that I was so eager to please, and so easy to please. I was also very small (the Angry Inch would have been boasting), so I knew I couldn't satisfy a woman with that, but I was more than willing and able to use my mouth, hands, and toys to please them. In my drinking/drugging days I became known as a "****" because all a girl had to do is show up in a short skirt and heels, wait until I looked her directly in the eye (A sure sign that "the ****" had taken over), and ask me to help her find her coat. They would just push me down to my knees, put their heels on my shoulders, and when they were completely satisfied would just push me back and walk out. There were a few times when the girl would forget to put the pillow over her head and her noises sounded like she was being tortured - getting more attention than she wanted. In 9th grade, I was "shared" by 10 girls who decided that since I wasn't the jealous type, and more than happy to give generously without asking for anything in return, that I was a good "pet" to be shared. As long as their boyfriends didn't know, all was well.
In college, my only lover would goad me during dinner, then come back to my room where I would fulfill her wildest fantasies, giving her many orgasms, and then she would go find some guy who was well hung to "bang at the back door". She'd tell me about it the next morning, or the next evening, and then we'd go to dinner and start all over again. Since I wasn't dressed, every time she tried to do something nice for me, I would literally start convulsing, like I was in a my underwear in the snow in January.
My first fiance finally had to tie me up, and really enjoyed the domination, but didn't know that I would close my eyes and imagine that I was wearing the same things she was wearing and was forced to wear it as she teased and punished me. When I finally admitted that I might want to wear the stockings, she dropped me the next morning.
When I got married, my wife loved that I let her be in charge. She controlled the money, paid the bills, and she would take great pleasure in getting things started. When I didn't respond to one of her invitations, she stopped initiating and took pleasure in rejecting my advances and hints. Even romantic kisses ended with "I hope you don't think that means we are having sex". Eventually, she started dating another man, told me about it, and after about 18 months together, married him.
I liked to "Switch" - and was introduced to another "Switch", she loved ordering me to "Get Dressed" as soon as I got home, she also knew that if she let me take control first, I'd turn her into quivering Jello before I'd stop and she'd be unable to return the favor, so she would start as the dominant, and then after taking me multi-orgasmic would finally turn me loose, and I'd get "retribution" by taking her to her limits and turning her into Jello. Eventually she brought home a girl-friend, then another, and we had all sorts of interesting combinations. They knew I loved being submissive, and that I would do almost anything they wanted, and want more.
There were many times when they would have me get dressed like we were going to have sex, then grab my purse, and pull me out the door - and only they had my keys. I was often dressed like a "****" in a very short skirt, well filled satin blouse, and a coat of some sort, along with 3-4 inch heels. Sometimes I'd get clocked, more often, men would be making passes at all three of us, and more than a few times they would tell me to dance with some of them. Or we'd go to a Lesbian bar and they would have me dance with the most aggressive and butch dykes they could find. They knew I loved the aggressiveness, being "swept off my feet", and not knowing what might happen next.
The other thing they liked to do, as does my current wife, is to get me all dressed up and then point out that something needs cleaning. Rex would just ignore the mess, but Debbie usually ended up cleaning the whole house, doing all the laundry, and washing the dishes. It was like having a live-in maid. My "reward" would be to be taken out to a restaurant and then taken dancing or another social event where the various girls would take turns dancing with me and teasing me, and I'd tease back. Many of the straight women who danced with me would get picked up within 3-5 minutes after dancing with me.
Some men and boys actually like being treated like a younger girl. I suppose there are some advantages, since the little girl "sissy" dresses have higher waistbands and full skirts with taffeta slips, and they can wear lower "mary janes" with no heels. Personally, when I had the figure, I liked the heels and the tight short skirts - but I'd usually go with a blousy shirt which hid a bit of tummy.
The term "sissy" when used by a woman, affectionately, has been a bit of a compliment. When I was in first grade, my teacher explained that "Sissy" was short for Sister the same way that "Buddy" was short for Brother. She was trying to take the power and pain away from the word. When the boys used it, I knew that it was only a matter of seconds before the violence started. On the other hand, when the girls used it to address my feminine side, it was like a nickname - of affection, from someone inviting me to do something fun with them.
Unfortunately, when one of the girl's mothers came home to me wearing her daughter's Sunday dress, with her wearing my jeans, t-shirt, shoes, socks, and jocky-shorts - she called the PTA and the teacher and the girls didn't want to play with their sissy friend any more. After than, "Sissy" just meant I was about to be chased, hit with sticks and stones, or baseball bats, if I tripped, I'd be kicked until I was bloody and couldn't or wouldn't move, and just cried. Many times, I ended up in the hospital, sometimes with injuries, other times with asthma, other times with infections do to a poor immune system. Eventually I learned to keep my secret, and either I did it so well that even my own parents didn't know, or they just didn't want to admit it.
My parents knew I was feminine, and mom loved that I liked to cook, clean, do laundry, knit, crochet, sew, and do handicrafts. In every way I was like her oldest daughter rather than her oldest son. Ironically, my sister was more of a tom-boy, and pretty rough-and-tumble. Later on, I taught her to do make-up, posture exercises, even helped to style her hair. When I finally "came out", my sister wasn't all that surprised, and said "now it all makes sense, you really WERE my older sister. My mother wasn't all that surprised either. My father had suspected but didn't want to know. I think part of him was concerned that I would have to suffer the same way he had suffered when he was a kid. He was very effeminate, but didn't like dressing up (though he loved to dress mom - a tom-boy up - taking her shopping for girlie clothes).
If he's okay with calling himself that I don't see a problem with it. It was his own choice and I'm sure he knows exactly what it means.
I hate it.
As much as I have a fetish for frilly little girl style dresses (which goes way back when my dad had a childrens' clothing store in a strip mall when I was five), I am not into the sissy maid thing. The forced femininization thing seems like a joke, it seems like it's hiding something. Go to urbandictionary.com and type sissy . Whatever your sexual orientation is , male or female , there is too much male sexuality in the concept of sissification. . I can't blame any guy for that. Male libido does that. However, IMO, it misses the point.
I truly like being feminine. Being a woman is just one or some of the many palate of colors I have in my paint collection. I paint life with a very broad stroke with many colors. There's a sensitivity that females have that I want to experience, and I want nothing to do with male sexuality.
Being said that, it does not make me weak. It just makes me more unique.
When I was a kid, I was always jealous of little girls in the way they got to be objectified while they wore their frilly girly girl dresses during the holidays.....I wished I was a girl too.
I also had/have a deep respect for strong tomboy-ish girls that play softball or golf. Well, anyway, that's not important.
I cannot judge anybody, or what they see in their eyes, but I feel that we are all not exactly alike. We are snowflakes....every one is different.
Foced-(x) was an interesting concept until I thought about it and realized that she wouldn't be forcing anything.
It would also be a bit selfish to think that the only thing the woman would be there for in the relationship was to "force" me to do something I'd like anyway.
The women in those fantasies were just there to take the blame away from what I really wanted, and obviously completely unfair to base any relationship on.
I'm personally not a fan of the word "Sissy" though, because it implies being male and that's something I really, really doubt.
If that floats someone's boat, then by all means enjoy!
I do not mind being called a Sissy or a Nancy. I am a guy that is feminine and I am proud of my femininity. I am the male equivalent of a Tomboy - a JaneGirl or NancyGirl. If the shoe fits...
Each to their own but I think it is a degrading term.
Interesting question.
That's just another term to me. It's not necessarily degrading any more than "nerd" is. It's all context.
For example, imagine being all dressed up, perfect makeup, the best dress ever, beautiful (strappy) shoes looking bleeping hot with the best perfume you can think of blending perfectly with your body chemistry...
And someone whos' opinion you value very much looks at you and says...
"Dude!"
I wonder if you'd maybe rather she said
"Sissy".
Meghan
There has got to be something seriously wrong with someone who would call themselves that!!:heehee:
it depends on how it's used. some random stranger calls me a sissyboy in an insulting matter, then it's degrading. if my SO called me their sissyboy. it would just be another terms of endearment.
i don't get upset over being called things. words don't hurt me. spent too much time in not so nice areas of the world to know there are worse things that can happen to me.
Someone calls me one then I feel sad for them because I have seen more ugliness than they will in a life time.
Agree 100% Sandy. It totally depends on context and who is calling the names out. If my boss calls me a sissy at work that's one thing. If my wife calls me a sissy as she slips my panties down my legs, that's a different thing all together!Quote:
Originally Posted by Sandy Michaels
Meghan
I hate it, my opinion is that the name & term is hateful and degrading.
Used a lot as a Character in Transgender Porn, and the popular conception is an effeminate boy or young man who although they know they aren't female, want to be ____ed, AND DEGRADED by Males, while being treated as a Sex Object while dressed.
Now if that's Your Bag, so be it. But the rest of us, don't want to be thought of, or treated like that! Even if popular, it would be good to keep it mainly in the area of fantasy fiction. I KNOW such people are certainly a minority, and to characterize some individual like that with no knowledge of their status is patently unfair.
Peace and Love, Joanie
Whatever! It's kind of a "sticks and stones" thing. It doesn't phase me in the least what I'm called by others and for myself I really don't need a title. I think some folks need to lighten up, however, as I can think of a lot worse titles or names we could be called.:)
I don't like the term. For me, it has always been associated with teasing and abusive behavior. I understand that some people use the term to describe themselves, but I never would.
As the expression goes, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me". I say not true, names means something, or every one of us would be using our born given name instead of the ones we use to identify ourselves on this site. Names identify something, and within the context of how it was said can carry much weight. In my case, my two sisters would tease and taunt me by calling me a sissy often. In many cases the context was within my being punished for something that I had done. The punishment was wearing panties and often other girls apparel also. Do people live up to the names that others give them? How often do we see "nicknames" given to someone, and is the "nickname" usually something of significance.
[SIZE="2"]It doesn’t bother me. Would you rather be called QUEER? :eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by Madam Rose
I figure sissyboys will inherit the world some day, and they will re-decorate it (in their image, of course)… :clap:[/SIZE]
"He's a fancy boy"! Remember that on Seinfeld? Please don't call me sissy or sissyboi. If that's what someone else wants to be called, it's their right. At least the name describes something about him.
Usually the word is used as an insult and implies weakness but as DebbieL's response indicates being submissive is a form of power just has being dominant is but submissive power is difficult to use as power unless you are very self possessed.
What is important I think is to separate submissive from being feminine and dominant from being masculine.
I do not think it is healthy to be passive if it comes from fear and so if being sissy comes from poor self worth and or fear it would be the fear and ones sense of being worthless that I would be concerned with.
Some women struggle with this issue of being too dominant or too submissive but in reverse from men but it has to do with who you are not what sex you are so it is forcing yourself based on your sex to act in certain ways instead of following your own true emotional nature.
Sissy is just a word but the psychological reasons behind it are what make it dangerous to the "sissy" if the person does not exist except through another because to sustain life a person requires the confidence that comes from autonomy otherwise you remain a child always dependant on others and do not evolve (grow) but remain static.
A sissy could have a very powerful mind or no mind at all (no sense of self)
Words are not real but attempt to define what is real but reality is different for everyone so words are different for everyone, do not get lost in the words because you will get lost in anothers reality and not find your own.
I think its a word that we should think about taking back!! While I don't care for the term, "sissyboy", just the word, sissy, is just fine for me. We can be cds or sissies if we choose. Like the libs do, when they change the regular meaning of words, we can do the same thing.
Peronally, I find such derogatory names demeaning and unkind!
Like most words in the English language, Sissy has multiple meanings, some of which aren't even limited to the masculine gender. For example, it can mean a mean any person who is cowardly and timid. When I was young the term if applied to another child merely meant a boy who wasn't rough and tumble in the playground, but when applied to an adult meant someone who was effeminate and putatively homosexual. It is more popular nowadays to describe a Sexual Fetish of a male who wants to act/perform as a submissive female, with or without French Maid or School Girl costume and other external evidence of forced feminization.
Whether it is an insult depends more on the mindset of the person using the term than that of the person to whom it is applied, doesn't it?
To me it's either a term used when gender-conditioning young boys, or in the vocabulary of 'forced fem' CDing. It has a pretty negative sound to me, though I suppose someone who called himself that might be aiming to reclaim it.
If a guy were to call me a sissy, I'd hate it. But when women do it, I love it. :battingeyelashes:
All my life ,,, When I hear it now I say HERE !! Just like Panty waist ,,,Give Everyone something to talk about ,,, Cuz when there talking bout me they will leave yall alone !!
new threads du jour. Name as many derogatory terms you can for CD's. This is what we used to do for desensitization when I taught Human Sexuality (those that cannot do teach). So far we have Sissyboy and pantywaist. Anyone else have one?
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Originally Posted by Lorileah
How many do u want ? Nancy Boy ,, Betty,,, Fancy Pants,,, Light in the Loffers ,, On,,,On,,,On, ...LOL.... HERE,,,,,, all of the Above ,,Thank you for caring !!
In the context of crossdressing, "sissy" or "sissyboy" are pretty well defined. Nobody should be called something they don't want to be called, but if someone, through dressing and actions, likes the term and think it's appropriate, why should anyone substitute their dislike for the word?
I wish I had a sissy dress (little girl's dress). They're cute. It would fun to wear and be a sissyboy for a little while. While I'm in sissyboy mode, you may call me that.
From my own UK experience, it has always been a derogatory term, but if someone is happy with the title, I don't have any problems with it. Each to his own.
As others have said, it is the way a word is delivered that ultimately determines the intention of the user.
Reb
I agree Crissy. I like being a "sissy" but "sissyboy" just doesn't sit right!
I also agree. I'm a "Sissy" and I am very proud of it but I don't like being called a "Sissyboy". I'm just a "Sissy". I guess I wouldn't mind "Sissygirl".Quote:
Originally Posted by Lacey England
I suppose I'm a sissy and a bit of a chubby chaser myself.Quote:
Originally Posted by Madam Rose
But these are derogatory terms. They are not labels I self-apply. I do not feel empowered by using them to define myself. So I'm probably going to be pissed if someone uses them to describe me.
And, honestly, I think most people who are OK with the term "sissy" are people who have a fetish for being degraded, which I guess is OK to a point, but is mostly negative.
But ... I think a lot of us want to be attractive, want to be desired, and we end up getting our wires crossed a little bit and really get turned on by an abusive kind of desire.
Yes Lacey, thats exactly how I feel. I guess the majority of members here, don't like the term "sissy."Quote:
Originally Posted by Lacey England
I kind of like "Sissygirl" too!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Jamie001
Not much positive associated with both the words "sissy" and "boy" when describing a male adult.
Typical "sissy" description: "Siss is a pejorative term for a boy or man who violates or does not meet the traditional male gender role. Generally, sissy implies a lack of courage and stoicism, which are thought important to the male role." (pejorative implies demeaning)
I don't think the word would upset me if someone called me that in relation to my TGism. I'm not a "sissy maid" or anything like that, so the accusation isn't true. And why get upset about something you know isn't true? My self-image is very different from that when I'm in girl mode. "Sissy" doesn't fit me, and if someone else thinks it does, they're way off base. It's as if the word is meaningless.
If they call me a "sissy", meaning weak, not tough enough to put up with certain things, that might be true. So I'd have to think about that one.
I consider "sissy" derogatory, but there are far worse things in my eyes. "Pervert" or "immoral" would hit me harder.
Annabelle
I don't mind it really, my wife always calls me a sissy when I dressed.